michigang:
ah no na, what are you saying? Buhari is a A level holder

Na you talk am o

Funny how some people are telling the poster to go upgrade his education just because of a woman forgetting that so many graduates are queuing up to be employed in the companies owned by men with ordinary ssce.
Op. Forget that girl and her family. You will not be happy in that marriage even if you agreed to acquire more education. They will always remind you that they made you whom you are.
Which degree does our president have?

GraciousGod190:

i understand you sir, when I heard it yesterday I was hurt deep down. I felt low, felt intimidated.
i do love my girlfriend, but how can a 36 year old man goes back to school because he wants to get married to a girl?.

i can make other meaningful sacrifices, but definitely not This.
thanks.

Your head is correct o jare. I imagine how painful it is but your heart will heal.
Be dedicated on what you do and let them see you grow. When you are stable and it is convenient to acquire a degree, do so. Don't sacrifice your daily bread for a degree. Of what use is getting a degree and you end up hawking bulk recharge card.

Your girlfriend sef..

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

They rejected you bcus dey think you are not too strong financially.

How many parents for this country now go reject VICTOR OSIMHEN, say he no dey educated?

Spartachico007:
Upgrade your self bro and it doesn’t have to be cause of the rejection ,what if you’re business grows into a multimillion company and then you will want to run for a public office that requires a higher institution certificate ....what will you .... we aren’t electing any ssce holder into higher places in government anymore

but you elected buhari to be your president

IF I MAY ASK HOUSE WHAT EDUCATION GOT TO DO WITH MARRIAGE? SO U MEAN BSC HOLDER SHOULD MARRIED BSC HOLDER? MASTERS SHOULD ALSO LOOK FOR MASTER HOLDERS? THEN SSCE SHOULD ALSO LOOK FOR SSCE HOLDER INTIMES OF MARRIAGE?......................... LISTEN THE HIGHEST DIVOCEE ALL OVER THE WORLD IS IN THE HOUSE OF GRADUATES...... DO UR INVESTGATION U WILL BE SUPRISER, IN MARRIAGE NOTHING LIKE QUALIFICATION........ SEEE MORE U GET UPGRADE IN ACCADEMIC. MORE U WIL BE CONFUSE IN LIFE COS U WILL NOTBE SATIFIED UNTIL U UNDERSTAND THAT EVERY ONE HAVE TO MANAGED WHAT SO EVER HE OR SHE HAVE CUS WILL HAVE A VERY SHORT TIME TO LIVE....... HOW OLD ARE U NOW? AND HOW OLD DO U THINK U HAVE TO SPEND HERE IN THIS PLANET? EVERY THING IN THIS LIFE IS LIKE CHASING THE WIND. THOSE THAT ARE GRADUATES ARE LOOKING FOR SOME ONE WITHOUT OND TO GET MARRIED.. BUT THEY COULD NOT FOUND NONE.. AND SOME FOUND SSCE HOLDER BUT THEY ARE NOT CONTENTED WITH WHAT THEY ALREADY HAVE........... OK MY MAN GO GO ON WITH UR LIFE AND PLS DONT JUST LOOK FOR BEAUTY COS BEAUTY WILL SURELY FADE UP

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

You sound very egotistical. If you have taken such decision, why then did you post this write up? If you were the parents of this lady, you will take more stringent decisions than them.
Anyway, everything depends on the lady because if she opens her legs, you do your work and it clicks, the parents will be the one to beg you to come and do the needful. Decide with your woman. She is the determinant.

dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.

U are very funny he should upgrade.msc bsc what are there all looking for? money.so he's already self made n independent so what other knowledge are u talking about?u trying to tell me the knowledge that he used to gather what he gave today isn't enurf?abeg who skull help

dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.

It's not about upgrading, he may or choose not to, but not because of this situation.

OP, tell her to go tell her people, you've heard them....

dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.

What knowledge specifically is he seeking

What has going to get a degree got to do with "knowledge" . Even if you become a doctor you will not have knowledge of Engineering or Law?

