good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around NL once a while... so yea I think my husband has an unhealthy obsession with watching football, he watches it everyday when he comes back from work or if he's at home all day during the weekends, I find it inconvenient cos it's like watching football has now become a compulsory thing in the house! I can't even watch what i want like dramas and stuff, anytime I asks he complains anyhow saying he only gets to watch the TV when's he back from work, that I have it all to myself all day which is false! am also working, albeit not the long hours he does but it's not like am glued to the TV all day.. me I don't like watching football, I find it boring, as an husband can't he sacrifice time for me, most of the shows or movies I would like to watch are aired in the evenings and the power in our area is rubbish! we have gen but like the usual, it's still football nonsense even tho they aren't showing any match, he's always watching supersport!
some of you might think am exaggerating but if you were in my shoes you'd understand, I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

why don't you sacrifice also and pretend to watch football with him, anytime he's watching his team play! join him, maybe then he will soften up

anita98:
good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around NL once a while... so yea I think my husband has an unhealthy obsession with watching football, he watches it everyday when he comes back from work or if he's at home all day during the weekends, I find it inconvenient cos it's like watching football has now become a compulsory thing in the house! I can't even watch what i want like dramas and stuff, anytime I asks he complains anyhow saying he only gets to watch the TV when's he back from work, that I have it all to myself all day which is false! am also working, albeit not the long hours he does but it's not like am glued to the TV all day.. me I don't like watching football, I find it boring, as an husband can't he sacrifice time for me, most of the shows or movies I would like to watch are aired in the evenings and the power in our area is rubbish! we have gen but like the usual, it's still football nonsense even tho they aren't showing any match, he's always watching supersport!
some of you might think am exaggerating but if you were in my shoes you'd understand, I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

pls madam you need get a life of your own.... many ladies out there have sense to know that they need to either love sports because of their husbands or allow him in peace to love his sports.

MUST HE BUY YOU TV?, don't you have a job or business of your own?, GET YOURSELF TV, decoder so your kids won't be football fans too early...... and you will be the only ODD ONE.

Why even did you bring such trivial matter here? Is it that you don't have married friends or mature married counselors?
Abeg, find something better to do with your time madam.... YOU CAN NOT SEPARATE HIM FROM HIS FIRST LOVE-SPORTS.... He was a fan before he met you(90% of men are), if you are WISE, you would know that HE WILL LOVE YOU HELPLESSLY IF YOU START TAKING INTEREST IN HIS TEAM....

Get books on relationship, listen to Pst kingsley okonkwo on youtube.... and you will receive some sense that will preserve your home....... BE PRAYERFUL... that he doesn't find a female co-worker or boss or neighbor THAT LOVES THE SAME SPORT.... else you will loose that man from right under your nose.

PLS BE WISE

If you know the drama wey one play out for premier league and champions league this season eh .....

You nor go dey here dey complain nonsense

Men and football are like Nigeria and wahala, you should learn how to adapt. You can play with him inside the sitting room too

I wonder wetin some men dey gain for football. Football is so boring jeez......

I'll talk to your husband


I'll let him know you want him to switch hobbies from football to alcohol.

I pray he listens to you.

Hell no !!!

A man dat does not watch football is an infidel. Such man should be cast into d lake of fire.

Football is life especially when u support Liverpool

Madam, I understand what you are going through, I'm sure you are very lucky to have him stay glued at home and watch football instead of going out everytime to watch and keep late night...

You know men likes football, that's what keeps them happy and going when depressed...

Just keep talking to him to get you the GOTV and your own small television, you will be fine las las...

Don't chase your husband out because of this...

Women don suffer for this world. Just imagine the comments above; most of them making impressions that are directed towards the idea that the woman should shun her own desires and will and yield to those of the husband. A marriage where compromise and inclusive arrangement cannot be reached, which will give both parties the chance to pursue their interests and fulfil their individual, distinct desires in the home, is that one marriage or subtle slavery?

Someone was even saying she should be prayerful he doesn't find someone interested in the sport? Does that not apply to the man too?

Should he also not be careful and prayerful that the freedom and joy he's depriving his wife of in the home, she gets it somewhere else and someone snatches her from him?

What's so special about him that should make the wife fearful of losing him and doesn't apply to her too?

It's quite saddening this exaggerated sense of authority many men possess in today's world.

But little worries do we have though, after coming to know of the coming of The Unity.

In the New Era, The Unity will orchestrate a turn of events and soon enough, women will start getting the respect they deserve. Men will be forced to bow to the right orientation and consciousness and a society that respects women's desires and wishes and grants them the chance to satisfy them in an honourable manner will be fashioned!

Humanity must learn the lessons of the true and upright ways to live. That time is nigh!!!

And we await your coming, our dear Unity!

Madam what is your problem? What do you really want? This man's addiction is just football, not girls or excess alcohol and you are complaining...... Some ladies will be shaking their heads and wishing......

Next generation you marry someone like me that doesn't like to watch football

This one village people don dey gather...

You wan pick fight with a man e con be football matter!?! Like the fk!?!

Sha I know say you dey whyne yourself...

Continue, I've gat no advise

anita98:
good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around Nl.

