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Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Genea(f): 4:14pm On Oct 27, 2021
ojasweb:
Woman and men are different sexually. Not every issues should be addressed with emotions. Face reality, you won't die.

Most women start hating sex at 40. The men on the other hand still like sex and active at older age.

A woman who can't satisfy her husband again at certain age is the one you are claiming equal rights for to go see other men.

How una dey reason self?
The man will bury himself… instead of him to be enjoying her companionship, he is having sex up and down.. Well it’s the African mentality, if it were abroad, she sure as hell would have divorced his ass and collected his property… supporting things that don’t make sense
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by ojasweb(m): 4:45pm On Oct 27, 2021
Genea:
The man will bury himself… instead of him to be enjoying her companionship, he is having sex up and down.. Well it’s the African mentality, if it were abroad, she sure as hell would have divorced his ass and collected his property… supporting things that don’t make sense
One of the truths people hate to talk about is that what older women derives pleasure in is different from that of men.

Older women feel much relaxed and satisfied just by hearing from their children or grandchildren. They can go to bed fully satisfied after speaking to them. For majority of them, nothing like sexual urge again and they might even stay weeks with their children.

Not the same situation with men. The man might spend just 2 minutes on phone with the children once a week, while the woman will spend 30 minutes every day and still think she forgot to say something. That's because they derive more fun from talking with their children.

In most cases, the women have abandoned the men's need, sexually. Even if the man touch them they can turn it to fight.

So, we should consider the reality more when addressing this type of issues.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by cococandy(f): 4:59pm On Oct 27, 2021
Women have the highest sex drive around 40
Shut up. Lol

ojasweb:
Woman and men are different sexually. Not every issues should be addressed with emotions. Face reality, you won't die.

Most women start hating sex at 40. The men on the other hand still like sex and active at older age.

A woman who can't satisfy her husband again at certain age is the one you are claiming equal rights for to go see other men.

How una dey reason self?
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 5:00pm On Oct 27, 2021
purples25:
An old man of 85 shouldn't have sexual urge or sex, who gave you the right to decide that, young pup? You think you too will not get old? Because your blood is rushing fresh, you are arrogant, you think you know how grandpa feels in his loins. In fact, I won't insult you.
My dad is 85 and you think am a young boy or a teenager like you.
Wonders will never end.
What if I tell you have had grandchildren, children of now days don't know how to use their brain to think at all
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by ojasweb(m): 5:01pm On Oct 27, 2021
cococandy:
Women have the highest sex drive around 40
Shut up. Lol
Uncultured. Stinks.

Around 40 and her son (not first) is 40 plus.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 5:07pm On Oct 27, 2021
dalass:
It is not an insult please.

It is probably a mental condition called dementia...... Its due to old age. Symptoms include:

Behavioural: irritability, personality changes, restlessness, lack of restraint, or wandering and getting lost
Yours might have wandered and got lost, but mine isn't like that.

He's a well respected man, physically fit and mentally okay.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 5:10pm On Oct 27, 2021
Dextre:
Sorry is it a sexual relationship or just chilling with another woman because if it is sexual, I don’t think there is anything you can do o. Adults that age are like kids, they are very stubborn, they’ll only stop doing certain things when they learn lesson from it
Thanks
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 5:13pm On Oct 27, 2021
Otenzy:
Your Dad taking viagra at this age is a big problem. It could lead to a heart attack. He has to stop!
I don’t know what you’ll do but he has to stop taking viagra.
That's one of our major concern, if he had asked for a second wife while he was a bit much younger. We would have got one for him.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 5:15pm On Oct 27, 2021
simultaneousboi:
You the children should team up, go to the woman's place, give her a warning, also visit her family (husband if married or her husband's family and her own family) let them warn her to stir clear from your Dad or else....!
No, we can't handle it like this.

But thanks anyway
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 5:19pm On Oct 27, 2021
zakkxx:
Young man don’t believe everything your mother told you because she want to have total control of the money you are sending! Don’t send any dime to your father through your mom!! Continue to send money to him directly!! This are some of the lies women tell to make u hate their father and like her the more!! Even if it is true, advice him and pray for him but continue to send more money to him!! If you refuse to listen you will become a dad if u are not already one and your children will do it to u and u will know how painful it is!! Please send more money to the man!! For training u? More money please!!
Young man? Some of you are funny.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by InvertedHammer: 5:29pm On Oct 27, 2021
idrezee:
They have no such rights.
If he saved all the he spent on them he would have been a wealthy 85 year old, He should have beem able to afford a younger wife. But he served his family diligently and never chetated on their mum but now their mum is too old to sleep with him but he still has sexual urge, what do you want him to do?
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Marry a second wife officially.

