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My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Sonnobax15(m): 8:41am On Nov 08, 2021
Yesterday being Sunday, so I went to a match viewing center to watch the football game between tottenham hotspur and Everton... After the first half came to an end, an argument arose between an old man and a young man..The argument was all about the merits and ills of polygamy.. The old man's opined that a man who's married to many wives will have lesser marital Problems than a man who's married to one wife..

While the young man was of a counter opinion, insisting on the fact that a man who has only one wife will always have his peace of mind intact cheesy

Well, I was just sitting aloof, sipping my black fearless small small cheesy. ...But then I thought about a similar scenario happening to my uncle who has only one wife... Their marriage has been blessed with five sons,and of course my uncle is a very well-to-do man...And out of their five sons,three of them studied abroad...

So after my uncle's retirement from the oil company he was working,he sat his wife down and had a discourse with her that he'd love to sell his port harcourt duplex so that he can use the money to build a house in his village here in Delta state...But his wife refused, insisting that everything that my uncle has worked hard to achieve belongs to her son's,that my uncle Shouldn't even dare think of selling anything....That has resulted to a serious pandemonium in their home..And of which my uncle has threatened to divorce her..But his wife has kept on threatening my uncle that she'd wreck my uncle if he should dare divorce her grin.

The wahala has even deteriorated from bad to worse to the extent that their sons has taken sides with their mom..... One time self,they all ganged up and beat their father undecided.

My uncle has filed papers to a customary court,to divorce the marriage, because all the previous efforts he had made to take his bride price from his in-laws have proved abortive as they have been dribbling my uncle undecided. He has vowed to sell everything,his shopping mall,his hostels,his other two storey buildings.....I even heard him complaining to my popsman that his wife has started to sell his cars and other things he left in his house..... Imagine someone who has different storey buildings now has to be a tenant in a two-bedroom apartment..

At this moment,my uncle has been plunged into a state of so much regrets,that if he had heeded to the advice of his kinsmen back then when they were advising him to marry a second wife,this wouldn't be happening to him angry.

cool

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Bigredmachine: 8:43am On Nov 08, 2021
Me I don't know what to say... But who so ever which to buy this FTC can buy for a little token

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Omakraid(f): 8:48am On Nov 08, 2021
It is well. But what made him think it wouldn't have been worse if he had two wives?

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Sonnobax15(m): 8:51am On Nov 08, 2021
Omakraid:
It is well. But what made him think it wouldn't have been worse if he had two wives?
That's the Problem...But something I learnt from the old man's opinion was that a man who has more than one wife wouldn't be subjected to the problem of one wife..Once one of them fvck up,na to pack to the other..Once that one fvck up,na to relocate to the third.. Until their heads go relax grin. Kolo grin

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Meektunz: 8:52am On Nov 08, 2021
This is a serious issue, my advice to him for now is to secure the document of every of his property. This is a time for him to work very close with his lawyer. I really feel for you. Women can really frustrate a man when they want to.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by madridguy(m): 8:57am On Nov 08, 2021
This is a very sensitive issue that requires a very diplomatic approach.

First, your uncle cannot win this battle. Don't underrate a woman and he must not take her threat as a mere one.

The mistake your uncle did was not to study his wife very well when they're still young. I used to tell people, once your wife start exhibiting some characters, the best thing for the man is to start a new family somewhere.

Children are defence for their mother against any enemies, be their father or anyone. So the best time for you to arrange yourself very well is when the woman soldiers " children " are still young. Immediately they matured every woman turn to Aso rock.

I have seen many women planning on how to deal with their husband when old age set for him. By that time the children will be independent so they will just abandon the man and move to any of their son or daughter.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Adamdau: 8:58am On Nov 08, 2021
undecided
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Omakraid(f): 9:00am On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
That's the Problem...But something I learnt form the old man's opinion was that a man who has more than one wife wouldn't be subjected to the problem of one wife..Once one of them fvck up,na to pack to the other..Once the one fvck up,na to relocate to the third.. Until their heads go relax grin. Kolo grin
LOL, what if they ask Bleep up at the same time, will he go for a new wife? The more he goes, the more he multiplies his troubles especially for a wealthy man where no wife wants to be left out when it comes to properties

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Sonnobax15(m): 9:00am On Nov 08, 2021
Omakraid:

LOL, what if they ask Bleep up at the new time, will he go for a new wife? The more he goes, the more he multiplies his troubles especially for a wealthy man where no wife wants to be left out when it comes to properties
. grin grin
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Sonnobax15(m): 9:01am On Nov 08, 2021
Meektunz:
This is a serious issue, my advice to him for now is to secure the document of every of his property. This is a time for him to work very close with his lawyer. I really feel for you. Women can really frustrate a man when they want to.
. angry. Thanks bro

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by ImaIma1(f): 9:18am On Nov 08, 2021
Bottom line...marry a good woman. Two wives with issues will quicken his death.

My father's very close friend and colleague for donkey years confided in my dad that the greatest mistake he ever made was marrying two wives. They all lived in the same house peacefully, but he still regretted it for whatever reason.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by DropsMic(m): 10:29am On Nov 08, 2021
Normal.. They are Nigerians..

