Biglittlelois:



Consolation in any form is allowed bro.

Iyaebe:
As it is now,she has no option than to swear with the same Bible she forced her husband to swear with if she's truly innocent.She has to do that for peace and trust to reign else the poster will never trust her again and it will eventually lead to divorce

Ginaz:
All I can tell you is that “I fear your wife die ”. Why would she make you swear with the Bible when she know she can’t do the same ?

Something isn’t right and clicking in.

I see a dangerous manipulator in your wife. Someone who can’t eat poison won’t tell another to eat it except they want to commit murder.

Iyaebe:
As it is now,she has no option than to swear with the same Bible she forced her husband to swear with if she's truly innocent.She has to do that for peace and trust to reign else the poster will never trust her again and it will eventually lead to divorce

Afodot0022:


My fear is that even though she is not cheating presently, should i be concerned she had cheated in the past

Afodot0022:


But i had the intention of forcing her to swear else there will be issue in the home and things will not go well with both of us cos its through that swearing that will make me seeing her faithful. If she is innocent as cliamed, why is it difficult for her to prove her innocent. I need to know. I gave her the condition that things will not be normal in the home again except she prove her innocent by swearing.

Afodot0022:
Good day my fellow nairalanders. Pls pardon my typo errors and will just make this brief as i can. I need your inputs in this scenerio that is giving me some sort of concern.

I have been married for close to five years now and have two kids to it. My marriage to my wife has been ups and down but have always tried my best to be a responsible husband and also father. I ensure I take care of my home financially to my capabilities.

My wife happens to be a good wife though with her own flaws as she is not perfect. She always has the notion that am cheating on her and have a side chick. But to be honest to you guys, i have never had sex with any other woman except my wife ever since i married her. Though at times the temptation might come to catch some flings out there but will later decline such thought and abort any action have made to do it on the long run.. At times my wife will read chats I do have with some random girls and have the notion that am cheating. I know i have been wrong in this but attimes a man will want to be a man but as i said earlier, have never had sex with those girls. Just random chats that all and it doesnt go further or lead anywhere.

So it happened that me and my wife had a very serious misunderstanding recently that resulted to verbal abuse and also almost physical violence from the two of us. The last time i intended to have sex with my wife, she denied me and this had been in my mind and got me so angry towards her. So it happend that she needed my help for something and did not help, she started shouting and nagging and this got me angry and i almost hit her but i didn't. During those heated moment she started saying things about my cheating and so on. She said if am not cheating that i should swear with bible but i refuse to swear that night. Upon the following day i decided to even swear with bible that i have never had sex with any woman ever sinced i married her. I know i was innocent and i truely swear that very day to make her change her mindset and perception about me.

After the swear, something happened that makes me confused till this very day, I ask my wife to also use the Bible to swear that she had not cheated or slept with any man ever since she got married to me. Could you imagine that despite all my efforts to make my wife to swear using the bible, she refused bluntly that she will never do such. I asked her why but she insisted she is not going to swear.

This got me concerned and was asking myself why is this woman refusing to do this if truely she is innocent and doesnt have any skeleton in her compound. Her excuse was that she cant use the world of God to swear but mind you she is the one that prompted me to do such at first. I even seized her phone that if she doesnt swear i wont return the phone to her but despite my threat, my wife didn't not.

This lasted for hours and I later gave up on the quest. Ever since then have not being myself and have been thinking alot. My wife doesnt look like someone that can cheat on me cos have not seen any traces as such but with this her action, its making me to have a rethink about her.

Pls house i dont know what step to take as i need your mature advice on way forward on this issues troubling me. Every input will be well appreciated especially from married and experienced people.

InTheCloudySky:
It seems like the type of cheating you're referring to is physical (aka. sexual intercourse). If she could go to the extent of asking you to swear with the Bible because your word wasn't enough for her to believe you, it's only fair that she gives you the same respect by doing the same. I know if someone asks me to do such a thing, they gotta be ready to follow suit, otherwise I would deduce their refusal as hypocritical and that they're not particularly innocent of what they're accusing me of. Sometimes when people cheat or have cheated, they'll accuse their partner of cheating; it's a form of gaslighting. It's something men do but women can also play that game.

Longsleeve:
You made a mistake of swearing with the Bible..

Una wan turn una house to law court??

Mercychen:
Your marriage was obviously not built on trust otherwise both of you would not subscribe to swearing which is not good especially if you're a Christian who is well versed in the word of God.

Your wife may have refused to swear because it is a wrong thing to do or because she had cheated when she suspected you were cheating. All these boils down to lack of trust for each other.

Any relationship not built on trust is not worth taking to the next level ( marriage) because it will be suspicion all the way which will eventually lead to divorce.