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Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by cococandy(f): 5:30pm On Oct 27, 2021
ojasweb:
Uncultured. Stinks.

Around 40 and her son (not first) is 40 plus.
Love when it’s women it becomes uncultured but when it’s men it natural.
Keep lying to yourselves.

Your opinion doesn’t change that fact though. Men decline sexually before women. Past 50, most of you need a blue pill to keep it up.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by pocohantas(f): 5:34pm On Oct 27, 2021
cococandy:
Love when it’s women it becomes uncultured but when it’s men it natural.
Keep lying to yourselves.

Your opinion doesn’t change that fact though. Men decline sexually before women. Past 50, most of you need a blue pill to keep it up.
Lol. It is on Nairaland I see that men can keep firing till 100. Why then do they see old men with younger brides and ask how he is satisfying her? Is it jealousy or the truth?

Why do we keep reading “Man dies while having sex with younger lover in Abuja hotel.”

Anyway, their opinion changes depending on what agenda they are pushing.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by cococandy(f): 5:45pm On Oct 27, 2021
Most of them don’t realize that many old men who recklessly go after sex and young women do it in a last ditch effort to hold onto what they consider their masculinity. They’ve been convinced that how manly they are is directly reflected on how many women they can get. So even when they are not feeling it one bit, they still want to pump themselves full of dangerous pills and prove points that don’t matter to anyone but themselves.

I wish someone would do a better job of educating them that growing old is okay and a blessing.

pocohantas:
Lol. It is on Nairaland I see that men can keep firing till 100. Why then do they see old men with younger brides and ask how he is satisfying her? Is it jealousy or the truth?

Why do we keep reading “Man dies while having sex with younger lover in Abuja hotel.”

Anyway, their opinion changes depending on what agenda they are pushing.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by bukatyne(f): 5:59pm On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
My dad is 85 and you think am a young boy or a teenager like you.
Wonders will never end.
What if I tell you have had grandchildren, children of now days don't know how to use their brain to think at all
Please get your mother someone to do the chores around the house, visit her kids periodically and also her sisters/brothers.

It is time to be pampered and relax.

She cannot be emotionally stressed and add physical stress to it.

@OP:

No comment, it does not seem like you really see anything bad in what Baba is doing.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by ojasweb(m):
cococandy:
Love when it’s women it becomes uncultured but when it’s men it natural.
Keep lying to yourselves.

Your opinion doesn’t change that fact though. Men decline sexually before women. Past 50, most of you need a blue pill to keep it up.
Taking blue pill doesn't justify your claim.

For several years i have managed advertising selling supplement for people in different countries and conducting research.

I have access to people's search queries on Google and i know what both genders at different ages are looking for.

When you talk about blue pill, the question you should ask is what for?

Most men buy blue pill so that they can last longer. Take note, not that they are not sexually active. They mostly want to go beyond their usual 3 minutes. For a fact, sexual act doesn't have any allocated timing.

Wanting to last longer is a different thing, and that doesn't mean a man is not sexually active. Without the pill, they still perform, they only wanted to enhance their performance, reason for pill.

What i see most women looking for is libido booster, complaining that they don't have urge at all and get dry quickly. Men rarely look for libido booster.

So compare and contrast. The discussion here is active. The discussion is not duration. Do your research. The majority of people who use pill are doing so to prolong their performance. Women buy pill to get in the mood.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 6:50pm On Oct 27, 2021
bukatyne:
Please get your mother someone to do the chores around the house, visit her kids periodically and also her sisters/brothers.

It is time to be pampered and relax.

She cannot be emotionally stressed and add physical stress to it.

@OP:

No comment, it does not seem like you really see anything bad in what Baba is doing.
one of my daughter lives there she's 24
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Teespice(f): 6:50pm On Oct 27, 2021
cococandy:
Love when it’s women it becomes uncultured but when it’s men it natural.
Keep lying to yourselves.

Your opinion doesn’t change that fact though. Men decline sexually before women. Past 50, most of you need a blue pill to keep it up.
Chai.

This one na Technical Knock out
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by cococandy(f): 6:59pm On Oct 27, 2021
Okay
ojasweb:
Taking blue pill doesn't justify your claim.

For several years i have managed advertising selling supplement for people in different countries and conducting research.

I have access to people's search queries on Google and i know what both genders at different ages are looking for.

When you talk about blue pill, the question you should ask is what for?

