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Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 2:28am On Sep 21, 2021
I refuse to help a needy pregnant woman because I am running from my real self. Yes, I needed to save my peace and sanity

In 2018, I move to a new place, a married woman with children started and always comes to meet me to give her whatever she wants from me which I always do. One day, the husband came to me with anger, and told me to stay away from his wife. I said, OK.

Even If i use common sense - helping people I know has landed me in too many conflicts, they are just too over many for me to overlook anymore.

Because of the many years of constant betrayals that lead me to regret my life, I move to a new town and decide to start afresh. In the past I have shown too much financial care and love for women that backfire and work against me. so I decide to stay focus on myself for the first time of my life.

After living in this new place for about six months, a pregnant woman who also live in the same visinity ask me to help her. She told me to lend her some money.

She told me that, she had not eaten since morning and she wants to cook something to eat and her hubby is out of town and will be back later.

She told me she will refund me when her hubby comes back. She was pregnant, hungry and need help.

I badly wanted to but I instantly had many flash back and I told her, I don't have the money right now. I told her, why can't you go and meet that your fellow business woman down there? she may be able to help you, she replied me with God forbid.

The money she asked me, I have it in my base, three times over but I refuse to give her. I painfully refused to help her because nigeria society has made me look like a fool.

To save my peace - I just have to only help strangers and not give help to the people I know

Did I do wrong?
grin
What do you think?

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by OlawaleBammie: 2:30am On Sep 21, 2021
If u continue to behave due to ur past experience, u will be soo bitter even towards ur mother

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by YeyeGbami: 2:32am On Sep 21, 2021
It is your money, you do whatever you like with it.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 2:38am On Sep 21, 2021
OlawaleBammie:
If u continue to behave due to ur past experience, u will be soo bitter even towards ur mother

I am glad to share this because some cold heartless nairaland users are insulting me because of my kind heart towards women.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Naijanascam: 2:38am On Sep 21, 2021
Giving is a mind thing and you did no wrong for not giving.......

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 2:39am On Sep 21, 2021
badaatum; Tell me what I did wrong..

Nabanga; You can report me to the police

Emotionalbeing; Tell me what you think on the above thread.

nnamdiosu; What do you think?

VTJN ; You can see I am no more concern about women.

eyinjuege; You can reveal more of your demon and call me pedophile

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by buhariPLEASEdie: 2:46am On Sep 21, 2021
Lostchild:
Why I refuse To Help A Pregnant Hungry Woman. What Can You Say On This

Because of many years of betrayals of life, I move to a new town and decide to start afresh. In the past I have made too many sacrifices for women that backfire and work against me, so I decide to stay focus on myself

After living in this new place for about six months, a pregnant woman who also live in the same visinity came to me and ask me to help her. She told me lend her money.

She told me that, she has not eaten since morning and she wants to cook and her hubby is out of town and will be back later.

She told me to lend her some money to cook and she will refund me when her hubby comes back. She was pregnant, hungry and need help

The money she asked me, I have it in my apartment, three times over but I refuse to give her. I refused to help her because of my past experience

Am I wrong?
Did I do wrong?

What do you think?


Bro........next time just give what u could afford to loose without being paid back.,.......if not for anything the sake of the pregnancy........

Kinda bad........

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Wawelexy(m): 2:57am On Sep 21, 2021
U should should have just overlooked the pregnant woman and his husband and help just for the sake of the innocent unborn child.... Not as if u did any wrong by not giving tho.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 3:07am On Sep 21, 2021
buhariPLEASEdie:



Bro........next time just give what u could afford to loose without being paid back.,.......if not for anything the sake of the pregnancy........

Kinda bad........

You have shown me that I am not stupid and that I should always have compassion on women

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 3:10am On Sep 21, 2021
Wawelexy:
U should should have just overlooked the pregnant woman and his husband and help just for the sake of the innocent unborn child.... Not as if u did any wrong by not giving tho.

You have encourage me that I am not stupid and that I should always have compassion on women

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Romanoff(f): 5:04am On Sep 21, 2021
Lostchild:


You have encourage me that I am not stupid and that I should always have compassion on women

Not just women sir, for people in general.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Sonnobax15(m): 5:32am On Sep 21, 2021
cheesy
Op,tho I understand your point cha...But you suppose know say every kind gesture wey you show to your fellow man today,na only God go fit reward you back......

You should have considered her condition prior to the baby she's carrying.....Tho some people will say what of the man who got her pregnant? Like why didn't he provide her needs since he's the one responsible for her pregnancy before leaving town? But sometimes we've got to have human sympathy for our fellow man instead of classifying every NIGERIAN as an evil person undecided

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by cassidy1996(m): 5:53am On Sep 21, 2021
Hmmmm ..... good samaritan matter for Nigeria, sometimes get as e be

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by AutoChick4U(f): 6:28am On Sep 21, 2021
Lostchild:


You have shown me that I am not stupid and that I should always have compassion on women
look up to the hills where thy help comes from. You don't know d doors that would have opened with that singular act of kindness

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by FanOfMyself: 6:58am On Sep 21, 2021
Op are you okay at all sad

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by stinjoe(m): 7:05am On Sep 21, 2021
Whatever help you render to your brother, you also render it to God. So Lostchild, it's God that will reward you in ways that you won't even expect. Remember His thoughts are not our thoughts.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lamasta(m): 7:34am On Sep 21, 2021
If you have the power to help make you do am and stop giving explanations

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by nnamdiosu(m): 8:21am On Sep 21, 2021
Lostchild:
badaatum; Tell me what I did wrong..

