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your girlfriend lives with them? I swear he fit be say 2 of the brothers sef dey bang your babe. . just try comot mind or you go be back up , you will double your hustle and come and take her away after dem don bang am , they can't unbang her . bro comot mind

If she is not schooling or doing any tangible work or skill, let her go and join her mother in the village na, this type of hardship how long does one have to live on earth sef?

needsansa:
I'll cut the long story short.

I met this girl sometimes in 2018. She was living with her aunt who was not being nice, and early 2020 she returned to her mom. Im fact it was so terrible that and she survived several abuses from her aunt's husband, which she told me. I was actually the main force behind her eventual liberation and relocation to her mom. We've been together all through.

Then, mid this year, things went rough with her mom, and the poor woman returned to the village. Then she landed with this family friend of theirs(not related, but their mothers are old friends). This family lives a stone throw to her mom's place.

She's told me before she joined this family how their last son was troubling her for a date, but she has been refusing. Then mid this year she moves in with same family. It is a family of 3 boys. She would always be the one cooking for the family. Sometimes, she would have to cook and wash for the same boy and take food it to his house (which is a short distance from d family house). It did not stop there, anytime they are broke, the mother would send her to go and beg the same guy for money (teasing her that she has a way of collecting money from her son).

If I had d means I'd have also gotten an apartment so we could have more time together, but things neva set..I dey hustle nor be say I lazy, but soon sha God go perfect am.

I know what and what could have happened in all this drama but I want to gear from my agbas in the building - how should I go about this matter. Thank u.

Don't worry u can yab me

Your situation is quite complex.

It is a rare opportunity for you to see your fiance in a very tight situation and how she'll handle her commitment to you.

Now that she's been talking to you about how they've been hassling her about date, ask her if it's not better she just go ahead and date the boy or boys, then see how she'll react, not just immediately but consistently tell her that you understand her situation.

If she decides to pack out, even if it's to nowhere then this will tell you that you have a wife there.

If she cries after some weeks of resisting going along with the family she's staying with and then give in to the pressure, thank God for your life and thereafter, move on. Your own will soon show up.

Don't be sentimental with this thing at all, for your own good.

If she caved in to the offer from the boys in that family, don't hate her for it, it's just that she can't handle the pressure that comes with life.

The moment you take your mind away from that tough scenario, things will begin to fall in place if you know what to do.

Now, about yourself and your future. Women can be loyal to the point that their strength can carry it, beyond that point, you are on your own sir. So, define the future you want for yourself.

Life is not a rocket science, God loves all creatures, irrespective of your spirituality now. However, you can take your spirituality to the next level with God.

What do want in life? You need to know how to get it.

Nobody becomes anything in this world without a higher power! The world is a war zone, you must fight, but who will be your captain of war is the issue!

If you want Jesus to be your captain of the host of heaven, make up your mind, if you want to patronize babalawo, make up your mind. Each has its different end.

You don't need Jesus to make it materially in this world, but if you want peace in this world with your wealth, you can't do without Jesus!

However, after this world, without Jesus, you'll feel stupid when all of these hustles are over.

So, what do you want to become? Get the blueprint from Jesus and the rest of your story will become history.

Malory:
They have been doing it already. Forget long story

u re not nice at all

After reading, I wondered what the goal of this episode is

needsansa:
I'll cut the long story short.

I met this girl sometimes in 2018. She was living with her aunt who was not being nice, and early 2020 she returned to her mom. Im fact it was so terrible that and she survived several abuses from her aunt's husband, which she told me. I was actually the main force behind her eventual liberation and relocation to her mom. We've been together all through.

Then, mid this year, things went rough with her mom, and the poor woman returned to the village. Then she landed with this family friend of theirs(not related, but their mothers are old friends). This family lives a stone throw to her mom's place.

She's told me before she joined this family how their last son was troubling her for a date, but she has been refusing. Then mid this year she moves in with same family. It is a family of 3 boys. She would always be the one cooking for the family. Sometimes, she would have to cook and wash for the same boy and take food it to his house (which is a short distance from d family house). It did not stop there, anytime they are broke, the mother would send her to go and beg the same guy for money (teasing her that she has a way of collecting money from her son).

If I had d means I'd have also gotten an apartment so we could have more time together, but things neva set..I dey hustle nor be say I lazy, but soon sha God go perfect am.

I know what and what could have happened in all this drama but I want to gear from my agbas in the building - how should I go about this matter. Thank u.

Don't worry u can yab me

Alaye you better be concerned about making money

You can give her something if maga dun pay you shaaa
But guy I fit bet my right thumb they are banging that pussssssssaaaaaay already.
Tale heart

Focus on your life brother, I didn't bother to read your write up, but see women as fun object & never take any of them serious, they can disappoint you at any point ,... With women just keep an open mind to any outcome.

