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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by seyz91(m): 12:48pm On Oct 19
no mind them

who upgrade epp? undecided

with millions jobless phd and masters holders in the society ..but you are self employed and doing well
.bro you are okay

just free the family and find another girl simple as that
GraciousGod190:

upgrade myself?
so to you am not upgraded enough? because am an Ssce holder.
please bro this discriminations needs to stop.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by cassyrooy(m): 12:48pm On Oct 19
pocohantas:


OP doesn’t need to further his education. The ones that furthered, how far?

OP should simply look for his fellow SSCE holder. There are many of them out there. Some of them have shade where they sell cortex and petals hair relaxer. He wants to marry graduate ba? So that when he enters bank and the customer service officer is rude, he would tell her he has her type at home.

He shouldn’t give me that, “I just love her for her”. No human loves you for just existing, maybe your parents. But even those ones, as you begin to grow, they want you to take first in class, they want you to get a good job, they want you to buy them cars like your mates are doing. There are qualities OP loves in her. OP himself is not so altruistic.
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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 12:49pm On Oct 19
KillingIsFun:
Well, the emphasis is on written English, not spoken English.

When I was a student in the University of Ibadan, I had a lecturer who spoke English with a thick Ibadan accent and we used to make fun of him. Today he's a PhD doctoral candidate in Tufts University in the United States and his articles have been published in international journals.

Your ability to express yourself fluently and competently matters.




Oga, both! My essays in secondary school were one of the best that year. Now, I don forget sef wetin be essay. These articles are mostly cross checked and edited by so many persons before publishing.. My professor own no be accent. He will spell "receive" as "recieve". There's this word called "etiquette", he pronounces this word as it is "e-ti-kwi-tey" grin. He and other professors make spelling blunders that even primary school students would spell effortlessly. University does not improve your spoken English. Buhari no go school, but I tell you, he speaks better than most northerner professors. And him be confirmed illiterate o cheesy

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by coolh3ad(m): 12:49pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

Gbammmm!!!!
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ChiefSweetus: 12:50pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.
They should fokof.
As if we dont see BSc holders on 40k/month and illiterates on 400k/month.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by BabylonCruise(m): 12:50pm On Oct 19
If you love her, Get her Pregnant now.....Relax and watch the Drama.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by lezz(m): 12:50pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
it's really not about the money but your world view and outlook.

In this modern times, I'll doubt if an SSCE holder, given how weak our national educational system is, should be allowed to marry one's daughter.

Oga why you no forward your education?

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Spartachico007(m): 12:50pm On Oct 19
Upgrade your self bro and it doesn’t have to be cause of the rejection ,what if you’re business grows into a multimillion company and then you will want to run for a public office that requires a higher institution certificate ....what will you .... we aren’t electing any ssce holder into higher places in government anymore
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by LIGHTLOVERSGRAM(f): 12:51pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
Uncle go for ur level � abeg.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Abbeyworld: 12:51pm On Oct 19
muykem:
You can go back to school. I can't allow my daughter to marry illiterate even if he's a billionaire.
so, an SSCE holder is an illiterate?. Please, can you help us defined what an illiterate is?.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by seyz91(m): 12:52pm On Oct 19
confirm!
Samcent:

Upgrading his educational level is good, but he should not upgrade just because he wants to please the in-laws to be.
What if after upgrading, they come up with other criteria; maybe he must be a car and a house owner.

The girl's parents are more concerned with their ego than the happiness of their daughter.

Op, if you so love your babe you can make that sacrifice for her. However, just pray that this will be the last of demands from her parents even after the wedding.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 12:52pm On Oct 19
coldcandy:


Lol..
Then he is an incurable egoist



Nah! That's how life is. A degree boosts your self pride
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by seyz91(m): 12:52pm On Oct 19
Gham!
GraciousGod190:

i understand you sir, when I heard it yesterday I was hurt deep down. I felt low, felt intimidated.
i do love my girlfriend, but how can a 36 year old man goes back to school because he wants to get married to a girl?.

i can make other meaningful sacrifices, but definitely not This.
thanks.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Greenleaf247: 12:53pm On Oct 19
Hmmm, Your own self even better my wife to be is BSc holder and here I m without even ssce. I stop my education when I was in jss2. I manage do junior weac without collecting my results. And here I m earning 6 figure from my business every month. Doing well more know BSc holder I know including her.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Styx01: 12:53pm On Oct 19
Being stiff- necked is exactly what the family of your girl friend are trying to avoid. It is common knowledge that having some level of education confers someone some level of exposure other than just being able to afford your daily bread.
Why not sit your girl friend Down and ask her some critical questions like:
A) at what point will they or atleast you gf see you as having shown genuine interest in developing yourself further in education? Is it when you have just started a program or at point graduation? Waiting till graduation will obviously not be what you want as this will take additional 4-5years from now. If entry level qualifies you then I advise you take a step. Remember that altimately, you are the one that will benefit most.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by olaayodele(m): 12:53pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.


It is just an excuse. Educational background has nothing to do with having family. Dangote started with school certificate as a multimillionaire. He once employed PhD holders as truck drivers.
My brother, they are not serious. If you are fully established, you can even employ graduate.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ChiefSweetus: 12:53pm On Oct 19
PrimadonnaO:
They may never respect you.

Just move on.

Especially since your babe couldn't even defend you.

She's been dating you all these while and she knew your educational background.

If I were your babe, and I've made up my mind to go ahead and marry you, I wouldn't have even mentioned it.

It's not their business. Because if I do go ahead to marry you knowing what they know, I wouldn't want to deal with my folks disrespecting my husband on a ground like that.