Most men buy blue pill so that they can last longer. Take note, not that they are not sexually active. They mostly want to go beyond their usual 3 minutes. For a fact, sexual act doesn't have any allocated timing.

Wanting to last longer is a different thing, and that doesn't mean a man is not sexually active. Without the pill, they still perform, they only wanted to enhance their performance, reason for pill.

What i see most women looking for is libido booster, complaining that they don't have urge at all and get dry quickly. Men rarely look for libido booster.

So compare and contrast. The discussion here is active. The discussion is not duration. Do your research. The majority of people who use pill are doing so to prolong their performance. Women buy pill to get in the mood.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Praktikals(m): 7:21pm On Oct 27, 2021
Midas01:
Carry yourself and gerrout of my mention. Shey na only you get monopoly of insulting people's parents.

Don't contaminate my mentions with your low IQ.

Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by bukatyne(f): 7:28pm On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
one of my daughter lives there she's 24
Okay.

So mama shouldn't be involved washing clothes and all sorts anymore.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by dalass(f): 8:29pm On Oct 27, 2021
Icouldhave:
Yours might have wandered and got lost, but mine isn't like that.

He's a well respected man, physically fit and mentally okay.
I salute your well respected old man who according to you:

* Never used to cheat on your mom but now does so with well known olosho grin
* Used to spend money wisely but now money doesn't last in his hands grin
*Eighty five year old using Veg200! ..

The poor old man's mental capacity is diminishing. He needs saving from himself....

Just Google the word "dementia"
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 9:18pm On Oct 27, 2021
dalass:
I salute your well respected old man who according to you:

* Never used to cheat on your mom but now does so with well known olosho grin
* Used to spend money wisely but now money doesn't last in his hands grin
*Eighty five year old using Veg200! ..

The poor old man's mental capacity is diminishing. He needs saving from himself....

Just Google the word "dementia"
dementia might have affected yours but not mine, he's doing perfectly fine.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Eriokanmi: 10:17pm On Oct 27, 2021
Bola146:
Why not read simple English and understand?! How would I say it? I guess you are the one that is not alright lipsrsealed seriously
E dey your bodi
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by dalass(f): 5:20am On Oct 28, 2021
Icouldhave:
dementia might have affected yours but not mine, he's doing perfectly fine.
Bro, you came here spewing trash about your dad about committing adultery, giving his upkeep to a loose woman, yet you say he's perfectly fine!

It he was okay, why the blazes did you put up this topic on Nairalandhuh

FYI mine is late, never experienced the things you accused your dad of
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 6:29am On Oct 28, 2021
dalass:
Bro, you came here spewing trash about your dad about committing adultery, giving his upkeep to a loose woman, yet you say he's perfectly fine!

It he was okay, why the blazes did you put up this topic on Nairalandhuh

FYI mine is late, never experienced the things you accused your dad of
oh sorry for your loss, but hope you don't mind me asking.. did dementia killed yours ? did he got lost at several occasions, he didn't know his way to his house..or forgets his name sometimes.
mine isn't like that, he's strong and vibrant like a teenager.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by dalass(f): 8:45am On Oct 28, 2021
Icouldhave:
oh sorry for your loss, but hope you don't mind me asking.. did dementia killed yours ? did he got lost at several occasions, he didn't know his way to his house..or forgets his name sometimes.
mine isn't like that, he's strong and vibrant like a teenager.
You're obviously suffering from the same disease. It runs in your family.


You came complaining about your father. No one did undecided

I had a Doctor who had a research for Dementia in older people. I learnt about it and saw it in old people. FYI. My father died at home, sharp as ever and buried like the King he was.

You're obviously delusional. I have no further words for you...
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by purples25(f): 9:28am On Oct 28, 2021
bukatyne:
Please get your mother someone to do the chores around the house, visit her kids periodically and also her sisters/brothers.

It is time to be pampered and relax.

She cannot be emotionally stressed and add physical stress to it.

@OP:

No comment, it does not seem like you really see anything bad in what Baba is doing.
I condemned what the man is doing at least twice in my post. But that doesn't mean we should be blind to other things.

What I don't like is how he confidently decided that the old man should not have sexual feelings because of his age. That's an inhumane expectation, and age discrimination.

Also even having the slightest idea of reducing his money to control him. Just Cuz he's old right? That's not good, taking advantage of his age. If you don't like what he's doing, never think like that. Call him and talk to him, same way you would if he was young, strong and paying your school fees. He should still be treated with respect.

