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SOZINN:
Look at what this fool is saying.

SOZINN:
Your take is gold as usual.

To be honest, she had me a bit confused at first. She said she wasn't trying to justify paternity fraud but after I perused her thoughts in her first post. She sounded like she was but she didn't want to be open about her stance on the matter. She was just trying to get others to see things from her idiotic standpoint.

It was tiring but I summoned the strength to read further because I wanted clarity even though I had my suspicions. Well, I did find what I was looking for when I saw that post. You know what, I shouldn't have even bothered. Turns out that the buffoon is a feminist.

Just another idiot trying to push a stupid narrative. Wasn't even worth my time.
My condolences to the man who will make a wife out of this fraudster.

Klchnjoku:
6 habits to sharpen your mind
1. Starve your distractions

Focus only and only on what matters to you. If anything doesn't help you make happier, healthier, or wealthier that's a distraction
2. Read the unknown

Reading outside your scope and desired fields helps you gain whole new perspectives
3. Challenge yourself

Learn something new, exploring the unknown, and doing what haunts you can take you to new mental heights
4. Feed your curiosity

Curiosity often questions conventional wisdom, dogmas, and existing mindset. Leaving your curiosity unfed is avoiding challenges and growth
5. Learn your psychology

Analyze your own thoughts and actions and understand your own motivations. Looking at yourself from outside of yourself is the key here.
6. Discipline your thoughts

Gaining mental clarity is a must to determine what you're doing is the right thing and what your next 'smart' move should be.

heironymos:
I have been following this thread for months now and I must say bravo to everyone that has contributed positively to it's growth.
I have never seen people especially Nigerians this coordinated, and that gets to show the type of minds we have here you are all geniuses(whether passively reading or actively contributing.

I will give my own little contributions of my blue and and redpill experiences but for now my elder brother is the issue.
I am quite introverted and don't normally see the need to advice or interfere in people's businesses, but my brother(40yrs) always argues with his girlfriend over every little things. But the one that got me really pissed off to even post this was when he got on a job interview on zoom(which he eventually got). After the interview which he told her will last for 45min she didn't spare a second and called just when he was telling me about the interview, when he saw her call he clearly was pissed off but kept a straight face, not to give away his displeasure because I had once complained about her narcissistic personality.

When they spoke on phone I overheard him telling her that he just got off the interview, why is she calling to ask why he didn't call her immediately after the interview till she called him without even asking how it went, and she kept nagging about him keeping things away from her he was like what if the interview extended after the 45mins and she calls and distracts him. Long story short he ended up apologizing and could not maintain frame, she always makes things all about her and now that he is starting a new job I don't want him getting distracted because of a woman.
He has spent 10yrs no job, and now getting it with an oil company and entertaining a time and emotional leech is my issue.

Finally when ever I try to talk to him he brings in this OG vibe like he knows what he is doing but this b**ch keeps whooping his ass emotionally but he won't simply learn from a wise sage because of ego(he is 40 I am 28).

How do I advice his egocentric Mr know all self in this regard(cos he feels knowledge and experience only comes with age)

CaveAdullam:
I screamed when I saw the title of the thread. In fact, I witnessed few seconds raging madness. What nonsense! How I managed to read the nonsense, I don't know. Anger was reigning over me as I read every bit of that rubbish posted by a single digit IQ woman!

Local man can not can. If I have my way I will beat hell outta that useless woman.

heironymos:
I have been following this thread for months now and I must say bravo to everyone that has contributed positively to it's growth.
I have never seen people especially Nigerians this coordinated, and that gets to show the type of minds we have here you are all geniuses(whether passively reading or actively contributing.

I will give my own little contributions of my blue and and redpill experiences but for now my elder brother is the issue.
I am quite introverted and don't normally see the need to advice or interfere in people's businesses, but my brother(40yrs) always argues with his girlfriend over every little things. But the one that got me really pissed off to even post this was when he got on a job interview on zoom(which he eventually got). After the interview which he told her will last for 45min she didn't spare a second and called just when he was telling me about the interview, when he saw her call he clearly was pissed off but kept a straight face, not to give away his displeasure because I had once complained about her narcissistic personality.

