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kenzysmith:
is mother told him not to tell his dad because if he do is father will want to help him again and d 2k per week won't be giving to him again

So, the father wants the son's help but the son does not want to help the father, and decides to be dishonest instead? Interesting!

Silly son, is what I think, and very similar to a [url=https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2015%3A11-32&version=NIV]Prodigal Son[/url] that many of us have read about. Or is the ₦15k plus ₦4k his father gives him not the same as "filling his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating"?

When the son comes to his senses, he too will likely "set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’"

Please make sure you update us then.

kenzysmith:
He is father caborn copy in appearance

maybe he wants to teach him about life

budaatum:
What race is this son running that his father should have run for him? How much rent is this s son paying for the free accomodation his father is providing plus the 2k he gives him on top?

God, this generation has really degenerated! In my time, your first salary is given to your parents in appreciation of them getting you so far. This son earns ₦15k and swindles the father an extra 2k and the father doesn't even know his son has a job! What a very dishonest son! When the father finds out his son lied, I hope he extends his apprenticeship!

In your time u Said!! A whole lot of things has
and had changed. How about I said our parents had it easier than what it is now! So allowing ur very first born 2 suffer is what makes a child turn out okay? What happened 2 close mentoring and nurturing?
And about the 2k u kept hammering on,does that look tangible in anyway 2u? He works! And how much is he being paid?
I bet you! You won't subject ur son/children 2 such. Some of our parents may not survive what this generation has survived, based on the current situation of the country.
Make that manchi ask questions about his biological parents jare! And I stand on my earlier statement, NOT ALL RACE ARE MEANT TO BE RUN! UNLESS OUR PARENTS DIDN'T RUN THEIRS WELL.

budaatum:
So, the father wants the son's help but the son does not want to help the father, and decides to be dishonest instead? Interesting!

Silly son, is what I think, and very similar to a [url=https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2015%3A11-32&version=NIV]Prodigal Son[/url] that many of us have read about. Or is the ₦15k plus ₦4k his father gives him not the same as "filling his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating"?

When the son comes to his senses, he too will likely "set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’"

Please make sure you update us then.

With all honesty! You will be a very wicked fellow! To suffer na sweet thing?

GoldenJAT:
In your time u Said!! A whole lot of things has
and had changed. How about I said our parents had it easier than what it is now! So allowing ur very first born 2 suffer is what makes a child turn out okay? What happened 2 close mentoring and nurturing?
And about the 2k u kept hammering on,does that look tangible in anyway 2u? He works! And how much is he being paid?
I bet you! You won't subject ur son/children 2 such. Some of our parents may not survive what this generation has survived, based on the current situation of the country.
Make that manchi ask questions about his biological parents jare! And I stand on my earlier statement, NOT ALL RACE ARE MEANT TO BE RUN! UNLESS OUR PARENTS DIDN'T RUN THEIRS WELL.

My parents had it much harder than I did! My mother worked to fund the education of her older brothers. My father paid for his own education because his father would rather have him working in his farm to feed his 13 wives and numerous children! I myself began earning at age 6, first selling oranges, and later cocacola and eggs at Lagos-Ibadan tollgate. I even had to carry blocks to build my mother's first house, but none of that gives me a sense of entitlement to my parent's property, nor do I believe anyone is born to suffer since my life and my future is in my own hands to make of it what I wish, and have!

My mother will tell you that Agboju logun fi ara re fun osi ta. Whoever hopes on inheritance exposes himself to poverty. It has inspired me to stand on my own two feet instead of feeling entitled to that which I never worked for, and I must say, I am much better off for it. And I am my parent's first born!

budaatum:
So, in your own opinion, your parents are obligated to hand over the fruits of their labour to you before they die, on top of all the feeding and education and a roof over your head and the welfare they gave you from the day you were born?

I guess your sense of entitlement is what you call "think straight". Some who "think straight" like you do kill their parents too.

So where should the Fortune go to?

GoldenJAT:
With all honesty! You will be a very wicked fellow! To suffer na sweet thing?

If you don't want to suffer don't you think you ought to get off your ass and work for your daily bread instead of feeling entitled to reap where you have not sown?

