I watched with annoying disgust the video of a young boy who was wriggling in pains on a hospital bed due to the brutality meted out to him at school by his follow school mates. Story has it that he was tortured by a group of boys who were cultists. because he refused to join them.

The boy's dad said the cult boys came to his room and started beating him and stomping on him, after which they gave him a substance to drink. Eventually the boy died. This is too much to happen in a secondary school.

Bullying has been a hydra-headed beast from long ago. I also suffered while I was a boarder in a secondary school somewhere in Southern Part of Nigeria.

I had a couple of bad cases but the most painful of them all and that which has stuck in my memory was with the case of a senior student then, called Niyi Lasisi. That's his real name. I don't know if he is on this platform but if this goes viral whereby he sees it, I'd love it.

Niyi made me and a fellow roommate of mine engage ourselves in a marathon slap over a disagreement I had with the roommate. The worst of it all was that Niyi made sure that the slaps were heavy on the 'receiver' else the 'giver' will receive an extra slap as a penalty. It was brutal and arguably the most traumatic experience I had as a Junior student.

I almost quit school even though I was just a beginner but for some reason my Dad allowed me to choose if I wanted to quit or not and I chose to stay. If I see Niyi today, I'll look him straight in the eyes and tell him, "You know what Niyi, You really sucked, I don't know if you still suck now though".

My Dad visited and noticed my bad looking cheeks, he took me to my guardian who also doubled as my housemaster but that was the last I heard of anything about it.

There are many 'Niyis' in our boarding schools; Students who see nothing in deriding and brutalizing their fellow students. They go home and exhibit signs of this anti social behaviors and the parents see nothing of a big deal out of it, thereby releasing them to cause problems for others.

What manner of effrontery would warrant a set of secondary school students to damn repercussions and torture a fellow student up to the extent that the student has visible marks of torture and eventually dying as a result of it. You can imagine how deadly they'll become by the time they get to the University.

Their acts were dastardly and it speaks terribly about the culture in the school; the school might be breeding unwholesome kids for the society. It is good news that the Lagos State Government has shut down the school indefinitely.

Investigations should be carried out to determine the extent of this menace in that school and all those found culpable in the boy's death should be made to face the law squarely.

As a parent, what are you doing in order to introduce a wholesome human being in to the society? Please do not leave the moral upbringing of your child or ward in the hands of the school, you do not know what is going on in the school.

It is great to give your child the best in education but providing all their needs do not make up for their discipline and good upbringing.
Your child is your primary gift to the nation; they either contribute positively to it or they drag it in the mud and it is your responsibility as a parent to put this right.

Paying heavily for school fees is not where the job ends, you might just be paying to have a terror disturb the peace of other kids in same school...literally.

The nation is where it is today because of the family values inculcated in those who have ruled this nation from the onset till now. There is no point pointing one finger at the government for them to do things right whereas the other 4 fingers of yours are pointing back at you saying, "Okay...yeah you are right but what about your own kids, what are doing to make them better"?

You can't be complaining of a bad nation yet you are putting little or no effort in training 'nationable' kids. Your biggest national responsibility is to hand over a roundly trained citizen to the government....that's all. And who are the government? It's you, me and everyone else.

Now you as a parent, don't send your kids to school only to have some ill-mannered untrained kid bully them for you. How can you do this?
Encourage your kids to speak up and speak out no matter how threatened they may be. Ask them questions and demand answers. If you find anything suspicious, scream down the roof, shout, go to the school and make a hell of noise.

Become a lioness defending her cub.

Involve the social media, talk to the police, the lawyers or anyone that can hear you at that time. Don't go pursuing money while your child is being wrecked in school.

This nation has got to be better and it starts from the family circle. If more people put their families right, it will translate to a better nation.

ES

Everything just werey for Naija...Titus sardine is now ₦800. Everything in Nigeria just dey titus. It sardines me a whole lot.

Common hotel don dey give half bar soap and they wouldn't want you interrupt them while dishing out the puzzle. Don't even complain.
Chances are, you’ll hear some crosswords.

I stayed up all night to see where the sun went. Then it dawned on me that sometimes, parents would feel they are good defenders of their children to allow them reach their goal when they click the box 18. May God have Messi upon our sole.

I stopped watching Nigerian movies..dear mister, a lot are Ibuprofaned because Nigeria has a way of taking away your light ...de-lighted.

Nigeria is meant to leave you at zero. To the man who invented zero, thanks for nothing.

I reminisce the past, present, and future walk into Nigeria. It is tense!

chatinent:
Nigeria is not worth being a country.