Do not swear, no matter the situation. Be a man and woman of integrity. Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Swearing sometimes does not really a proof of ones innocence as some people can be guilty and still swear without fear.

Afodot0022:
Good day my fellow nairalanders. Pls pardon my typo errors and will just make this brief as i can. I need your inputs in this scenerio that is giving me some sort of concern.

I have been married for close to five years now and have two kids to it. My marriage to my wife has been ups and down but have always tried my best to be a responsible husband and also father. I ensure I take care of my home financially to my capabilities.

My wife happens to be a good wife though with her own flaws as she is not perfect. She always has the notion that am cheating on her and have a side chick. But to be honest to you guys, i have never had sex with any other woman except my wife ever since i married her. Though at times the temptation might come to catch some flings out there but will later decline such thought and abort any action have made to do it on the long run.. At times my wife will read chats I do have with some random girls and have the notion that am cheating. I know i have been wrong in this but attimes a man will want to be a man but as i said earlier, have never had sex with those girls. Just random chats that all and it doesnt go further or lead anywhere.

So it happened that me and my wife had a very serious misunderstanding recently that resulted to verbal abuse and also almost physical violence from the two of us. The last time i intended to have sex with my wife, she denied me and this had been in my mind and got me so angry towards her. So it happend that she needed my help for something and did not help, she started shouting and nagging and this got me angry and i almost hit her but i didn't. During those heated moment she started saying things about my cheating and so on. She said if am not cheating that i should swear with bible but i refuse to swear that night. Upon the following day i decided to even swear with bible that i have never had sex with any woman ever sinced i married her. I know i was innocent and i truely swear that very day to make her change her mindset and perception about me.

After the swear, something happened that makes me confused till this very day, I ask my wife to also use the Bible to swear that she had not cheated or slept with any man ever since she got married to me. Could you imagine that despite all my efforts to make my wife to swear using the bible, she refused bluntly that she will never do such. I asked her why but she insisted she is not going to swear.

This got me concerned and was asking myself why is this woman refusing to do this if truely she is innocent and doesnt have any skeleton in her compound. Her excuse was that she cant use the world of God to swear but mind you she is the one that prompted me to do such at first. I even seized her phone that if she doesnt swear i wont return the phone to her but despite my threat, my wife didn't not.

This lasted for hours and I later gave up on the quest. Ever since then have not being myself and have been thinking alot. My wife doesnt look like someone that can cheat on me cos have not seen any traces as such but with this her action, its making me to have a rethink about her.

Pls house i dont know what step to take as i need your mature advice on way forward on this issues troubling me. Every input will be well appreciated especially from married and experienced people.

Danjikanbauchi:
that was why she wanted to confirm if he is cheating too so that her conscious will stop disturbing her. Now she discover he is not cheating and she won't want to confess her inquity.

Watch how her fellow cheats are supporting her and want to shift blame to her husband.

capnies:


YOU SAID YOU'RE NOT MARRIED BUT YOUR COMMENTS ALWAYS LOOKS LIKE THAT OF AN EXPERIENCED N MATURED MOTHE N WIFE. I THINK YOU'LL BE A GOOD WIFE N MOTHER, ASK GOD FOR HUSBAND THAT SUITES YOU NOW

Ayt27:


Bless you bro

Skullano:
Shebi nah all this wahala I go dey see and hear everyday and people will be shouting that I should go and marry.

I greet una well well.

Bola146:
Swearing with the Bible is totally wrong, let your yes be yes and no be no, what would you do if you see her chatting with men Do unto others as you want others to do unto you if you did acted suspicious, she is not a fool to keep quiet, women are jealous in nature, she wants the best for her family, she is a human being too, you are the head of the family, you should know the best for your family. You trust your wife but you are still doubting or your conscience is questioning you I don't understand? Please settle it amicably and if you are at fault, you know how you settle your fights before, don't let third party come into your home. Some comments here might lead your marriage astray, don't let ego destroy you, confront her and sit her down to apologise and way forward

Godoverevery:

See adult who doesn't no there no one way of doing things.
No matter the style he choose to return is household you shouldn't condemn because it doesn't suit you Miss adult.

Are you married If not shut the Bleep up.

She forced him to swear but can't do the same in return...... yet he is the kid.

Someone of you no matter the education or exposure your brain still remain like a fish own.

SURElee:



Imagine talk.
A man will always be a man, catch feelings. Ehen then allow her also catch feelings, dem tell you say na only man dey catch feelings?

Oh! As a married man, you are chatting with random single girls abi, and you are here writing us epistle for us to read?
You die well.

You expect a wife to be happy that her husband is chatting random shakushaku skelewu babes abi? I'm happy she didn't swear.

E be like you forget the Bible says thou shall not swear. Remember that whatever you dish to a woman she can multiply it back to you. Keep chatting and except her to swear.


