slimjohn2k5:
Bro, u are not alone. I beg my wife all the time for sex.

Sometimes she said I always ask at the wrong always, she is tired, etc

I have accepted my faith but what I do to get her now is doing somethings she is supposed to do like washing the toilet, I take professional exams, show her result I passed, when she is happy I asked for sex as the reward.

I buy very cheap things that make her happy and ask for sex as reward. I said cheap things like bolé and groundnut, corn, watermelon etc

Just find a spicing point, I feel they need a little tickle

Some of us are unmarried n do not understand what happens there. This is the reason marriages are crashing. Some see women as sexual tool, so when they see these resistance they say the woman is bad.

At least op was having sex before it stopped, y not ask him what changed. When he was enjoying it we did not know till the place lock

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

Kobojunkie:
A woman married to you is still a human being and not a sex doll or slave. Once you get that into your head, you will be well on your way towards finding a resolution to your marital problem.

If you really don't want to cheat on your wife , then the options available to you are as follows
■ Find a channel through which you can expend the excess energy you carry around with you there self control and discipline aren't lessons only kids ought to learn. Adults benefit a great deal from having such lessons planted in them from childhood, and are still able to learn them. Take up exercise, Sports or a hobby that allows you focus on other things to take your mind off sex.

■ Work on improving the health of your marriage. You and wife can seek out professional marriage counseling to help you both figure out how to help each other in this problem

■ Also consider the aid or a sex therapist as a couple to help you get the best sexually out of each other.

cooooooks:
Patronising.

People should marry someone they are sexually compatible with in the first place.

SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

IJEYdiamond:
Mentally it is affecting u ooo... i am told sex straved men... dey kolo mentally...

Na waooo... Sex matter eheee.... !!

bukatyne:
Very pathetic thread on both sides.

I will just drop this line: anyone not interested or willing to sexually satisfy their partner (male/female) should not bother about marriage. All forms of sexual abuse are wrong:
1. Withholding sex;
2. Exchanging sex for gifts/cash;
3. Causing intentional injury to a partner during sex (outside BDSM);
4. Not making an effort to satisfy your partner;
5. Performing/incorporating acts that is shameful to the other party
6. etc.

Sex (all types) is the thing that done outside marriage is an outright sin. Other activities done together might just be inappropriate or indecent.

@stress: If something is very important to you, you make time for it or re-arrange your schedule to fit it in.

Regex:
It is not as simple as you have written it.

SuperStriker:


That is what I don't want to do. I don't want to go to another woman but I am suffering...Sometimes I feel like I will tear my shirt and start running round the street when that pressure is too much

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

SuperStriker:
Good day everyone.
I don't want to cheat on my wife but she cannot cope with my demands for sex. She even told me to control myself and be more spiritual and I am wondering. If I am not controlling myself, I would have cheated on her long ago. I am a fine looking man with many opportunities to cheat. We only have sex when she's ready and wants it, anything outside that is excuse upon excuse. How can a woman I married be telling me to control myself?

luminouz:

If you like no satisfy your husband. You will come here to cry ni.

Who has that nonsense time to dey beg woman for sex, person wey you pay her bride price? That mumu upstairs dey go wash toilet so his wife will give him some? He said he is even contented with it? Tufiakwa!!! Not in my lifetime.

Anytime we tell these dudes to sharpen up that women respect leaders and men with frame,they will say we ain't shiit but they come online with their marital woes and expect us to give them advice? Is that not madness? How can someone you have been fuqin for so long before marriage suddenly denies you cookie and you had to Goan wash toilet before she gave you some? And he is so proud to say it online? Another Baba dey talk say he uses his professional exams result to tickle his wife onto the mood for sex.

These men will not kee me.

Lastmankc:
This life no balance at all.Nah my wife dey use sex dey pursue me.Your wife doesn't love you.When a woman is attracted to you both physically and sexually,she won't denial you of sex.

Towma:


So you turned your kids product of broken home because of sex?
Imagine if na woman write this rubbish the kind curse nairalanders for curse am.

Kobojunkie:
You are still a child, right?

Kobojunkie:
A woman married to you is still a human being and not a sex doll or slave. Once you get that into your head, you will be well on your way towards finding a resolution to your marital problem.

If you really don't want to cheat on your wife , then the options available to you are as follows
■ Find a channel through which you can expend the excess energy you carry around with you there self control and discipline aren't lessons only kids ought to learn. Adults benefit a great deal from having such lessons planted in them from childhood, and are still able to learn them. Take up exercise, Sports or a hobby that allows you focus on other things to take your mind off sex.

■ Work on improving the health of your marriage. You and wife can seek out professional marriage counseling to help you both figure out how to help each other in this problem

■ Also consider the aid or a sex therapist as a couple to help you get the best sexually out of each other.

BuddhaPalm:
You forgot side-chicks.
The fastest, most efficient option.

HEBEI:
Control yourself.
Sex is not food.

yak:



Both of you need to see a certified counselor not just a religious leader or something like that but someone who's knowledgeable in counseling

airminem:
Good wife...
Just control yourself husband o! Cos if na her body need am always like your body, na so so soo tiredness & stress you go dey form.

Let your woman be the remote control to activating sex. Na you go enjoy am pass aswear.

airminem:
Good wife...
Just control yourself husband o! Cos if na her body need am always like your body, na so so soo tiredness & stress you go dey form.

Let your woman be the remote control to activating sex. Na you go enjoy am pass aswear.

Kobojunkie:
Not every man looks for a way to ruin his marriage. The Op clearly stated he is not interested in polygamy or another woman to pollute his marriage with.

Asour:
"Counseling. Counseling. Counseling. Don't go religious"

So you guys say. But relationship counseling is not an exact science! The variables in human relationships are not modellable & human behaviour/responses are extremely complex.

The tendency to reduce relationship problems to Therapy & counseling without faith is Pretentious!

No Human words is potent enough to change the unprepared.

larryking540:

but is the wife not pushing him to that extends ,80% of men cheating ,na women be the cause