Today's episode is titled "YOU DONT EXPLAIN"!
More like playing numb. Something about shutting the noise from people who care less about you and whose thoughts about you can't pay the bills. For someone with a history of childhood trauma, you may find out later about yourself that you have taken a path in your adult phase influenced by your childhood. I am talking about your attitude, your behavior, your set values, your moral perspective... Shutting the noise out from people who may misjudge you every now and then is something you have to be intentional about.
A suggestion, YOU DONT EXPLAIN!
While these decisions may be consciouly taken, there are times they are taken out of fear, anxiety, or even ignorance.
Permit me to share a recent experience with you. So, I was talking to someone around my neighborhood yeah who I see once in a while, apparently we've been neigbours for about a year. This day was our first time of proper "hellos", got to know names and some two hours of chit chat.
From our little conversation, I understood that he percieved me to be a loner, not sociable, prolly a homosexual too because in his words "I have never seen you with a man"
I went over our chat that night which is not unusual of me just to properly capture his thoughts in my colors. One thing was clear, his opinion of me was no news as this would not be the second or last time I would be perceived that way.
Sometimes, people's opinions are correct other times they are wrong. One constant thing though, our perspectives will always be parallel. I honestly just forgive them in advance if their thoughts don't go down well with me.
Back to shutting the noise. As an adult survivor of childhood trauma, sometimes it will be difficult for people to understand why you are the way you are!
You may even come across as archaic or boring in your doings.

Listen to me warrior, I tell you one thing today, no one is you, you went through what you went through in your childhood yourself! Whatever decision you take or make to ensure a better adulthood, you've got to stay resolute no matter how unpopular your methods may come across to other people. Your drive and attitude may be different towards life, it's okay! As long as you know it will make you happier, live peacefully with a better story to your heart's content
It is not that you are weird, no!
It is just that you do not want to lose the power of choice you didn't quite have in your childhood again.
You want to be intentional and have a better adulthood.
.. It is okay if you choose a quiet, serene life if you've had it rough and noisy in your childhood
.. It is absolutely okay if you want to take time to heal from your sexual abuse before you go into a romantic relationship.
.. It is okay if you don't go to clubs, bars or environments that trigger memories you want to keep behind you.
Please don't be hard on yourself or try to seek validation from people who have no idea what you have been through or are trying to do with your life!
You deserve to choose the direction of your life now.
As a matter of fact, see yourself as living the life, someone who is concerned about public health making the list of prayer warriors for the society one point less!
Okay I'm joking... All I'm saying is, these opinions may trigger emotions you might feel but can't explain. Learn to consciously live your life on your terms by shutting the noise! You deserve it. You need to do that for your empowerment and self growth.

THINGS THAT SHOULDN'T INFLUENCE YOUR DECISION TO SHUT THE NOISE OUT.

1. FEAR: do not choose to live a certain way because you are afraid that you may ruin things for yourself. You've got to live past your childhood trauma consciously. Do not say no to love because you are afraid they will abuse you like your childhood abusers.
It's okay, test the waters gradually but don't pressure yourself.
2. ANXIETY: Hey, listen to me, that your parents had a bad marriage doesn't mean you will and you will not with the right mentality. You will be an amazing parent! You will not ruin anything. You do not have to be apprehensive about future events before they happen.
It's okay, go on that date, accept the proposal, make babies, you won't ruin it.
3. IGNORANCE: Dr. David Oyedepo once said, there is no problem anywhere, only a mountain of ignorance.
Please do not commit to a life path on assumptions and ignorance. Do not conclude that you cannot have babies now because of your childhood sexual molestation without a proper medical examination. Whichever way you choose to live your life, please do not make ignorant decisions as a result of your childhood trauma.

HELP YOU COULD NEED TO COMFORTABLY SHUT THE NOISE OUT

1. GOOD FRIENDS: The presence of good friends who would always want the best for you is great to help with some decisions. Friends who would look out for you and spur you to have fun. I personally need someone to literally drag me out to some nice spots because I am too comfortable in my space!
2. YOU: While you may need friends to encourage you once in a while, you honestly need you to decide, make the effort to improve your life. No one can do it for you!
3. POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT: as much as possible, make conscious decisions to keep your environment healthy and positive. If you stay around toxic people, there is every possibility that you may choose a lifestyle contrary to what you need. You may have lost your childhood, but you have an opportunity now to make a difference in your adulthood. Let what you hear, see, where you live, the energy you permit around you drive you in the right direction. And You've got this!
4. TALK THERAPY: I deeply recommend my Talk therapy: I liken talk therapy to a flowing river. The more you let out, the more you are refreshed! Talk about your story, talk about your journey, talk about your process to healing, let out your frustrations and your fails by talking to someone.

[url]. Please Subscribe To My YouTube Channel Here: https://youtube.com/c/OCHANYADMPREZ

If You Need Someone To Talk To, You Can Reach Me Now! https://paystack.com/buy/talk-therapy-wjmlcy
[/url]

Nice

Polynek:
Nice

Thanks Poly nek��