Not exactly

I remembered a student that committed suicide all because her colleagues said she was ugly...
Bullying is a social pandemic that ravages all around the world from black to white, Parenting is more than just birthing a child it comes with a whole lot of responsibilities

Autosfashion:
I remembered a student that committed suicide all because her colleagues said she was ugly...
Bullying is a social pandemic that ravages all around the world from black to white, Parenting is more than just birthing a child it comes with a whole lot of responsibilities

You hit it right

I couldn't have written it better. @OP, post this on as many social media platforms as you can. I had a talk with my daughter who is in Secondary school because of this Dowen issue. I completely support developing a relationship with your kids and wards that will encourage them to speak up when things aren't going well. It is safe to assume that these boys had been bothering Sylvester for a while before it snowballed into the beating. If he had spoken out earlier, he might still be alive. Ask your children questions about how their day went, as soon as they return. Watch closely for a change in attitude and demeanour. May God fortify Sylvester's parents and loved ones, and give them the courage to come to terms with this tragedy.

chival:
I couldn't have written it better. @OP, post this on as many social media platforms as you can. I had a talk with my daughter who is in Secondary school because of this Dowen issue. I completely support developing a relationship with your kids and wards that will encourage them to speak up when things aren't going well. It is safe to assume that these boys had been bothering Sylvester for a while before it snowballed into the beating. If he had spoken out earlier, he might still be alive. Ask your children questions about how their day went, as soon as they return. Watch closely for a change in attitude and demeanour. May God fortify Sylvester's parents and loved ones, and give them the courage to come to terms with this tragedy.

Thanks for your input.

Speaking out is very important as a lot of kids bottle up things....terrible things at that.

When marriages are broken everyday, the husband and wife who are once best friend would suddenly become worst enemy, before you know they turn children against themselves (father/mother),. ......what did u expect from children under the care of these monsters? Who can only be called mother/father by name, but for other factors , its zero.

Fiscus105:
When marriages are broken everyday, the husband and wife who are once best friend would suddenly become worst enemy, before you know they turn children against their father/mother,. ......what did u expect from children under the care of these monsters? Who can only be called mother/father only by name, all other factors zero

Great input. Thank you

Niyi is clearly in trouble.

Nice write-up, EmekaStanley.

It helps to note that teachers were uninvolved in the lives of the students, and that helped the bullying. Where there is no adult presence, children will do their worst. At least you had the strength to tell your parents. It helped.

We have all been touched by bullying. Some of us here are the bullies and others are the bullied. Remember that.

BRATISLAVA:
Niyi is clearly in trouble.

Nice write-up, EmekaStanley.

It helps to note that teachers were uninvolved in the lives of the students, and that helped the bullying. Where there is no adult presence, children will do their worst. At least you had the strength to tell your parents. It helped.

We have all been touched by bullying. Some of us here are the bullies and others are the bullied. Remember that.

Thanks for you nice input.

Bullying is a mental issue and needs to be addressed by both parents and teachers, starting with the parents.

Niyi Lasisi will bury his head in shame when he sees this

The more intelligent a child is, the earlier they begin to lie and the better they are at it...

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These barbaric acts are predominant in Afonja boarding schools. They are the Most Wicked Tribe in the World for a reason.

Any tribe that can do this to a baby is heartless.

I really feel for that child's parents, it's not easy to loose a child at 12. May God console them.

I see his killers arrested, I see them serving serval jail terms.

This I have seen.

Since evil became so Audacious globally, the good World was lost because Men worldover didn't have the balls to Arise. Wise ones are now fully focused on being permanently Holy and Rapture-ready. Handwritings on the World globally.

Dem plenti oo. It's high time we profiled all the boarding schools nationwide. I still find it hard to believe that some seniors in my children's school were seen watching porn in their dormitory instead of the educating movies loaded on the external storage device connected to their VDU. Glad to know those involved had been expelled already.

I visited Day Waterman sometime ago. One of the teachers was complaining about a student who was toasting her, that he could pay her 2 times her salary, if only she could agree on dating each other.

Youthful exuberance, things you'll look back at and realise they made no sense

Usually the other way round

Autosfashion:
I remembered a student that committed suicide all because her colleagues said she was ugly...
Bullying is a social pandemic that ravages all around the world from black to white, Parenting is more than just birthing a child it comes with a whole lot of responsibilities

I was abused verbally while in school because was an introvert, slow and not goodlooking too. I wonder how I can make sure none of my future kids go through the same ordeal. Homeschooling?

Hmm

Modified

Well you said Los of truth.

I worked with an agency for years before retiring, my boss noticed something about me.

He then asked one day why do I go all in with passion and commitment? And get results.

My response was I have seen evil from the onset while in boarding school... When my strength grew, I started defending vulnerable students from wolves, who were also classmates.

It's the same strength that have grown into something much more efficient and deadlier....

So where oppression in what ever form is am the immune system to destroy it.

Do I have the moral high ground? No
But once my homework is done and their oppression present, it must be eliminated.

This is why I refused to enroll my kid in boarding house for junior secondary school, she can go at senior class if she wishes with the orientation I have given at home and I will constantly check on her and look out for any unusual signs of bullying.
Many parents don't know that their kids are monsters among their peers

Most of the boarding students are dying in silence due to many assaults from the seniors & I blame the schools that attach much importance to seniority. Why would a senior student feel like a god to the juniors? I attended a public secondary school where a junior could return slaps given by any self-proclaimed senior. After school hours, na to go settle or fight outside the school premises.

chatinent:
Everything just werey for Naija...Titus sardine is now ₦800. Everything in Nigeria just dey titus. It sardines me a whole lot.

Lobatan! Talk no more, we can feel your sardiness.

Terrible honestly

My unborn child is not going to a boarding school.

And I'm gonna pull on Jim Iyke on any teacher that tryna touch my child in school.

On my mama

chatinent:
Nigeria is not worth being a country.

Oh please. America that has had at least 28 school shootings by students in 2021 alone. Is it worth being a country?

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