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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by IreneJane: 12:12pm On Nov 08, 2021
olola4:
Marrying two wives is not an option or solution.
Two wives isn't a solution but like 3 ,4 and above wives will solve the problem .... behold , I planned it from the moment I got engaged to my fiancé, I don't just ask out any lady I can't marry , I have 3 gillfriends on standby for now, if my main fiancé (getting married this December) bleeped up, no fight , no divorce , nothing , I will just be happy to impregnate others .. I have vowed that anything that make me marry second wife, I will continue every year because 2 wives is bad that's why I disagree with my fiancé over court Registry except traditional.... If you like crucify me , but I have seen most of naija girls life , the only thing you need as a man is to be hardworking make this money and never run your mouth like tap when hitting their toto, don't let them know your next move

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by larryking540: 12:13pm On Nov 08, 2021
ebitng:


Bro, it starts from the relationship days. Never worship your girlfriend during courtship or obey her too much.
I pity pussy niggas kneeling down to propose to a girl they want to marry. it stinks to me. Over years, A bad woman will ride on you and turn your children against you.
Another big point is the woman's background. If your girls family never respect their father, Run for your life. Bad background can never make a good home.
Our forefathers died at a very old age because they lived like kings in their own homes.
Their wife's respects and worship them like Gods. There was fears in women then.
Who are you to go against their decisions then as a wife.

if u can create a thread with this well simplify relationship advice do it bro , those who have ears let them hear,
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Nobody: 12:14pm On Nov 08, 2021
ebitng:


Bro, it starts from the relationship days. Never worship your girlfriend during courtship or obey her too much.
I pity pussy niggas kneeling down to propose to a girl they want to marry. it stinks to me. Over years, A bad woman will ride on you and turn your children against you.
Another big point is the woman's background. If your girls family never respect their father, Run for your life. Bad background can never make a good home.
Our forefathers died at a very old age because they lived like kings in their own homes.
Their wife's respects and worship them like Gods. There was fears in women then.
Who are you to go against their decisions then as a wife.
Facts bro all facts before you even decide to make a girl your girlfriend you have to ensure her attitude towards you is in check, if you allow her start disrespecting you she will continue and increase the frequency and extent of disrespect as you continue with her , most guys no go hear they will prefer to suffer to get a girl and be eating disrespect just for pussy…,
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by larryking540: 12:15pm On Nov 08, 2021
IreneJane:

Two wives isn't a solution but like 3 ,4 and above wives will solve the problem .... behold , I planned it from the moment I got engaged to my fiancé, I don't just ask out any lady I can't marry , I have 3 gillfriends on standby for now, if my main fiancé (getting married this December) bleeped up, no fight , no divorce , nothing , I will just be happy to impregnate others .. I have vowed that anything that make me marry second wife, I will continue every year because 2 wives is bad that's why I disagree with my fiancé over court Registry except traditional.... If you like crucify me , but I have seen most of naija girls life , the only thing you need as a man is to be hardworking make this money and never run your mouth like tap when hitting their toto, don't let them know your next move
count me out of court marriage,that's what I tell every lady,and the door is always open ,I don't reward bad behavior , I don't ,,I prefer to swear with African tradition than to enter a court room created by a white man to destroy a black man ,pif she doesn't comply with theses terms the gate is free ,
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by MPESA(m): 12:17pm On Nov 08, 2021
larryking540:

take your time and explore till you meet the right person ,,,you will away have to spend more on her , than she is willing to do ,so bro no need to be afraid take your time and pick the write person be it educated or not or semi educated

Thanks so much bro, I really appreciate.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by larryking540: 12:20pm On Nov 08, 2021
AlphaAlex:
Facts bro all facts before you even decide to make a girl your girlfriend you have to ensure her attitude towards you is in check, it you allow her start disrespecting you she will continue and increase the frequency and extent of disrespect as you continue with her , most guys no go hear they will prefer to suffer to get a girl and be eating disrespect just for pussy,
piussy is the most cheapest commodity u can every get ,sorry for using the terms commodity because our modern lady's made it look like commodity to hawk about ,,
one of my ex whom I dropped a while ago ,intended us to come back but she already killed the vibes yes ,I too love her so she took advantage of the love cylce ,I love her courage but you can't leave a relationship and want to come back anytime you like ,as if say na play ground to toy with ,no vex ,I spelt the NO word ,even the gift way I buy na dustbin I throway some put and the ones way fit the new girl in the picture I give her ,case close ........
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Nobody: 12:25pm On Nov 08, 2021
larryking540:

piussy is the most cheapest commodity u can every get ,sorry for using the terms commodity because our modern lady's made it look like commodity to hawk about ,,
one of my ex whom I dropped a while ago ,intended us to come back but she already killed the vibes yes ,I too love her so she took advantage of the love cylce ,I love her courage but you can't leave a relationship and want to come back anytime you like ,as if say na play ground to toy with ,no vex ,I spelt the NO word ,even the gift way I buy na dustbin I throway some put and the ones way fit the new girl in the picture I give her ,case close ........

