“Okay, back up a second, I can do forgiveness but you see forgetting? Uh uh I can’t. You see I come from a long line of historians, we keep track of people who have done us wrong, so I am definitely not going to do that. People do not actually change, they say they do but they don’t, you have to shine your eyes, watch out for the next time they are going to do the same thing, so you toss them off and move on”.

Wait- that’s a whole lot of work, to watch out for someone’s mistakes. Well let’s move on.
Now, What Does It Actually Mean To Forgive?
Well, from the English Dictionary It means;

a) To absolve somebody completely for a past or wrong doing;
b) to pardon with neither resentment nor a view to retribution.

Now To Forget means to overlook, pass over, disremember.

Look at the second definition of Forgive carefully, it says to pardon “without resentment”. How would you forgive someone and then still have that chip on your shoulder. Wait, What? What kind of chip? Well it’s the one you have as a constant reminder that somehow, somewhere that person you just forgave will repeat the same thing or even worse do something more terrible to you. So you tell the person you have forgiven him/her and you convince yourself that you have, but deep within, you sure know you’re holding back.

Robert Brault said- “If you can’t forgive and forget, pick one”. I would beg to disagree because you see,
If you pick forgiving and decide not to forget, often times you may find yourself stuck. How so? When you forgive an individual for wronging you, you give yourself the opportunity to move on,to grow. If the person is your friend, you know he/she won’t deliberately hurt you and even if they do, it would be a mistake, and they would immediately apologise.

Now, the growth process will make this person (friend or not) to be a better individual if he chooses to. But most importantly you will be a better person and you will feel good, better you would feel great.
Look at it this way? How would you feel if you lashed out on your friend in anger. She is hurt and you apologise quickly, you didn’t mean to hurt her, but for your “quick tongue”. She says she has forgiven you and now you have the past behind you and both move on. Seems the friendship is progressing until six months later, you lashed out on her again, this time not deliberately.

The therapist you’ve been visiting for the past months said you breathe in and breathe out for at least five seconds before saying anything when angry. It has been working but today you slipped, this one time, so you apologise. She is enraged, she looks you in the face and says you’ll never change, that you’d keep doing the same thing over and over again, to make matters worse, she goes down memory lane to recount each of your past misdoings. Yes I know how you would feel. Your shoulders are slumped, you’re sorry and hurt.

You realize now, she didn’t actually forgive you, she just told you she did but she didn’t in the real sense of the word. The progress you were trying to make to be a better person now looks like a mirage. You feel terrible. Then you may decide to break off the relationship to stay true to yourself and be with someone who would help your growth process. Or worse, you may decide to believe that you aren’t going to be a better individual, that you will never change and pretty soon it will take a toll on you.
On the other hand, to truly forget a wrong, you have to go through a process of healing, which will make it easy for you to move on.

After all, Confucius said-” To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it”. This can’t really happen without you forgiving the person who hurt you and forgiving yourself. You forgive yourself for letting this person into your life, and letting him/her hurt you that way.

Now don’t take this the wrong way, forgiving and forgetting a person’s wrong shouldn’t make you to constantly allow toxicity in your life or allow people who constantly bring you down to remain. Sometimes if it’s a friendship, forgetting may mean to shut the door completely and never look back, never allow such a fellow into your life again. It helps your sanity.

In forgiving and forgetting, you get to be wiser, stronger and very powerful- you are in control of your emotions. You know the people to avoid in the future and you know the people to let in, you know the steps to take when wrong and you know how to let go and move on. I’ll conclude with this quote by Mahatma Gandhi, “The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.”
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/08/25/is-there-such-a-thing-as-forgive-and-forget/

it's difficult to forget but you can forgive easily, no matter how religious you are. We are all human being, she can't forget someone who killed her mother but she can forgive the killer. That is reality of life

There is forgive but definitely not forget. Infact anybody that says he/she has forgotten is a big LIER

Forgive and forget is not realistic because you can't erase things easily from the mind unless the person is experiencing brain fog.

I believe when one has truly forgiven, they are more likely to remember the incident in a different way.

You can forget but don't forget what hurt you

Forget here does not mean to be erased from your memory.
It implies you don't allow any offences of yesterday to be a factor in your judgements & decisions of today against the offender.

Forgive, yes.

Forget, not likely.

But forgiving helps you let go of the past and current resentment so you can look forward to the future.

It's possible to forgive, however, forgetting what was done to you is dependent on the magnanimity of the action.
As a person who doesn't easily get offended and lets go of things easily, I can tell you that there are people who have wronged me, whom I truly forgave and also forgot what they did to me, however, there are some people I forgave for the sake of my own sanity and possibly because they were truly sorry, some I forgave because it's just in my nature to forgive, some I forgave without them having asked to be forgive, however, there are some I forgave but what they did will forever remain in my memory, perhaps not all of the actions but I know that part will remain.
Since this isn't a thread on talking about the things that can't be forgotten, I won't delve into that.
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Forgive yes but forget 90 percent impossible.

Humans are wired in a way that unpleasant experiences are stored in our sub conscious memory that we can try all possible best to obliterate it but its still there.

Thats why there is PTSD, in western worlds it calls for concern and hence some therapies needed to manage it.

People can forgive and forget minor issues but whatever that put them through agony and shame cannot be forgotten.

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Yes if your memory dey leak you can forget.

Forget fire.

Both yes!

No, only a fool will forget what others do for him/her.

Such a person will know the truth inside the grave.

But you can forgive and now knw how to play ur game with such person, having not forgotten evil deed he did in the past

Damnnn niggar

Hell no

Yes
I am very good at that
But na immediately after I don comot your teeth

I strongly doubt.
You can actually forgive people that have wronged you inthe past,but forgetting ,is nearly impossible.
When ever you have dealing with such person,the wrong they have done in the past will always put you in a position where you're very cautious when dealing with them.
They have left a memory with you,a negative memory,so , you're bound to conciously or unconsciously be kinda wary when dealing with them again.
Forgiving is liken to a deep wound which got heal,and "not forgetting" is liken to the scar of the wound which is still there despite healing.

To forgive & forget is divine.

To forgive is to let go of grudges. To forget is when the scars of the wound disappears.

However, forgetfulness proceeds forgiveness. Meaning you can't forget, even if the scars disappears, when you haven't forgiven.

If you fit forgive and forget wetin Bullhari the tyrant do for this country eh, therefore your hellfire go hot pass other people hellfire. In fact, you go get street for hellfire

To forgive is divine

I can only forgive but I'll not forget
Only God forgive and forget

Lmao

No.

You forgive for your heart to heal but you don't forget so your head can stay in the game.

Those who forgive and forget haven't learnt any lessons

@op, forgiveness does not absolve you from the consequences.

Meanwhile, If you prick us, do we not bleed? if you tickle us, do we not laugh? if you poison us, do we not die? and if you wrong us, shall we not revenge?". - William Shakespeare

Yes but for Buhari, no

There is nothing of such. Not even in the Bible.


Forgive for your peace but don’t forget so you don’t fall into the same trap again.

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Forgive ye

Forget nay

It depends on d gravity of the offender.
Most times, u only forgive, you don't forget coz offending/breaking someone heart is like a wound. It might heal completely but the scare will surely be there forever.
So, forgive is possible, forget can be impossible

Yes to forgive is quite easy.....but to forget be the koko.

So No....if you can't FORGET, u can't forgive.


Don't deceive your self....so bros they ain't such thing as forgive and forget....since humans generally can't forget.