bukatyne:


Thanks for the response.

The bold summaries your solution to the OP using the redpill template.

The problem is that if he is a Christian, that advise is void because he only has one legitimate means to meet his sexual need: his wife.

He also cannot divorce her because she is unwilling to meet his sexual needs.

This is where her parents & spiritual leaders come in if he is insistent he doesn't want to cheat on her.

Stories like these get to me: We are against adultery yet we want to sexually abuse our husbands and hold them to ransom.

I get your point but spiritual leaders and her parents NEVER need to know our bed troubles. It's a slap to my mudafuckin face that I need to tell my pastor(who shouldn't know every detail of my life) and her parents( who already gave me the reins to take charge of their daughter) that my wife is not fuqin me. That's some weird ass shiit.

Second point is once the woman knows you are a staunch Christian who won't ever divorce or take drastic measures, why should she change? That's how many men just 'accept her like that' and try to condone her excesses and trust me, she will do more to that man. Once, she knows you cant curtail her excesses, why should she respect you? I have seen men like this in marriage. They lament everyday because they are pastors and they must not divorce or take hard steps to correct their wives wrongs. So they die slowly inside a loveless marriage.

So should he die inside a loveless marriage because she refused to change?

Eagle360:

It is just determination and affection to her, likewise not forgetting the vow we shared.
She is loyal, why hurting her and put curse on myself.
We do quarrels when we started the journey and she do promise to change but when I don't see the changes. I let her be.
At least we still dey do it.

A wife or girlfriend that is not giving you toto to fûck when you want is not loyal.

Stop simping.

Iyaebe:
Have you heard of counselling junkie? work on your mindset

Getat, Olosho counsellor!

Timekeeper:


Stupid comment as usual.... You are always trying to stay relevant and unfortunately you are not...


So out of point

I thought I was the only one who noticed it...
Her comments are ALWAYS outta point...

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

I don't understand how someone will be begging his wife for sex, like wtf.

If you think you can use sex as a tool against me, then that is the end of sex between us. I go lock up completely till thy kingdom come.

I have a heart of dove which can turn to stone in a twinkling of an eye.

pappilo:
I used to be married and suffered from the same issue.

We lived together for like 2 years before marriage and we had a fantastic sex life. Almost immediately after we got married, sex life stopped being great but it wasn't bad. After the first baby, it deteriorated a bit more. It was like going to work when we tried for a second baby i.e. wake me up from sleep to have sex with the sole purpose of conceiving having calculated her fertile days.

After 2nd baby, sex dried up. I tried to reason with her on a few occasions but all to no avail so I eventually looked outside and never looked back. I lost interest in her totally and the outcome was divorce.

I honestly think this refusal of sex thing has something to do with how comfortable a woman gets. When you get married, they know you are stuck with them and either consciously or subconsciously, start to withdraw their sexual services.

Now I have like 6 girls I am running concurrently (God forgive me) and the one that came closest to refusing me sex is the one I let live with me for a bit. The rest wey na come and go, dey gimme steady sungbàlaja. Even when dem dry, we go use lube. I quick wake up from my slumber pursue the one wey wan turn landlady for house.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. At my big age? Never Again will I let any woman run format on my head!

Real men still dey this country. Na ma you be.

It is better you check if she get satisfied whenever you have sex. Most time it is because of not being satisfied that push to making some strain excuses

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

lmao tiri gbosa and boli with groundnut for you

after4:
The last time i checked, I didn't know you exist, can you remain the same?

Marry a selfish girl? Some of you don't even understand your partners are humans, flesh and bold, just like you.

Smithroll44:
You can tell her make she give you hand-job so you can feel relief or give yourself hand-job if you don’t want to cheat on her

Na mumu man him be. Him no de watch American film

LofP:

Daddy four is waiting for you, kindly leave Nairaland and attend to him.

he doesn't need you to drink Panadol for his headache.
If my comments hurts you so much that you can't bear it anymore, say it and don't hide under the daddy four that is having so much fun reading some stupid comments.
Wow!! He just gave me thumbs up for this comment.
Reading with him is so much fun

luminouz:

I get your point but spiritual leaders and her parents NEVER need to know our bed troubles. It's a slap to my mudafuckin face that I need to tell my pastor(who shouldn't know every detail of my life) and her parents( who already gave me the reins to take charge of their daughter) that my wife is not fuqin me. That's some weird ass shiit.

Second point is once the woman knows you are a staunch Christian who won't ever divorce or take drastic measures, why should she change? That's how many men just 'accept her like that' and try to condone her excesses and trust me, she will do more to that man. Once, she knows you cant curtail her excesses, why should she respect you? I have seen men like this in marriage. They lament everyday because they are pastors and they must not divorce or take hard steps to correct their wives wrongs. So they die slowly inside a loveless marriage.