Muzikluva:
You can imagine the guy oh! Coming to seek advise from those who barely know him or the girl sef. She stayed with him all through yet he wants to throw it all away. Instead of him looking at ways to take her out of there, he is seeking validation to dump her and shouting “thank you” all over the thread like a robot!

walai the op no get sense... People who doesn't understand their struggle just said dump her and weyre is saying he has moved on.. that means himself don tell himself sey this two people dey run shits .. so why come here to ask for advice

needsansa:
Thanks bro. I appreciate

Maybe you think it's a lie. I dey laff you.

If you have supposedly moved on, why do you want our advice?

needsansa:
God bless u bro! It is somehow painful, but this is d best I can do for myself - move on.

There was a the she told me that the same guy saw my photo and referred to me as being ugly. And she had to remove my photo from her phone background photo.

Damn!!
No vex boss

needsansa:
I dropped d ambition already

so why are you here disturbing us ?. Many of you can't brush your teeth in the morning without coming to ask for rubbish advice .

needsansa:
I'll cut the long story short.

I met this girl sometimes in 2018. She was living with her aunt who was not being nice, and early 2020 she returned to her mom. Im fact it was so terrible that and she survived several abuses from her aunt's husband, which she told me. I was actually the main force behind her eventual liberation and relocation to her mom. We've been together all through.

Then, mid this year, things went rough with her mom, and the poor woman returned to the village. Then she landed with this family friend of theirs(not related, but their mothers are old friends). This family lives a stone throw to her mom's place.

She's told me before she joined this family how their last son was troubling her for a date, but she has been refusing. Then mid this year she moves in with same family. It is a family of 3 boys. She would always be the one cooking for the family. Sometimes, she would have to cook and wash for the same boy and take food it to his house (which is a short distance from d family house). It did not stop there, anytime they are broke, the mother would send her to go and beg the same guy for money (teasing her that she has a way of collecting money from her son).

If I had d means I'd have also gotten an apartment so we could have more time together, but things neva set..I dey hustle nor be say I lazy, but soon sha God go perfect am.

I know what and what could have happened in all this drama but I want to gear from my agbas in the building - how should I go about this matter. Thank u.

Don't worry u can yab me

She is for the highest bidder.She doesn't have a choice.

SmellySperm:
They've been banging her since. You should be more concerned about poverty alleviation

This man you bad aswear...

needsansa:
That's not gonna be a loss. I've been trying to withdraw for some time now but she's been somehow emotional, and I don't want to be tagged a heart breaker. I already have enough reason to move on

See this life eenh, is either you chop breakfast or you give someone breakfast.
— either ways, breakfast must be served.

Since you said we are free to yab you:
You are very very stupid!�

As for the advice, I have none. Manage the insult bro.

needsansa:
God bless u bro! I've moved!

That's the best thing to do.

Is painful bro, but look away. You need help more than relationship.

bro this kind matter na 50/50 see lemme tell you, living her now go make you a wicked person. you saw how she was been treated by her aunt and you drew her away from there. and right now she is in another mess which at this moment you do anything about it. if i`m you this is the best time to show her love and if they have slept with her it not her fault because as it is she has no where to go and you re not financially stable so just roll with it till you ok to bring her out of the position she is. dont listen to all these ones forming alpha male main while they ozo of bbn. bros encourage her now or better still give her money as to make her avoid been tempted...... no let all these fools fool you

Op you no get but you dey bang d poor girl. Na why you dey give her wrong advice. May thunder faya you!

needsansa:
God bless u bro! I've moved!

Just like that? Do you think its all poor ladies that are of easy virtue? What gave u the impression that she has slept with the man? You listening to sadists who cannot get any lady to commit to them hence their frustration?

Onyiiobi7735:
That's the best thing to do.

Wicked soul. A time when she needs a friend and shoulders to Lean on, you advising him to move?

Valuc:
walai the op no get sense... People who doesn't understand their struggle just said dump her and weyre is saying he has moved on.. that means himself don tell himself sey this two people dey run shits .. so why come here to ask for advice

Thats d problem with immature men. And the guys telling him to leave the girl fit dey hustle 500h oloshos as dem no fit corner any loyal lady

ABANGWABOI:
The way all this small small lover boys marvel me on nairaland eeh..
GF not wife.. and you think you can control her or have an opinion on what she does...

Mcolumo come and talk to this kid..
Davash22 come and talk to this kid

That is why it is good to date a girl that is some years junior to you so that you can control her as the senior.Also If I pay her allawee for upkeeps,she will be under my beck and call.Unless she is not accepting my gifts

needsansa:
I'll cut the long story short.