When they spoke on phone I overheard him telling her that he just got off the interview, why is she calling to ask why he didn't call her immediately after the interview till she called him without even asking how it went, and she kept nagging about him keeping things away from her he was like what if the interview extended after the 45mins and she calls and distracts him. Long story short he ended up apologizing and could not maintain frame, she always makes things all about her and now that he is starting a new job I don't want him getting distracted because of a woman.
He has spent 10yrs no job, and now getting it with an oil company and entertaining a time and emotional leech is my issue.

Finally when ever I try to talk to him he brings in this OG vibe like he knows what he is doing but this b**ch keeps whooping his ass emotionally but he won't simply learn from a wise sage because of ego(he is 40 I am 28).

How do I advice his egocentric Mr know all self in this regard(cos he feels knowledge and experience only comes with age)

CaveAdullam:
1. You cannot correct an adult. Any adult that changes his way is as a result of his own volition, bitter experiences, and hard lessons learnt. It's extremely difficult to talk an adult from his former position to another. For this reason, argument is mostly futile, except in rare cases where the mental well-being of your audience is sacrosanct or when your opponent is more proficient and intelligent than you.

2. A man in love is never wrong. He will rather whip himself rather than introspect if he is touring the right or wrong route. A man beclouded by romance sees his partner as his god.

3. Oneitis is your brother's problem probably. Perhaps, the woman in question might have helped him in one or two ways in the past, hence, the need for her to always get validated in line with her narcissistic behaviour.

4. Your brother is a weak dude. He has failed to set limits from the onset, and if he eventually resume duty and his schedule gets altered, of course definitely, people will start screaming "men don't care whether a woman started from the scratch with them, they will hit other women when they become nouveau riche". Of course, true. However, not knowing that this one here is one high in narcissism, and without investigating the characters of these women in question.

5. Probably, that woman is also spinning plates, because it is difficult for women, not to even talk of 21st century women to stick to a man in his broke stage. Highest they do is fvck that man and keep him around should in case he experience a breakthrough or deem fit as a h0e retirement plan.

6. Your brother got a good job, now if he is interested in the blossoming of the relationship, he must start vetting her covertly and stealthily. Because his kind of job can make his partner mimic submissiveness and other lovey-dovey affectations. He must raise boundaries and set limits. However, this is difficult and almost impossible, but this he must do if he's interested in the relationship. Or, better still, start from a more fertile foundation by choosing another woman.

7. Managing a personality disorder like narcissism is difficult for the sufferer and caretaker, if your brother is weak there is need for him to develop on his dominance and confident level not only because of women but with people and society at large, or else, he will be dangled like a pendulum bob. Women, whether humble or belligerent cannot be handled by weak men!

8. You might end up engaging in a minor vendetta with him if you continually insists on his character and that of his spouse. So, better be careful " so that two lovebirds nor go come use you settle matter on top bed"

Be wise!

Thanks.

SkyFlint:
This is very valid.

I don't subscribe much to conspiracy theories, but it is very evident that someone, or a group is someones, is using movies/shows to brainwash the public.

It became obvious with the homosexuality trope. It was weird the first time we saw it on TV. But now, it is expected.

The desensitisation of homesexuality through the use of movies and TV shows has been quite successful. Few people, if any at all, think it's weird anymore.

That said, writers of movies and shows seem to have a list of mandatory characters. The list includes:

1. A gay person (preferably male).
2. A black man.
3. A patriarchy-oppressed white woman (usually the lead).
4. A caricature of a masculine man.
5. A lovable doofus of a man.
6. A very powerful man whose balls are in the palm of a woman (wife/GF).
7. A strong, independent woman .
8. A transgender (EXCLUSIVELY a man turning into a woman. Women are already perfect just the way they are).

