And you are still in communication with someone's wife? You better take your hands off everything that had to do with her! Stop all communication with her before it enters part two! Well done for being a man! But you must not go back to your vomit in anywhere.

Some women are the most confused and complicated beings.
I knew a guy, he told her date as of then that he wants to get married. And she said she's not ready. She was 24yrs of age.
This guy left her, got married to another girl. Right now she doesn't allow the guy to be, she's all over him, and the wife got to know about it which is causing a very big issue in their home.

Lee99:
I would suggest you totally cut off all ties with her.

Best advice u nail it. She is now betrothed so keep off from another man's pot before you get into trouble. Find peace in God and friends and focus on achieving your dream. Yours will come

stevebond007:


Good morning

Good morning sir.

If you were the lady, you'll do the same. There's no time for a lady

garriAndsugar:
Most ladies feel once they are through with school or service, marriage should be next..

That's how one of my female friend too left me.. I just wished her well..

Take it in good faith and wish her well, I'll suggest you forget about her entirely, forget what she's saying, gost her cuz if you're still keeping in touch with her you're the one that will be suffering with depression while she would be enjoying with her man, and let me advise you OP, never sleep with her again cuz I Know she'll be ready to do it with you remember she now belongs to another man

she is just taking her chances
Before she go turn reach 40years

The truth is that bro! FFS Let her go completely move and stay away from things that would make you remember about her and stay away from relationships okay. Someone better and perfect will come for you when the time is due....

Moreign001:

I for marry her while in school abi?

Stop responding to mumu.

captain247:


Best advice u nail it. She is now betrothed so keep off from another man's pot before you get into trouble. Find peace in God and friends and focus on achieving your dream. Yours will come

Simple and short bro

baby124:

You must be a woman to conclude all this about women. Or you just seat down and imagine all this bullshi*te. A woman has at least 5 men at any time after her. Even pregnant women get toasters and grannies too. Some grannies get boyfriends. Lol. Seems guys make up story time to make themselves feel better. Women have a lot more opportunity to cheat than men.

Women at any given point have a lot of toasters but this does not continue past the age of 35.

If it’s you or your sister, will you ask her to wait

Moreign001:
Some women are the most confused and complicated beings.
I knew a guy, he told her date as of then that he wants to get married. And she said she's not ready. She was 24yrs of age.
This guy left her, got married to another girl. Right now she doesn't allow the guy to be, she's all over him, and the wife got to know about it which is causing a very big issue in their home.

they are not "complicated". they are simply greedy and selfish normal human beings.....

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IdreamOfUnicorn:
After four years of being with her you don't have intention to marry her and you expected her to stay put? You want to turn her to lord of the rings

Do u even reason at all.. so he should marry her in school.. or u don’t know how to read.. just wanna comment to look relevant

IdreamOfUnicorn:
After four years of being with her you don't have intention to marry her and you expected her to stay put? You want to turn her to lord of the rings

but if na the guy leave am una go tag men names. So you're saying her decision to leave was the right thing ba?! Anyways it's not a new thing, women are always favoured more in everything. If na man rape woman una go talk but if na woman rape man una go say sebi he enjoy am. No wahala.

Eriokanmi:
Same question I asked one girl last week. She's 23 years old and already getting worried, that she's supposed to be married by now.

Job she no get but she's expecting an employed guy to come for her. I sat her down and advised her to get a life and stop waiting for any man to marry. No guy will marry a liability nowadays. Only a lazy and unambitious girl would be waiting for a Mr right.

For your mind, you think your advice enter her head?? Lol.

siofra:
Oga why are you generalising please?

