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Fantachapman:
My Fiancee has been attacking me regularly nagging at me each time we are out together and she sees a fine girl look at me. I don't even see the girls she is talking about. She has accused me of doing things that I never even imagine doing.

Now there was a time I sent her a message last year with my business whatsapp (that I rarely use, sometimes I deactivate it to create space on my phone to download new apps). She didn't know about this particular whatsapp because I don't really use it to chat with family and friends. In this message, I acted like a stranger/Chyker to her just to see how she would react so that i can use it and laugh with her but she discarded the person not knowing it was me.

Fast forward to last month she came to my house to spend time with me (we are in long distance relationship), I usually recharge dstv with that whatsapp, so she saw the whatsapp and she searched her phone and found out the fake chyker message I sent her last year had the same pic as the one I was using for dstv recharge. I told her I normally deactivate the whatsapp cos I don't use it often. I dont use it much anymore because the original phone number I was using with that whatsapp is no longer in use (blocked due to no usage). I told her the truth about the chyking incident. No one I know personally has the number except I want to ask questions online anonymously or when I was looking for a house, i used it to talk to agents. She accepted.

My main phone spoilt recently and i used the whatsapp to contact a repairer i met on nairaland. So we have been chatting about how to get it to him for repairs.

Now, two days ago, when I woke up in the morning, she asked me why I'm still using the whatsapp. I told her it was cos I was trying to contact a repairer. I opened the whatsapp and showed her, she saw the dstv recharge too, and the other messages that I sent to house agents were still there. So she insisted I scroll down so she could see what I have been doing on whatsapp. At this point I was upset. I told her her suspicions are getting too much, so I stretched my hand with the phone and asked her to give me her own whatsapp (Which she passwords) for me to see her messages, and then she can have and see mine. She then said she doesn't want to see mine anymore. She then left the room and when next I saw her in the parlour, she was deleting chats on her whatsapp. So I demanded to see her phone ( I bought it for her).

When I read her messages I was broken in half. There was a guy she earlier told me was a fool and an idiot, that the guy doesnt know how to talk to women and always wants to chat cos he has no one to talk to. She told me if that guy dares talk rubbish to her he will get slap. That he's not a spec to any girl at all. Now of all the people I see on her Facebook I'm always laughing when I see this particular guy's comments cos I tell her even if other guys are a threat, this is the last person I can ever fear can take you from me.

Can you believe that I read her chat with this particular guy and I was blown to shreds? She has been sex chatting the guy since when me and her first met 2 years ago and she is always the one bringing the sex chat up. She even tells him about me and they both laugh at me behind my back calling me Senior Uncle (as in old man). The house I rented for her and her family to stay, she invited the guy to bring condom and hammer when he is coming to help them arrange the house in the chat. She asked the guy to buy her condom and pant for Christmas, that year was the period I paid for the house. I bought her the phone she used to be chatting with this guy. Each time they are chatting and I come online, she will tell the guy that senior uncle is disturbing her again, that I am annoying and im talking talking not letting her sleep. I was planning to register her in school and that very night in January 2020, she told the guy that I'm disturbing her with school registration. She told him my village and where I live. Anything or plan I have for her, she will consult this guy to ask him what he thinks before she accepts what I tell her. Even when she travelled for a wedding, she returned very late to her parents house due to bus breaking down and as she was telling me their journey she was also giving this guy a blow by blow account of the journey, like for example: "we have entered Imo now, but we have not reached Ph, I am in Ph now, I am home now" and the guy responds "oh thank God".

I broke down in tears and smashed the phone. I still took her and the phone to the repairer of my other phone and they changed the screen, I paid. While I was reading the rest of the messages I was seeing, talk of breast and yansh and other terrible sex chats. She took the phone from me, I threatened to call her dad and she begged me not to. Next thing she deleted the messages. Her dad already saw my missed call the next morning (yesterday). He called her and she told him we had a problem. He called me and I told him everything that happened. He called her again and she said it was all a joke that she didn't mean all those chats with the guy. Her dad called me begged me to forgive her. He was crying. Her mum later called and begged me to forgive her that she said she was joking with the guy.
I called the guy with her phone and i told him i am senior uncle, he said he knows who i am, then i asked him why he destroy my marriage, he asked me which marriage? That he doesn't know who I am. I shouted on him and ended the call. I called his girlfriend and told her what he was doing to my relationship. After that I forgave my fiancee yesterday, and her parents have called to thank me but my heart is still heavy. I don't know what to do anymore.

