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Re: Confused Wife by olabrinks(f): 9:57pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
You have no problem, you are creating issues for yourself. When some husbands are creating families outside, beating their wives blue and black.. your own problem is that you want to enter village, to do what exactly? 4 Likes |
Re: Confused Wife by olabrinks(f): 10:06pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
fearlessmum:you can video chat with them and send them money, I know it’s not the same but you are still breastfeeding your youngest, your children are still small. Why do you even want to be carrying a breastfeeding child up and down? Your husband is only trying to protect you and release you from unnecessary stress. It is not an emergency, your parents are not ill and you have responsibilities to attend to. In this case you have to put your children first. Stop creating drama when it’s not necessary. Stop allowing your emotions to take over you, you will regret it. Also do not compare yourself to your husband, as you are the nurturer for your kids. You are the one breastfeeding not him. If you go to the village your children must follow you. When the children get older and independent, you will have more independence to do what you like. You can keep the kids with your husband and go to the village for a few days. Be patient. Sacrifice of a mother. 2 Likes |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 10:10pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
Acidosis:I'm glad you aren't my husband, wicked village people? Don't we also have wicked town people. Even the town that you're living is someone's village. How did we even get to this point of attributing wicked deeds to the village people? smh 1 Like |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 10:20pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
olabrinks:Thank you very much for your advice, I really love my kids and will not intentionally do something that will harm them. I guess I have to be patient then. 1 Like |
Re: Confused Wife by Acidosis(m): 10:45pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
fearlessmum: Haba |
Re: Confused Wife by frozen70(f): 10:53pm On Oct 10, 2021 |
fearlessmum: What's so special about you frequenting the village, were you born and breath in the village Is your entire life and happiness revolves around the village settings or themes I think your husband is trying to protect you from evil eyes in the village but you want to risk yourself and your children Anyway, if the cost will get on you, talk to him and if the entire cost will be on him, don't travel, stay and hide your family Anyone that wants to see you, should come over to where you are 1 Like |
Re: Confused Wife by Regex: 3:23am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: What are you saying? |
Re: Confused Wife by aperture11: 6:31am On Oct 11, 2021 |
From what I understand, you grew up in the village so you are attached, it isn't necessarily about your parents, he doesn't like this but he can't stop you. You can still take care of your parents and video call them anytime. What if you are in Canada, would you be thinking of going to the village every year? Nothing stops your parents from visiting too. Your attachment is with the village, if you are willing to tell yourself the truth. He has said you can go but don't go with the kids, sure you can wait for 4 more months when your kid would be able to eat anything and you can go to the village for a few days. This is not so complicated. 1 Like |
Re: Confused Wife by Vision101(m): 6:50am On Oct 11, 2021 |
Village ke, what is village? The man is just being protective of you and your children. There are some arrows that can be thrown at a matured body but can't enter but can easily enter the bodies of young ones. He had said that you can go alone which means that he's not denying you contact with your parents and village people. If you miss any of your siblings so much invite them over. |
Re: Confused Wife by Ginaz(f): 7:21am On Oct 11, 2021 |
This woman , you’re married abeg! What is wrong with you for God’s sake ? You want to destroy your home cos of village? It’s like you don’t have sense at all. The way you’re even going about the issue with your husband, lol, you’re obviously looking for the big fight that would finally break your marriage. If your marriage ends cos of your village wahala, pls don’t complain at all. You’re even saying “you don’t want to do something you would regret” Aunty abeg do the something make we see! A wise woman builds her household , but this one wants to destroy hers cos of village. You’re not a serious person, get out. 4 Likes |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 8:36am On Oct 11, 2021 |
I believe when you were getting married, there was a part where the priest/pastor said "do you agree to forsaking all and being with the one you are joined to, now and forever, till death do you part" and I know you said, "I do"...unless you didn't do a church wedding This does not mean you should abandon your parents o, it just means that your husband and children comes before all else... It's not wrong to visit your people, but the frequency at which you do so is what he objects to... You said it yourself, he's a good husband and father, are you willing to trade this just to visit your village people?? From your write up,he doesn't object to you seeing your parents, so what other village function should make you so worked up that it's causing trouble in your home?? See eh ... Men are wired differently, forget that thing he's saying about village people killing his children, that may not be entirely true....he's probably thinking of the expenses your trip will cost, transportation, small things for your parents and other relatives and all those cost money!! Money that can be used to take care of his children... Madam, focus on your home... This is not a matter of what's right or wrong, it's a matter of keeping the peace in your home... Be wise!!; |
Re: Confused Wife by Sanchez01: 9:14am On Oct 11, 2021 |
fearlessmum:Sorry o, but there are ways to smell terrible people from a distance even without meeting them. You got 'motivated' about NPT'J's thread—someone whose sister unceremoniously went away with a man and you think the man you are married to does not allow you to visit your village puts both situations in almost the same box? I want to believe you are rightfully married to your husband and everything in your life readjusts, priority-wise the moment you two married and the same goes for him. How can a married woman be screaming "my village" in this day and time to the point that she fights her husband over it?? And then you quarrel with him over it and he entertains your periodic quarrels?? At this point, it is best that the man returns you to your family, demands his bride price so that you can walk around the village and market square as you please. This is what happens when some homes are chaos-free. One person will just use his/her hand to destory the peace therein just because they are idle and have no worries. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Confused Wife by Orlaoluwayimika(m): 11:26am On Oct 11, 2021 |
