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Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Pauladex(m): 11:38am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Botking:Are u serious about 50th sweet sex? |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Emeka71(m): 11:39am On Sep 10, 2021 |
kmcutez:You sure ¿ |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Lostchild(m): 11:40am On Sep 10, 2021 |
ayomilore: I see that your advice to the OP and his wife will get both of them possessed by demon of lust. Gobdddd. Do not watch pornography. It will destroy you 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by peedeeasobie(m): 11:40am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd: You are a pastor and where you came for help is nairaland? You came to social media to ask for help I discourage secular people from seeking certain help on social media, talk more of a pastor!!! Continue sir |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 11:41am On Sep 10, 2021 |
cooooooks:Christians understand that God made sex and romance for us, to be fully enjoyed WITHIN the confines of marriage. It doesn't stop intending parties from discussing about it. And if you have the Spirit of God, there are things about the other person, even things they hide, He'll reveal. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by AfroKnight: 11:41am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Ahmed0336: Which kind advice be dis? You can’t even give the man small hope? |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by vince96w2(m): 11:41am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:go and see Jaruma or try Spanish fly or just hit the Gspot..when she lays on her back,slip the middle finger in the vagina some inches, raise the finger in there alittle the gently touch the roof and drag back.. continue this and she will be wild..while at it, stimulate her clit and suck her boobs..that will satisfy her without ur dick..then when she is very high I can use d dick..thank me latter she may speak in other tongues |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by suffering: 11:42am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:From what I’ve read, God is doing you a favour out of a bad situation. We married 9years ago.That’s a long enough time. What are you searching for in her body again? Marriages these days are long relationships. Pat yourself on the back for staying this long. She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.Lucky you. She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.Good for you and your faith. But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.Somebody taught all her life that sex is a bad thing unless when in marriage won’t automatically look forward to it because God gave her a partner. If anything she’ll default to her normal upbringing after a while. The church broke her, it’s not her fault. I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.Most menial labour is a thing of the mind. If one’s mind is not there, the body follows. She has to train herself out of old ways. You are helpless in this situation. If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.This is a lie or exaggeration. The truth is likely three to four months. Why aren’t you hitting the gym to look attractive to begin with? It’s obvious you’re not doing anything to make yourself desirable to her or other women. And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.You’re likely correct here. Her mindset is the major issue. I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.Her fault again not yours. I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.Not bad at all. Copulation is not a come-and-die situation. Sleep outside if you can because that’s the only way to penetrate her mental fortress. Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.Marriages become this eventually. Thank God yours took this long to devolve. This has affected my psyche towards her.God blessed you with a good wife and friend. So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.Women don’t take well to such. She’ll change for a short while before reverting to default setting. Since today, our relationship has dwindled.Expiry date loading. Alot of things have been going through my mind.All because of sex. Lol. I blame the church. If sex wasn’t such a taboo topic then people will become more open regarding it and many problems solved. I don't know what to do. Am confused.If you sleep around, you’ll leave her slowly. If you break off the marriage it’ll happen a lot faster. You’re between a rock and a hard place. Honestly, so far you handle the children’s bills while with another person and see them from time to time, I don’t count the actions as failing. There’s also the option to wait until the children are legal adults before leaving. Eighteen years is the blink of an eye for adult humans. Pls is there any known solution?Couples therapy. I doubt it’ll change the inevitable. It will only slow things down. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Manshot1: 11:42am On Sep 10, 2021 |
4kids in one pussy? Do you still enjoy the pussy? I doubt if it will still be sweet Lmao |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by IgboEmir001: 11:47am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Have you tried these techniques? 1. Shave her 2. Bath her 3. Kiss her for long time 4. Don't penetrate with your p*nis 5. Stroke her clit. with your tongue 6. Continue....... 7. Suck her till she cums....... Thank me later. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by johndho(m): 11:50am On Sep 10, 2021 |
I will suggest you get aphrodisiac or Spanish flies. Give it to her and see how she responds. Maybe you don't need to tell her at first, just get a drink and put some inside and give it to her. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Babastrong(m): 11:53am On Sep 10, 2021 |