Nabanga; You can report me to the police

Emotionalbeing; Tell me what you think on the above thread.

nnamdiosu; What do you think?

VJTN ; You can see I am no more concern about women.

eyinjuege; You can reveal more of your demon

You were very wrong bro.
Trust me, I understand how you feel, and I know you are trying to prevent the pain of the past to show up.

Don't make other people suffer what what was done to you in the past. Like I said earlier on, show love from a distance .
The woman needed help. Not just her. But her baby in the womb too. You denied two people help, not just the pregnant woman. It's well. God will help you. Amen

Hope you are fine bro

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 8:55am On Sep 21, 2021
Romanoff:


Not just women sir, for people in general.

Thank you

Some nairaland users insulted me heavily here when I wrote about why I care too much for women with their children. Even op said, he cannot help a single mother which is insane.

For me, I spend more on women because I have more soft spot for their children, including teenage girls, single teen mothers that are suffering.

I don't attach condition as long as you are a human.

Many people think I am stupid which I am not.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 8:59am On Sep 21, 2021
AutoChick4U:
look up to the hills where thy help comes from. You don't know d doors that would have opened with that singular act of kindness

Even the pregnant woman that came to me was even a very nice person.

Just that I have to run from myself.
Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by AutoChick4U(f): 9:01am On Sep 21, 2021
Lostchild:


Even the pregnant woman that came to me was even a very nice person.

Just that I have to run from myself.
A kind heart does not need any validation to be kind. Use d good Samaritan as an example

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 9:41am On Sep 21, 2021
Sonnobax15:
cheesy
Op,tho I understand your point cha...But you suppose know say every kind gesture wey you show to your fellow man today,na only God go fit reward you back......

You should have considered her condition prior to the baby she's carrying.....Tho some people will say what of the man who got her pregnant? Like why didn't he provide her needs since he's the one responsible for her pregnancy before leaving town? But sometimes we've got to have human sympathy for our fellow man instead of classifying every NIGERIAN as an evil person undecided

I was avoiding my past. I was also avoiding the hubby

In 2014, I was falsely accused of f'vcking someone I was helping. It led to extreme chaos if not the fact that I was very calm and meek.

I had to avoid helping people around me to save my peace

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 11:02am On Sep 21, 2021
AutoChick4U:
A kind heart does not need any validation to be kind. Use d good Samaritan as an example

The good samaritans help the strangers
Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Kondomatic(m): 11:08am On Sep 21, 2021
buhariPLEASEdie:



Bro........next time just give what u could afford to loose without being paid back.,.......if not for anything the sake of the pregnancy........

Kinda bad........
Because of pregnancy? Did he get her pregnant?


If you want to help someone, help the because they are humans and in need and you've what they need, nothing else.

Not because she's pregnant, not because she's carrying a baby, not because she's a woman.

Some Northern women will carry one baby on their back and one in the front when they go out to beg money, I don't give those ones shi shi.
They should meet whoever fvcks them or simply stop getting pregnant.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by buhariPLEASEdie: 3:38pm On Sep 21, 2021
Lostchild:


The good samaritans help the strangers


Bro.........

Forget bout Samaritans this is Nigeria.......
Help only when it comes to your mind........
Do not help girls/women often.........they will take u for granted/ingrates.......that will get u hurt once more...........

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Lostchild(m): 3:50pm On Sep 21, 2021
buhariPLEASEdie:



Bro.........

Forget bout Samaritans this is Nigeria.......
Help only when it comes to your mind........
Do not help girls/women often.........they will take u for granted/ingrates.......that will get u hurt once more...........

You are a correct wise man

100 % √√

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by mariahAngel(f): 4:11pm On Sep 21, 2021
Kondomatic:
Because of pregnancy? Did he get her pregnant?


If you want to help someone, help the because they are humans and in need and you've what they need, nothing else.

Not because she's pregnant, not because she's carrying a baby, not because she's a woman.

Some Northern women will carry one baby on their back and one in the front when they go out to beg money, I don't give those ones shi shi.
They should meet whoever fvcks them or simply stop getting pregnant.

You dey vex o! grin
Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by KennyRouge: 7:34pm On Sep 21, 2021
Kondomatic:
Because of pregnancy? Did he get her pregnant?


If you want to help someone, help the because they are humans and in need and you've what they need, nothing else.

Not because she's pregnant, not because she's carrying a baby, not because she's a woman.

Some Northern women will carry one baby on their back and one in the front when they go out to beg money, I don't give those ones shi shi.
They should meet whoever fvcks them or simply stop getting pregnant.
para mode grin grin
Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by Corporate2020: 8:21pm On Sep 21, 2021
Unfortunately, I can't do this. I won't be able to sleep.

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Re: Why I Refuse To Help A Pregnant Woman, What Can You Say On This? by mariahAngel(f): 12:37pm On Sep 22, 2021
mosdii:
1. Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
2. Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
3. Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
4. Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them
5. Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Seun!
Mynd44!!
Laslasticlala!!!
Dominique!!!!
And to whomever it may concern, may I know why this evil moniker haven’t been banned into oblivion?
Why is it still allowed to roam, spread hate for women and create nuisance?
Why is nairaland such a dump site for toxins?
Why is so much hate for women allowed and encouraged on this forum?
Why is nairaland so anti-women?

Maybe it’ll be a good idea for all females to boycott this evil forum for at least a week, let the males have the forum to themselves, so that they can know what a world without women it feels like! BORING!

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