| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by olubl: 10:52am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Pastors if Church member come for counseling on this issue what advance will u give them?in this matter councill your self |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by hahn(m): 10:54am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. Since she just wants to be the object during sex you should switch to anal, bdsm or slave and master. That way you get to enjoy yourself. It is not a must that she should enjoy it |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Donedeal1(m): 10:54am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Looking for a problem were there is none,if she starts feeling better today that she picked quarrels over your lack of attention to her more affection for the ministry you will complain, what do you want from marriage?. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by dnawah(m): 10:54am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. a pastor?no allow sex carry u go hell.you are not call to f**k but to preach the Gospel.allow God to lead you |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Hezmatosky: 10:54am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Why won't men cheat? Naija women does not know the right definition of housewife. A naija housewife will deliberately lose her sense of being romantic immediately they're married, a naija housewife sees sex as a favour to the husband, naija housewife who does not wash her mouth until midday, naija housewife who....... infact let me stop here |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by robosky02(m): 10:55am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Oyididi |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by nerd004: 10:55am On Sep 10, 2021 |
I smell lies and I stopped reading when you said "you last for 10-15 min. |
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| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Hassanmaye(m): 10:56am On Sep 10, 2021 |
longetivity:
Me fight over sex this era of pussy  God forbid Hahahhahahaha |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by WrathOfHadez(m): 10:57am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Time without number.
She doesn't even know what she desires or likes about sex.
If found out that there's pre marital sex, my Church will cancel the marriage and make it look very dishonorable.
So,I can't risk that.
From the first day, she was afraid of it.
Never showed any interest afterwards, despite spending our honeymoon at Obudu cattle ranch.
Our last babe is 2. We have closed childbearing.
We are supposed to be catching fun.
ever cared to ask her if she had a trauma ? A sexual trauma in the past in her teen or childhood? You should also look at your own bed skills too. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by xtervaganza(m): 10:57am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. manage her like that. Sec is not food abeg. P.s I'm a man |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Acidosis(m): 10:58am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Mindlog:
Jaruma and co. 
Some Nigerians have battered the meaning of sex therapist, someone who sells products/ charms to sexually hook a partner is called a sex therapist!  |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by tuboi: 10:59am On Sep 10, 2021 |
The question you should be asking is how to make your wife love sex……
Let me suggest what you could do
1. As a pastor, you need to pray cos it might be the weakness in your marriage that the devil is exploiting
2.Repeat those things that made her fall inlove with you(ask her out again, take care of her like a new gf,buy her sexy nighties and lingerie)
3.Always bath together. Especially in the morning.Seeing you naked might make her desire you
4.Give her complete massage without having sex with her
5.chat with her while you are at work.you’ll be surprised at the secrets she’ll let out
6.Dedicate a day out of the week to her(most pastors don’t create time for their wife)
7.Go on vacation……. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by vickydevoka(m): 11:01am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. Stop giving her money n sex simple |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by fitinwell: 11:01am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. Op from what i read and judge by my own personal experience.. the Problem is not your Wife , the Problem is you yourself... But it seems you are not telling the Truth... Possibly you have tasted another Lady and this changed your expectations from your Wife.. You didn't notice this in the last 9yrs of your Union... 9 fvcking years... My own opinion .. first you are not romantic. You don't even know or understand your wives weak point.. Lastly you don't give her Head. You just want to Jack and get off.. And which you didn't denial she didn't do.. So go work on your emotions and your dick.. Peace out!! 1 Like |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Thryphosa(m): 11:02am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Oga pastor, you don't have any problem in your marriage and pls don't create one by yourself. Just chill, sex isn't a big deal as you think. Note:I am a married man with kids as well so I perfectly understand everything you're going thru. I don't want to talk too much, your wife is a good woman and pls don't invite problem into your home, take her as she is. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by profmallor: 11:02am On Sep 10, 2021 |
some herbs and tea.. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Khallicopyro: 11:04am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Taste first before you marry them go say no. Now you go market go buy shoe wey you no taste weda now you reach house and discover say no be your size or type you come dey complain? |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by dominique(f): 11:04am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Typical Nigerian selfish man, always about what they want. They don't care about what their wives are going through. If you knew the stress that comes with taking care of a home with 4 kids under the age of 9, you'd be thanking her for even opening her legs for you. You expect her to tick the boxes on everything you want in a woman but do you tick the boxes on what she wants in a man? Ask yourself that 1 Like |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by puplin(f): 11:04am On Sep 10, 2021 |
How are you a Pastor and you feel bringing this sort of issue to a public forum is better than asking Holy Spirit for guidance. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by cooooooks(m): 11:07am On Sep 10, 2021 |
When we say know your spouse before marriage, some people will start quoting scripture. The biggest reasons for divorce are sex and money. Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by koolaid87: 11:07am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Pastor, carry for your matter go meet your pastor |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 11:08am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Well well well What do we have here Some women are like that Had one naked,while sucking her boobs(she didn'tmoan or make any sound) ,the babe suddenly burst out with laughter she con say, THIS THING IS SOMEHOW O..IT'S RIDICULOUS.. omo I gave up,even the sex na ridiculous �� 1 Like |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by WhiteWolfe: 11:08am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. Maybe she was circumcised. Try to give her head once in a while |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Kuriosmynd: 11:09am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Mmadu2:
You're a complete mad man. A pervert that calls himself a pastor. You have a deep mental problem from watching pornography.