What you have been enduring for the past 9yrs. The relationship that has produced 4 kids. And you are now here crying over the relationship. Abeg hope you have not started watching blue film. pastor, ema fi omi lo lo be ni ( try and continue managing her like that). but if you need marathon sex, you can visit any brothel. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Shedrach00(m): 11:59am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Truly she might be physically and psychologically exhausted. Child bearing(this really take a toll on the female body only if you can understand what they go through), house chores, her emotional life, nutrition, vitamins/minerals deficiencies ...many things can contribute to low libido and as you've mentioned she was a virgin probably she didn't explore. Also you can't just sit her down one day and expect her to change instantly. Moreover we men are 10x sexually active than women. They need lots of pre-intimacy, create time to understand your woman. Don't bring spirituality to the bedroom oh, you're not a spirit but human with blood flowing through your veins Read books about what woman want and understanding their body, what turns them on, how to approach her for love making, things you can do to make her feel relaxed through out the day before initiating s*x Seeing a therapist too Try to find a solution to it not by being frustrated. Wish you well. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by obynokoko: 11:59am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Bro,sex is not food,there are many other things in life that can keep you busy like fasting and prayer,reading of the scripture,organise more church programmes etc.this will take your attention off sex.just have sex with her once in a while.with this you will keep your family in peace.since your wife has less interest in sex,you too develop less interest in sex too because it takes two to tangle.good luck |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by sgtponzihater1(m): 12:00pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Annie Idibia no do past like this. Seek help off social media Good luck to you |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Philadelphia: 12:02pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
I don’t take some topics on Nairaland seriously anymore. An example is this topic. There are always 2 or more sides to every story. Una never hear the woman own side. So, I can’t give any advice based on a one-sided story. OP, go meet a sex therapist. That way, you would hear from the woman on her own side of the story; directly or indirectly. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Juventus4life: 12:02pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
longetivity: He said he married her as a virgin and she was the first women he had sex with. Then no need to ask him about their sex part before marriage. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by cooooooks(m): 12:03pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Talk is cheap. The way the issue of sex is broached has led to this irrational fear in many Christians. You're not the only Christian in the world. There are Christian articles and research papers on this issue. Lollittaa: |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Evaloyal2J(f): 12:04pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Some people can be so selfish. You have a good woman with whom you have 4kids. She doesn't give you wahala just that she isn't a lion on the bed. And so your insatiable desires is driving you crazy. You want a perfect woman, hope you are also perfect. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Juventus4life: 12:04pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
MrBrownJay1: He said he married her as a virgin and she was the first women he had sex with. Then no need to ask him about their sex part before marriage. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 12:08pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Polynek: A person that was XYZ during courtship can become 123 after courtship. 1 Like |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Clintonchiedzie(m): 12:09pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Sex is over rated |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by rasxx(m): 12:09pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
I feel your pain man, sex is very important to every man and since you can't get it outside then it has to be her. My take is this: 1) Having four children is not a joke, it's a full time job in addition to other things she does. This could be a major issue ..she surely will not enjoy sex if she is tired/exhauted from day to day activities. So consider getting someone to help at home. 2)The time you want sex matters too, sometimes early hours of the day when her body is relaxed like 4am, 5am etc. 3) Sex is not just trusting. Do fore play extensively, if she isn't participating and she is not stopping you ot gives you the liberty to use your tongue/mouth to tease her in necessary places, you should know what I mean, she is not a log, she will respond. 4)Las Las be fun to her, it should not be only when you want to tidy you come around. Take her out, give money, pamper, Make jest ,be friends. She can't get it from anyone, it has to be you |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by shawante(m): 12:10pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Slizzords:Ogun roast your left smelly nyash dia |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:13pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
edego2up:You are right that that may indeed be it and no one is saying it couldn't be it. The point is the woman is not the problem as he rightly admits himself and should not be made to seem as though she is. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:15pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
AdeniyiA:or 3) She is just not into sex and there are so many people like that out there. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 12:15pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Well, I think you have to consider that she didn't CHOOSE to have low libido. Are you going to divorce her If your libido is too high compared to hers,then find whores to bang occasionally. You can't predict how someone's libido will be after this or that period. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by drezzyx(m): 12:15pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Spanish fly comes to mind ...
But after four children wetin I wan use sex do again... |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Earth2: 12:16pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Expresswriter:This is the best comment so far. 2 Likes |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Gideons708: 12:17pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd: If you had sex before marriage this won't have been an issue. |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Saintmary(f): 12:18pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd: This woman spent her body 4 times to give you those kids, During pregnancy, a woman's body goes through some major upheaval. She is still taking care of your household, running around to keep things smooth, yet you're asking for bedmatics. It will take her nothing less than 5 years to get her body back! Learn patience, it's time for you to prove worthy of the commitment she has given you. Let your kids spend a lot of time on holidays with grandma, uncle's and aunts while you take that time to relax with her, things will get better definitely. 2 Likes |
Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kobojunkiee: 12:18pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Richy4:In his case, he also ought to Google "No sex drive"... it does exist and there is nothing wrong with those who have that too. Not everyone loves sex or are enthused about it. |
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