Your attitude is what is problematic here because you are clearly clueless what "knowledge" is
Knowledge is not about degrees. The most important skill in this life is Interpersonal relationship skills. How to relate and talk to people. Nothing to do with any degree

Look around you and pay attention to those who are considered successful in this life. It has very little to do with degrees

Many many college dropouts are very successful

Bill Gates
Mark Zuckerberg
Steve Jobs
Paul Allen


I do not think the family would have a problem if it was Lionel Messi or Mbappe

This one never ready for marriage oga abeg leave her jor. Her people never dey serious I swear you are doing business what else do they want? And if she love you that should not be an excuse. Me just the fine at least person wen dey do something that is bringing money plus what meself dey do. Is not possible I go marry and my husband life go remain the way it is, financial etc. Understanding that is what matters in any relationship and marriage. This one see husband the find education join am. Hmmm.

dahmie2013:
It is rather unfortunate. But I advise you upgrade yourself at least. It shows your willingness to want to get learned.

muykem:
You can go back to school. I can't allow my daughter to marry illiterate even if he's a billionaire.

Is the op an illiterate?

U don talk finish,makes lots of sense, I wish such brainy people would populate this forum..

Lostchild:
GraciousGod190

I also blame you because at 36 you are suppose to use common sense to know that your girlfriend and her family are using your education as their proxy over their hidden agenda.

There are many factors they are not telling you.

1. You may be from a different tribe

2. You do not have enough finance to their expectation. They wanted someone with a more better career and money than you.

3. She is listening to her family to make choices for her over her future.

4. You should use your head. Marriage is a choice between two adult and has nothing to do with education. It is left for you to move on and be proud of yourself. Don't beg them, show self worth and your girlfriend will see your worth and value.

5. If your girl can't stand for you, she is not worthy to be your wife.

Some nigeria families with their gold digger mindset, they want to eat cook food without cooking the food.

Yes , nah, he will definitely make her drop the certificate just to proff he is the head of family .
Fear Nigeria men, with their mumu ego, of I am the head of family .

Nonsense.








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You sabi them. Hypergamy is for everyone’s sanity. Men with their fragile egos, even the picture of a bigger gbola can make them develop cardiac arrest.

Before you know it, he will tell her to drop her certificate and achievements at the doorstep.

Nonsense and Buhari.[/quote]

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

my current girlfriend will finish service on Thursday, and here I am with ssce result though I'm planning on furthering my education but that will be after I settle down.... Currently am all about making money I can further at any given time..... So if by the time am ready for marriage and her family kick against it, I will move on asap.

Bro no mind dem.she can go to hell.upgrade ko download ni.so people like us dat only av ssce no fit marry again.must every one go skull.even in my next world if dis life get two.i will always choose business over skull.no let dis bother u.d right one will come but as u can see d fault is not from d girl.so if u truely live d girl and she love u.do everything to make it up to her.its u n her that will live and not her and her parents.d brother spilling rubbish fo getting he's a man what has he achieved or how many degree did he have.

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

Please do as your mind says, is better to have a troublesome wife than in-laws. If the family refuse to allow you, please run.....

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCesr1Z-NX0

My brother, I don't know why some people reason as if is only certificates or whatever that puts food on ones table. Don't allow their views to limit your person. After all, most degree holders are still wallowing in the street due to no job, and making ends meet have been a challenge to most people. Times have changed, education does not guarantee financial freedom but rather persona business and men with hand work are the ones who command money this days. If you hope on ur degree for turnaround in ur life, one will approach 40yrs yet nothing to show off apart from degree certificate. I don't want to leave your woman, stick with her and fight for what belongs to you. She is yours already and no body can take her away from you. Moreover, if you are interested in furthering your studies, do it at your own free will and not under duress.

OP, Did they ask what business you are into? Did they ask if you own a car? A house? From my point of view, the parents are against your union, the SSCE thingy is just a coverup. They are looking at you past and presents whils overlooking your future.
But OP y be in a relationship with a girl for 4 good years without her parents knowing about you. From experience OP you caused this oh
MY ADVICE: Move on

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

Bro try and upgrade if you can, part time will fit you because of your business, your next generation deserves better, stop being proud of illiteracy, i guess you are thinking of marrying someone with Ssce too? White man this white man that, you attend Sunday service and also have plans for a white wedding? Age is jst a number oga..
my wife’s family will never give out their daughter’s hand in marriage to an Ssce holder
I always advise pple marry their levels
E get why

coldcandy:
The poster seems too proud and pompous. The family saw that too.
OP, when u upgrade your education you will realize that there's more to life than having money.