Fantachapman
Quit Mr man now that you are not married...the parents are using you as their retirement benefits:
My Fiancee has been attacking me regularly nagging at me each time we are out together and she sees a fine girl look at me. I don't even see the girls she is talking about. She has accused me of doing things that I never even imagine doing.

Now there was a time I sent her a message last year with my business whatsapp (that I rarely use, sometimes I deactivate it to create space on my phone to download new apps). She didn't know about this particular whatsapp because I don't really use it to chat with family and friends. In this message, I acted like a stranger/Chyker to her just to see how she would react so that i can use it and laugh with her but she discarded the person not knowing it was me.

Fast forward to last month she came to my house to spend time with me (we are in long distance relationship), I usually recharge dstv with that whatsapp, so she saw the whatsapp and she searched her phone and found out the fake chyker message I sent her last year had the same pic as the one I was using for dstv recharge. I told her I normally deactivate the whatsapp cos I don't use it often. I dont use it much anymore because the original phone number I was using with that whatsapp is no longer in use (blocked due to no usage). I told her the truth about the chyking incident. No one I know personally has the number except I want to ask questions online anonymously or when I was looking for a house, i used it to talk to agents. She accepted.

My main phone spoilt recently and i used the whatsapp to contact a repairer i met on nairaland. So we have been chatting about how to get it to him for repairs.

Now, two days ago, when I woke up in the morning, she asked me why I'm still using the whatsapp. I told her it was cos I was trying to contact a repairer. I opened the whatsapp and showed her, she saw the dstv recharge too, and the other messages that I sent to house agents were still there. So she insisted I scroll down so she could see what I have been doing on whatsapp. At this point I was upset. I told her her suspicions are getting too much, so I stretched my hand with the phone and asked her to give me her own whatsapp (Which she passwords) for me to see her messages, and then she can have and see mine. She then said she doesn't want to see mine anymore. She then left the room and when next I saw her in the parlour, she was deleting chats on her whatsapp. So I demanded to see her phone ( I bought it for her).

When I read her messages I was broken in half. There was a guy she earlier told me was a fool and an idiot, that the guy doesnt know how to talk to women and always wants to chat cos he has no one to talk to. She told me if that guy dares talk rubbish to her he will get slap. That he's not a spec to any girl at all. Now of all the people I see on her Facebook I'm always laughing when I see this particular guy's comments cos I tell her even if other guys are a threat, this is the last person I can ever fear can take you from me.

Can you believe that I read her chat with this particular guy and I was blown to shreds? She has been sex chatting the guy since when me and her first met 2 years ago and she is always the one bringing the sex chat up. She even tells him about me and they both laugh at me behind my back calling me Senior Uncle (as in old man). The house I rented for her and her family to stay, she invited the guy to bring condom and hammer when he is coming to help them arrange the house in the chat. She asked the guy to buy her condom and pant for Christmas, that year was the period I paid for the house. I bought her the phone she used to be chatting with this guy. Each time they are chatting and I come online, she will tell the guy that senior uncle is disturbing her again, that I am annoying and im talking talking not letting her sleep. I was planning to register her in school and that very night in January 2020, she told the guy that I'm disturbing her with school registration. She told him my village and where I live. Anything or plan I have for her, she will consult this guy to ask him what he thinks before she accepts what I tell her. Even when she travelled for a wedding, she returned very late to her parents house due to bus breaking down and as she was telling me their journey she was also giving this guy a blow by blow account of the journey, like for example: "we have entered Imo now, but we have not reached Ph, I am in Ph now, I am home now" and the guy responds "oh thank God".

