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Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by CountVersailles(f): 3:28pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
hahn:Strong word here. Really sad that not all women are ready for a hard time. |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by tensazangetsu20(m): 3:28pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
ebuk4real:Hold on till 50 o. Marry now and generational poverty things o. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by uthlaw: 3:32pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
thesmallgod:that not wrong advice, nothing special about the marriage.....mind ur business if u don't have reasonable thing to contribute! 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by hope4mewale(m): 3:32pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
ok |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by uthlaw: 3:33pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Peace081:which family.... nothing de inside d marriage,na over hyped! 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by ArcFresky(m): 3:33pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Saving is susceptible to inflation Forget projects and marriage, enter Yankee first. |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by uthlaw: 3:36pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Juicy001:so he should marry because he need a woman that will be praying, supportive with what.....omo nothing special for dis marriage,na nonsense excuse Ena go de bring to support marriage! 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by TheMan3: 3:38pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:watin come bring religious leaders into this conversation |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Raalsalghul: 3:39pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
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Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by ebuk4real(m): 3:40pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Thanks man for the insight. Cheers |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by AlabiKILLER2021(m): 3:40pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
abisoye2: Alabi to the rescue Use the 2.7m Carry Man u to hammer Villarreal Dortmund to beat Besiktas Chelsea to score against Juve We talking 3 odds here 2.7 m x 3 Will bounce back as around 7m or more Reharshe it on Saturday strictly 3 odds 7mx 3 You getting 21m Remember, Alabi jazz too strong 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by tensazangetsu20(m): 3:41pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Raalsalghul:The kind of suffering I am seeing as a result of early marriage eh. Omho its a huge trap. A highway to severe poverty. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by uthlaw: 3:42pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
stinflame:na rubbish you de talk....how marriage is a blessing,95% of does that get married are dying in poverty! 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by ModelLook(m): 3:44pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Before you people will start with your "Go and learn IT" story, what if the guy doesn't like anything called IT. He might just be like me that gets bored just by hearing IT. Don't even start me with all your programming or html stuffs. Not everybody is passionate or have the interest for IT. Or am I normal like this 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by PrinceJoeWan(m): 3:48pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
To further drive the marriage issue home, know this: She Also Have A family, Boom Now you have three families to cater for, Your immediate family, Your family And her family. Fear marriage brother, now is nt the time 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by bigpicture001: 3:52pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Mbee247: Same way with me... I hate saving |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by bigpicture001: 3:55pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
abisoye2: If only u can believe and invest 1mill.. thru me.. I no mean crpto or forex oo.. I will pay u 400k after 12 months.. I will pay u 116,260 naira monthly till 12 months.. that way , ur working, ur money is working... Email. Me if u want to know more.. |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Karleb(m): 3:56pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
One thing I have learnt the hard way in this life is, when it comes to choosing what I want for myself and what my parents want for me, that's exactly when I will show them who is in control of my life. That's me. Bro, go for the self improvement. Save up and further your education. You're 27, to me, a man should not feel any stupid pressure to marry until he is 35. Trust me, when you marry that amount will become nothing. Also, forget about the building for now. Marriage and the building are nothing but distractions right now, focus on self improvement. Tell your mother to stop telling you about them, if she's not listening, yell at her. If you can listen to her, she should be able to listen to you too. You have a perfect plan for your life, don't let another person, your mother in this case ruin it because at the end of the day, it's your life. You are the captain of your ship, take charge. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by judility(m): 3:58pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
My dear, visit home and marry a good industrious woman, still travel to continue your hustle, try marry someone that has finish school here and set her up , both of you will join hands and make your dreams come through , I was in the same shoe with you three yrs ago , now m 30yrs and I regret it with passion. Money is not everything , what about your life as an only son , please marry and you and your wife will join hands and make it happen , "He who finds a wife, finds a good thing, AND OBTAINATE FAVOUR FROM GOD". 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by President99: 4:02pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
