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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by bolaji777: 12:18am On Nov 17, 2021
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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by HonestFriend: 12:22am On Nov 17, 2021
Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

Oh u got it wrong here... Giving your husband money has no strings attach to it..

Marriage is not for kids.. No matter how educated you are, marriage has no business with your education.. If u feel you re education marriage will get u..

Have u seen a psychologist that has been married 3 times... Lol.. Will u go to such person for council?

The problem I see here is that the wrong person has money more that the right person due to there mentality.. But they both lack understanding, they don't lack love and then insecurity kicks in..

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Verysmart101: 12:25am On Nov 17, 2021
baby124:

The man has to be very humble. Some men will be dirt poor and walking around with ego, doing everything to destroy what the wife has accumulated so that he will be better than her. They can’t see past their ego. That building on what she has will be to the benefit of their family. A woman has to be wise and know who the husband is before parting with huge sums of money.

Some will even dump the woman that helped them once they make it. Because they want someone who does not know their poverty story. So, Don’t blame women who don’t part with their money.

Women generally know how to manage money far better than men. A wise man should seek his wife’s advice if she is successful. She must be doing something right.

Men always trying to prove to their peers that things are still great even when they are struggling. If you perfect humility, contentment and a lack of need to show off or compete in this life. You will go very far.

Go to clubs and see men who don’t have jobs spending their wives money on bottles to impress people who don’t care. Dem plenty. Kings of fake life.

Wat about ladies who dump guys who paid their fees at d uni? U don't talk about how ruthless some of ur gender could be.See once one crosses the bridge and gets to marriage,the lady should have d benefit of the doubt cos it's her husband.if u don't trust him y agree to marry him in d 1st place when there are angels everywhere? When you say 1+1=1 pls practice it to d end and not being one sided.Me I don't ever pray to be in such a situation but if it happens and my woman fails to understand? I won't fight her buh the love won't be d same again
Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by cococandy(f): 12:37am On Nov 17, 2021
truthsayer009:


You are wrong, even if a man does the whole house chores and doesn't bring in that income there would still be friction. I suggest you start being honest with yourself once in a while.

Leveling up means higher income, doing house chores will only appease your wife for a short period, the initial Joy would fade away in 3 months.
If their financial needs are met in that arrangement and the responsibilities are fairly allocated, Why should there be friction?
All this telling someone to be honest with themselves Just to avoid admitting that y’all want women who contribute financially while being 100% the home keepers.

Women can see through y’all’s bullshiet. That’s the reason for the friction. You want to eat your cakes and have it.
Consider telling yourself that truth

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Penboy: 12:48am On Nov 17, 2021
greggng:
Is in women dna. They don't play with their money. Let me give you two example . I met this lady while she was doing her waec . I started taking care of her from that point to university level . One day I had some financial issues and she gave me 8k to enable me travel for business. Long story short .
.when we had issues, she visited my sister to tell her that she gave me 8k of her hard earned money . My sister became angry with me. It now seem they both ganged up.i told my sister that she should remember I trained her with my hard earned money ..fed her and bought cloths for her. So isn't that my hard earned money ?

Second incident happened with another lady. I paid for her accommodation and ensure she was well taking care of. I ensured I kept all the tells of whatever I spent on her. One day I decided to ask her for 500naira credit cos I was in a farm in remote area..she asked me to send my account . She didn't get back too me . When I got back to lagos I confronted her on the reason why.she treated me that way...she gave me a shocker .

She said, what have I done for her in all the years she has been with me....immediately I became angry and reached out for my file ..

I brought out all the teller I used to send her money . Suddenly she now said .I am a woman ...that I keep record of everything. It takes a great mind to understand women . This two incident makes me feel.sorry for any man that rely on.women




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You see that.. "what have you done for me line" or "did I force you to do it"..

Hehe...

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by MarketDispatch: 12:50am On Nov 17, 2021
Wish the richest woman in Nigeria (Alakija) can tell this lady how she made her marriage a success.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Tajbol4splend(m): 1:19am On Nov 17, 2021
Man and Woman can never be equal no matter how you try, you just can't cheat nature

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Apst: 1:26am On Nov 17, 2021
Amotolongbo:
A rich wife can spend on her husband at will. It happens often.
Tonto Dikeh did it before (“she said so, I wasn’t there o).