Greed is in their DNA

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by everythinggirly(f): 10:29am On Nov 08, 2021
Werey people
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by LaSenior: 10:29am On Nov 08, 2021
cheesy
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by BlackPantherxXx: 10:29am On Nov 08, 2021
angry

What tha hell?

Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by olola4(m): 10:29am On Nov 08, 2021
Marrying two wives is not an option or solution.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Cerebellum: 10:29am On Nov 08, 2021
Eweehh!

So your uncle nah the Man wey build the house wey collapse for our lekki, man dem kiss

Guy, afar nah.. Nah me be your uncle blood son-in-law to his mother ogrin

But seriously, the wife doesn't , doesn't love your so called uncle..she's only there for the money!

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by HEAVEN4444: 10:31am On Nov 08, 2021
cheesy honku dilemma
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by slawormiir: 10:31am On Nov 08, 2021
Damnnn niggar
Isoright.....

This story doesn't add up

And it doesn't hold water

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Hazra: 10:31am On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
That's the Problem...But something I learnt form the old man's opinion was that a man who has more than one wife wouldn't be subjected to the problem of one wife..Once one of them fvck up,na to pack to the other..Once the one fvck up,na to relocate to the third.. Until their heads go relax grin. Kolo grin

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Pidginwhisper: 10:31am On Nov 08, 2021
Nawa Oo!
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by FlipModeSquade(m): 10:32am On Nov 08, 2021
And this is how men end up dead before their time..

Nothing worse than living with an enemy under the same roof.. angry

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Pinkyposh(f): 10:32am On Nov 08, 2021
Both polygamy and monogamy have their own problems, no one is safer, it's all about marrying someone with understanding.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by EmperorTolson: 10:34am On Nov 08, 2021
One wife, one problem.
Many wives, many problems.
Don't be deceived with one wife bleeped up, you'll move to the other.
My student's father had 3 wives and he sent the 3 of them packing on the same day, he's single now.
Had he known is his case now.
Though his children are with him cos he's rich.
Study the person you want to marry and stick with him, forget having more than a wife.

My little advice

On your uncle's matter, the wife is only exercising her right, who knows her influences on those properties. Maybe she has a legal backing. Moreso, his children are mature enough to know what they're fighting for.
It'd be insane for any woman and her children to gang up against there father/husband without tangible reasons.
I think you should hear from the woman too

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Nobody: 10:35am On Nov 08, 2021
Wow
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by dfrost: 10:35am On Nov 08, 2021
I keep saying it that what most people do now is marriage of convenience.

He never had his heart in it, same goes for his wife. It was all about convenience. And the children should go and hustle for crying out loud.

Inheritance, Inheritance, inheritance and people are killing themselves over nothing.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by festacman(m): 10:35am On Nov 08, 2021
There is more to this story than the uncle being a RICH man. It is either the wife is from a wealthy home or she earned big and worked JOINTLY with her husband to put together those buildings. It could be the house he wanted to sell is actually the ONLY house the family has and wife wants to live far away from the village and its wahalas.

Otherwise, why should the man seek permission to manage his OWN investment portfolio by deciding what to sell and what to do with the proceeds?

Every man who worked hard, saved up and invested wisely will be RESPECTED and 'lovingly' TRUSTED by his wife to make further decisions on the family properties. Yes that's it.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by ccollins(m): 10:35am On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
Yesterday being Sunday, so I went to a match viewing center to watch the football game between tottenham hotspur and Everton... After the first half came to an end, an argument arose between an old man and a young man..The argument was all about the merits and ills of polygamy.. The old man's opined that a man who's married to many wives will have lesser marital Problems than a man who's married to one wife..

While the young man was of a counter opinion, insisting on the fact that a man who has only one wife will always have his peace of mind intact cheesy

Well, I was just sitting aloof, sipping my black fearless small small cheesy. ...But then I thought about a similar scenario happening to my uncle who has only one wife... Their marriage has been blessed with five sons,and of course my uncle is a very well-to-do man...And out of their five sons,three of them studied abroad...

So after my uncle's retirement from the oil company he was working,he sat his wife down and had a discourse with her that he'd love to sell his port harcourt duplex so that he can use the money to build a house in his village here in Delta state...But his wife refused, insisting that everything that my uncle has worked hard to achieve belongs to her son's,that my uncle Shouldn't even dare think of selling anything....That has resulted to a serious pandemonium in their home..And of which my uncle has threatened to divorce her..But his wife has kept on threatening my uncle that she'd wreck my uncle if he should dare divorce her grin.

The wahala has even deteriorated from bad to worse to the extent that their sons has taken sides with their mom..... One time self,they all ganged up and beat their father undecided.

My uncle has filed papers to a customary court,to divorce the marriage, because all the previous efforts he had made to take his bride price from his in-laws have proved abortive as they have been dribbling my uncle undecided. He has vowed to sell everything,his shopping mall,his hostels,his other two storey buildings.....I even heard him complaining to my popsman that his wife has started to sell his cars and other things he left in his house..... Imagine someone who has different storey buildings now has to be a tenant in a two-bedroom apartment..

At this moment,my uncle has been plunged into a state of so much regrets,that if he had heeded to the advice of his kinsmen back then when they were advising him to marry a second wife,this wouldn't be happening to him angry.

cool
tell your uncle to get a good lawyer to help him ,u can even contact me on 090960.907.32

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