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AfroKnight:
And I love women. They love me too . I just don’t like manipulative women who want to have their cake and eat it.

For some weird reasons you're sounding like pans.ophist to me. Because of this line. You be twins abi una relate, lol?

I didn't even read everything you wrote, because as you mentioned narcissism, I already know what your writeup is all about, I know those personality type well. I can spot them from afar, and I'm their worse enemy. Just move on, your epistle simply means you're seeking sympathy.

We've all been served the breakfast of heartbreak, I don't think one can be an adult without his/her own dosage. Next time, shine your eyes. The world is a not nice place, it's filled with monsters, idiots, wicked people and all manners of oloriburukus. But you need age and experience to learn, and the deeper the cut, the more smarter youl be.

If you know how many ghosting, jilting, middle finger, being milked, heartbreak, disappointment, backstabbing, exploitation, deception, being lied to, manipulation, yabbing, that me pansophist have been subjected to in the name of relationship eh, infact if person break my heart now, I'll wonder where the heart is. I no get heart again. But these experiences made me choose to be good, not nice. I'm not a nice guy. Because the world is filled with evil, being a good man makes a different

Take heart you hear? It's part of growing up. It's not milk and honey. Na your heart she break, not your leg, or your neck. Go and drink with them boys, tell your story make them laugh you a bit. Then the guys will open up and you'll see that your case is nothing. You just start. Next heartbreak won't be as painful as this, then third, fourth, will feels numb. Be a man. If there is such thing as to man up, it is now. Man up.

Magnoliaa:
For some weird reasons you're sounding like pans.ophist to me. Because of this line. You be twins abi una relate, lol?

Lol. Not at all.

Magnoliaa:
For some weird reasons you're sounding like pans.ophist to me. Because of this line. You be twins abi una relate, lol?

Na my second account be that

The other time, you say I be the undercover, now na Mr afro. Since you want to be confused, lemme help you be even more confuse.

@OP, I hope you realize that you will be feeding the so called narcissistic ex' ego with this pathetic, pity-seeking letter.

No man should ever present himself in a pathetic light or desire a pity party. It's bad optics and doesn't develop the psyche. No man is allowed to outsource his feeling of wellbeing to someone else. Instead, a man must be the source of strength when everyone chooses weakness.

As a single, unmarried man, you are the center of your world. No one else is. That low self esteem I pick from your post has to die. I do not dismiss what you feel, but you must use that feeling as a catalyst to grow into something much better.

Work on yourself. Join a gym, you'll feel pain at first, but do not give up. Continue, and you'll be making your brain more resilient. Develop yourself mentally, take your time, every day, to work on a skill. Do not care for what the world has to say, develop your mind and your body for you are the center of your life. Do this for a few years, and you will be proud of the man you become.

Magnoliaa:
Anyway, I hope you have found a little bit of relief from the senselofenac gel the guy above has massaged you with?

Yes dear. Thanks a lot

I believe you'll really be fine. This will pass. It's good as you're pouring out your emotions as well, too. Don't suppress it and you're not a fool for everything you've experienced. Most people (here) have gone through the same as well. Don't blame yourself too hard.

And don't let the pain fester into hate and bitterness and misogyny, okay? You'll be doing yourself a whole lot of harm in the end if you let it.

Just don't deny yourself the freedom of grieving first. You should. Then you can move on to things like healing and happiness and making something of yourself.

Good luck in your business endeavors as well.

Thanks for the soothing words. I'll pull through definitely. But I'm just beginning to hate the opposite gender now. I see through females and I spot the toxic users from a mile away and I steer clear before they get to come close to me. No one wants to love you naturally, if not opportunistically . I'm afraid I may never love , I'm paranoid . I'm trying to surpress this hatred cuz I'm not built like that, I have empathy and I also believe in the good side of people. I just want to focus on my business and be selfish af, til I'm very sane and happy to allow anyone come close or trust them. Thanks again.. I appreciate.

GiantParrot:
@OP, I hope you realize that you will be feeding the so called narcissistic ex' ego with this pathetic, pity-seeking letter.

No man should ever present himself in a pathetic light or desire a pity party. It's bad optics and doesn't develop the psyche. No man is allowed to outsource his feeling of wellbeing to someone else. Instead, a man must be the source of strength when everyone chooses weakness.

As a single, unmarried man, you are the center of your world. No one else is. That low self esteem I pick from your post has to die. I do not dismiss what you feel, but you must use that feeling as a catalyst to grow into something much better.

Work on yourself. Join a gym, you'll feel pain at first, but do not give up. Continue, and you'll be making your brain more resilient. Develop yourself mentally, take your time, every day, to work on a skill. Do not care for what the world has to say, develop your mind and your body for you are the center of your life. Do this for a few years, and you will be proud of the man you become.

Thanks Brotherly. This resonates with my thought process in building myself . God bless you for not dismissing how I feel..it's not "manly" but I can't deny I felt like the way I did.

