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Renegadd:
You can be ,do or have anything you want ,no matter how big it is .Every dream can come true .
First write it out o a piece of paper and also think about the strategy to achieve the goal. Every problem has a solution, you just have to brainstorm the possible solutions and actions to take . most people may not achieve their dream because they're too lazy to write it down on a paper and brainstorm, strategy. how bad do you you want it ?

ideology:
You are speaking Grammar

Is buying house achievement lol?

Abeg live matter and enjoy your life...

If you find good woman and marry congrats ( which is the subject of discourse)

My point is clear I do not support op's conclusion that guys should just pick anyone and marry just because it gets more difficult as they grow other.

As you get older and you can't still find it, get busy with something else. Shikina !!!


This world will come to an end anytime from now...

Jman06:
Bro, infidelity happens all over the world. Besides, there are still many good marriages around.

Btw, are you the Ben she was referring to??

Acidosis:
lol, infidelity is a universal problem. You don't have to be married to experience the pains of infidelity. Merely seeing your crush kiss another man can leave you shattered for days.

pocohantas:
Na me get all this one?
Chai!

blakky97:
you are right. the best one i have met is a chronic introvert. there is nothing i have not done to get her used to me. she is too shy. i have analysed it properly and i don't see that aspect of her changing anytime soon. when i was younger, i flowed with the saying that with money a man can get a wife overnight. but the reality of it is, with money, a man will likely get a bad woman overnight

DonPikko:
check your pm

Toks2008:
Nice question...

In the days of old,our parents don't date or court,they get introduced to each other and that is it...but strangely enough,their marriages usually lasts compared to today where couple date and court for years yet the case of divorce is on the increase. What was the secret?,....due diligence...

The parents of old dig deep to the history of the prospective couple...they find out many things and they will go ahead to introduce the couple to each other only if they are satisfied with their background check.

You can do due diligence on anyone today by checking their social media accounts,ask people who know that person be it friends co-workers,church/mosque members,even exes(sounds stupid I know)...but these are just few ways of doing due diligence if you really want to k ow that person beyond what he or she tells you.

Pussickpunk:
Hehehehehe...Bro, I'm with you on this...Imagine, every where I turn to they are always talking about relationships, marriage and sex. I wonder if anyone in africa talks about technology, aliens and planets. We leave it to the white, while we have sex and populate the earth.

This is why I think that crappy "Wakandan" movie doesn't represent africans at all...E too pass wetin we fit do!

Pussickpunk:
Mr toks be talking about due diligence and how the marriages of old lasted....Complete bullsh*t! Our mother's were forced, coerced and brainwashed to get into marriage, and they remained in the most times abusive, dehumanizing union because of fear and what the society believed...

Toks2008:
Lol! My mum and several other mums of my friends were never forced yet they enjoyed a lasting union...im sorry if that was the case of your folks but due diligence holds the key.

wakandan:
shut up

Toks2008:
In our early 20s we usually have all the time in the world to date and engage in romance with the opposite sex,we care less about their persona,background and intentions...often times we take for granted the very ones who sincerely desire us because at that point,commitment is the least of our worries.

Its also amazing to know that in most cases,we tend to fall in love deeply at that point in our lives when we never planned for it.

But as we grow older and we get into our 30s without any commited affair, we suddenly realize its no longer as easy as it was when we were far younger and we try to be very careful not to make mistakes and by so doing we make things even more difficult and complicated for ourselves....

Unfortunately at this stage,many subliminally develop gamophobia(fear of getting married) because there is no more time for long courtship and you don't want to marry who you don't really know,every person that looks attractive to us is a potential spouse...men see ladies at this stage as desperados. Most guys at this stage get confused and ladies at this stage become impatient and any affair running into a year or more makes them uncomfortable.

The pressure starts building from parents,friends,family members and even the social media dares not know you are single. Then we try to console ourselves with phrases such as.."Marriage is not a do or die thing,marriage is not for everyone" "it's better to remain single than rush into wrong marriage"....

The simple truth is that in most cases from a certain age, the more we advance in years,the more difficult it becomes to get married and the more careful we try to be,the more complicated it gets but only the singles at 30 upwards can understand this.