GoldenJAT:
So where should the Fortune go to?

Who's fortune? Why don't we let this person's father die first before you start sqandering his fortune?

AutoChick4U:
maybe he wants to teach him about life

teach him abt life as in how by not teaching is heir how to run is 2 hotels? By saying he should just sit at home n be collecting 2k per week y he paid other people son 30k per month worst still his 2 sisters who are married are working in d hotels syphoning money to their husbands and children y is ist son look rejected . is better to ve a poor father than ve a rich one without use

budaatum:
My parents had it much harder than I did! My mother worked to fund the education of her older brothers. My father paid for his own education because his father would rather have him working in his farm to feed his 13 wives and numerous children! I myself began earning at age 6, first selling oranges, and later cocacola and eggs at Lagos-Ibadan tollgate. I even had to carry blocks to build my mother's first house, but none of that gives me a sense of entitlement to my parent's property, nor do I believe anyone is born to suffer since my life and my future is in my own hands to make of it what I wish, and have!

My mother will yell you that Agboju logun fi ara re fun osi ta. Whoever hopes on inheritance exposes himself to poverty. It has inspired me to stand on my own two feet instead of feeling entitled to that which I never worked for, and I must say, I am much better off for it. And I am my parent's first born!

And your children should and must likely toil day and night as well? In your case,your parents weren't buoyant and so u had 2 toil the way u did. And why was it your own mum that had 2 work hard 2 fund the education of her elder brothers as you Said. Why didn't they toil as men?
You had nothing 2 inherit and as such common sense demands you hustle hard.

kenzysmith:
oga the person said maybe he squandered 3 million and I said d father has not given him shishi

I guess you have your own understanding of "d father has not given him shishi".

Those who are not grateful for the little do not deserve the plenty.

budaatum:
Your story is becoming rather inconsistent. So far you've told us the father fed him all his life, the father housed him all his life, the father paid for his HND, the father gives him ₦2k, the father gives him ₦4k, but you now want to tell us "This guy Father has not given him shishi"!

Are you sure you are not just crying someone else's tears?

kenzysmith:
my friend is about 29yrs old I met him doing sales boy at a boutique I was shock when I saw him there I was like what going on has your Dad disown you? Because he was the ist son of his father , he told me that is father don't want him to work in his hotels or touch any of his cars , he give him 2k per week , as he was narrating his story to me he was shedding tears he still leaves at his father house , so I ask him how much was he earning at d boutique he told me 15k . I was touch and angry in my spirt I told him to go and learn hand work that I will pay is for the apprenticeship.

At 29, your friend who only makes 15k from his boutique Job gets free accommodation from his father, and 2k a week to booth, yet you are asking us if his dad is heartless?

Typical igbo father

budaatum:
Who's fortune? Why don't we let this person's father die first before you start sqandering his fortune?

That wasn't insinuated anywhere in the write up!

budaatum:
So, the father wants the son's help but the son does not want to help the father, and decides to be dishonest instead? Interesting!

Silly son, is what I think, and very similar to a [url=https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2015%3A11-32&version=NIV]Prodigal Son[/url] that many of us have read about. Or is the ₦15k plus ₦4k his father gives him not the same as "filling his stomach with the pods that the pigs were eating"?

When the son comes to his senses, he too will likely "set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.’"

Please make sure you update us then.

sin as how what offence has he committed is only offence is not been smart and man enough to face is wicked father, u re talking like this because u came from a reached background don't compared it upbringing with this young man whose harsh father has dent is confidence to me this guy is responsible to even go n work if na some mad children they for done sell their papa 2 cars carry d money fly out

kenzysmith:
teach him abt life as in how by not teaching is heir how to run is 2 hotels? By saying he should just sit at home n be collecting 2k per week y he paid other people son 30k per month worst still his 2 sisters who are married are working in d hotels syphoning money to their husbands and children y is ist son look rejected . is better to ve a poor father than ve a rich one without use

My dear I don't even understand. He should go beg the father na

GoldenJAT:
And your children should and must likely toil day and night as well? In your case,your parents weren't buoyant and so u had 2 toil the way u did. And why was it your own mum that had 2 work hard 2 fund the education of her elder brothers as you Said. Why didn't they toil as men?
You had nothing 2 inherit and as such common sense demands you hustle hard.

