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Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Drella: 7:26am On Oct 27, 2021
malcom1X:
85 years need love too.
Let the mum rest and let the Dad continue. It seems you don't want the man to be happy.
Why should the mum rest?Did she say she is tired?Can you allow your wife to be serviced by another man too?
If the mum should rest,why shouldn't the man rest too?
85 years old man that his libido is supposed to be almost zero.Given his age,what if he dies while having sex?


The questions are just rhetorics.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Dextre(m): 7:26am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
Sorry is it a sexual relationship or just chilling with another woman because if it is sexual, I don’t think there is anything you can do o. Adults that age are like kids, they are very stubborn, they’ll only stop doing certain things when they learn lesson from it
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by brownemmanuel43(m): 7:26am On Oct 27, 2021
Bola146:
And he called himself a man, simple advice he insulted almost everybody grin grin
As in ehhhhh hh, I don't just understand how some Nigerians reason. I could do something now, and I will tell u that I did it out of stupidity, does it me i insulted myself? Hell no
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Joydan95: 7:26am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
You guys should take him to stat in any of your houses. Threaten to stop giving him money for his upkeep, in fact withdraw and watch the drama that will happen between him and his so called side � chick.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by GetMeRight: 7:32am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
thanks very much for this, but don't you think it's a little bit too harsh?
we wouldn't want to treat him like a kid or make him feel like we are punishing him for his misdeeds. no matter what he's still the head of the family.
He's a kid again, already. And, are you saying that people shouldn't be punished for their misdeed if they fail to heed warning? You have sit him down and talked to him, he didn't change. Time to try another method. Unless you are not ready to take advice but just want attention.
I knew a man like that too, he has a son abroad but the wife was no more. The old man was just giving his money to women and playing pool. His son just instructed his helpers to be buying food and drug for him and to give him money that would last him a week. The son didn't care if he wasted it within two days which he would still do. He would call his son repeatedly, he would call his helpers here in Nigeria repeatedly but papa would not get anything until the beginning of the following week. He's still alive today and his people don't care if he had adjusted or not, they handled his case the way they deemed it fit.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Drella: 7:34am On Oct 27, 2021
1Sharon:
A married man has more to lose. The mistress owes nothing to the cheating man or his wife.

It is the man who is cheating not her

And you do know some men actually lie about their status? So the woman will not say no.
@ the emboldened, it's very wrong.You are saying it as if the woman is right for that act.
You will agree with me that if a female gets unwanted pregnancy,they blame the female more because she has more control over the situation.
Also,If my wife is cheating,I have no business with the man but with my wife(female) for allowing him!

She also knows the man is married so his status is not hidden.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by GetMeRight: 7:36am On Oct 27, 2021
Iyaebe:
Imagine ooo.Please I want to ask,do old men have erection?
U no see Alaafin of Oyo with his one year, one new wife policy with new born twins every 6 months? Laughing
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Bola146(f): 7:36am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
people like you make us regret bringing our problems to the outside world in search of solutions.
do have a good evening.
Read what people wrote and think twice. Advise is something you take or leave, going for counseling is thinking twice, it's not by force!!! Have you seen the solutions now when people said the truth but old you knew what you actually wanted to do but you want to prove as old man who already knew everything huh Pele. Truth will always be bitter, that is why Nigeria is suffering, we hate hearing the truth, na lie lie we want cheesy lori iro wink
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Otenzy(m): 7:37am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
Your Dad taking viagra at this age is a big problem. It could lead to a heart attack. He has to stop!
I don’t know what you’ll do but he has to stop taking viagra.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by simultaneousboi(m): 7:40am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
You the children should team up, go to the woman's place, give her a warning, also visit her family (husband if married or her husband's family and her own family) let them warn her to stir clear from your Dad or else....!
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by gees101(m): 7:50am On Oct 27, 2021
your father suppose get erection oga, in fact na his right to get erection at his age, how many year's be Abraham when him get Isaac? So erection is a most
As Una don talk to am taya and him nor gree then Nothing Una go do make Una leave the man make him enjoy his remaining life peacefully.....make Una take care of Una papa oh, then give Una mama Extra upkeep money for herself only
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Solatium(m): 7:55am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
He didn't do like that when he was younger tells you there is more to his sudden change in behaviors,make i tell you the fact,the woman no use any jazz on your Dad,your Mum is the Problem here,is either he deny him sex which he's entitle to even at his age or your mum has decided to make life miserable for him and he has decided to seek his happiness elsewhere
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by oluwafeolami(m): 7:58am On Oct 27, 2021
Kay25:
yes veks break ur head Cos I said so..u are still a baby in deciphering word usage when u grow up comeback and comment better
Oga move on with ur delusion.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by FlipModeSquade(m): 8:00am On Oct 27, 2021
SmartGadgetz:
Sorry is your name if you don't pray to God.
Joy, peace, and confidence is yours if you pray always.
Yeah?

Upon all your Fasting and Prayers..

Where have it left Nigeria?

Abi you lot are not also praying for your country? grin
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by mechanics(m): 8:05am On Oct 27, 2021
At his old age, he should be thinking of how to make heaven not still engaging in sin.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by SPDAZZY(f): 8:13am On Oct 27, 2021
mariahAngel:
How old is your mum?

At the stage she is in her life, I don't think she should bother herself with however an 85yr old man has chosen to live the rest of his life.
So, she should simply stop stressing herself over the matter and let him do whatever and however he wants.
You and your siblings should just make sure she has all she needs.
Ya lefuru agadi nwoke anya!
I beg to differ. At this age, I believe most have the companionship of marriage. While younger, the kids took their time. This, I believe, as their last years, is when they should enjoy each other's company and not have these annoying issues.