Yeah, girls are like that . They love the good ol' upgrade; nothing new.

I don't have a lot to say about women. However, I encourage all men - banish the notion and idea of love.

Men function terribly on emotional issues. We make the worst decisions when we are angry, confused, depressed, and even when we are happy we make foolish decisions as in the case of love. Hence, I advise not suppressing or rejecting love but giving it a back seat. Give it a back seat in all your dealings with women!

Writing about your experience is a step in the right direction, nevertheless. However, I encourage you to ignore your emotions for one moment and re-visit the decisions "she" took. You will see on further introspection that it was/is "LOGICAL". You could regard it as a bad move, but from the results of this move, you can see it was/is favorable to her.

Banish the thoughts and promises of love; to a man, they are a source of confusion!

Learn to deal with women on a transactional level. Women are constantly negotiating - trading one relationship for another, cultivating a potential mate by finding a way into his social circle even hoarding men by keeping one or two in-limbo and ensuring other girls can't make any reasonable headway with them by rotating attention between the guys.

Money and material resources are the least valuable items you can offer a woman. Your time, clarity, space, emotions are the most cherished - this is because you use them to produce/generate resources. So, when you are in a state of emotional limbo your money and resources suffer; you are either incapable of replenishing your depleted resources or even worse forfeit such activities because of depression.

Some may assume I am TRP; far from it. I like to analyze issues like a capitalist with regard to economic activity. Can you understand the economic damage a woman suffers if she gets pregnant? You need to sit down for a moment and think about it.

Plenty can go wrong in a woman's life. So much can go wrong and sometimes there is no recovery only hope. Hence, they need to optimize aggressively or else.

pansophist:
Na my second account be that

The other time, you say I be the undercover, now na Mr afro. Since you want to confused, lemme help you be even more confuse.

Lol. I said I suspect you're are? And I clearly mentioned that I wasn't sure. It was just a hunch. Same as now. Sorry, I'm not confused a bit.

Elporo:
I encourage you to ignore your emotions for one moment and re-visit the decisions "she" took. You will see on further introspection that it was/is "LOGICAL". You could regard it as a bad move, but from the results of this move, you can see it was/is favorable to her.

I rationalised it, it seemed logical, but on the other hand it was very selfish. No closure was given . Rather I was treated with disgust and contempt, in a cruel manner. One day I was idealised and the next , I was devalued like I never meant anything.

Banish the thoughts and promises of love; to a man, they are a source of confusion!
Learn to deal with women on a transactional level. Women are constantly negotiating - trading one relationship for another, cultivating a potential mate by finding a way into his social circle even hoarding men by keeping one or two in-limbo and ensuring other girls can't make any reasonable headway with them by rotating attention between the guys.

Money and material resources are the least valuable items you can offer a woman. Your time, clarity, space, emotions are the most cherished - this is because you use them to produce/generate resources. So, when you are in a state of emotional limbo your money and resources suffer; you are either incapable of replenishing your depleted resources or even worse forfeit such activities because of depression.

Some may assume I am TRP; far from it. I like to analyze issues like a capitalist with regard to economic activity. Can you understand the economic damage a woman suffers if she gets pregnant? You need to sit down for a moment and think about it.

Plenty can go wrong in a woman's life. So much can go wrong and sometimes there is no recovery only hope. Hence, they need to optimize aggressively or else.

Wow , the emboldened just opened my mind in a way. Thanks for the enlightenment.

BITTEREX:
I'm EFX . I own EFX and BLueDigit is a company friend and Ally.

Na you get EFX...guy my money dey your hand...I invested my funds in EFX last December and till this moment nothing....

Guy shebi she break your heart...me go break your head if I catch you

Starz825:
Na you get EFX...guy my money dey your hand...I invested my funds in EFX last December and till this moment nothing....

Guy shebi she break your heart...me go break your head if I catch you

I started EFX this year , may.. Now come again... You are forgiven.

BITTEREX:
I started EFX this year , may.. Now come again... You are forgiven.

Jokes apart, do you know the EFX I'm talking about here?

I don't even know what to title this Love movie. Ok, I remembered one now. "Trying to sleep with a broken heart"

BITTEREX:
^{I rationalized it, it seemed logical, but on the other hand, it was very selfish. No closure was given. Rather I was treated with disgust and contempt, in a cruel manner. One day I was idealized and the next, I was devalued like I never meant anything.}

Yeah. It happens to the best of us.

The rug was pulled from under your feet and you hit the floor, heart first. I understand!

You need to see that experience as a part of your story. And, what is a man without stories, who can call himself a man who has no scars?
Whatever you do today should be for your upliftment, expansion, and posterity. We also need to appreciate the dark side of man, because when man is at his darkest; he is most sincere.

When she treated you cruelly, with contempt, and demeaned you; she was most sincere. Yes, it was a terrible thing to do, but as they say; all is fair in love and war.