I broke down in tears and smashed the phone. I still took her and the phone to the repairer of my other phone and they changed the screen, I paid. While I was reading the rest of the messages I was seeing, talk of breast and yansh and other terrible sex chats. She took the phone from me, I threatened to call her dad and she begged me not to. Next thing she deleted the messages. Her dad already saw my missed call the next morning (yesterday). He called her and she told him we had a problem. He called me and I told him everything that happened. He called her again and she said it was all a joke that she didn't mean all those chats with the guy. Her dad called me begged me to forgive her. He was crying. Her mum later called and begged me to forgive her that she said she was joking with the guy.
I called the guy with her phone and i told him i am senior uncle, he said he knows who i am, then i asked him why he destroy my marriage, he asked me which marriage? That he doesn't know who I am. I shouted on him and ended the call. I called his girlfriend and told her what he was doing to my relationship. My Fiancee has been crying and begging me since then. After that I forgave my fiancee yesterday, and her parents have called to thank me but my heart is still heavy. I don't know what to do anymore.

Fantachapman:
My Fiancee has been attacking me regularly nagging at me each time we are out together and she sees a fine girl look at me. I don't even see the girls she is talking about. She has accused me of doing things that I never even imagine doing.

Now there was a time I sent her a message last year with my business whatsapp (that I rarely use, sometimes I deactivate it to create space on my phone to download new apps). She didn't know about this particular whatsapp because I don't really use it to chat with family and friends. In this message, I acted like a stranger/Chyker to her just to see how she would react so that i can use it and laugh with her but she discarded the person not knowing it was me.

Fast forward to last month she came to my house to spend time with me (we are in long distance relationship), I usually recharge dstv with that whatsapp, so she saw the whatsapp and she searched her phone and found out the fake chyker message I sent her last year had the same pic as the one I was using for dstv recharge. I told her I normally deactivate the whatsapp cos I don't use it often. I dont use it much anymore because the original phone number I was using with that whatsapp is no longer in use (blocked due to no usage). I told her the truth about the chyking incident. No one I know personally has the number except I want to ask questions online anonymously or when I was looking for a house, i used it to talk to agents. She accepted.

My main phone spoilt recently and i used the whatsapp to contact a repairer i met on nairaland. So we have been chatting about how to get it to him for repairs.

Now, two days ago, when I woke up in the morning, she asked me why I'm still using the whatsapp. I told her it was cos I was trying to contact a repairer. I opened the whatsapp and showed her, she saw the dstv recharge too, and the other messages that I sent to house agents were still there. So she insisted I scroll down so she could see what I have been doing on whatsapp. At this point I was upset. I told her her suspicions are getting too much, so I stretched my hand with the phone and asked her to give me her own whatsapp (Which she passwords) for me to see her messages, and then she can have and see mine. She then said she doesn't want to see mine anymore. She then left the room and when next I saw her in the parlour, she was deleting chats on her whatsapp. So I demanded to see her phone ( I bought it for her).

When I read her messages I was broken in half. There was a guy she earlier told me was a fool and an idiot, that the guy doesnt know how to talk to women and always wants to chat cos he has no one to talk to. She told me if that guy dares talk rubbish to her he will get slap. That he's not a spec to any girl at all. Now of all the people I see on her Facebook I'm always laughing when I see this particular guy's comments cos I tell her even if other guys are a threat, this is the last person I can ever fear can take you from me.

Can you believe that I read her chat with this particular guy and I was blown to shreds? She has been sex chatting the guy since when me and her first met 2 years ago and she is always the one bringing the sex chat up. She even tells him about me and they both laugh at me behind my back calling me Senior Uncle (as in old man). The house I rented for her and her family to stay, she invited the guy to bring condom and hammer when he is coming to help them arrange the house in the chat. She asked the guy to buy her condom and pant for Christmas, that year was the period I paid for the house. I bought her the phone she used to be chatting with this guy. Each time they are chatting and I come online, she will tell the guy that senior uncle is disturbing her again, that I am annoying and im talking talking not letting her sleep. I was planning to register her in school and that very night in January 2020, she told the guy that I'm disturbing her with school registration. She told him my village and where I live. Anything or plan I have for her, she will consult this guy to ask him what he thinks before she accepts what I tell her. Even when she travelled for a wedding, she returned very late to her parents house due to bus breaking down and as she was telling me their journey she was also giving this guy a blow by blow account of the journey, like for example: "we have entered Imo now, but we have not reached Ph, I am in Ph now, I am home now" and the guy responds "oh thank God".

