Please what's the essence of Bsc, Msc or PhD in marriage?..... Even some world richest don't have more than SSCE. My brother the only upgrade you need now is on your business. Do you know you write good English and have better experience than the so called Bsc holders?

Think about it, starting BSC at this your age does it guarantee a better woman or a better job ? My palli dey inside bag since I finished NYSC

Education is the application of acquired knowledge to face day to day activities. Marriage is not a bed of roses. It is between you and your potential wife now but a time is coming that money will not be able to secure your marriage but the acquired knowledge you have.pls listen to the advice of the elders.

I do my things my way my brother no be right ... my own conception of the education part isn’t just for modern day living as for me now I’m planning to run for a small office in my state so thank God I’m not a dropout

0m0nnakoda:
In Nigeria we have a misconception of education as book knowledge and especially degrees.

How much of that has gone into solving practical problems like how to make garri without sand, preserve yam for a long time or build roads that last?. We are still using that blue machine to grind pepper that was used in the 70s

In the UK almost everybody paints their houses by themselves but in Nigeria once you go to university you lose the ability to do anything practical .So our "education" is for passing exams and not solving social problems

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

Bros l like ur gods. keep silent over d issue for some tym and see how it plays out. if she really loves u,let she pressure her parents and do d underground work for u.

queenblossom:

There is nothing like upgrading yourself. I am a successful business woman and a graduate. But I am still upgrading myself. I still register for more courses on business and marketing, because I see that I have a strong passion for business and marketing. A lot of people think I studied marketing in my first degree.
So my brother, this should motivate you to upgrade your knowledge.
But is good as you are saying you can't upgrade yourself because of your girlfriend. That really shows how much you love her and if the marriage was going to last or stand the test of time. You think marriage is easy. Just one test, you failed woefully.

I have a problem with your concept of the word "upgrade" and the manner you are chanting it as if the word possesses the halo of a holy writ. You claimed to be a "successful" business woman so your direction of upgrade lies in the area of marketing and its related field. I thought you would have advised this brother to toe similar line as well, because he is a business person like you are. But your ideal "upgrade" for him lies in a gratuitous pursuit of a certificate -- not knowledge because it's actuated to satiate the ego of a family that obviously needs an upgrade-- that won't add much value to him.

I hope your lack of reprimand to girl's family is an oversight.

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

So be it indeed. If it wasn't bothering you why then did you create a thread?

You and I know very well you are trying to convince
yourself but kile difficult.

DaddyRochie1642:



Your English and your writing is good for an Ssce holder.

writing is taught in primary school not university

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

It's the girl that doesn't want to marry you. She don chop you enough and wants to move on. She has found someone better for herself. Leave her and go get yourself a good wife.

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

. Yeah!!! You nailed it. To hell with them.

Spherical77:
Fashion designers, mechanics, doctors, lawyers, business men/ women, cobblers et al are all vast and well enlightened in their chosen field.

Mentioning Dangote this and that who never attended college and become wealthy is just funny to me. Why then do we have poor people within us who had just school cert or even nothing and went ahead to learn a trade, skill or whataview? Your comparism is baseless because the opportunity those people you are flaunting their names here and there had till thy kingdom come majority don't have it presently and they are most likely not going to have it. That's the reality

There are hundred of thousands of eductionist in Nigeria who had written their names in gold and made history. Mind you, they don't neccesarily have to be amongst the top 100 billionaires. They are much successful in their chosen career. Thus, that had paved way for their generation

You always sound so ridiculous young man. You're asking me to give you fact to buttress my point with regards the easiest route Nigerians had been plying leaving the shores of the country? I presume Google is your friend right? You can also get the right response on this platform

Or better still, bring forth a young guy who had just school cert and venture into business. Then let me bring forth another young guy who had his first degree and wanted to leave the shores of the country

Let both of them meet at the embassy and watch whose request would be granted first

If you must make comparism man, let it be on a neutral ground. Make comparism with those average Nigerians living with us.

Those who had degree and those who had just a school cert and learnt a skill or business are all living within us

Lastly, stop the Dangote, Otedola and the likes that you are parabulating with at every sight. Like i said earlier, we do have successfully education laurels which i wouldn't want to bore you with by listing their names (local and international)

Lol

Let's talk about the millions of jobless graduates queuing up for npower jobs then, I think that is a more appropriate comparison to the poor people who have just school cert than the 1st class degree holder who travelled out of the country for better opportunities.

And just so you know, comparism isn't an English word.

Acidosis:


I hope the emboldened is from the place of hurt and disappointment not your actual perception of higher education?


