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Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

GboyegaD:
It depends on how they sync up with their faith. If her believe of the bed undefiled implies until the vows are shared before God and the congregation as a witness, she has every right not to move in after traditional.

Both parties have a right to define what they want and how they want it.

Swinger60:
Whatever works for the couple ooo.


for me, I have never been a fan of church wedding, I only wanted to trad wedding, do court and go home and rest.

So, after trad wedding, I told my hubby "Oya oooo Let's go". my sister brought my bags, I entered car, and off to my husband's house and village.

The thing is Couples should always do what works for them.

ogascomax:
As a Christian after your traditional marriage it is important that you do the church aspect of it. Since you are a Christian it is important that the church blessing rest upon your marriage.
Note before; I am not concerned about those ceremony that involve spending. Do your traditional marriage, take your ring to your church, let the pastor or Rev bless both of you and go home. No be by force to pay for hall and cook food. That is where people are getting Church marriage wrong. They only equate Church marriage to spending by doing all those things. If you have money for gown, wear your gone and the main his suit then go and bless your union and it ends there.

yuping:
The problem we have is that we don't believe in our self just because its called church wedding does not mean is going to happen in a church, during the traditional wedding pastors are also invited and they make prayer is that not enough for church wedding?

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

shantti:
Mama wey Sabi na im u be, I like that. But what if you parent had had contrary views,what would you have done

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

overdrive:
Wedding traditionally is our culture. Church wedding is oyibo man culture. C'est finis.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Elporo:
My sisters moved in with their husbands after traditional. I have 3, 2 are married (trad, court, church) with kids

Once tradiitonal marriage is done. Girl is your wife. That nonsense na eye service.

Iamvictor:
Mention a place in the Bible when this was mentioned.
Traditional marriage is the right marriage. Church wedding or white wedding whatever you call it is white man's form of traditional wedding.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

Hemanwel:
I know the bible talks about consummation of the marriage, which is, doing all the necessary things you need to do, including paying of bride price.

To me, that means God already recoginizes her as your wife the day you pay her bride price. The so-called white wedding or church wedding is just to follow the band wagon.

Swinger60:
Whatever works for the couple ooo.


for me, I have never been a fan of church wedding, I only wanted to trad wedding, do court and go home and rest.

So, after trad wedding, I told my hubby "Oya oooo Let's go". my sister brought my bags, I entered car, and off to my husband's house and village.

The thing is Couples should always do what works for them.

Mariangeles:
E go better make una do everything the same day. Wedding by day, and trad/reception by evening. Onye richaa, ya lawa.
Na the new style now. E dey save stress, and cut costs.