For these writers, finding a way to slot in a "black gay man" character is like hitting the jackpot. It makes them giddy with joy. A black transgender man? That's bliss!

That aside, there's a fairly new narrative that movies/shows are pushing now. Writers, or perhaps their sponsors, are catching on quickly. And it's gaining ground rapidly.

The narrative is this:

Men willfully relinquishing their rightful positions of leadership or authority to pursue love or a life of mediocrity and frivolities.

Of course, the narrative is fostered by conveniently making the men in the movie/show grossly incompetent and the women overwhelmingly competent.

Somehow, the women are natural-born leaders with huge ambitions and transformational ideas. Whereas for the men, leaders are just "not who they are."

First time I noticed the new narrative was in Coming 2 America. A poor bastard forfeited his throne to a natural female leader to pursue love with an ambitious lady. And that's okay?

The next time I noticed it was in Cinderella (2021) where the Crown Prince, who's conveniently made out to be incompetent and irresponsible, also forfeits his throne to his ambitious sister to pursue love with an equally ambitious girl whose ambitions require her to travel.

Avengers: Endgame was the next movie I saw with the narrative. Thor forfeiting the Asgardian Throne to a Valkyrie. In Norse mythology, the Valkyries are just servants of Odin. But it's okay to give up the throne to one of them and then go jostle for the leadership of a small space shuttle.

The objective of the narrative is simple:

It's okay to be unambitious as a man. Leave the leadership roles to women, they are more capable than you anyway.

If the propagation of the narrative continues, it'll become imprinted in the minds of men. Men will become more laid-back and unambitious than ever. Women will have the reins of society more firmly in their grasps.

Then HELL will reign on earth.

SOZINN:
Christiano about to get fûcked

JESHAL:
Go Thread

Why Are Men Not Helping Each Other To Become Better Men?https://www.nairaland.com/6776260/why-men-not-helping-each#106254645

the mama no want make Dem rape her son for divorce court

SOZINN:
Christiano about to get fûcked

SOZINN:
Christiano about to get fûcked

Ronnnie:
Of course He is....imagine putting a girl you ain't married to on a 80 thousand pounds per month salary for just being your girlfriend....lol

SOZINN:
Local man cannot come and stress himself.
Just calculate his money and give him

luminouz:
I offer counselling for a fee. It composes of theory and practical approaches. I can add some spiritual approach too, for a fee(in case,he ate some Vegetables).

sajmark:
I talked about my elder brother's tribulation few posts back and I ended it saying "I watch 'em in 3d" because you can never successfully advice him or make him change his ways of doing things except he is willing.
There are two great teachers in life: EXPERIENCE and FORESIGHT.
EXPERIENCE teaches harshly,
brutally, while FORESIGHT teaches gently, patiently, pleasingly.
thanks to threads like this a lot of young men like me and you are learning by foresight,
sadly the only way that my brother and yours will learn is through experience.

SOZINN:
Christiano about to get fûcked

luminouz:
How?

She is a successful model in her own right and he is not married to her

ObinnaValentine:
Do you have sisters that are fierce? If yes tell them..the rest they say is history :

CaveAdullam:
1. You cannot correct an adult. Any adult that changes his way is as a result of his own volition, bitter experiences, and hard lessons learnt. It's extremely difficult to talk an adult from his former position to another. For this reason, argument is mostly futile, except in rare cases where the mental well-being of your audience is sacrosanct or when your opponent is more proficient and intelligent than you.

2. A man in love is never wrong. He will rather whip himself rather than introspect if he is touring the right or wrong route. A man beclouded by romance sees his partner as his god.

3. Oneitis is your brother's problem probably. Perhaps, the woman in question might have helped him in one or two ways in the past, hence, the need for her to always get validated in line with her narcissistic behaviour.