He's not generalising it's just the truth, it's what happen everytime 85% of the time.

baby124:

You must be a woman to conclude all this about women. Or you just seat down and imagine all this bullshi*te. A woman has at least 5 men at any time after her. Even pregnant women get toasters and grannies too. Some grannies get boyfriends. Lol. Seems guys make up story time to make themselves feel better. Women have a lot more opportunity to cheat than men.

women know how to rationalize nonsense well. thats your gender's specialty. as for grannies having boyfriends thats just utter rubbish - it never happens. You know you are talking nonsense in order to rationalize the hurt from the truth you have heard that its lights out for most women past 35. any guy toasting post 35 woman obviously has a "lets just manage this one until something better comes around" mentality.

cococandy:

They rush to marry mainly because it’s men like OP who still mock them for not being married before 30.

While Biological clock may be an issue, a 30+ lady can have any amount of children she wants.
It’s men who shame them for not being married
And then turn around to wonder why they are in rush to marry.

FACTS ON FACTS.

But Aunty Coco, based on this biological clock thing, menopause is posited to start at 45 upwards, but gynaecologists usually say that the best childbearing range is 22-35. As in, from 35, all your pregnancies are regarded as geriatric and high-risk. And then female bodies are so dynamic that fertility and vitality periods differ greatly for everyone.

The odds are so unfairly stacked against women because if it wasn't for these numbers, I wouldn't even be considering getting hitched anything below 30. Women need to grow and mature too, not rushing into marriage at 24/25 to avoid "time passing"...

Nature no try at all abeg.

Aunty Ishilove na you share this post wey make me see am. Come and weigh in here o.

freesoul12:


Na u dey craze bro.. I would have slapped d hell out of u if i be ur friend for dis mumu statement u just made. Wat she did is bad.. Û will be a loser staying around.. She wants to eat her cake and still have it.. I use God beg u.. Cut ties with her.. Dont entertain any form of communication with her.. She has used u and she still want to continue.. Dont u have ur own value , u seem to be talking like someone with no dignity.. Pls move on,,dats d best respect u deserve.. Supporting her in anyways is a shit.. Ur statement dey annoying guy

i day feel your iq baba mi one girl tried this with me person leave me for her ex because of audio marriage! I closed her matter asap she wan day do friendzone, monitoring and check up. I no day ever get her fucking time because woman plenty out there

siofra:
Oga why are you generalising please?

A reasonable cummulative % of experiences is enough to generalize.
any man from 28yrs n above can easily relate as victims, my appeal to hustling guyz is never carry love for head ... women are like commodity, i.e cash n carry

IdreamOfUnicorn:
After four years of being with her you don't have intention to marry her and you expected her to stay put? You want to turn her to lord of the rings

No b by force to comment....

But if na man leave woman, them go raise yansh up dey shout men are scum. You will see he used and dumped her flying everywhere.

Guy man no get money una say make guy man marry, se make he marry finish make broda muri forga begin dey yansh him wife? Them no dey fit suffer with guys them dey always dey find soup wey don done, when severe abuse starts in the new relationship una to tag men woman beater.

Anyways, na mumu still dey enter relationship when no get money. Make money and these gender will chase you pants down.

iceybux:
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Do u even reason at all.. so he should marry her in school.. or u don’t know how to read.. just wanna comment to look relevant

I no sure say she read anything... Na to comment Dy hungry am...las las na rubbish she talk.

Moreign001:
Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.

I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.

I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.

We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...).
We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..

She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.

So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.

Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites.
Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".

Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.

This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her.
Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys.
Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.

Felt sad for you bro, anyways as a guy man we move.. nothing brings we man down, bro get over it completely

luvmijeje:
See talk! If you are not married you are called names! We are shamed by families and by friends into marriage. We are been told if you don't settled down at 20's forget it at 30's. Society called women in their 30's different names. I understand why she couldn't wait

It takes a very very strong woman not to bend to pressure.

The single lives they are all afraid of is what they later end up with in their 30's and 40's but this time with kids. Is that not foolishness.

Hmmmm....... You're making sense.
So what do you think is the solution?

Moreign001:

I for marry her while in school abi?

Na so some people talk am on this forum say make i marry my girlfriend wey we still dey school.. we're still very young for marriage.. no let one idiot give you bad advice for this forum oo.