I met this girl sometimes in 2018. She was living with her aunt who was not being nice, and early 2020 she returned to her mom. Im fact it was so terrible that and she survived several abuses from her aunt's husband, which she told me. I was actually the main force behind her eventual liberation and relocation to her mom. We've been together all through.

Then, mid this year, things went rough with her mom, and the poor woman returned to the village. Then she landed with this family friend of theirs(not related, but their mothers are old friends). This family lives a stone throw to her mom's place.

She's told me before she joined this family how their last son was troubling her for a date, but she has been refusing. Then mid this year she moves in with same family. It is a family of 3 boys. She would always be the one cooking for the family. Sometimes, she would have to cook and wash for the same boy and take food it to his house (which is a short distance from d family house). It did not stop there, anytime they are broke, the mother would send her to go and beg the same guy for money (teasing her that she has a way of collecting money from her son).

If I had d means I'd have also gotten an apartment so we could have more time together, but things neva set..I dey hustle nor be say I lazy, but soon sha God go perfect am.

I know what and what could have happened in all this drama but I want to gear from my agbas in the building - how should I go about this matter. Thank u.

Don't worry u can yab me

very soon it will be former, cos Belle go soon show, marriage things uploading

needsansa:
I'll cut the long story short.

I met this girl sometimes in 2018. She was living with her aunt who was not being nice, and early 2020 she returned to her mom. Im fact it was so terrible that and she survived several abuses from her aunt's husband, which she told me. I was actually the main force behind her eventual liberation and relocation to her mom. We've been together all through.

Then, mid this year, things went rough with her mom, and the poor woman returned to the village. Then she landed with this family friend of theirs(not related, but their mothers are old friends). This family lives a stone throw to her mom's place.

She's told me before she joined this family how their last son was troubling her for a date, but she has been refusing. Then mid this year she moves in with same family. It is a family of 3 boys. She would always be the one cooking for the family. Sometimes, she would have to cook and wash for the same boy and take food it to his house (which is a short distance from d family house). It did not stop there, anytime they are broke, the mother would send her to go and beg the same guy for money (teasing her that she has a way of collecting money from her son).

If I had d means I'd have also gotten an apartment so we could have more time together, but things neva set..I dey hustle nor be say I lazy, but soon sha God go perfect am.

I know what and what could have happened in all this drama but I want to gear from my agbas in the building - how should I go about this matter. Thank u.

Don't worry u can yab me

Guy lock up ... That family friend do press press everywhere...move on

Why the unnecessary worry, cos they will surely bang and the girl will still pretend nothing is happening, untill Belle show l. Oga move on

needsansa:
I'll cut the long story short.

I met this girl sometimes in 2018. She was living with her aunt who was not being nice, and early 2020 she returned to her mom. Im fact it was so terrible that and she survived several abuses from her aunt's husband, which she told me. I was actually the main force behind her eventual liberation and relocation to her mom. We've been together all through.

Then, mid this year, things went rough with her mom, and the poor woman returned to the village. Then she landed with this family friend of theirs(not related, but their mothers are old friends). This family lives a stone throw to her mom's place.

She's told me before she joined this family how their last son was troubling her for a date, but she has been refusing. Then mid this year she moves in with same family. It is a family of 3 boys. She would always be the one cooking for the family. Sometimes, she would have to cook and wash for the same boy and take food it to his house (which is a short distance from d family house). It did not stop there, anytime they are broke, the mother would send her to go and beg the same guy for money (teasing her that she has a way of collecting money from her son).

If I had d means I'd have also gotten an apartment so we could have more time together, but things neva set..I dey hustle nor be say I lazy, but soon sha God go perfect am.

I know what and what could have happened in all this drama but I want to gear from my agbas in the building - how should I go about this matter. Thank u.

Don't worry u can yab me

It looks like OP is the intruder

needsansa:
God bless u bro! I've moved!

I don't think it is a good idea to move on because of mere suspicion, moreover can you possibly get another babe that no man is already nacking,given the probability is very high that those family members may be nacking her but because she told you already they are disturbing her means she respects you and wants to convince you that they are not nacking,which I believe is true,but if you ignore her and play jealous lover it may push her to the arms of the intending nacker and she will do that out of anger and spite,just continue to be the chief nackee and also try to improve your financial status because you really need that more than a few minutes of nackings.

Dem don dey knack already, just focus on your hustle, e go soon pay

She's your gf and you are her bf

The boy too na bf

Did you not read the article that she was abused?
What if she's also been abused in the current place she is?
Some things need "deep reasoning" not generalising..

Why didn’t she leave like she pulled out from the first incident??