abisoye2:I would advise try to further your education in one of the Western countries. Building a house is expensive and for marriage, God time is the best |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by samwillyco1(m): 4:03pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Please invest that your money in a landed property by buying some plots of land where it is cheap for now and continue your work when you are ready to flee to Europe you can sell it and add it up with the once you have saved too. Finally, you can marry when you get to Europe and become a citizen of that country than marrying some liability in NIGERIA ( although some are good, hard working and supportive but are hard to find them here in NIGERIA ). 1 Like |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Nobody: 4:07pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Wahala be like bicycle, so at what age should he get married then? One thing to note is that women find it easier to accept younger poor men than older poor men, because they expect you should have money by 40+. There is no benefit for them dating a poor older man. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Nobody: 4:09pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Klass99: Don't mind him, he's lost in the Matrix (a non-existing world) |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by tensazangetsu20(m): 4:09pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
truthsayer009:Omho its not a must to marry o except you want to breed future boko haram, oloshos, and herdsmen. . In Nigeria, the government is working extremely hard to make everyone poor. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Karleb(m): 4:10pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: This is hard to swallow but marriage is an option. |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Nobody: 4:10pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
tensazangetsu20: Lmaoooooo! |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Klass99(f): 4:11pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Karleb(m): 4:11pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Klass99: Some people love and encourage poverty and mediocrity. |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Nobody: 4:11pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
uthlaw: Then Sir, that person is destined to be poor and been unmarried won't change his or her situation. Been married was even what Is keeping a good percentage of them alive. Marriage like I said no dey stop one's blessings... |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by pansophist(m): 4:12pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
Usually people give advice base on their own worldview, which is largely shaped by their generational period and gender. Because she is your mother doesn't mean she knows the best for you. Yes, she wants the best for you, but she does not know the best for you. Let that sink in. Also, you should listen to advice from people who you admire their lifestyle. Not trying to be insulting, but if your mum that have spent at least 20 years on earth before birthing you could not figure it out financially and depends on you who was here when she was an adult, then listen to her, nod your head like a lizard, but do what's best for you. Thirdly, telling you to get married is not a bad advice, but you don't have to listen to it. Marriage by nature, marriage is an institution that improves your current situation, not to make it worse. Unless the girl you'll marry will somehow make your life better, e.g, is equally educated, financially stable, or God help you, have a foreign passport and loves you, then by all means, get married to her. But if you'll marry now a lady that doesn't equally compliments you financially, and you start doing the financial lifting of her and God forbid, her family, and after performing all the expensive marriage rites, you'll either bring her to UAE, or be sending cash while she stays in Nigeria (and God help you if she is not loyal), then don't get married. I'm not against lifting people, but have strong leg first, not when you're trying to survive. I'm not saying you shouldn't marry a woman who you'll lift financially, but at your situation, it's suicidal. It's like giving someone the only seed you have, instead of planting it first, let it germinate, and you can give as much fruit as you want. Only get marry if you are strong, that your wife's money won't bother you. Not now. Please. About land. I can't help but say, are you mad? Don't try that nonsense. After buying, then you'll begin constructing, and may God help you if your family are not trustworthy. But even if they are, how does it improves your situation? Why not work on being strong? That should be your only priority. Be strong financially first. And when you're wealthy enough, you'll even buy a house in London, no problem. And if you have actually traveled around, buying a land and building a house in Nigeria will turn you off. If I were you, I'll just get an admission and move to Europe. There are lots of schools in places like Poland where the tuition fee is less than one million naira. Move to Europe, and money won't be a problem. Even if you have only primary school cert, if you're not lazy, you'll make so much money in Europe. Some of the dumbest douchbag that I know makes at least 1500 euros doing menial jobs in places like Germany or Netherlands, and Poland is just an hour drive from Berlin. Forgive your mum, for she doesn't know what she is doing. This historical quote that Jesus said on the cross of calvary is how you should approach your mum. She doesn't know better. And if you make the mistake and refuse to develop your finances and make other people happy instead, you'll regret it. Not a threat, but a fact. And it's more painful because you're the cause of your own agony. You wont have the luxury to blame anyone. And they would see you as stupid, and what you will hear is, "you've been abroad since, what did you achieve"? Doesn't matter if you suspend your goal to help them. That's hell. You've been advised. Gerrard59, Tensazangetsu20, Raalsalghul. Thanks very much. Your advice make sense. I hope the op listen to it. 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Confused: Please Advise Me! by Karleb(m): 4:13pm On Sep 27, 2021 |
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