My advise to anyone in this situation is that once you see someone you feel any form of attraction to,drop your fears,do a quick due diligence on that person and if you are comfortable with your findings just take the risk and dare the consequence because no matter how long you wait and no matter how careful you may be,you can never be too sure of that person until you start living under the same roof as a couple and there is no good or bad choice of spouse but what we have is your choice and what you make out of it.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Toks2008:
In our early 20s we usually have all the time in the world to date and engage in romance with the opposite sex,we care less about their persona,background and intentions...often times we take for granted the very ones who sincerely desire us because at that point,commitment is the least of our worries.

Its also amazing to know that in most cases,we tend to fall in love deeply at that point in our lives when we never planned for it.

But as we grow older and we get into our 30s without any commited affair, we suddenly realize its no longer as easy as it was when we were far younger and we try to be very careful not to make mistakes and by so doing we make things even more difficult and complicated for ourselves....

Unfortunately at this stage,many subliminally develop gamophobia(fear of getting married) because there is no more time for long courtship and you don't want to marry who you don't really know,every person that looks attractive to us is a potential spouse...men see ladies at this stage as desperados. Most guys at this stage get confused and ladies at this stage become impatient and any affair running into a year or more makes them uncomfortable.

The pressure starts building from parents,friends,family members and even the social media dares not know you are single. Then we try to console ourselves with phrases such as.."Marriage is not a do or die thing,marriage is not for everyone" "it's better to remain single than rush into wrong marriage"....

The simple truth is that in most cases from a certain age, the more we advance in years,the more difficult it becomes to get married and the more careful we try to be,the more complicated it gets but only the singles at 30 upwards can understand this.

My advise to anyone in this situation is that once you see someone you feel any form of attraction to,drop your fears,do a quick due diligence on that person and if you are comfortable with your findings just take the risk and dare the consequence because no matter how long you wait and no matter how careful you may be,you can never be too sure of that person until you start living under the same roof as a couple and there is no good or bad choice of spouse but what we have is your choice and what you make out of it.

Don't know if this makes sense.

biacan:
Chief Noooo mba you're not getting any younger look for a nice lady and get married..... me that I'll be clocking 22 this year I'm already starting to get worried
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eghuan1:
Funny you brought this up. I was driving some days ago and some policemen stopped me somewhere and where asking how's madam. I didn't know how to answer the question. So one if them looks at me and says, e be like Oga never marry o. And his colleagues were like, which kind joke be that? Then one said to me, Oga Wetin you de wait for? I replied say I de find better person and he laughed for sometime.
He came to my side and said you no go go village go find one small girl give belle? Oga no look all these Lagos girls o. Na Wetin I do o.
When I left them, I set up a project, just like those pastors that saw thunder and thought God is speaking to them, "project one year". Get a better accommodation, arrange my life and set a trap, anyone who falls into the trap, drag her to mumsy.

Project to be delivered latest July next year.

eghuan1:
Funny you brought this up. I was driving some days ago and some policemen stopped me somewhere and where asking how's madam. I didn't know how to answer the question. So one if them looks at me and says, e be like Oga never marry o. And his colleagues were like, which kind joke be that? Then one said to me, Oga Wetin you de wait for? I replied say I de find better person and he laughed for sometime.
He came to my side and said you no go go village go find one small girl give belle? Oga no look all these Lagos girls o. Na Wetin I do o.
When I left them, I set up a project, just like those pastors that saw thunder and thought God is speaking to them, "project one year". Get a better accommodation, arrange my life and set a trap, anyone who falls into the trap, drag her to mumsy.

Project to be delivered latest July next year.

LagosInter:
How project naa

Youngpo413:
how the project?

eghuan1:
got married two weeks ago. thank you for asking

eghuan1:
thank you for asking o. I be done forget this topic o.

project was finalized on the 2nd of October this year. That is two Saturdays ago. but I comot Lagos to find her o

LagosInter:
You intentionally left lagos cos of that?

Or it was by chance.

Could you elucidate on the journey, we fit learn or or two things abeg

Youngpo413:
Are you married now?