I hope you get what I was trying to point out.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by Nobody: 12:32pm On Oct 28, 2021
dalass:
You're obviously suffering from the same disease. It runs in your family.


You came complaining about your father. No one did undecided

I had a Doctor who had a research for Dementia in older people. I learnt about it and saw it in old people. FYI. My father died at home, sharp as ever and buried like the King he was.

You're obviously delusional. I have no further words for you...
hmm died at home, is dementia really that bad.sorry I just hope it doesn't run in your lineage.. or It could ancestral curse.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by okewumi: 1:32pm On Oct 28, 2021
purples25:
Generally, why treat old people like they are already in their graves? We kinda like to see them as corpses that don't have any sexual urge, or need to relate. I think people are silly anyway. Any small thing makes them discriminate. A man grows old, means he shouldn't socialize, means he can't have sex or wear some kinda clothes, means he shouldn't be loud, prosperous and proud.

When you take away the right to live happily from that old woman or man, then you get surprised when they start abusing minors. It's not an excuse, but look at the inhumane way you categorize them. An old man of 85 shouldn't have sexual urge or sex, who gave you the right to decide that, young pup? You think you too will not get old? Because your blood is rushing fresh, you are arrogant, you think you know how grandpa feels in his loins. In fact, I won't insult you.

After condemning the old men and women to the shadows, you get surprised when 85 is caught raping 6 years. Now baba wants to do normally, its not acceptable because he's old. Mentioning his age again and again like he was supposed to become an angel Cuz he got old. That's exactly the reason he does it! You make him feel like he can't be a man with independent actions because he's old.

Not supporting what he's doing though. But you are treating him like a corpse or a baby. Honestly why should I care, because, as a woman, I see ladies of 30 to 40, not even 50, being treated like they are 93 or halfway in their graves already. There is no difference between how a 30 year old and a 95 year old woman are treated. If you are a 30year old woman, you should just call yourself grandma and dig your grave and hide inside. That's how people act. Meanwhile a man of the sane age is still a 'young vibrant man'. Its stupid.d to be honest.

So I shouldn't have spoken up concerning this man. But I have. You can talk to him about it, like you would cautiously do if he was young. Don't think you can use his age to sabotage him. Talk to him with the same fear and respect. And let him make his independent decision. He is a man still. Not your old dying dog who you can reduce rations of food for and control through such.

Nevertheless, what he is doing is wrong.
My formal landlord was 83 years and the man still they fire. The children organise a young widow of 47 to they cruise together codedly for him. I don't know where it is stated that everybody progesterone should not work at that age.
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by danilmo: 12:32am On Oct 29, 2021
okewumi:
My formal landlord was 83 years and the man still they fire. The children organise a young widow of 47 to they cruise together codedly for him. I don't know where it is stated that everybody progesterone should not work at that age.
Read pocohantas and her cococandy comments , all are full of emotions and hear says.. so much concern abt winning online argument with foul words but loosing it realistically.

Take the reality starring at u , Old men take Viagra to last longer not to have sexual urge. The urge is there .

Many old men who retracts from old age adultery do so to respect their wives and kind of not bordering themselves with oloshoo women wahala again. They've seen it all.
Aside that men still dey fire till 100 self ,

Medically testosterone is still actively produced hence still giving men the sexual urge unlike women who has ceased producing oestrogen left to the mercy of insignificant androgen conversion for some maintenance.. at 50 or menopause many women forget sex except wen their husband pressurize them which as well give them sex pains.. no V. discharge, atrophy and co everywhere. Abeg.


Beside the drug ishh, all drugs has side effects, even ur paracetamol, so does it mean those who still take paracetamol are going to die and damage their system as u ladies imply? Nop, Same thing Viagra, u people shouldn't make it look as if it's a poison, all these are emotional reasons and not factual..

That u heard one man died in active service does it rule out the fact that there are 1milloin men who didn't die? cool
Re: My 85-Year-Old Dad Is Cheating On My Mom by danilmo: 12:36am On Oct 29, 2021
pocohantas:
Lol. It is on Nairaland I see that men can keep firing till 100. Why then do they see old men with younger brides and ask how he is satisfying her? Is it jealousy or the truth?

Why do we keep reading “Man dies while having sex with younger lover in Abuja hotel.”

Anyway, their opinion changes depending on what agenda they are pushing.
For every 1 that died in active service there are 1miillion who are still firing. Na that 1 in a million u see to capitalize on.. meanwhile most of those who died in active service have Cardiovascular disorders that could have been triggered by stress act, same as sex is a stress. act
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