So should he die inside a loveless marriage because she refused to change?

I don't understand how someone will be begging his wife for sex, like wtf.
If you think you can use sex as a tool against me, then that is the end of sex between us. I go lock up completely till thy kingdom come.
I have a heart of dove which can turn to stone in a twinkling of an eye.

Eagle360:
You will adapt with time.
It seems you just get married
Responsibility self never hit you, wey you go lose appetite for sex
My own if we had sex on Monday and on Thursday I made approach, she will remind me that we just had sex on Monday, that how many time are we going to be having sex in a week
Even during lockdown that I suppose to be enter without restrictions, complain too much.
She is lazy in sex and I accept her like that, cheating is not an option for me. I love my wife

I thought sex is sweet for everyone abi. I don't understand o.

slimjohn2k5:


You are wrong bro. You cannot just go and meet Ur wife to open leg because your penis stand.

You need to make her happy and put her in the mood. I was thinking like you till I found my way out and I am happy with it

How did you find your way?

Marriage is a exam that you can't seem to get the result.

akpunda86:


Bros u and me dey same shoes easy ohhh I have to get a matured damsel outside.mine is 3 years no sex

hmm this is serious

kilisi:


I don't understand how someone will be begging his wife for sex, like wtf.

If you think you can use sex as a tool against me, then that is the end of sex between us. I go lock up completely till thy kingdom come.

I have a heart of dove which can turn to stone in a twinkling of an eye.

It will worsen. Women are manipulative naturally. The will fustrate u with nagging. That y u see some men comes back late to their homes

You might be a fine looking man op, but something is missing and that's why you cannot cheat. That thing davido asked people to send to him.

SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

Then stop lamenting and complaining ...
Just fvck her when she is in the mood ,
Then fvck yourself when she is not in the mood , (aka soapy way )

Case close

Eagle360:
You will adapt with time.
It seems you just get married
Responsibility self never hit you, wey you go lose appetite for sex
My own if we had sex on Monday and on Thursday I made approach, she will remind me that we just had sex on Monday, that how many time are we going to be having sex in a week
Even during lockdown that I suppose to be enter without restrictions, complain too much.
She is lazy in sex and I accept her like that, cheating is not an option for me. I love my wife

Was she like that before marriage or did you tell her you have high libido if she can cope before marriage or you formed spiritual?

MrBrownJay1:


if you dont want to get a concubine to fulfil the void in your life (that your wife doesnt want to fulfill) then accept your fate and be sexually miserable for the rest of your natural life.

gbam

slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

This goes to conform that the woman is the reluctant party in sex unlike the lies we are told about women having higher libido than men. Op learn to lure your wife into it. Use play, gifts etc.

People who knew nothing about your home is discussing your problem and insulting your spouse. There's a reason why we have elders.

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Before you came out to announce your story to the world which means it has gotten to a really bad point. I know cheating is not good but if it comes to the worst to avoid someone committing rape, just find a side chick, so that you don't do something that you will regret in the future.

See a redpiller up there emphasizing on how he loves sex and can't do without it and his women are aware but on their silly thread all of them will be behaving like they will live the rest of their life without women.They condemn what they love so as to appear hard,is that not hypocrisy?

vickydevoka:

It will worsen. Women are manipulative naturally. The will fustrate u with nagging. That y u see some men comes back late to their homes

Two can play the game!

As I said earlier on, I'm a very nice husband but if you push me to the wall, I can turn into a beast and make your life a living hell. I've mastered the habit of killing my emotions and going completely cold when I want to. But that's my dark side that hardly come up except I'm pushed to the wall.
My wife tried it with me one time after our marriage, I locked for over a year. It took the intervention of her mother to change my mind. That's the kind of person I am. During that period, sex was so disgusting to me. I had to train my mind to start loving sex again before our sex life resumed to normal.

Now she dey give left, right and centre!

ogawisdom:


Once a week should be okay

Control yourself

wao so there is now a timetable

samething i was facing bro mine was even worst since my wife took In going to 5months now i have not touch or kiss her talkless of sex so why wont i find solace or cheat on her outside or you want make prostrate cancer catch you.

Guy just remove your boxers, carry your John Thomas dey walker for the house, leave am make e dey dangle

So sorry, I really feel for you. Maybe you should have a tete-a-tete with her to know exactly what the problem is. And if I may ask, for how long has this denial been going on? Is it a recent thing or since you tied the knot?

SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much