..cos that statement is enough to disallow you from marrying their daughter. And by the way, discrimination can NEVER be eliminated in this world or the next. So it's always better for one to engage tactically and also learn to "read the room" to avoid some kain embarrassments.

With B.Sc and M.Sc. degree sef, only a few men can approach some type of ladies, e.g. Buhari's daughter. It's not discrimination per se but self respect. So before you talk to another degree holder, make sure you "read the room".

It's discrimination, first of all how many BSC holders in Nigeria have a Job or business? I can categorically tell you that this guy might be doing alot better than many BSC, Ms and PhD holders in this country.
Speaking of approaching buhari's daughter that one has to do with social status, not education. Same with the likes of dj cuppy not just any guy can approach them because of their higher status in life, it has nothing to do with education.

In this case, the girl family are not elites, or have a higher social status, I don't see why there are discriminating because of education my takes that it has to do with money, probably a richer guy is also asking for the girls hand.

GraciousGod190:

i understand you sir, when I heard it yesterday I was hurt deep down. I felt low, felt intimidated.
i do love my girlfriend, but how can a 36 year old man goes back to school because he wants to get married to a girl?.

i can make other meaningful sacrifices, but definitely not This.
thanks.

What is the guarantee that she will still be available by the time you finish or will they agree immediately you pass jamb and get admission?

Olanimonje:
Ok, lemme elaborate what they are trying to say is that you no get enough money to marry their daughter
Period

I think this is the problem here, they are just using education as excuse.

tarantino1:


[b]If you had half the sense I have, you would realise that I was able to talk about this in detail because of my experience there. [/b]But your sense no reach that level, ozuor

Just what I wanted to confirm. Congratulations on being an educated illiterate. You have bought yours already, why are you discouraging the OP from getting his? Lol... Clown

Dear OP, please get yours too, don't allow any fool discourage you

advanceDNA:


They are refusing the guy outrightly ...they are not telling him to marry their daughter and and enroll in a school..

How can u tell a guy to go for a four year course b4 coming back to ask for a woman's hand in marriage....it's unheard of..

Men marry women and then send them to school....that's different ....

.but refuse someone just becos he's not a graduate is awful.....
If the guy were rich like a footballer ...they won't even think of his education...many footballers don't have degrees until later..besides the guy sdt say upgrading isn't good...he only said he's not doing it just because a family thinks he's not worthy of their daughter.... And if u think the same...u are just as shallow as the girl's family

They just don't like the guy.. SSCE was just a disgracing excuse...

You guys don't get it.
If a prospective inlaw rejects you based on what you can easily achieve, go and get it.

It's a norm all over the world. Parents have demanded for worst.

I can see that most of u have systematically shifted the whole blame to the girl. Girls bend go and bend.

GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

A useless family wants to go away from your life and you say you are hurt, wait until you marry someone like Tiwa Savage whose sex tape is everywhere or someone like Tonto Dikeh who has been cursed by the gods.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Bullocks!

Why should he go back to the people who rejected him at first? What for?

Shameful.

Whenever you quote me, be civil. Don't mistake me for some people.
Or, don't quote me at all.

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

For what you just said, I love you die.
Confused Africans,
If it were their daughter that's a primary or ssce holder who wanna marry a graduate,am sure they'll see nothing wrong in that.

musiliyukayode:
Education is the application of acquired knowledge to face day to day activities. Marriage is not a bed of roses. It is between you and your potential wife now but a time is coming that money will not be able to secure your marriage but the acquired knowledge you have.pls listen to the advice of the elders.

What kind of rubbish is this?
So only BSC holders should get married?

Her family has said their own, so what does your intending spouse say. It’s you both that can decide where to go from here and that part wasn’t in your post. Even after marriage there will be things in-laws wouldn’t agree. Secondly I don’t like that you both took 4yrs to make your intentions known to family. Discrimination will always be there and has nothing to do with you. You both should decide what to do and proceed if you are determined but shouldn’t be about your opinion. She what does she want? Bcz somehow I feel she too has started feeling that way as you didn’t give us that. Goodluck though

BoosBae:


Just what I wanted to confirm. Congratulations on being an educated illerate.

You have bought yours already, why are you discouraging the OP from getting his? Lol... Clown

Dear OP, please get yours too, don't allow any fool discourage you

Says the rétarded buffon that can't spell to save her life.

Go on, laugh at yourself. It's pretty much obvious to everyone that your life is a joke.

Dunce

DaddyRochie1642:



Your English and your writing is good for an Ssce holder.

