Toks2008:


That is because the guys you refer to love GOD..they try to avoid immorality unlike many guys who claim they don't need marriage but will be getting down with random women...i call that foolishness and outright insanity.

The first instruction giving to man is that we multiply and be fruitful and we need to do that within the confines of marriage.

Any other way is sinful and unacceptable to GOD.

pocohantas:


Na me get all this one?
Chai!

malonephill:
so if I feel I won't be comfortable been with one woman all my life and I still can't stay abstinence, how do I help the situation

STENON:
This marriage topic is a complicated issue. It is not easy for "WE" singles out there. Different men/ladies with their different patterns of cheating, but the joy of it is that, we'l surely be married one day and all the sad stories would add up to a happy, Joyful, and victorious home because it goes beyond been a christian or Prayer warrior, It is just a matter of goodluck

Toks2008:


It's about the mindset...

The first victory comes for a lady the moment she decides that her marital happiness will never be hinged on her husband's faithfulness to her.

Any woman who still has that mindset that her husband must not cheat on her should refrain from marriage until she is ready for the reality that men are polygamous in nature....hard one I k ow but that is just how the cookie crumbles.

STENON:
Hmmmm, I have heard you sir. But What is the essence of marriage without faithfulness?

Celepope:
Being in my 30s, I just realise the importance of marriage.Sometimes I do wake up in the middle of the night with the intent to talk over certain things that are troubling me but no one by my side to talk to.In my years in the US, I have had my fare share of girls.I have dated over 50 girls of different races.Not something to be proud of.Those talking about not wanting to get married i pity them.Perhaps they are just some pathetic E-warriors or they are still in their 20s.It gets to a stage in your life when reality hit you.Within the space of two hours,I just got two text messages from my exs, both telling me "you are getting old" after they saw the pix i used on my dp that I took 5 years ago.Anyways I will still keep my fingers crossed while still searching but I have told myself I will never go back to Nigeria to get married.God in heaven knows my heart desires and will surely grant me. .

MhizzAJ:

I'll walk away
I take out time to study any man before going close

RuthDaniels:
[b]Societal rules are mostly the reasons why people get married these days, Most people in their last thirties are pressured by thoughts of "when will you get married "? "what will people say"? "All my younger ones are married, when will I?". All these thoughts have led people astray.

Left to me, I believe an individual shouldn't be pressured into marriage. Yes you are getting old, people are asking questions but if you think deep, you will realize that these people won't be in the marriage with you. They will also blame you, call you names if you marriage fails, so why listen to them in the first place?

That said, Not everyone we see is a potential spouse, Never base your relationship or marriage on attractions alone! Compatibility and friendship matters a lot. Because there comes a time in marriage mostly after ten years when the test comes. Then only compatibility ,commitment and friendship holds the marriage. Groom your relationship, build your courtship, know yourselves then walk down the aisle. it is better to be late than be late! [/b]

Blonchilli:

if you like use the world's biggest stethoscope, borrow Superman's X-ray vision, make him/her your best friend it won't still guarantee that the marriage will work and you won't be abused in the marriage. I've seen best friends hate themselves and marriages that in the first 20 years the rest was one battle to another. No matter how careful you are it won't guarantee that the marriage will work. You can't just jump in either. You meet someone that not necessarily fit into what you want but has the same goals settle down with him/her. The mistake most ladies make when they're young and cross part with someone like that is they still want a fairytale wedding and big pocket and so they miss that person while guys turn that lady to a sex object. At the end they marry out of desperation and end up regretting

OfficialDad:


The matter tire me. Marriage, sex and nothing else. Nah when we reach 900million people dem go understand ni ?

People don't seems to reason beyond this marriage issue, it seems their existence depends on it.

sisisioge:


Bet you are so popular in that romance section...they can't help loving you even when they mask it. Hmmm, must be fun being you

I hope that handle isn't another sub of the previous bintin ...that dude is crozy about you

CaptJeffry:
Only men in early 30s here will understand you bro.