First, since my parents have quite a few properties all over the world, I do have a lot to inherit, though I do not base my future on any of it since I have managed to accumulate quite a lot more with the education my parents have already given to me. Besides, my mother is a very generous woman and has given some of what I might have inherited, including a house I carried blocks to help her build, to those who are less fortunate that I am. We have been brought up to be generous like that, and give to the hardworking.

Siblings toiling for the education of their older siblings was very common in the day of my parents when one child out of many was sent to school. My siblings did not have to toil for my education as I toiled for some of it myself and partly for their's too as their older sibling. And since I did not toil day and night, why, pray tell, should I require my own children to toil at all apart from in their books? Or have you not heard the prayer that one's children not go through what one went through?

This father is choosing to further educate his son how he wishes too, and anyone who does not like it should go and force the father to give the child more or hug a transformer. I doubt the father gives a flying fuq what anyone here thinks.

kenzysmith:
sin as how what offence has he committed is only offence is not been smart and man enough to face is wicked father, u re talking like this because u came from a reached background don't compared it upbringing with this young man whose harsh father has dent is confidence to me this guy is responsible to even go n work if na some mad children they for done sell their papa 2 cars carry d money fly out

That is your uninformed opinion. When you've bothered to ask the father why he treats his son the way he does, come here and update us with informed facts instead of your uninformed opinion.

AutoChick4U:
My dear I don't even understand. He should go beg the father na

beg as how his mum has beg and even quarrelled with d dad but he told her 2 of his sisters her in the hotel already

GoldenJAT:
That wasn't insinuated anywhere in the write up!

Quite a lot has not been insinuated in this thread, but none of that seems to stop you all insinuating the father is wicked!

AutoChick4U:
My dear I don't even understand. He should go beg the father na

Beg the father for what? At 29 years of age?

budaatum:
That is your uninformed opinion. When you've bothered to ask the father why he treats his son the way he does, come here and update us with informed facts instead of your uninformed opinion.

asking d mum is enough , asking the guy is enough , even asking is younger brother is enough is Dad is a wicked man who just want to make his son a laughing stock

kenzysmith:
beg as how his mum has beg and even quarrelled with d dad but he told her 2 of his sisters her in the hotel already

Toh he should remove eye. He can make it without his father and he needs to grow up

kenzysmith:
asking d mum is enough , asking the guy is enough , even asking is younger brother is enough is Dad is a wicked man who just want to make his son a laughing stock

And why? Dare I ask.

Kobojunkie:
Beg the father for what? At 29 years of age?

Thats y I said he needs to grow up. He can make it without him just like whitemoney. He needs to even leave d house

Kobojunkie:
Beg the father for what? At 29 years of age?

my sister the thin weak me

Kobojunkie:
Beg the father for what? At 29 years of age?

I wonder! Is 29 years of age not old enough for him to go stand on his own two feet already?

AutoChick4U:
Toh he should remove eye. He can make it without his father and he needs to grow up

yes u right that y I told him to go n learn work that I will paid for the apprenticeship

budaatum:
First, since my parents have quite a few properties all over the world, I do have a lot to inherit, though I do not base my future on any of it since I have managed to accumulate quite a lot more with the education my parents have already given to me. Besides, my mother is a very generous woman and has given some of what I might have inherited, including a house I carried blocks to help her build, to those who are less fortunate that I am. We have been brought up to be generous like that, and give to the hardworking.

Siblings toiling for the education of their older siblings was very common in the day of my parents when one child out of many was sent to school. My siblings did not have to toil for my education as I toiled for some of it myself and partly for their's too as their older sibling. And since I did not toil day and night, why, pray tell, should I require my own children to toil at all apart from in their books? Or have you not heard the prayer that one's children not go through what one went through?

This father is choosing to further educate his son how he wishes too, and anyone who does not like it should go and force the father to give the child more or hug a transformer. I doubt the father gives a flying fuq what anyone here thinks.