******************
It's possible she's using that as an excuse to leave you.

That crying she's doing is mere theatrics.
100%
When he gets BSC, they will say they need MSC. When he gets MSC, they will say they need PHD. She should honestly fokof. If his surname was Dangote or Offor, would they ask for dirty certificate that cultists and blackheads have two for five naira
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by michigang: 12:55pm On Oct 19
ityP:




Lmao. Something dey touch for una head o. Do they teach how to speak good English in the university? I spoke better English when I was in secondary school. Na then we were taught how to speak sweet English. Our professors for university sef no fit speak better English. They're good in their area of expertise sha. My point: University education no go make you speak better English
thank you my sister. At my I still dey read nosec because I want to speak better English
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 12:55pm On Oct 19
Spartachico007:
Upgrade your self bro and it doesn’t have to be cause of the rejection ,what if you’re business grows into a multimillion company and then you will want to run for a public office that requires a higher institution certificate ....what will you .... we aren’t electing any ssce holder into higher places in government anymore


Which public office requires higher institution certificate? And if it gets to that, he will buy the certificate. E no hard. Your reasons are not sufficient
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by idu1(m): 12:56pm On Oct 19
dawnomike:
Let that motivate you to upgrade your educational background or find a lady whose family will not have problem with your education.


He sabi write English pass you.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by abbaashiru(m): 12:57pm On Oct 19
Footballers Ahmed Musa and Shehu Abdullahi do not have any kind diploma but they'll never be treated like this in this life. The girl's parents will give her out to these two with or without her consent... Rubbish...

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Daddy46: 12:57pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.
continue your hustle chairman if na part time you dey do the rest leave am to God almighty
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Hamzaaaaaaaa(m): 12:57pm On Oct 19
Columbine:
A family can allow an educated man marry their daughter with no form of education whatsoever, but don't be surprised that the same family will not allow their daughter marry an uneducated man or a man they see as not highly educated, that's the irony of life. Do what you want to do because that's what you want, not because that's what others want. Is the girl I pity, she'll be heartbroken.
What's even paining me here is that it's very possible the girl is jobless even after the bsc she has o

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 12:57pm On Oct 19
michigang:
thank you my sister brother. At my I still dey read nosec because I want to speak better English
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by advanceDNA: 12:58pm On Oct 19
ityP:




A marriage not endorsed by family members is not advisable abeg

U funny...people wey no get family no dey marry??
Orphans no dey marry??
Yeah..it's good when family of your spouse like u...but na u and your spouse the main issue.

When u find someone good for u...and family is dropping foolish reasons like certificate, he's short, he's black, he's yoruba, his nose is big, he has forehead.. there's nothing wrong in using strategy to make them accept..

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Prince001(m): 12:59pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

Prove them wrong by continuing to thrive! I went thru the same ordeal when I finished my SS3 even though I got good grades and score 262 in Jamb, I couldn't secure admission in Unilag or Ife cos that's my choice of school at the time. Glory be to God today their disagreement with me to go out with their sister got me to where I am today cos after all their effort I secured a good job with my SSCE in Naija then I traveled abroad, afterward graduated from a University in London. Now I'm IT system administrator. I pity those ladies now cos they are not happy with their status and regret their decision based on their family pressure! it happened twice to me, unfortunately. 1st cos I'm a Muslim and not a student in any University, the 2nd cos Im SSCE holder and jobless
Pls, take their negativity as a challenge to be better and Best! Stay focused Bro and May Almighty God bless ur hustle!!!!!!

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by michigang: 12:59pm On Oct 19
ityP:




Oga, both! My essays in secondary school were one of the best that year. Now, I don forget sef wetin be essay. These articles are mostly cross checked and edited by so many persons before publishing.. My professor own no be accent. He will spell "receive" as "recieve". There's this word called "etiquette", he pronounces this word as it is "e-ti-kwi-tey" grin. He and other professors make spelling blunders that even primary school students would spell effortlessly. University does not improve your spoken English. Buhari no go school, but I tell you, he speaks better than most northerner professors. And him be confirmed illiterate o cheesy
ah no na, what are you saying? Buhari is a A level holder
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Gunayo(m): 12:59pm On Oct 19
GraciousGod190:

upgrade myself?
so to you am not upgraded enough? because am an Ssce holder.
please bro this discriminations needs to stop.
lt is not a discrimination bro but a good suggestion. If you do as you are advised, you will be happy that you did but if you refuse to do as advised you might regret it in the future. Please its not a curse but the true fact. Thank you.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 1:00pm On Oct 19
advanceDNA:


U funny...people wey no get family no dey marry??
Orphans no dey marry??
Yeah..it's good when family of your spouse like u...but na u and your spouse the main issue.

When u find someone good for u...and family is dropping foolish reasons like certificate, he's short, he's black, he's yoruba, his nose is big, he has forehead.. there's nothing wrong in using strategy to make them accept..



Toh, make dem accept. If they stronger disagree, na wrong step o. I won't marry a lady whose family is strongly against our union. Plenty women plenty abeg
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Kellzzyy: 1:00pm On Oct 19
dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.
Stop embarrassing yourself here mumu
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by faoogoke(m): 1:01pm On Oct 19
If there's anything I am happy for you for is that you told her and her parents the truth about your educational qualifications.
Some lied only to discover that the man they married is not a graduate.
What is the big deal about being a graduate when you can't care for your family.
The world don't love the truth.
Abeg move on with your life.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by snowking: 1:02pm On Oct 19
It's not a bad thing to upgrade educational status but no forget say some people wey no go university better pass people wey go, some people just copied to pass but can't defend it.. see PhD holders without jobs. Bro thank God for your success in business, if you won learn use online courses. Continue your business.

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