Fact is no man should let any woman stress him if she’s not willing to Follow his program or Agenda, men in Nigeria have pampered girls too much now they act like entitled little children.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by madridguy(m): 12:31pm On Nov 08, 2021
Na so my bro.

sylve11:


"Children are defence for their mother against any enemies, be their father or anyone. So the best time for you to arrange yourself very well is when the woman soldiers " children " are still young. Immediately they matured every woman turn to Aso rock."

See this? You're so correct. cool
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by larryking540: 12:34pm On Nov 08, 2021
AlphaAlex:
Fact is no man should let any woman stress him if she’s not willing to Follow his program or Agenda, men in Nigeria have pampered girls too much now they act like entitled little children.
,this is how it is man ,
there are some nationality which u will give cash to ,and they will be so happy ,bro u go shock ,I swear ,gh girls still day try , Cameron girl are also imitating Nigeria girls ,I don't blame Nigeria guy looking for love some where else ,the truth is no body is happy marrying another nationality but na peace of mind everybody they fine not hell
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by emmanuelewumi(m): 12:36pm On Nov 08, 2021
henryobinna:
it doesn't matter for what reason he wants to sell them or whether rental incomes are able to build a new one. The house is his, he can decide to sell it and burn all the money. No one has the right to question his decision/authority on his own properties unless those people gave him money to build the house.


He has the right to sell it, that is why village people are at work
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Nobody: 12:37pm On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
Yesterday being Sunday, so I went to a match viewing center to watch the football game between tottenham hotspur and Everton... After the first half came to an end, an argument arose between an old man and a young man..The argument was all about the merits and ills of polygamy.. The old man's opined that a man who's married to many wives will have lesser marital Problems than a man who's married to one wife..

While the young man was of a counter opinion, insisting on the fact that a man who has only one wife will always have his peace of mind intact cheesy

Well, I was just sitting aloof, sipping my black fearless small small cheesy. ...But then I thought about a similar scenario happening to my uncle who has only one wife... Their marriage has been blessed with five sons,and of course my uncle is a very well-to-do man...And out of their five sons,three of them studied abroad...

So after my uncle's retirement from the oil company he was working,he sat his wife down and had a discourse with her that he'd love to sell his port harcourt duplex so that he can use the money to build a house in his village here in Delta state...But his wife refused, insisting that everything that my uncle has worked hard to achieve belongs to her son's,that my uncle Shouldn't even dare think of selling anything....That has resulted to a serious pandemonium in their home..And of which my uncle has threatened to divorce her..But his wife has kept on threatening my uncle that she'd wreck my uncle if he should dare divorce her grin.

The wahala has even deteriorated from bad to worse to the extent that their sons has taken sides with their mom..... One time self,they all ganged up and beat their father undecided.

My uncle has filed papers to a customary court,to divorce the marriage, because all the previous efforts he had made to take his bride price from his in-laws have proved abortive as they have been dribbling my uncle undecided. He has vowed to sell everything,his shopping mall,his hostels,his other two storey buildings.....I even heard him complaining to my popsman that his wife has started to sell his cars and other things he left in his house..... Imagine someone who has different storey buildings now has to be a tenant in a two-bedroom apartment..

At this moment,my uncle has been plunged into a state of so much regrets,that if he had heeded to the advice of his kinsmen back then when they were advising him to marry a second wife,this wouldn't be happening to him angry.

cool
Your uncle must be a gentle man.

I feel bad for him sha.