Una too dey talk without sense sef

Most courses being offered by Nigerian universities are scam and you know it.

Walk into a random department (with the exception of medicine courses) and you'll probably be able to bribe your way out and graduate with a second class upper.

If the guy is doing well in life already, there is absolutely nothing that a university degree is going to teach him.

All those part time students wey dey bribe lecturers, carry expo inside hall go still dey open mouth talk as if nor be them we dey watch.

The face that you can buy a degree shows how worthless it is entirely. If it had any form of value, you would not be able to.

Arrant nonsense.

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

It's left fir her to fight for you in her family

If she cant do that, leave her for her family

When you eventually have daughters and you are able to train them to university level, you will find it difficult to allow them marry ssce holders.

You obviously don't have exceptional material resources as that's the only reason they can overlook your educational qualifications (which believe it or not are poor for the country right now).

You can also impregnate her as that is another way to make her people lower their standards

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

Use that energy to go and make more positive impacts and money then look for a university to carry out a CSR that will automatically give you a Doctor Causa

Come make we marry abeg. No time to weast

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

mbahdi:
Bro no mind dem.she can go to hell.upgrade ko download ni.so people like us dat only av ssce no fit marry again.must every one go skull.even in my next world if dis life get two.i will always choose business over skull.no let dis bother u.d right one will come but as u can see d fault is not from d girl.so if u truely live d girl and she love u.do everything to make it up to her.its u n her that will live and not her and her parents.d brother spilling rubbish fo getting he's a man what has he achieved or how many degree did he have.

If you had gone to school, you would have understood the importance of skulls for human being.

You will always need a skull to house your brain whether you choose business or academics.

GraciousGod190:

upgrade myself?
so to you am not upgraded enough? because am an Ssce holder.
please bro this discriminations needs to stop.

Upgrade yourself not neccesarily because of her. Her family had already made the decision

Upgrade yourself if you know you are that kind of man that do run after girls who are educated because you thought you had money. The family decision tells you that you don't have the money that worth marrying their daughter (a graduate)

I will admonished you to go for a girl with same or less education as yours for peace

If you still continue in the journey of seeking for educated girls with your present financial status, chances has it that her family won't still accept it

If you bent on marrying an educated girl, then i beseech you to forget about girls for now and work more on your finances. You need to convince them beyond unreasonable doubt that you'd take good care of their educated daughter

Your finances isn't that boyance that's the reason why you aren't accepted by the girl family not neccesarily because you ain't educated

biddostandard:
why people no wan gree get sense someone is doing well more Dan some graduates just because he wan marry you dey tell him to upgrade,for wetin? No be him go pay her bride price? Abi education nah key to happy marriage abi confuse family

The number of stupidity in this thread alone is baffling.

The guy is already doing well. What value is a useless degree going to add to his life. Those worthless degrees that someone can buy with money is what they think will add value to someone's life

Op, if your girlfriend can't stand her ground, abeg move on.

I'm a graduate and married an SSCE holder, my dad objected at 1st but I asked him if me that is a graduate has a job

Spartachico007:
Upgrade your self bro and it doesn’t have to be cause of the rejection ,what if you’re business grows into a multimillion company and then you will want to run for a public office that requires a higher institution certificate ....what will you .... we aren’t electing any ssce holder into higher places in government anymore

Which public office requires higher institution certificate in Nigeria or any other country you know of?

NigeriaIsGreat:
Upgrade yourself not neccesarily because of her. Her family had already made the decision

Upgrade yourself if you know you are that kind of man that do run after girls who are educated because you thought you had money. The family decision tells you that you don't have the money that worth marrying their daughter (a graduate)

I will admonished you to go for a girl with same or less education as yours for peace

If you still continue in the journey of seeking for educated girls with your present financial status, chances has it that her family won't still accept it

If you bent on marrying an educated girl, then i beseech you to forget about girls for now and work more on your finances. You need to convince them beyond unreasonable doubt that you'd take good care of their educated daughter

Your finances isn't that boyance that's the reason why you aren't accepted by the girl family not neccesarily because you ain't educated

Sir did you attend university ? It does not show from your writing