Prechgold1180:


Chairman she is 26
Time is running out for her
U won’t think in that direction because he nur Dey affect you

4 years from now she go Dey 30

You ought to have planned life before graduation if you really loved her

U nur give her light day u wan marry her soon
Or u expect her to wait for u till forever

Person daughter give u 4 good years of her life
U Dey here Dey cap nonsense

What if she is 26, will she die if does not marry @ 26, as much as the gurl what she consider best for her, i don't see any reason you have to fault OP considering nigeria factor.
They shared fours as undergraduate, what was so happen wedding on convocation day n children @ nysc sign out, next use ur brain

he has done well wishing her well, i like his friend tho... God bless all OGs

brightfuture24:
FACTS ON FACTS.

But Aunty Coco, based on this biological clock thing, menopause is posited to start at 45 upwards, but gynaecologists usually say that the best childbearing range is 22-35. As in, from 35, all your pregnancies are regarded as geriatric and high-risk. And then female bodies are so dynamic that fertility and vitality periods differ greatly for everyone.

The odds are so unfairly stacked against women because if it wasn't for these numbers, I wouldn't even be considering getting hitched anything below 30. Women need to grow and mature too, not rushing into marriage at 24/25 to avoid "time passing"...

Nature no try at all abeg.

Aunty Ishilove na you share this post wey make me see am. Come and weigh in here o.

1) In my opinion, not everyone has to have kids. If people get married to whoever they want to be with, then kids are a bonus. Not the sole purpose of marriage.

2) while 25 and below is young to get married, maturity varies by the individual. I did get married at a younger age than that and I don’t think I rushed it. It just happened at what I considered appropriate for me at the time. I would consider a woman who gets married at 30+ as also very appropriately timed for marriage. It just depends on how it fits into their life at that time.

3) if you think about it, a lot of women do give birth to the majority of their kids in their 30s. Maybe the first or second might be in their 20s but if they have more, it usually tends to be in their 30s. So I’d advice ladies to not despair and choose the wrong man because of what it considered late or early or on time. You can certainly grow and mature and pick a partner from the multiple choices you have whenever you feel ready.

My angst is with these guys who often speak out of both sides of their mouth.
One minute they are calling unmarried ladies unprintable names, the next minute they are acting surprised that young ladies are desperate to get married.
My dear, I can’t with them.

cococandy:


1) In my opinion, not everyone had to have kids. If people get married to whoever they want to be with, then kids are a bonus. Not the sole purpose of marriage.

2) while 25 and below is young to get married, maturity varies by the individual. I did get married at a younger age than that and I don’t think I rushed it. It just happened at what I considered appropriate for me at the time. I would consider a woman who gets married at 30+ as also very appropriately timed for marriage. It just depends on how it fits into their life at that time.

3) if you think about it, a lot of women do give birth to the majority of their kids in their 30s. Maybe the first or second might be in their 20s but if they have more, it usually tends to be in their 30s. So I’d advice ladies to not despair and choose the wrong man because of what it considered late or early or on time. You can certainly grow and mature and pick a partner from the multiple choices you have whenever you feel ready.

My angst is with these guys who often speak out of both sides of their mouth.
One minute they are calling unmarried ladies unprintable names, the next minute they are acting surprised that young ladies are desperate to get married.
My dear, I can’t with them.

Ladies do not choose men FOR MARRIAGE, men choose women for marriage simply because most women are liabilities and expect the man to "be a man" and take care of family expenses. Also the woman is invited by the man to live in his house and not in the woman's house.

A woman can only choose a man for marriage if household expenses are shared on a 50%-50% basis.

And after a woman chooses a man for marriage, the man is still free to have his flings if he wants.... he has more staying power on the dating market.

Time wait for no one

I'm currently going through this emotional torture.

sureteeboy:

I'll advise you sever all ties with that lady with a very powerful chainsaw.
It's going to look hard at the beginning, but you'll definitely get over her. Should you keep in touch with her, she's bound to start comparing you with the new man sooner than later,especially if she sees some imperfections in the man