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Walkee: 12:40pm On Nov 08, 2021
Imustnottalk:
let leave tradition aside put yourself in the woman's shoe or the children your father just wake up one day that he wants to sell his house and he is going back to village how would you feel about it, what about if the woman has business in city is she going to leave to follow the man to the village
oga my father is a fully grown man, he worked for his properties and can decide to sell it all and use it to buy alcohol or carry dubai model if it so pleases him. It is his sweat. I as man have to work for my own property too.
The woman is supposed to relocate with her husband back to the village If she is not ready to do that she should rent a house.
In my place, you don't even have a house at all of you don't have a house in the village. You will be buried in the bush like a nobody

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by mibrims: 12:42pm On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
Yesterday being Sunday, so I went to a match viewing center to watch the football game between tottenham hotspur and Everton... After the first half came to an end, an argument arose between an old man and a young man..The argument was all about the merits and ills of polygamy.. The old man's opined that a man who's married to many wives will have lesser marital Problems than a man who's married to one wife..
The wife may be wrong but the man is even wronger, Lol.. how can you sell a house in the city and go build one in the village?
How much is house rent in the village compared to the city? And who wants to stay in the village? Times are hard..
once upon a time i wanted to buy a land and I was advised to consult the families of the man that wants to sell to avoid future problems..
Well the lazy children should hustle for their own head

While the young man was of a counter opinion, insisting on the fact that a man who has only one wife will always have his peace of mind intact cheesy

Well, I was just sitting aloof, sipping my black fearless small small cheesy. ...But then I thought about a similar scenario happening to my uncle who has only one wife... Their marriage has been blessed with five sons,and of course my uncle is a very well-to-do man...And out of their five sons,three of them studied abroad...

So after my uncle's retirement from the oil company he was working,he sat his wife down and had a discourse with her that he'd love to sell his port harcourt duplex so that he can use the money to build a house in his village here in Delta state...But his wife refused, insisting that everything that my uncle has worked hard to achieve belongs to her son's,that my uncle Shouldn't even dare think of selling anything....That has resulted to a serious pandemonium in their home..And of which my uncle has threatened to divorce her..But his wife has kept on threatening my uncle that she'd wreck my uncle if he should dare divorce her grin.

The wahala has even deteriorated from bad to worse to the extent that their sons has taken sides with their mom..... One time self,they all ganged up and beat their father undecided.

My uncle has filed papers to a customary court,to divorce the marriage, because all the previous efforts he had made to take his bride price from his in-laws have proved abortive as they have been dribbling my uncle undecided. He has vowed to sell everything,his shopping mall,his hostels,his other two storey buildings.....I even heard him complaining to my popsman that his wife has started to sell his cars and other things he left in his house..... Imagine someone who has different storey buildings now has to be a tenant in a two-bedroom apartment..

At this moment,my uncle has been plunged into a state of so much regrets,that if he had heeded to the advice of his kinsmen back then when they were advising him to marry a second wife,this wouldn't be happening to him angry.

cool
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by marsup: 12:46pm On Nov 08, 2021
MPESA:


This is nonsense, firstly I don't support him selling a choice property to build in the village... Secondly which of the useless future is she fighting? , three of his five children studied abroad probably living there and the said man has other properties probably Worth more than the duplex , She's be selfish here who knows if the so called children are the man biological.

P.s
A round table talk would have better at least they will make other suggestions if they don't all agreed to sell the duplex instead the woman start dey threatening him.
pls next time, you read properly and comprehend, before quoting me. You are entitled to your opinion.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by mitchyy(f): 12:54pm On Nov 08, 2021
OP, i think we have the same uncle or it must be a wonderful coincidence. Same state, same story, same kind of properties wink
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by IamAsiri: 12:54pm On Nov 08, 2021
RightToReject:
This isn't your story. You simply edited someone's true-life family experience she shared on a thread here a few weeks ago, parading it as a firsthand experience. You can't fool everyone.

If you had read all the comments under that person's story, you would have seen his too, not faraway and very similar to that OP's story.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by EmperorTolson: 12:58pm On Nov 08, 2021
babyfaceafrica:
How can you exercise rights on another person's property when they are not dead? Is that not greediness
It could be a joint property na.
Haven't you heard of it before, even there are cases where wife contributes larger percentage of family project

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by OMNIVIRUS(m): 1:01pm On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
Yesterday being Sunday, so I went to a match viewing center to watch the football game between tottenham hotspur and Everton... After the first half came to an end, an argument arose between an old man and a young man..The argument was all about the merits and ills of polygamy.. The old man's opined that a man who's married to many wives will have lesser marital Problems than a man who's married to one wife..

While the young man was of a counter opinion, insisting on the fact that a man who has only one wife will always have his peace of mind intact cheesy

Well, I was just sitting aloof, sipping my black fearless small small cheesy. ...But then I thought about a similar scenario happening to my uncle who has only one wife... Their marriage has been blessed with five sons,and of course my uncle is a very well-to-do man...And out of their five sons,three of them studied abroad...