Some degree holder can't even write as Good As this. Brother, just let her Go. And Find another babe. But if you love her so much, you can just opt for a part time course , and let them know you are going for a part-time. There is nothing too much to be done for love. Cheers

0m0nnakoda:

Innoson is not average? Where did I mention Otedola. You ignorantly refer to me as young man. Are you older than me? Do you know me?
I wonder whether you have comprehension difficulties because it is not clear what you understand me to be saying . You were the one boasting about yourself and I set you straight
You are just jumping from one topic to the other very incoherently. What has embassy got to do with what I said
The point is simple not everyone needs formal education to do well in life.It is OK for some but not everyone and there are examples like that all over the place

Everything else you are saying is your illiterate interpretation of things I never said.

Please kindly point out where i was boasting about my personal self? Everything I've said so far pertaining to myself as a case study was based on "Instance" please don't quote me out of context. You don't need a soothsayers to tell you that not everyone will do well with or without formal education. Besides, formal education isn't meant to make you rich or whataview. Nothing can stop you from being rich if destined to and have access to the right information. Education has nothing whatsoever to do with richness. Nonetheless, it'd be a plus if one had formal education no matter how little it is

You asked for fact to my claim that people who got education had more opportunities to leave the shores of the country. Didn't you? Then i told you to bring someone who had just school cert and business doing with other person who had a degree and wanting to explore to other countries like US, UK, Canada et al. Then watch and see who US or UK embassy would gladly grant her request amongst both parties. That's a real life scenario i put up there. At least, if you claimed you don't know that those countries are majorly accepting those who had good education and wanting to make futher research through studies and possibly get PR and become citizens with time. Then you can make do with the life scenario i put up there as the fact that you are seeking for

If paradventure you need more input or fact to my claim then you should visit the travel session of this beautiful forum. Google, quora, Wikipedia et al are also recommended to get more fact that you seek

GraciousGod190:

getting married to a woman can't motivate me to upgrade my educational background.
already told her it's over so be it, she's the one shedding tears over here.

Stvpid tears
So she can't damn the consequences and
So people are actually telling you to upgrade just because you wanna marry
No wonder most women will get into forced relationships
Lmao

Benzemma:



Hope you did not mean all this you typed, because life is not always what we want it to be. Remember man proposes, God disposes. Will you kill your daughter for choosing to marry ssce holder she loves instead of a BSC holder she does not love? Or would you want her to keep searching for a degree holder she Will love, even when she no longer young?

First of all, i will quote my university lodge mate Franky. "As you dey study book, you go dey study marital". Institution is one of the best places to choose a life partner. There are other options. If you spend 4 to 6 years in school without identifying a 2 or more suitable partners, wetin you gain with your first class OT. is everything. With the right orientation, life will be balance eventually.

descarado:

Whenever you quote me, be civil. Don't mistake me for some people.
Or, don't quote me at all.

My quote was civil enough. I could have been saltier because your comment was annoying. Thanks.

0m0nnakoda:

Innoson is not average? Where did I mention Otedola. You ignorantly refer to me as young man. Are you older than me? Do you know me?
I wonder whether you have comprehension difficulties because it is not clear what you understand me to be saying . You were the one boasting about yourself and I set you straight
You are just jumping from one topic to the other very incoherently. What has embassy got to do with what I said
The point is simple not everyone needs formal education to do well in life.It is OK for some but not everyone and there are examples like that all over the place

Everything else you are saying is your illiterate interpretation of things I never said.

You are just confusing yourself sir. You couldn't even comprehend the simple illustration he gave you.

If i were him, i wouldn't respond to your mention again. Your comprehensive capacity is still low to have found it difficult to grasp and asking what brought embassy into the discussion

This is hilarious seriously

Spherical77:
Please kindly point out where i was boasting about my personal self? Everything I've said so far pertaining to myself as a case study was based on "Instance" please don't quote me out of context. You don't need a soothsayers to tell you that not everyone will do well with or without formal education. Besides, formal education isn't meant to make you rich or whataview. Nothing can stop you from being rich if destined to and have access to the right information. Education has nothing whatsoever to do with richness. Nonetheless, it'd be a plus if one had formal education no matter how little it is

You asked for fact to my claim that people who got education had more opportunities to leave the shores of the country. Didn't you? Then i told you to bring someone who had just school cert and business doing with other person who had a degree and wanting to explore to other countries like US, UK, Canada et al. Then watch and see who US or UK embassy would gladly grant her request amongst both parties. That's a real life scenario i put up there. At least, if you claimed you don't know that those countries are majorly accepting those who had good education and wanting to make futher research through studies and possibly get PR and become citizens with time. Then you can make do with the life scenario i put up there as the fact that you are seeking for