The time limitations and the confusion that follow can be frustrating.

pocohantas:


LOL, it's all love...tough love
Nah, it's not the previous bintin.

Espada10:


Stop sounding desperate. .I know you are trying to mask it as a joke with sarcasm.

It is one of the reason you came to romance section but along the way you find out that majority of the men here are waec and Jambites.

The few ones that flatter you with asslicking..deep deep down you know there is a red flag somewhere.

The few good ones that have something going for them...(rare though ). But they don't see you like that but as an enigma that changes with the wind. They just talk with you or poke at you. That is it.

You are smart ..you have already figured all this out( and also with the first hand experience you had here) but at the end of the day a woman needs attention( no matter from which direction )

If you are looking for husband or any serious romance..nairaland ( romance section ) is not for you expecially someone of your age and character.

All hope is not lost..yes, it is rare for 30yrd+ old man to marry a 30 yr+ old woman( at least in Nigeria)..it happens but rare but all hope is not lost...you still have many options. ..
1)men above 50yrs ( who may just say fvck it..let do this)
2) single fathers
3)widowers
4)Divorcee
Etc

But you can have you cake( the is the rare circumstances ).

if you are from a very wealthy family..then a nigger will just say let me do it for the money and connection even if it means closing my eyes. Economy dey some how

( I didn't say if you are rich)

Nb
ANYWAY , all this will not stop you from receiving prick..niggers can Bleep anything sha. .and they can smell an oldie a mile away( no matter the packaging and smartness)

As I said before..You know what's up.

You will make a good baby mama or a mistress or on the flip side ..a dangerous cougar who preys on young boys.

pocohantas:


LOL, it's all love...tough love
Nah, it's not the previous bintin.

Ejiod:

I shouldn't talk but it sounds from ur reasoning that u look like jambites... In life there's what I call Social intelligence. Try reading Robert Greene books. Sorry if I was rude to you but.....

dasparrow:


She needs God not man. A Nigerian man will cheat on her sooner or later, infect her with sexually transmitted diseases, turn her into a glorified house maid and raise her blood pressure.

Most married Nigerian women are miserable and look much older than their age while nursing several sexually transmitted diseases given to them by their philandering husbands but they have sadly been mentally conditioned to believe that their lives can only start and end with a man.

That is a lie from the pit of hell rooted in patriarchy and chauvinism. Around the world, you have people living life to the fullest, happily too irrespective of their marital status.

Lastly, a lot of Nigerian women though married end up alone anyways down the line because the husbands die young. The average life expectancy rate in Nigeria is 53 years old maybe even lower no thanks to fulani herdsman killings, incessant car accidents, cultism, boko haram attacks, poor healthcare system and what have you. So these widowed women are left with a useless "Mrs" title, many mouths to feed and stark poverty staring them in the face along with in-laws that will hate them and want nothing more to do with them.

ideology:

You are speaking Grammar

Is buying house achievement lol?

Abeg live matter and enjoy your life...

If you find good woman and marry congrats ( which is the subject of discourse)

My point is clear I do not support op's conclusion that guys should just pick anyone and marry just because it gets more difficult as they grow other.

As you get older and you can't still find it, get busy with something else. Shikina !!!


This world will come to an end anytime from now...

donstan18:
This thread is trying to tell us that the sole top priority of a Nigerian man or woman in his/her thirties is MARRIAGE .


True?

Renegadd:
I've always said I want to get married and have only one child at the age of 35.That will be in 8 years time . for my own life I want my child to be 15 when i'm 50 and 25 when i'm 60. You decide what you want for your life and go for it . No one but you can decide and make your dreams come true.

Jman06:
People all over the world talk about marriage, dating, sex, procreation. It's not only Nigerians that talk about marriage. You have different dating and matchmaking websites all over the world.

Toks2008:



Wettin you do that guy poco?

Acidosis:


Oga relax, at least 8-9 out of world's 10 richest men are married with kids.

You can be married and achieve your dreams, and you can decide to be unmarried and miserable.