Aunty, Dstv has an app you can also use to watch other channels on your mobile phone. I think Your Tv subscription will sync with your mobile phone(as heavily advertised on Dstv)


Download the app and leave the Liverpool fan in peace. Make peace for reign.

Hmm.. of all things, TV is what you want to allow to bring discord between you and your hubby?
**I can't even remember the year I put on my TV. My phone has taken over**

If he doesn't want to bow, I think you should bow for peace to reign. You should let him have it, since he only gets to watch the TV when he gets back from work.

I know, You claim to work too while he's away but since you get home before him, I'll suggest you watch all you want before he gets back. Just strike a balance somehow to avoid having issues with your hubby over petty things.

I thought TV's are meant for children though.
A serious adult with duties facing Him or her will not have the extra time to be watching TV.

anita98:
I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

Why can't you buy yourself a TV of your own since you say you also work?

I am shocked your complaint isn't that he doesn't do anything in the house but watch TV.

I am in no way trying to say you not look for a resolution which can be as simple as getting a second TV in the house like you had mentioned. It's just that since the reasons you are complaining is because you want to also watch your own shows, I don't see why it should be a big deal at this point. Go get yourself your own TV with your name on the remote so you can both watch your own shows at the same time... problem solved, right?

Madam, work on getting your own TV and a Gotv decoder. DSTV mobile app also exists, you can download and watch on your phone.
Don't bust a nut over your hubby's love for football.

Coming to nairaland won't solve the subject matter, approach your husband over the issue and table your grievance to him, a television tussle should not be a reason to breakout an argument between the both of you guys,


I suggest you get a tv inside the room or anywhere convenient so as not to distort each other view, I once had this issue with my parent, my dad loved wrestling while my mum and my sisters had love for zee world, there's always clash and grunt everytime, I had to get a new plasma and gotv installed in my sisters room so they can watch whenever my dad's in the sitting room, this was a long time ago though.... Just try and be displomatic with the issue.... He might not be selfish ma

anita98:
good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around NL once a while... so yea I think my husband has an unhealthy obsession with watching football, he watches it everyday when he comes back from work or if he's at home all day during the weekends, I find it inconvenient cos it's like watching football has now become a compulsory thing in the house! I can't even watch what i want like dramas and stuff, anytime I asks he complains anyhow saying he only gets to watch the TV when's he back from work, that I have it all to myself all day which is false! am also working, albeit not the long hours he does but it's not like am glued to the TV all day.. me I don't like watching football, I find it boring, as an husband can't he sacrifice time for me, most of the shows or movies I would like to watch are aired in the evenings and the power in our area is rubbish! we have gen but like the usual, it's still football nonsense even tho they aren't showing any match, he's always watching supersport!
some of you might think am exaggerating but if you were in my shoes you'd understand, I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

greatnaija01:


pls madam you need get a life of your own.... many ladies out there have sense to know that they need to either love sports because of their husbands or allow him in peace to love his sports.

MUST HE BUY YOU TV?, don't you have a job or business of your own?, GET YOURSELF TV, decoder so your kids won't be football fans too early...... and you will be the only ODD ONE.

Why even did you bring such trivial matter here? Is it that you don't have married friends or mature married counselors?
Abeg, find something better to do with your time madam.... YOU CAN NOT SEPARATE HIM FROM HIS FIRST LOVE-SPORTS.... He was a fan before he met you(90% of men are), if you are WISE, you would know that HE WILL LOVE YOU HELPLESSLY IF YOU START TAKING INTEREST IN HIS TEAM....

Get books on relationship, listen to Pst kingsley okonkwo on youtube.... and you will receive some sense that will preserve your home....... BE PRAYERFUL... that he doesn't find a female co-worker or boss or neighbor THAT LOVES THE SAME SPORT.... else you will loose that man from right under your nose.

PLS BE WISE

I wanted to comment,then I saw your post. You have said it all. Any man that wants to live long should avoid these daughters of Eve and their manipulations.

@Anita98, take down your post and go sort things out with your husband. (Don’t give women haters that are majority on this forum the opportunity to pour out their hate on you.
Trust me dear, THEY’LL NEVER TAKE YOUR SIDE!
As far as they’re concerned, your feelings don’t matter)
The issue is not as serious as you’re taking it. It’s all about understanding and sacrifice (those are part of what marriage is about)
It’s not worth fighting over.
You love your husband don’t you? Then, let him watch football (you can also watch with him, that way, you both can spend some time together and even develop new interest and friendship in your relationship)It could be his way of relieving stress.
It’s almost the same in every home.
Once you make up your mind to not let it annoy you, you’ll see that it’s no issue after all.

mariahAngel:
@Anita98, take down your post and go sort things out with your husband. (Don’t give women haters that are majority on this forum to pour out their hate on you.
Trust me dear, THEY’LL NEVER TAKE YOUR SIDE!
As far as they’re concerned, your feelings don’t matter)
The issue is not as serious as you’re taking it. It’s all about understanding and sacrifice (those are part of what marriage is about)
It’s not worth fighting over.
You love your husband don’t you? Then, let him watch football (you can also watch with him, that way, you both can spend some time together) It could be his way of relieving stress.
It’s almost the same in every home.
Once you make up your mind to not let it annoy you, you’ll see that it’s no issue after all.