I broke down in tears and smashed the phone. I still took her and the phone to the repairer of my other phone and they changed the screen, I paid. While I was reading the rest of the messages I was seeing, talk of breast and yansh and other terrible sex chats. She took the phone from me, I threatened to call her dad and she begged me not to. Next thing she deleted the messages. Her dad already saw my missed call the next morning (yesterday). He called her and she told him we had a problem. He called me and I told him everything that happened. He called her again and she said it was all a joke that she didn't mean all those chats with the guy. Her dad called me begged me to forgive her. He was crying. Her mum later called and begged me to forgive her that she said she was joking with the guy.
I called the guy with her phone and i told him i am senior uncle, he said he knows who i am, then i asked him why he destroy my marriage, he asked me which marriage? That he doesn't know who I am. I shouted on him and ended the call. I called his girlfriend and told her what he was doing to my relationship. My Fiancee has been crying and begging me since then. After that I forgave my fiancee yesterday, and her parents have called to thank me but my heart is still heavy. I don't know what to do anymore.

Note: She told me she never slept with him that it's just chat jokes.

constance500:
Someone should kill this poster already

Emmadoc:
In fela's voice: basket mouth don start to leak again o.

Oga break her heart too and make it even.

Don't chase her away now, forgive her and start torturing her emotions.

Keep her in your house and bring other babes in.

Fantachapman:
My Fiancee has been attacking me regularly nagging at me each time we are out together and she sees a fine girl look at me. I don't even see the girls she is talking about. She has accused me of doing things that I never even imagine doing.

Now there was a time I sent her a message last year with my business whatsapp (that I rarely use, sometimes I deactivate it to create space on my phone to download new apps). She didn't know about this particular whatsapp because I don't really use it to chat with family and friends. In this message, I acted like a stranger/Chyker to her just to see how she would react so that i can use it and laugh with her but she discarded the person not knowing it was me.

Fast forward to last month she came to my house to spend time with me (we are in long distance relationship), I usually recharge dstv with that whatsapp, so she saw the whatsapp and she searched her phone and found out the fake chyker message I sent her last year had the same pic as the one I was using for dstv recharge. I told her I normally deactivate the whatsapp cos I don't use it often. I dont use it much anymore because the original phone number I was using with that whatsapp is no longer in use (blocked due to no usage). I told her the truth about the chyking incident. No one I know personally has the number except I want to ask questions online anonymously or when I was looking for a house, i used it to talk to agents. She accepted.

My main phone spoilt recently and i used the whatsapp to contact a repairer i met on nairaland. So we have been chatting about how to get it to him for repairs.

Now, two days ago, when I woke up in the morning, she asked me why I'm still using the whatsapp. I told her it was cos I was trying to contact a repairer. I opened the whatsapp and showed her, she saw the dstv recharge too, and the other messages that I sent to house agents were still there. So she insisted I scroll down so she could see what I have been doing on whatsapp. At this point I was upset. I told her her suspicions are getting too much, so I stretched my hand with the phone and asked her to give me her own whatsapp (Which she passwords) for me to see her messages, and then she can have and see mine. She then said she doesn't want to see mine anymore. She then left the room and when next I saw her in the parlour, she was deleting chats on her whatsapp. So I demanded to see her phone ( I bought it for her).

When I read her messages I was broken in half. There was a guy she earlier told me was a fool and an idiot, that the guy doesnt know how to talk to women and always wants to chat cos he has no one to talk to. She told me if that guy dares talk rubbish to her he will get slap. That he's not a spec to any girl at all. Now of all the people I see on her Facebook I'm always laughing when I see this particular guy's comments cos I tell her even if other guys are a threat, this is the last person I can ever fear can take you from me.