Imagine cheating at this age. I don't know what to say about 'love' anymore. Do Nigerians, ever love?
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by SunTzu123(m): 8:27am On Oct 27, 2021
At that age, validation, companionship and acceptance are much more important than sex. However, some people have high sexual urge at old age.
You need to engage with your Dad; if he's not getting companionship from your Mum, if he's not getting sex from your Mum, if he's not getting respect from your Mum. These could be triggers. Remember you mentioned he wasn't like this earlier? Find out what changed for him.
If you are uncomfortable with these enquiries, get them to counsellors.
Alternatively, you can go brutal; stop giving him upkeep money for two of them, give it to your Mum instead. And just give your Dad pocket money.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Lacash: 8:49am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
You’ve already said it all my Dear, you said he wasn’t like that when he was young, but one thing you all failed to understand is that your Dad is on another phase of his life, your Dad is exploring and experimenting a new thing, so I will advise you guys to leave him and allow him enjoy himself, Chikena grin
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by ebhohon: 8:50am On Oct 27, 2021
The best response so far.
ogastone:
I think that your mom has missed it when she was either saying no to his sexual urges and advances,, asking same question most women do ask from their 50's " Is sex food? Now he found someone that that still arouse some sexual feelings in him, and you guys don't understand him. Please let the man be. Just focus on taking care of him the more so he can stay longer. Even King David when he became very old, they went and got him a beautiful damsel to be keeping him warm. Let the man be.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Solofresh2: 9:00am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
One thing you should know is that humans are not the same.

From what you wrote there, you said he didn't do all this when he was young.As a man, there are some certain things you should be doing at your young age but when you refuse to do this things, you might surely do at your old age if you don't have self control.It is not jazz, curse or anything, it's normal because it's in his blood.

Had it been he had fornicated while younger even before getting married to your mom, he wouldn't be doing it right now but he didn't do it at the right time.

The only thing that can stop him now from fornicating is SELF CONTROL

There is no amount of advice that will stop him except he is ready to have self control.

He might be probably shy with low self-esteem to do it while he was younger.
One of the reasons for this fornication is high sexual libido
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by okhaiii(m): 9:00am On Oct 27, 2021
When people gets old differentthings keeps them strong and going. I know a man in my area all his kids are in abroad but he drinks from morning till night, he goes home to sleep and continue the next day. That has become part of him in making him strong till when God calls him. Different people with different things, maybe that's part of your dad's own. You guys should just make him understand and ask him exactly what he wants. So far your mom is not been hurt. It is well with him and your family.
Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Godmademan(m): 9:13am On Oct 27, 2021
greenie77:
Start by seriously slashing the money sent to him as the woman is collecting it from him. If he is on medication, get a pharmacy to deliver the drug(s) to him and pay the pharmacy directly.

Once he has little or no money to give the woman, it would gradually lead to the woman cutting him off.
Wiseman
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Godmademan(m): 9:13am On Oct 27, 2021
mariahAngel:
How old is your mum?

At the stage she is in her life, I don't think she should bother herself with however an 85yr old man has chosen to live the rest of his life.
So, she should simply stop stressing herself over the matter and let him do whatever and however he wants.
You and your siblings should just make sure she has all she needs.
Ya lefuru agadi nwoke anya!
Wise woman
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by SmartGadgetz: 9:15am On Oct 27, 2021
oluwafeolami:
Brainwashed sheeple.
Was it prayer that made the inventors of aero plane, electricity, incandescent bulb, cars etc to be powerful?

I am a Christian too and I believe in God and prayer but attributing it to some imaginary power is false.

If u need power go dey gym.
A prayerless Christian is a powerless Christian.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by gudugudumeje: 9:38am On Oct 27, 2021
Give them a vacation away from home to a distance place. Or, overseas. If he refuses, then cut his allowances as earlier advised and a pharmacy to deliver his drugs. He has no rights to do or, insist doing such. Then your mother must be ready to consent to his sexual demand. She must visit the doctor if she has any problem about that and cooperate dutifully, too.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Saintmary(f): 9:40am On Oct 27, 2021
danilmo:
What level are u,??

Hope ure aware oestrogen reduce with age esp at menopause that's the hormone maintaining female genitals contractility, same thing the breast ligament.

Reason why post menopausal are prone to genital prolapse as it loosene it elasticity to hold up, Brest too get pendulous as the ligaments get fatty.
So, instead of condemning women to bearing the consequences of their aging, why not treat the problem by boosting their estrogen levels and helping them with osteoporosis so they can have a fulfilling life even after menopause.

Na wa for patriarchal medical practices.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Luby913: 9:50am On Oct 27, 2021
UyaiIncomparabl:
He's closer to resting in peace na. Let the man enjoy his life jor. Can your mum still turn 360 degrees in bed for your dad? Is her pussy still tight? Can her pussy grip his erect dick cap? Na young girl go fit work am o.

Don't be silly, please. Except, of course, this thread is a joke.

Ask your mum if she satisfies him sexually and get the answer from there. He must be so starved.
something tells me your a whor.e
Prove me wrong
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Gnas1(m): 9:54am On Oct 27, 2021
Your problem is highly uncomplicated at all. Arrange them for marriage, simple
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Maobichek: 9:55am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
let them come we are waiting.
Good morning, is there anything the other woman has that your mom don't have?

Apart from juju, women should be neat at all times, if you mom is aware that your dad is still active sexually, she should try and do her best to satisfy him though age affect sex in both men and women, thank you.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Maobichek: 10:02am On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
she's also advanced but not like my dad, yes we send her own upkeeps differently.

what is the meaning of the words you typed in your dialet.
Her words in Igbo dialect mean " she (your mom) should overlook the old man." If your mom is still sexually active, let her discourage your dad from going outside.
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