One’s partner should not be turned to maga most especially when there is a pride at stake in the part of the husband anyway

I experienced it first hand tonto dike was a rare case(only God knows wat happened under) my ex wife can never give me a treat of 3k but she can dash out 20k to outsider. Its worst to the extent I will give her idea force her to do tins that gives her money she would dash any outsider involve 10-20k but I won't even see #500. Wat broke the camels back I spent all my salary for the month on house expenses and NEPA bill came up 7 days to month for her to pay 2k she was crying over it. For those who will say I was married for money before the marriage she had some debtors owing her to the tune of 5 million I took the case to the zone 5 command and the people where meant to pay about 1 million and she enveloped money for some men of god to the tune of 50k but I never got a dime. All thru the marriage the insults and assault was too much if she adds 2k to expenses for the month the whole street will know. Marrying a woman wealthier than u in these part is an early grave

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Caseless: 1:46am On Nov 17, 2021
Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

The reason he needs loan is stated below.

Is this reason not just enough to ask your wife for money? She wanted him to be ambitious and he's doing that via her support. He's not asking for free money, he's asking for loan. She should have granted that and see how he handles the funds before concluding he's less ambitious and only there for her money.
He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans. I wasn't willing to do so and it became war.

He can get loan from an outsider. Why can't he get that from his wife? Undertaking project does not still show you the guy is ambitious and his only sin is just earning less?

The lady was actually consumed by what she was told before marriage and she came prepared to deal with any demand from him, hence her tough stance.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Nobody: 1:46am On Nov 17, 2021
cococandy:

Why have you given up the idea?

And while you’re at it, what kind of 50/50 are you in support of? Because to most guys (not you specifically) 50/50 to them means that the wife plays provider too. Otherwise they consider her to be a burden or a leech.


Different reasons, 50/50 for me is mostly about finance, in reality it's around 70/30 or 80/20 depending on the financial capability.

- I believe people want to be treated fairly and share the responsibilities of their relationships, many women I have spoken online & offline believe they are already given 50% of themselves by going through the process of child birth, so how dare you ask them to even bring their own money after going through all that stress for you. They believe asking them to bring anything else is unfair.

- Nigeria still remains an highly traditional society who still maintains the concept of ‘culture of entitlement’ that the man is expected traditionally to be the full provider. Having a sense of entitlement from women is believing that they deserve certain financial privileges and being arrogant about getting them, which includes feminist or non-feminist, all women want to do is to live soft life, get a man who is going to take care of them, pay for vacations etc. All this online brouhaha between men & women doesn't matter offline.

- Some women want to genuinely help financially by chipping in once in a while, but they want to have the privilege to do it only when they feel like. A man who is fair would be naturally helpful around the house, but your major role is to put food on the table, once that is missing, you are less of man whether you accept it or not.

So realistically that 50/50 won't work for Nigerian ladies, I have adapted to this reality, knowing that it is one sure way to keep women happy.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by bigbossila: 1:55am On Nov 17, 2021
Can u imagine.. you married a useless person and all of a sudden you want him to step up in a broad day light and be like ubama story..
Keep dreaming.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Rahkman: 1:58am On Nov 17, 2021
Seun:
For whatever he needs. Men who are rich give money to their wives all the time. If a man is rich and never helps his wife financially I don't think the marriage would work, but it's usually not an issue because men are expected to provide for their wives. I think she was the defacto breadwinner but as a woman society had not equipped her for the role so she failed at it. The same goes for the man. I bet he didn't know how to use seduction to extract cash. grin
oga mi shey u go do giveaway this Christmas?
Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by yusluvad(m): 1:59am On Nov 17, 2021
Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.
That's it...
Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by PeachtreeReside(f): 2:08am On Nov 17, 2021
Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.




There is a distinct possibility that he married her so she could be his lottery ticket..


If she didn't encourage him to be more ambitious than he is, she won't be a good person or partner


I don't think it's fair to apportion more blame to her over the marriage breakdown. If you are refused a loan from the bank, you don't go blowing up the bank right?



He resorted to emotional abuse and stuff which is a buzz killer .

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Diamondcluster1: 2:23am On Nov 17, 2021
Please help me!!! I wish to rob Peter to pay Paul and also buy Mpruku Mpirim please
Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Diamondcluster1: 2:31am On Nov 17, 2021
I see the spirit of Mpuru Mmiri and Sopuru Sosomi hovering around here, may the spirit of Mpuru Mmiri cast and bind marikasika skelebobo skeskeroboske
Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by InvertedHammer: 2:37am On Nov 17, 2021
Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home
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She can give him money for haircut, pedicure, manicure and shopping. Afterall she earns more. So why won't she give him? Aren't men and women supposed to be equal again? Or is it only when it is convenient for women? I stand with feminists.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by nwaimoroseyaho: 2:42am On Nov 17, 2021
The worse thing you can do to yourself as a woman is to marry who you are more experienced and richer than and who is not educated in the name of love.
As a graduate (woman) don't ever marry a man that is not educated, his ego and inferiority complex will kill the relationship in the long run.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by joyandfaith: 2:52am On Nov 17, 2021
Pierocash:
A woman can earn more than man in the Western world and there will still be peace in the marriage.