I admire your courage. I know it took a lot emotionally to share your private thoughts out here. I sensed your story is genuine, and so I engaged using my "true self". I had a similar experience a very long time ago. When it happened, I felt like turning myself inside out. Dude, we have no business dealing with emotions. Man is the sword, woman is the heart. If a man becomes the heart, who has the sword?

Let's keep our fingers crossed; hoping someday you will find the closure you need.

Until then - Dueces!

Hey, what is FPA? And is it this same girl you wrote about here that sent you a video of her moaning? Any reason why she wants to torment you like that?

BITTEREX:
You looked down on me but you're not God ... God lifted me. You rejected me but God accepted me. You hated me (I gave u a tangible reason) tho u hated me from the beginning when I never wronged u but God loved me. You've never loved or cared for anyone truly . if u've ever loved someone it's always because u have a selfish interest to protect. I remember how u insulted me indirectly in SND group because we weren't talking ( I was only observing u) u went about flirting with every guy that came ur way. If i did half of what u did to me, u will never forgive me , not like u are capable of forgiving. You looked down on me because I wasn't ur helper , u never saw me as a lover but u claimed to be my friend and lover but when we weren't talking u showed that u would never support me come rain..

my only bad side was reacting angrily and bitter.. it's because I took enough already and I couldn't any more. I shouldn't have cuz I really cared for u and I'm definitely gonna look for ur number to send u 180k for the damages. I never asked u to repay for my damaged heart and two broken laptops.
You've built ur life around FPA and destroyed ur relationship because u are obsessed with money and independence and the only people u value are "well to do folks".. and u never see far but the present.. once I was down and u got ur place furnished, u moved and and u started devising schemes for how u would dump me. u were never genuine and u've never been. You enjoyed my pain when ever I tried to communicate with you to resolve our differences. You silent me as a form of Manipulation. You threaten to live so I would keep shut about your actions..

may God forgive you for the emotional and psychologically abuse you rendered my mind. Another man will not know who u really are til they come close and just like I was deceived to think u were a good lady who is willing to commit, they will fall for it. I remember how much I tried to settle us, even when I never wronged u but relayed my displeasures to you .. I remembered even how u tried to Have lucky come see you and spend time with you even when we were still dating, he even told you he himself wouldn't allow that as a guy.. but u never cared about ur actions.. but u were looking for what u could gain from him by using him to furnish ur house even if he has to touch u..

You promised me before moving in " EFx , even if we have issues we will settle it and there's always gonna be arguement but we will resolve" .. not knowing u had ur own selfish interest to accomplish. You never pitied me while I struggled and I was in my most trying times in life. I never asked u for money or support, all I needed was for u to be loving. The times I spent with u at ur place I did so cuz I wanted to feel lifted around the person I loved most. I could have been with my friends but I wanted more to be with u . You had ur flaws and u weren't perfect , still I never treated u bad or made u feel worthless. I never joked about ur flaws.. but everyday of my life u mocked me and u devalued me. I wept as a man and I tried to get through to you to make u see what u were doing to me.


You enjoyed snubbin and ignoring me cuz u never valued me or anyone, u never cared for anyone but urself. It's fake loyalty you have for FPA, cuz I know when FPA crashes( soon) u will depart from him and act like you don't know him. Maybe you should also tell him I told you so. Since u always went behind my back to tell him things about bluedigit or about stuffs people post about him.

The only reason why you are with FPA is because u earn from him, he's ur god, because of his status and having students around him makes u feel he is worthy of you, while you treat people like me as gabbage when all I've ever done was to be good , loving and caring to you. Is it my fault that I was just an undergraduate trying to survive in my own little way. were u expecting me to be super suffecient, popular and rich at once? Now this is why you will never love someone genuinely for who they are but for what they can give to you.

You didn't hurt just me, but my mom, my friends and everyone around me, because when I was miserable , they felt my pain. Because of this hurt I developed a heart condition and you never cared. I was hurt Everytime because I felt love for u and I helplessly cared for you . Now I feel for sorry for myself for ever knowing you and for ever getting involved with you and FPA.

You don't see me now but someday you will... someday you will see me celebrated , someday you will miss and wish you treated me better. But I will never look your way. I also hope someday you achieve all your dreams and live happily. I pray you never have to go through this feeling of rejection. Thank you for teaching me another Hard lesson.

Breakfast go reach everybody, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger

BITTEREX:
You dont know the pain of being emotionally and psychologically abused, exploited and dumped . It's beyond just dating , when you were true to someone but they stringed and toyed with you all through till you were drained.

Baba goan rest abeg. Na una dey place women on pedestal. If you like hang yourself. Despite all that's plaguing the nation, na your Ex be your wahala? Giy

Don't

SenecaTheYonger:
Hey, what is FPA? And is it this same girl you wrote about here that sent you a video of her moaning? Any reason why she wants to torment you like that?

For annonymity sake .. FPA is just FPA... and Yes, she is the one bro.. She is a narcissist.. No empathy, no love in them..