If paradventure you need more input or fact to my claim then you should visit the travel session of this beautiful forum. Google, quora, Wikipedia et al are also recommended to get more fact that you seek

You better leave that dude alone guy. Person wey dey ask you wetin embassy carry come for this matter na him you wan dey elucidate futher for

Please save your strength abeg

IF I MAY ASK HOUSE WHAT EDUCATION GOT TO DO WITH MARRIAGE? SO U MEAN BSC HOLDER SHOULD MARRIED BSC HOLDER? MASTERS SHOULD ALSO LOOK FOR MASTER HOLDERS? THEN SSCE SHOULD ALSO LOOK FOR SSCE HOLDER INTIMES OF MARRIAGE?......................... LISTEN THE HIGHEST DIVOCEE ALL OVER THE WORLD IS IN THE HOUSE OF GRADUATES...... DO UR INVESTGATION U WILL BE SUPRISER, IN MARRIAGE NOTHING LIKE QUALIFICATION........ SEEE MORE U GET UPGRADE IN ACCADEMIC. MORE U WIL BE CONFUSE IN LIFE COS U WILL NOTBE SATIFIED UNTIL U UNDERSTAND THAT EVERY ONE HAVE TO MANAGED WHAT SO EVER HE OR SHE HAVE CUS WILL HAVE A VERY SHORT TIME TO LIVE....... HOW OLD ARE U NOW? AND HOW OLD DO U THINK U HAVE TO SPEND HERE IN THIS PLANET? EVERY THING IN THIS LIFE IS LIKE CHASING THE WIND. THOSE THAT ARE GRADUATES ARE LOOKING FOR SOME ONE WITHOUT OND TO GET MARRIED.. BUT THEY COULD NOT FOUND NONE.. AND SOME FOUND SSCE HOLDER BUT THEY ARE NOT CONTENTED WITH WHAT THEY ALREADY HAVE........... OK MY MAN GO GO ON WITH UR LIFE AND PLS DONT JUST LOOK FOR BEAUTY COS BEAUTY WILL SURELY FADE UP

descarado:

You guys don't get it.
If a prospective inlaw rejects you based on what you can easily achieve, go and get it.

It's a norm all over the world. Parents have demanded for worst.

I can see that most of u have systematically shifted the whole blame to the girl. Girls bend go and bend.

Shift blame on the girl...?? U read that in my post?? This is an issue about family rejecting the man...the girl loves the guy..they've been dating for years..how am I blaming the girl


Somehow u are making this a gender war...please take your hatred for men somewhere else I'm not interested..

GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

Oga, calm down. Whether or not you marry her, there's no big deal however, if an opportunity arise to upgrade yourself, please grab it and don't think it is not needed.

IF I MAY ASK HOUSE WHAT EDUCATION GOT TO DO WITH MARRIAGE? SO U MEAN BSC HOLDER SHOULD MARRIED BSC HOLDER? MASTERS SHOULD ALSO LOOK FOR MASTER HOLDERS? THEN SSCE SHOULD ALSO LOOK FOR SSCE HOLDER INTIMES OF MARRIAGE?......................... LISTEN THE HIGHEST DIVOCEE ALL OVER THE WORLD IS IN THE HOUSE OF GRADUATES...... DO UR INVESTGATION U WILL BE SUPRISER, IN MARRIAGE NOTHING LIKE QUALIFICATION........ SEEE MORE U GET UPGRADE IN ACCADEMIC. MORE U WIL BE CONFUSE IN LIFE COS U WILL NOTBE SATIFIED UNTIL U UNDERSTAND THAT EVERY ONE HAVE TO MANAGED WHAT SO EVER HE OR SHE HAVE CUS WILL HAVE A VERY SHORT TIME TO LIVE....... HOW OLD ARE U NOW? AND HOW OLD DO U THINK U HAVE TO SPEND HERE IN THIS PLANET? EVERY THING IN THIS LIFE IS LIKE CHASING THE WIND. THOSE THAT ARE GRADUATES ARE LOOKING FOR SOME ONE WITHOUT OND TO GET MARRIED.. BUT THEY COULD NOT FOUND NONE.. AND SOME FOUND SSCE HOLDER BUT THEY ARE NOT CONTENTED WITH WHAT THEY ALREADY HAVE........... OK MY MAN GO GO ON WITH UR LIFE AND PLS DONT JUST LOOK FOR BEAUTY COS BEAUTY WILL SURELY FADE up