In Nigeria here, a woman doesn't even need to earn more than the man before their ego begins to play out. Nigeria women believe that once they can be financially independent ,they don't need a man so they start acting rebellious and arrogant.

I tell myself,even if she earns more than me,I won't ask her a dime of her money,I will play my role without looking at her purse. By so doing, I will know if she is a supportive wife,or parasitic one


Western world with plenty divorces. Human nature is the same worldwide. If a woman is earning more the man should step up either professionally or financially or both. Some men are wretched mentally and they are not ready to improve themselves even professionally.
Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Saefgg: 3:14am On Nov 17, 2021
Hmmm

Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Judybash93(m): 3:23am On Nov 17, 2021
I've always said there's nothing like equality between women and men. Even when she's earning higher, she still wanted the man to earn higher than her. What happened to men who married women who earned less then them and still stuck with their wives for years untold. If you don't respect him when he earns less and only respect him when he earns more, them there's a possibility that you only respect him for what he has and not who he is. The woman is not the only victim in this relationship though. The man also went through some shiii, let's hear from him..

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Judybash93(m): 3:24am On Nov 17, 2021
PeachtreeReside:





There is a distinct possibility that he married her so she could be his lottery ticket..


If she didn't encourage him to be more ambitious than he is, she won't be a good person or partner


I don't think it's fair to apportion more blame to her over the marriage breakdown. If you are refused a loan from the bank, you don't go blowing up the bank right?



He resorted to emotional abuse and stuff which is a buzz killer .

According to her, i think the man should also have a say before one can judge. What a number of women refer to as emotional abuse is a response to gaslighting initiated by women in the first place..

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by DMerciful(m): 3:24am On Nov 17, 2021
The woman was selfish, call a spade a spade and shun your misandry for once!

When two people get married they become one and should be able to share their resources to help each other. If she cannot help her husband with her money what will she do with it?
Kobojunkie:
All this na story story. What about Senator Kerry and his Heinz wife? Why their marriage no tumble like like OP own? undecided

The woman in this case was married to a immature being is what. There problems were not of wealth but of maturity abeg. undecided

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Judybash93(m): 3:27am On Nov 17, 2021
Seun:
For whatever he needs. Men who are rich give money to their wives all the time. If a man is rich and never helps his wife financially I don't think the marriage would work, but it's usually not an issue because men are expected to provide for their wives. I think she was the defacto breadwinner but as a woman society had not equipped her for the role so she failed at it. The same goes for the man. I bet he didn't know how to use seduction to extract cash. grin

Yes o. They'll be preaching equality up and down until equality actually knocks at the door. Then, they're like... Errrrm

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Belafonte(m): 3:27am On Nov 17, 2021
Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.


Lol. The portion below is right there in the OP. You want an ambitious husband but you don't want to support his ambition. grin

He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Ruggman: 3:30am On Nov 17, 2021
The problem in that marriage started from the beginning and was initiated by the relations who never wanted the lady to marry the man because of her financial success.
If each partner in a marital relationship will understand that they are one, and they pursue the common good of the family these stories will not be there.
But when they allow 3rd parties to influence their union, there will be no genuine love and togetherness.

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Judybash93(m): 3:31am On Nov 17, 2021
At the end women are takers and men are givers. A man wouldn't come and complain about giving his wife money in order to support her dreams. Equality my butt

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Belafonte(m): 3:31am On Nov 17, 2021
He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans. I wasn't willing to do so and it became war

His money is our money, my money is my money.

You loved him yet couldn't help lift his profile when he was struggling and expressly requested from help from you. grin

Women and victim mentality be like 5 & 6

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Belafonte(m): 3:33am On Nov 17, 2021
Judybash93:
At the end women are takers and men are givers. A man wouldn't come and complain about giving his wife money in order to support her dreams. Equality my butt

For real bro. How many wives have money-pit businesses that their husbands fund for no other reason than to not keep their wives idle? grin

Many wives own supermarkets and shops that generate almost no income and in fact, most of these ventures are in the red, yet you don't hear men complain

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Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Judybash93(m): 3:34am On Nov 17, 2021
Tajbol4splend:
Man and Woman can never be equal no matter you try, you just can't cheat nature

Re: Experience Of A Woman Who Was Richer Than Her Husband by Judybash93(m): 3:38am On Nov 17, 2021
Walkee:
the funniest part of the article is "the male ego is very fragile" lol typical twitter feminist always able to move the fault to the other person. A man who actually asked you for loan to fund his project is whom the writer is claiming has fragile ego undecided

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