All may not turn out the way yours turned out. In some cases such as what is playing out now. The end game may not be for the benefit of the Young Man, but rather it is 2 frustrate him.
We all need a platform/leverage. I do not see it that way in this case.
Why it is good to checkmate situations, one should also thread carefully and apply wisdom for a balance.
Some individuals need more help/push that. Others.
I get your points, you ain't wrong, though our views differs on this.
No insult was meant from the beginning and even now! Good day brother man.

budaatum:
First, since my parents have quite a few properties all over the world, I do have a lot to inherit, though I do not base my future on any of it since I have managed to accumulate quite a lot more with the education my parents have already given to me. Besides, my mother is a very generous woman and has given some of what I might have inherited, including a house I carried blocks to help her build, to those who are less fortunate that I am. We have been brought up to be generous like that, and give to the hardworking.

Siblings toiling for the education of their older siblings was very common in the day of my parents when one child out of many was sent to school. My siblings did not have to toil for my education as I toiled for some of it myself and partly for their's too as their older sibling. And since I did not toil day and night, why, pray tell, should I require my own children to toil at all apart from in their books? Or have you not heard the prayer that one's children not go through what one went through?

This father is choosing to further educate his son how he wishes too, and anyone who does not like it should go and force the father to give the child more or hug a transformer. I doubt the father gives a flying fuq what anyone here thinks.

I smell lies here

Here's one to show you how hard life can become if you have not learnt to stand on your own two feet.

The entitlers here can preach the gospel of entitlement. I can't because I'm currently banned in Family.

Satanisreal: Being the first son out of six kids is challenging as there's a lot of expectations and it's draining me.
My parents really made things soft for us while growing up not until my dad feel sick and everything turned bad. I quickly realized things and kicked up hustling when I moved in with my uncle. This uncle of mine pays my fees and I work for him, but he's a very difficult person and no one stays with him for a long time even his wife couldn't. Having noticed that, I try as much as possible to please him but he keeps maltreating me so I deviced means to earn cos being wholely dependent on him will aggravate things for me. His wife is a very good person I look unto whenever I need certain things, this man changed totally during the lockdown and kept on accusing me of stealing his stuffs (Not money) even to the extent of taking me to the police, all these things began after some of his workers moved into his house where we reside, sometimes he'll tell his wife not to give me food for no plain reason. I overlooked these things but it was killing me inside, it really affected me because I'm a very calm person who likes to mind his biz and for sometime I was depressed and totally disappointed that my uncle would be doing this to me. I remember how he'll be telling me my father trained all of them (5) except him being the last born in school and therefore he owes no one nothing.
Last year I was able to get something doing while I work for him and it gave me some money that I was using to support my family and complete all my fees upon resumption. I later got some more cash and foolishly went to him to seek advice on what I can start up with it, couldn't detect the fact that he wasn't happy with that. To cut it short, the business crashed while I was at school and he promised to repay me.
Now I'm back to square one and currently on 6 months IT leave from school, when I came back to his house, things did not change instead it got worse so I quickly had to find something doing so I could leave. I used to model and do graphics designs and was also learning web development combined with Cloud computing but this man took my system and promised to fix it along with his when it spoilt but I've not seen it till date. A friend of mine whom I helped last year remembered me and asked me to come over to his place and I've been there now for a month trying to sort out things for my self but it's not working out and I don't seem to like this condition I find myself in.
I'll be 19 by December and also a graduate next year, I don't have anything to show for it, even my next school fee I don't know where it'll come from, my mother on her own wants us to go back to her country and I've been begging her to reconsider it. All my mates willing to help me big at the moment indulge in fraud and I can't bear the thought of going illegal. I did not offend anybody, I'm not a bad person, just trying to better my life and these things ain't working out it's frustrating.
I really need your advice cos for the past few weeks I can't get myself just been thinking about my next move and my future in general cos it seems I've been disappointed by my Uncle whom I believed in so much to help me.

https://www.nairaland.com/6786048/need-lifes-getting-messed-up

kenzysmith:
I smell lies here

You must be smelling yourself thinking everyone is like you.