A man who is supposed to build his home is chatting randomly with chicks online, what time do you then dedicate to building your home. You are the driver of that home, if you like drive it into konga na you sabi.


Q

Acidosis:


But it wasn't wrong 5 years ago when the magistrate or pastor told them to swear??



What in the name of emotional blackmail is this?

Omo, are you sure you're not the wife??

Afodot0022:
Good day my fellow nairalanders. Pls pardon my typo errors and will just make this brief as i can. I need your inputs in this scenerio that is giving me some sort of concern.

I have been married for close to five years now and have two kids to it. My marriage to my wife has been ups and down but have always tried my best to be a responsible husband and also father. I ensure I take care of my home financially to my capabilities.

My wife happens to be a good wife though with her own flaws as she is not perfect. She always has the notion that am cheating on her and have a side chick. But to be honest to you guys, i have never had sex with any other woman except my wife ever since i married her. Though at times the temptation might come to catch some flings out there but will later decline such thought and abort any action have made to do it on the long run.. At times my wife will read chats I do have with some random girls and have the notion that am cheating. I know i have been wrong in this but attimes a man will want to be a man but as i said earlier, have never had sex with those girls. Just random chats that all and it doesnt go further or lead anywhere.

So it happened that me and my wife had a very serious misunderstanding recently that resulted to verbal abuse and also almost physical violence from the two of us. The last time i intended to have sex with my wife, she denied me and this had been in my mind and got me so angry towards her. So it happend that she needed my help for something and did not help, she started shouting and nagging and this got me angry and i almost hit her but i didn't. During those heated moment she started saying things about my cheating and so on. She said if am not cheating that i should swear with bible but i refuse to swear that night. Upon the following day i decided to even swear with bible that i have never had sex with any woman ever sinced i married her. I know i was innocent and i truely swear that very day to make her change her mindset and perception about me.

After the swear, something happened that makes me confused till this very day, I ask my wife to also use the Bible to swear that she had not cheated or slept with any man ever since she got married to me. Could you imagine that despite all my efforts to make my wife to swear using the bible, she refused bluntly that she will never do such. I asked her why but she insisted she is not going to swear.

This got me concerned and was asking myself why is this woman refusing to do this if truely she is innocent and doesnt have any skeleton in her compound. Her excuse was that she cant use the world of God to swear but mind you she is the one that prompted me to do such at first. I even seized her phone that if she doesnt swear i wont return the phone to her but despite my threat, my wife didn't not.

This lasted for hours and I later gave up on the quest. Ever since then have not being myself and have been thinking alot. My wife doesnt look like someone that can cheat on me cos have not seen any traces as such but with this her action, its making me to have a rethink about her.

Pls house i dont know what step to take as i need your mature advice on way forward on this issues troubling me. Every input will be well appreciated especially from married and experienced people.

sonofanarchy:
one thing with you women, you think marriage is like the korean movies you watch.. men suffer emotional truama in marriages. any woman wey one stress my life, i go push am.

Bola146:
Swearing with the Bible is totally wrong, let your yes be yes and no be no, what would you do if you see her chatting with men Do unto others as you want others to do unto you if you did acted suspicious, she is not a fool to keep quiet, women are jealous in nature, she wants the best for her family, she is a human being too, you are the head of the family, you should know the best for your family. You trust your wife but you are still doubting or your conscience is questioning you I don't understand? Please settle it amicably and if you are at fault, you know how you settle your fights before, don't let third parties come into your home. Some comments here might lead your marriage astray, don't let ego destroy you, confront her and sit her down to apologise and way forward

BigYash:
Madam dey run things or she did run things once ..
That's why she couldn't swear.. She still get small conscience and she is scared d bible will harm her,if she tries it. Some do cheat and they swear it,those ones blives that the mercy of God will cover them. I fear who no fear some wives of nowadays o.. For folks reading this.. If u wanna marry,do that for child bearing, no go put body for love matter o,except ur hrt na iron . No girl loves you o,they are in for games and their selfish interest.. That's why the "girls" are now making court marriage compulsory for some "men when no know themselves"
Anyways ,op I hope its not what m thinking sha,but in every move you make,just be careful,not to accuse her wrongly..

BigYash:
Madam dey run things or she did run things once ..
That's why she couldn't swear.. She still get small conscience and she is scared d bible will harm her,if she tries it. Some do cheat and they swear it,those ones blives that the mercy of God will cover them. I fear who no fear some wives of nowadays o.. For folks reading this.. If u wanna marry,do that for child bearing, no go put body for love matter o,except ur hrt na iron . No girl loves you o,they are in for games and their selfish interest.. That's why the "girls" are now making court marriage compulsory for some "men when no know themselves"
Anyways ,op I hope its not what m thinking sha,but in every move you make,just be careful,not to accuse her wrongly..