Ehyaa. See as she dey show her stupidity for public disgracing you ladies that can't reason well. Ndo nu. She works but can't even buy a common TV. How selfish can you ladies be? Shame.

anita98:
good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around NL once a while... so yea I think my husband has an unhealthy obsession with watching football, he watches it everyday when he comes back from work or if he's at home all day during the weekends, I find it inconvenient cos it's like watching football has now become a compulsory thing in the house! I can't even watch what i want like dramas and stuff, anytime I asks he complains anyhow saying he only gets to watch the TV when's he back from work, that I have it all to myself all day which is false! am also working, albeit not the long hours he does but it's not like am glued to the TV all day.. me I don't like watching football, I find it boring, as an husband can't he sacrifice time for me, most of the shows or movies I would like to watch are aired in the evenings and the power in our area is rubbish! we have gen but like the usual, it's still football nonsense even tho they aren't showing any match, he's always watching supersport!
some of you might think am exaggerating but if you were in my shoes you'd understand, I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

Get the fuckout here. You shameless being. How much is TV that you can't buy one? You want him to die because he married you abi? Tueh.

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Justbehave:
Ehyaa. See as she dey show her stupidity for public disgracing you ladies that can't reason well. Ndo nu. She works but can't even buy a common TV. How selfish can you ladies be? Shame.

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Na you I shame for pass!

Wives are for MEN! And not every male are MEN!

mariahAngel:


Na you I shame for pass!

Wives are for MEN! And not every male are MEN!

See as your gender dey sensiless dey yarn opata for public. The husband is a man. Let her go and ask her father to buy her a TV that's if he can afford it.Shame on her. And as per you,no man can even have you as a baby mama talk more of having you as a wife.Ezi offia.

Justbehave:
See as your gender dey sensiless dey yarn opata for public. The husband is a man. Let her go and ask her father to buy her a TV that's if he can afford it.Shame on her.

There’s absolutely NOTHING she should be ashamed of!

Look at you disrespecting her father already...says a lot about your character!

mariahAngel:


There’s absolutely NOTHING she should be ashamed of!

Look at you disrespecting her father already...says a lot about your character!

Yes she should be ashamed for lacking sense. Let her go buy a TV. Her father should have given her one as a wedding present but I doubt he could afford it but look at her calling her husband selfish because he couldn't buy it for her. Have sense for once Mariah

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Justbehave:
See as your gender dey sensiless dey yarn opata for public. The husband is a man. Let her go and ask her father to buy her a TV that's if he can afford it.Shame on her. And as per you,no man can even have you as a baby mama talk more of having you as a wife.Ezi offia.

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Anything coming from an irresponsible element that had THREE CHILDREN by THREE WOMEN should NEVER be taken into consideration.

For your words to matter to me, I’d have to have at least an iota of respect for you, which isn’t the case.

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Justbehave:
Yes she should be ashamed for lacking sense. Let her go buy a TV. Her father should have given her one as a wedding present but I doubt he could afford it but look at her calling her husband selfish because he couldn't buy it for her. Have sense for once Mariah

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mariahAngel:


Anything coming from an irresponsible element that had THREE CHILDREN by THREE WOMEN should NEVER be taken into consideration.

For your words to matter to me, I’d have to have at least an iota of respect for you, which isn’t the case.

mariahAngel:


Anything coming from an irresponsible element that had THREE CHILDREN by THREE WOMEN should NEVER be taken into consideration.

For your words to matter to me, I’d have to have at least an iota of respect for you, which isn’t the case.

Yes and you should be ashamed that even at that. Your fellow ladies still kneel and cry for me to Bleep them. But I'm done. 3 boys from 3 different ladies is enough for me.
You can never be fit to be any man's baby mama talk more of wife. You will grow old in your father's house in Anambra. Let's watch.Just like 2face idibia and Davido. We roll.Lol. Ezi ofia obosi

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Justbehave:
Yes and you should be ashamed that even at that. Your fellow ladies still kneel and cry for me to Bleep them. But I'm done. 3 boys from 3 different ladies is enough for me.
You can never be fit to be any man's baby mama talk more of wife. You will grow old in your father's house in Anambra. Let's watch.Just like 2face idibia and Davido. We roll.Lol. Ezi ofia obosi

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I’d rather grow old in my father’s house with peace of mind, than have an element like you ruin my life.
Chinekenna ekwekwala ihe ojoo!

Justbehave:
Yes and you should be ashamed that even at that. Your fellow ladies still kneel and cry for me to Bleep them. But I'm done. 3 boys from 3 different ladies is enough for me.
You can never be fit to be any man's baby mama talk more of wife. You will grow old in your father's house in Anambra. Let's watch.Just like 2face idibia and Davido. We roll.Lol. Ezi ofia obosi

And you think it is every woman's dream to be a wife or baby mama?

Some women are choosing to be mothers without being wives nor a man's baby mama. They go for intrauterine insemination, get pregnant and have their child without baby daddy drama.