Can you believe that I read her chat with this particular guy and I was blown to shreds? She has been sex chatting the guy since when me and her first met 2 years ago and she is always the one bringing the sex chat up. She even tells him about me and they both laugh at me behind my back calling me Senior Uncle (as in old man). The house I rented for her and her family to stay, she invited the guy to bring condom and hammer when he is coming to help them arrange the house in the chat. She asked the guy to buy her condom and pant for Christmas, that year was the period I paid for the house. I bought her the phone she used to be chatting with this guy. Each time they are chatting and I come online, she will tell the guy that senior uncle is disturbing her again, that I am annoying and im talking talking not letting her sleep. I was planning to register her in school and that very night in January 2020, she told the guy that I'm disturbing her with school registration. She told him my village and where I live. Anything or plan I have for her, she will consult this guy to ask him what he thinks before she accepts what I tell her. Even when she travelled for a wedding, she returned very late to her parents house due to bus breaking down and as she was telling me their journey she was also giving this guy a blow by blow account of the journey, like for example: "we have entered Imo now, but we have not reached Ph, I am in Ph now, I am home now" and the guy responds "oh thank God". There was a chat where she was angry that the guy came to her house and didn't eat her food. This guy asks her if she is alone at home before he can come visit. She stopped working (cos they were paying her peanuts so i put her on monthly allowance) so she was always home.

I broke down in tears and smashed the phone. I still took her and the phone to the repairer of my other phone and they changed the screen, I paid. While I was reading the rest of the messages I was seeing, talk of breast and yansh and other terrible sex chats. She took the phone from me, I threatened to call her dad and she begged me not to. Next thing she deleted the messages. Her dad already saw my missed call the next morning (yesterday). He called her and she told him we had a problem. He called me and I told him everything that happened. He called her again and she said it was all a joke that she didn't mean all those chats with the guy. Her dad called me begged me to forgive her. He was crying. Her mum later called and begged me to forgive her that she said she was joking with the guy.
I called the guy with her phone and i told him i am senior uncle, he said he knows who i am, then i asked him why he destroy my marriage, he asked me which marriage? That he doesn't know who I am. I shouted on him and ended the call. I called his girlfriend and told her what he was doing to my relationship. My Fiancee has been crying and begging me since then. After that I forgave my fiancee yesterday, and her parents have called to thank me but my heart is still heavy. I don't know what to do anymore.

Note: She told me she never slept with him that it's just chat jokes.

DaddyRochie1642:
From the way you're sounding, if you should carry it into marriage, your marriage will not last.

That so called Fiancee of yours has no Respect for you and it's a pity.

I want you to memorize this wise quote from me and never forget it.

"Respect is what makes a Relationship to last long, Love is just secondary".... If there's no Respect in that relationship, that yeye love will not last.

And from your write up, you talked of how you bought her phone, paid house rent bla bla bla, you guys always get this wrong 99% of the time, don't use money to get a woman to be in a relationship with you, una no go listen... Even if you buy Heaven and Earth for a woman, you can never buy a woman's Love.

And it's very very obvious that you don't have Clear Boundaries in that your relationship.

Oga you got it all wrong from the beginning.

I also read in your story where you said that her father called and he was crying for what his daughter did and According to you, you said you paid for her family's accommodation,... Just tell me why that girl's father won't call you and start crying on the daughter's behalf,... just tell me how many people in this Nigeria can boast of someone that decided to take the responsibility to be paying for another person's accommodation knowing fully well how Horrible Nigeria Economy is and how Expensive things are at the moment.

Oga don't be surprised that girl and her family see you as a MEAL TICKET, this is the reality and I sincerely do not care if you're pained by this my quality Analysis

Look at the way your so called Fiancee is even referring to you as "Senior Uncle", no respect whatsoever.

In Brazil we call people like you
"MUGUdinho Dos Santos"

because people like you clearly sees the handwriting on the wall and still decide to put head out of stubbornness or one yeye ego.

Cut your Losses and move on with your life.

You're seeing the Red Flags now and you're Forming gentleman,

Just pray you don't end up Weeping and gnashing your teeth accompanied with Bitter Lamentations when you marry that girl.

AlhajiBitcoin:
Reading this thing was punishment.

It's so interesting, you can't stop halfway.