So after my uncle's retirement from the oil company he was working,he sat his wife down and had a discourse with her that he'd love to sell his port harcourt duplex so that he can use the money to build a house in his village here in Delta state...But his wife refused, insisting that everything that my uncle has worked hard to achieve belongs to her son's,that my uncle Shouldn't even dare think of selling anything....That has resulted to a serious pandemonium in their home..And of which my uncle has threatened to divorce her..But his wife has kept on threatening my uncle that she'd wreck my uncle if he should dare divorce her grin.

The wahala has even deteriorated from bad to worse to the extent that their sons has taken sides with their mom..... One time self,they all ganged up and beat their father undecided.

My uncle has filed papers to a customary court,to divorce the marriage, because all the previous efforts he had made to take his bride price from his in-laws have proved abortive as they have been dribbling my uncle undecided. He has vowed to sell everything,his shopping mall,his hostels,his other two storey buildings.....I even heard him complaining to my popsman that his wife has started to sell his cars and other things he left in his house..... Imagine someone who has different storey buildings now has to be a tenant in a two-bedroom apartment..

At this moment,my uncle has been plunged into a state of so much regrets,that if he had heeded to the advice of his kinsmen back then when they were advising him to marry a second wife,this wouldn't be happening to him angry.

cool



What he needs to do is a DNA test on those sons to determine their biological paternity?

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by RightToReject(m): 1:06pm On Nov 08, 2021
IamAsiri:


If you had read all the comments under that person's story, you would have seen his too, not faraway and very similar to that OP's story.


A typical response of a too clever by half element! Direct your mention to small-minded people like you and make a fool of them.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by RZArecta(m): 1:06pm On Nov 08, 2021
Lawlab249:
A man that worked in an oil company, that has malls littered across the country with multiple storey buildings and a duplex even, but doesn't have a house in his village? This tory no pure, aswerugad! Anyways, for the sake of academic exercise, no law bars a man from selling his property. He does not even necessarily need to divorce his wife to achieve that. Tell your huncle to call me on 0912 7724742, I do help him sell those stuffs in a heartbeat, and I can also get him his divorce. He can also setup an NGO, donate everything he worked for to the Foundation to be held in trust for the specified objectives. If he wishes to setup a Limited Liability Company and transfer title of those properties to the Company (wherein none of his family members will be shareholders/directors), I can help him do that. Or he can simply Will those properties to any charity and don't say a word about it till he dies. He should ensure that the will is registered at the Probate and that the Executors are reputable firms (not individuals). If he wants EFCC SCUML Certificate for anything, he can call me.

But I urge you uncle to find a way to put his house in order. Women should stop making life difficult for men. grin
the bolded is very possible and I've witnessed it even in my village
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by FORWARDEVERLY: 1:27pm On Nov 08, 2021
Op.. some if not all the children of your uncle is not his sperm.. the OLOSHO wife played away match.. when a woman says "Her son(s) " to her husband.. better prepare for DNA test..

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by shantti(m): 1:49pm On Nov 08, 2021
I don't understand how this is an issue. The odds favours the man cos all those things are his properties unless he registered it in his wife's name which will then be his undoing.
I don't understand how men could be this weak.
If the wife and kids are too stubborn use solders to drive out the demons in them. Also Set an example by disowning one of the sons since they want to be useless.
Please and please, in this 21 century, you don't need your in-laws participation in order to formalise a divorce. Simple go to any customary court and you will be surprised on how easy it is

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Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Babalola0920: 1:49pm On Nov 08, 2021
Women don't love me especially after getting married for year having kids, then she will let you know she doesn't need you..

FOLLOW ISLAMIC VIEW ON MARRIAGE

I pray for BIG MONEY me na 4 I go marry INSHA ALLAH and have a big HAPPY FAMILY, ANYTHING ANYONE BRING THERE ARE PEOPLE TO COUNTER FROM OTHER SIDE
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Andremalan731: 2:01pm On Nov 08, 2021
The children ganged up with their mum to beat their father on top the father properties
Seriously

There is more to this story than what you are telling us
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by babyfaceafrica: 2:02pm On Nov 08, 2021
EmperorTolson:

It could be a joint property na.
Haven't you heard of it before, even there are cases where wife contributes larger percentage of family project
But it isn't stated in the write-up. If its joint ownership, that's a different case.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by qtguru(m): 2:55pm On Nov 08, 2021
Two wives ke, 1 Nigerian lady is enough headache
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by EmperorTolson: 2:56pm On Nov 08, 2021
babyfaceafrica:
But it isn't stated in the write-up. If its joint ownership, that's a different case.
No, it wasn't stated.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by qtguru(m): 2:59pm On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
Yesterday being Sunday, so I went to a match viewing center to watch the football game between tottenham hotspur and Everton... After the first half came to an end, an argument arose between an old man and a young man..The argument was all about the merits and ills of polygamy.. The old man's opined that a man who's married to many wives will have lesser marital Problems than a man who's married to one wife..

While the young man was of a counter opinion, insisting on the fact that a man who has only one wife will always have his peace of mind intact cheesy

Well, I was just sitting aloof, sipping my black fearless small small cheesy. ...But then I thought about a similar scenario happening to my uncle who has only one wife... Their marriage has been blessed with five sons,and of course my uncle is a very well-to-do man...And out of their five sons,three of them studied abroad...

So after my uncle's retirement from the oil company he was working,he sat his wife down and had a discourse with her that he'd love to sell his port harcourt duplex so that he can use the money to build a house in his village here in Delta state...But his wife refused, insisting that everything that my uncle has worked hard to achieve belongs to her son's,that my uncle Shouldn't even dare think of selling anything....That has resulted to a serious pandemonium in their home..And of which my uncle has threatened to divorce her..But his wife has kept on threatening my uncle that she'd wreck my uncle if he should dare divorce her grin.

The wahala has even deteriorated from bad to worse to the extent that their sons has taken sides with their mom..... One time self,they all ganged up and beat their father undecided.

My uncle has filed papers to a customary court,to divorce the marriage, because all the previous efforts he had made to take his bride price from his in-laws have proved abortive as they have been dribbling my uncle undecided. He has vowed to sell everything,his shopping mall,his hostels,his other two storey buildings.....I even heard him complaining to my popsman that his wife has started to sell his cars and other things he left in his house..... Imagine someone who has different storey buildings now has to be a tenant in a two-bedroom apartment..

At this moment,my uncle has been plunged into a state of so much regrets,that if he had heeded to the advice of his kinsmen back then when they were advising him to marry a second wife,this wouldn't be happening to him angry.

cool

Personally I'd prefer to will those out to my kids, those houses will be an asset in the city, the children can't go to the village, but to each their own.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by treziMcCarthy: 3:13pm On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
That's the Problem...But something I learnt from the old man's opinion was that a man who has more than one wife wouldn't be subjected to the problem of one wife..Once one of them fvck up,na to pack to the other..Once that one fvck up,na to relocate to the third.. Until their heads go relax grin. Kolo grin

There's a point here, I remember wayback in my university, having one gf was putting me to depression everytime we have small issue, I will be calling and begging, she will be doing guy up and down, until I started dating 3 to 4 girls, once one misbehave, I no go even remember her again, no attention to her, I Don Channel my energy on the next one, that's how I was free from emotional stress, be like I go marry 3 wife o ajee
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by IamAsiri: 3:35pm On Nov 08, 2021
RightToReject:



A typical response of a too clever by half element! Direct your mention to small-minded people like you and make a fool of them.

Really! I am not a "too clever by half element" and I was not out to "make a fool of you". And mind you, I am not "small-minded" and don't blast people this way you blast. Patience would have required you to actually go to that so-called thread you quoted in order to ridicule the OP. I wish people wouldn't always try to make other people feel low because they themselves made an error of judgement.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by etibaba(m): 3:40pm On Nov 08, 2021
Why is this rubbish making front page again? I believe i saw this about a month ago.
Re: My Uncle Is In A State Of Dilemma. by Lokojatoofar: 3:42pm On Nov 08, 2021
Sonnobax15:
That's the Problem...But something I learnt from the old man's opinion was that a man who has more than one wife wouldn't be subjected to the problem of one wife..Once one of them fvck up,na to pack to the other..Once that one fvck up,na to relocate to the third.. Until their heads go relax grin. Kolo grin


Let him go and marry more wives na. Since more wives is solution to problems. His flawed reasoning is why he cant even make good decision in choice of wife. Or he prolly was fucking around dashing whores his money only to now start selling the ones the wife was using to console herself all these years grin grin. He should go and marry more land et us hear word. They misbehave when young only to start acting like victims when they grow old

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