4. Your brother is a weak dude. He has failed to set limits from the onset, and if he eventually resume duty and his schedule gets altered, of course definitely, people will start screaming "men don't care whether a woman started from the scratch with them, they will hit other women when they become nouveau riche". Of course, true. However, not knowing that this one here is one high in narcissism, and without investigating the characters of these women in question.

5. Probably, that woman is also spinning plates, because it is difficult for women, not to even talk of 21st century women to stick to a man in his broke stage. Highest they do is fvck that man and keep him around should in case he experience a breakthrough or deem fit as a h0e retirement plan.

6. Your brother got a good job, now if he is interested in the blossoming of the relationship, he must start vetting her covertly and stealthily. Because his kind of job can make his partner mimic submissiveness and other lovey-dovey affectations. He must raise boundaries and set limits. However, this is difficult and almost impossible, but this he must do if he's interested in the relationship. Or, better still, start from a more fertile foundation by choosing another woman.

7. Managing a personality disorder like narcissism is difficult for the sufferer and caretaker, if your brother is weak there is need for him to develop on his dominance and confident level not only because of women but with people and society at large, or else, he will be dangled like a pendulum bob. Women, whether humble or belligerent cannot be handled by weak men!

8. You might end up engaging in a minor vendetta with him if you continually insists on his character and that of his spouse. So, better be careful "so that two lovebirds nor go come use you settle matter on top bed".

Be wise!

Thanks.

heironymos:
LOL Thanks Mr luminous(cos I know it might involve beating too)

Martinez39s:
It might be that Ronaldo is considering marrying her. Ronaldo seems to like her that much.

heironymos:
Mr caveadullam your analysis of my brother is so on point almost like you know the situation better than me... I Duff my hat, damn!
On your number 3. He truly has oneitis for the fact that he put her on a pedestal because she let him deflower her. He also never received a gift from his past gfs.. so when this one bought him 2 aba t-shirts she suddenly became his unicorn.

On number 5: she truly is spinning plates. The level of her emotional turbulence no be for hia. She definitely is fucking other d*ckd because of the way she stares at me lustfully when he is not looking.. and she always complements my looks(redpill enhanced) . He is definitely just a retirement plan from the hoe phase.
Finally his oneitis has him tolerating lots of shit, I let him know that "you are what you tolerate" but he believes in bending to his displeasure to make things work but Las las make him go simp... I go still dey foram, but make school of hard knocks work on am first
Thanks for the contribution cave

luminouz:
He wouldn't DARE!!!

At his age? What dafuq is the benefit of marriage that he isn't getting now? Makes no sense to me.

luminouz:
She looks at you lustfully?
Damn!!! Your bro don enter o

DieRich5:
I swr, I don't do shit again with anyone in my life my senior sis do me dis shit.
Her husband put her outside wit her 4 children and 1yr old baby among @9pm, so I told her to come slp in ma house and I vex go dere house @3am b4 he run go work......... once I Dy vex I Dy do shit I wan fvck am up put am for hospital (he's way older than me, like 10yrs) I don't really give a shit for my sis na her 1yr baby move me fear no let am come outside so i break alot of glass window ND the man call his mother say I wan kill am and I bring boys come too I was the only one dere ; so family com talk I was not dere cus I don go my house I weak when I saw Dem laughing ND she calling him "baby" food is already I just turn go my house, I swr I'm not putting hand for her mata or any lover infact Nigerian mata. Las Las the man ND his family Dy fear me now. Nobody ain't telling me shit about dere mata

Martinez39s:
I doubt he will marry her. Ronaldo is one of the few players that have opted for surrogates and have left marriage out of the equation... moves that seem red pill. However, I am not sure if he is really redpilled because any smart man who knows the laws will make similar decisions, though it is rare. I don't see Ronaldo getting married, but you never bank on our gender (most) not to disappoint us in women issue. This love thing lowers the IQ.

Martinez39s:
My guy, his elder brother is in the soup. Only lesson of hard knocks, brutal hard knocks can humble that one.