A filthy man like you married a gold that men are struggling to find. Married her a virgin. She never denies you sex and she never cheats on you and she's virtuous at home and you still aren't satisfied because pornography has destroyed your mind.
You want her to give you sex like a prostitute before you appreciate her. And if she turns to a prostitute now you will be the first to cry foul.
Please if you don't want her, divorce her and give me her number. Stop wasting her time. So many responsible and successful men are looking for her. Ewu!!
What a goat. U are the biggest fool I ever see |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 11:09am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Kobojunkiee:
1. What exactly are you confused about ? What is it that you really expect your wife to do in this case? 
2. You claim the marriage is dwindling but from your explanation, the problem is not the marriage but your sudden expectations that is the issue...
3. You claim you are a pastor but it seems you are suddenly letting your body pull the strings as far as your decision making. You married a virgin and it turns out she is not as enthused about sex as you are, what do you want? For her to turn into a porn star in bed after 9 years and 4 kids? Thank you. He is clearly confused guy here. He is now complaining after 9years with 4 kids. One thing is certain. He is clearly shagging someone, maybe among the choirs After experiencing it, he now wants his wife to comply. Just completely deluded folk |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by kellybently(m): 11:09am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married
Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.
We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.
I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.
I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.
I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.
Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.
This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.
So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.
Since today, our relationship has dwindled.
Alot of things have been going through my mind.
I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.
Pls is there any known solution?
I need help. Try give am head. She ll respond. |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 11:09am On Sep 10, 2021 |
cooooooks:
When we say know your spouse before marriage, some people will start quoting scripture. The biggest reasons for divorce are sex and money.
so then if you meet someone good in everything, like his wife but doesn't initiate sex, you leave them? And then move to another, and then another. How many people will you sample to find the ideal partner? 1 Like |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Fantazy(m): 11:10am On Sep 10, 2021 |
This is one of the disadvantages of doing church boy and girl before marriage.
Experience is the best teacher for goodness sake.
NB: I'm not encouraging pre marital sex o. Just reason am yourself 1 Like |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by freedomfloyd(m): 11:11am On Sep 10, 2021 |
Ummm..M.O.G one thing you need to understand is that 90% of women don't enjoy sex or get orgasms through penetration of the vaginal, but through the stimulation of the clitoris and proper handling of the breast and nipples, cuz those ladies who gets orgasms through penetration are few and those ones thier clitoris is very close to thier vaginal opening which allows friction between a man's penis and the ladies clitoris, and with what you have said am very sure your solution lies in a very sexual romance meaning taking your time to harness her sensitive part's cuz the fun of sex is having different approach to it and different location sometimes, it's not just lie down let me climb and do,
explore with your imagination, 3 Likes |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by xamuel17(m): 11:11am On Sep 10, 2021 |
If her libido becomes high, can you satisfy her there are drugs out there that enhances female libido, but rather talk to her about it, y'all can go to hospitals / certified pharmacist & don't do anything without her permission |
| Re: We Quarrel Because Of Sex by Nobody: 11:12am On Sep 10, 2021 |
The way some of you are so daft here is amazing. So because he is a pastor, he should forget about sex with his wife? Because he already has 4 children, he should forget about sex?
Mr pastor, your wife has a problem but it seems she is not ready to solve the problem. You probably would have to take it that way hoping she opens up to you someday! |