@fearlessmum, you are in a very tight sitn. African marriage is a kinda marriage that gives the husband the total right ova the wife. Since u say u also visit his parents u can probably discuss it with his parent during ur next visit. If there are no changes, other way u can revolt peacefully is when he says u people should go to his village, respectfully tell him don't want to go probably come up with an excuse that u re not feeling well. If he chooses to go with the children u can also stylishly cheap it in that u don't want to take ur children to his village cos of village people na both of u get the children but u need apply plenty of wisdom. Reading through the comments in this thread is really getting me scared and worried. I'm a man and I can neva stop my wife from visiting her parents and also stopping them from seeing their grandchildren. O wrong na. Though there would be moderations to it which I also trust her to be reasonable with it My major worry is I ve two younger sisters whom we re very close. I would be sad if their future husbands cut them off from bonding with us and I'm sure my mum would be sadder than I am |
Re: Confused Wife by Kobojunkie: 12:00pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Regex:What did you read? |
Re: Confused Wife by zed7: 12:44pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Thank God I didn't marry someone like this. I would just alow her relocate to the village and let me be with my kids. When people are running from the village, this one wants to go and attend parties. Apart from occasional visits to your family, you have no business in the village anymore. |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:02pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Vision101:Thanks |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:04pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
frozen70:Thank you I appreciate your advice |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:09pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Favfables:His upbringing is different, his whole life has been in the city. I guess I will follow his suggestion for the sake of peace |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:12pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Sanchez01:Is this all you could come up with? You don't know me so stop assuming what you're not sure of |
Re: Confused Wife by frozen70(f): 1:13pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
fearlessmum: Thanks, God will guide you |
Re: Confused Wife by BlesE: 1:19pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
fearlessmum:and what makes you think if you don't go every year you will not be fine, sometimes we with our own hands raise unnecessary dust and when it results to something else we begin yo cry fowl. |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:20pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Orlaoluwayimika:God bless you, you really understand my point and my concerns. Reading through the comments you'll realize that this generation has a lot to learn from the older generation. Thank you 1 Like |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:24pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
[quote author=zed7 post=106641509]Thank God I didn't marry someone like this. I would just alow her relocate to the village and let me be with my kids. When people are running from the village, this one wants to go and attend parties. Apart from occasional visits to your family, you have no business in the Thank goodness , I know your type, do you have love ones in the village? I guess no, if not you wouldn't have come up with this |
Re: Confused Wife by Nobody: 1:25pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
frozen70:Amen |
Re: Confused Wife by cococandy(f): 2:40pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
SanctifiedSista: She’s not a child or a robot Y’all need to stop giving xtupid advice to women. 2 Likes |
Re: Confused Wife by Sanchez01: 2:41pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
fearlessmum:Sadly, I understand all there is to know about your person and I am guessing it is either: 1. You don't have a proper career or a proper job. 2. You are a full time house wife (not like it is a bad thing). 3. You are a social animal (which isn't bad) but can't prioritise between which needs to go between the home and social events if the former is on the line. Regardless, you have so much time on your hands to worry so much about village parties. And the fact that you are constantly seeking validation by responding to every response proves you fall between 1 & 2. 1 Like |
Re: Confused Wife by Justbehave(m): 2:52pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Is this supposed to be an issue in marriage? Have you tried telling him to allow them come over or to give you reasons why he doesn't want you to travel at all times? Do you know that traveling this days is very risky due to insecurities everywhere? Chai. Married men Una dey suffer |
Re: Confused Wife by SanctifiedSista(f): 3:15pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
cococandy: marriage is not for every body .if u want to enjoy ur marriage adhere to instructions by submitting...u and I know how many times u may not like something or someone but end up buying with them...God works dat way too.he can change anyone mind |
Re: Confused Wife by Justbehave(m): 3:25pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Orlaoluwayimika:And who told you the husband has refused her from seeing her people? Can't they visit her in town? Must she go to the village before seeing her parents? Oga swerve you are a weak man. Tell your own wife to park her things and go stay with her parents in the village. Thank God the OP's husband is not as weak as you. |
Re: Confused Wife by Justbehave(m): 3:29pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
fearlessmum:No don't follow his suggestion. Break his head with a pistle and go permanently to that your village. Wise women build there homes while the foolish ones scatter theirs. |
Re: Confused Wife by Orlaoluwayimika(m): 3:35pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Justbehave:. Lol weak indeed. Has one off visit now turned into living with them. Mr Strong man sir I hope u will be very fast to advise ur son-in-laws to bar Ur children and grandchildren from visiting Ur House cos it is tantamount to them being weaklings. I honestly do pity ur daughter in laws |
Re: Confused Wife by Justbehave(m): 3:41pm On Oct 11, 2021 |
Orlaoluwayimika:You lack sense. Since her husband doesn't like them to be traveling to the village frequently as she desire,what stops her from inviting her parents over? Did he also ask them not to visit? Doesn't her mum visit for omugwo? Like I said. Thank God he is a man who can take decisions and stand by it not a weak ass sissy like you who discard his decesions by seeing ordinary tears from a woman.Na people like you dey put other people's wife for problems thinking all men are weak like you.And as for my daughter,She has no business coming to my house to see once she is married. Let her face her home because that's where she belongs. I can pay them a visit and I must not sleep over. |
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