Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school.

They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there.

So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste.

My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us.

So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.

As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America).

Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.

Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

Nothing pains a bully pass make u sound am hot blow for mouth as he is about to use that mouth to rubbish u... Next time he go rethink before he talk.

Even in fighting back, your child can get killed.

Many of us here were bullies, it is a very bad behaviour and if has messed up the mental health of a lot of kids.

It has nothing to do with boarding schools cause even day school children get bullied.

It has to do with failed parenting.

I think parents should also be held accountable for the behaviours of their kids.

That's right! But he must know when and when not to go physical with people.

Nobody can bully my son if I had any.

The only effective fight against bullying is letting your child know you are always there for them and that you are their confidant and their messiah, that’s all! Always give them a listening ear, build their confidence and also make them know you will defend them no matter the situation.

Let them know their right from wrong!

hartoyebi38:

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there. So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? ....
As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America). Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’.

I don't support this parent's approach to "fighting back" at all.

Build your child's self confidence instead. Teach him to understand that his value as an individual ought not to be obtained from how much he or his parents have. Make him understand that those bullying him are instead the defective beings since they seek to find meaning by inflicting hurt on others around them. Tell your children the truth - feed them wisdom- not get them to engage in meaningless battles.

Learning him to bully his bullies only makes him one of them.

Parents should live right as it makes it easy for the child to get the confidence to defend whatever the family economy is.

Contentment is a special recipe for confidence. Nothing builds confidence more than being content with what you have. It also a way to overcome certain kinds of bullying.

It is a very dangerous trend to build a child's confidence around material things. Very very dangerous. A lot of parents are in serious debt all because they want their kids to belong to a certain social class. The funny thing about life is that whatever it is you think you're spending to raise their "confidence", there are people willing to waste your entire net worth on wine and wristwatch. Spend as much as you want but make them understand that there's more to life..

hartoyebi38:
Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school. They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.
He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there. So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste. My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us. So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.
As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America). Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.
Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

wosere awe..iyan a yun lerun re. An average Ekiti boy can hardly be bullied. E si omo na ka jose. My son,who is in pry 5 recently had an altercation with his seniors in Secondary School. He stood up to them without bating an eyelid. I was just laughing when he was natrating it to me. I had to explain to him to accord them some respect but he said that does not include them chasing he and his friends off the football field.

I am teaching my toddler , my son that's is okay if we don't have some things . For instance we don't have a car but most of his class mates families have and he would.look on so long to their cars while we wait for bike . I told him we are fine and no different from them as owing cars doesn't mean they were better off. I said when it is time that we can afford to own a car which is soon we would and if we don't , it doesn't mean we are poor . After all you attend the same school and we pay same fee.
I teach him to be proud of what he owns especially what he worked for . I teach him working hard is good as that is a good path to success .
I don't know where all of this is coming from, but if you ask him what he wants to do , he will say to buy and build big cars . Here what I do , I buy him several toy cars and he builds cars out of anything, name it pegs, slipper, books , his food anything! Rather than feel bad about us not owing a car, he has turn it to his passion .
If anyone has toy cars not used anymore and is willing to gift , I'm all open . My kid keeps getting fascinated with cars and now when we take our bikes , he smiles and sometimes he suggest we walk home .

Parents should build confidence in their kids and encourage to speak up when they do , don't shun them listen to understand.
I feel if parents get more involved with their kids , guiding them all the way , kids will turn out to be good responsible adults .
The best way to fight back is to build confidence not go physically or abusing back .
I am open for toy car gifting ooo ;

Double post , network

For a child to taunt another child for not having a washing machine or a dish washer at home, it's clear that his parents have failed.

Behaviour like that can only be learned from the adults in a child's life.

Ok

Mr journalist, you did not teach your son to fight back, you taught your son to bully before he's bullied.
You're slowly creating a monster.

Oblongata:
The only effective fight against bullying is letting your child know you are always there for them and that you are their confidant. That’s all! Always give them a listening ear and also making them know you will defend them no matter the situation.

I was a victim of bully when I was in jss3, this particular gurl knew I don't talk in class, she my food, beat me there's was a day she broke someone warmer and lied against me, I always feel sad whenever I'm going to school..after out Junior wassce we grouped ourselves, she forcfully joined my group, each group is planning to cook, on this fateful day i and my group went out to get something's,I was very thirsty I bought sachets water ND this gurl harjacked the water, I don't know where the strength came from I beat the hell out of her, people that knows how she bullys me refused to separate us, people were hailing me..this is how she stopped that dirty act..since then nobody der to face me till now, or say anything against me,no matter how old or mature you are I'll confront you!

These evils have come to stay and there is nothing we can do about it. Just make sure your kids have the confidence to report whatever they are going through to you. Na d Koko be dat.

Kobojunkie:
I don't support this parent's approach to "fighting back" at all.

Build your child's self confidence instead. Teach him to understand that his value as an individual ought not to be obtained from how much he or his parents have. Make him understand that those bullying him are instead the defective beings since they seek to find meaning by inflicting hurt on others around them. Tell your children the truth - feed them wisdom- not get them to engage in meaningless battles.

Learning him to bully his bullies only makes him one of them.

No matter the level of confidence a person has,it still wouldn't stop bullies from Bullying him/her. The only way to Fight back an enemy is to actually fight back. You can't ignore that bully forever because the sadistic ones would even delight in the fact that you are dying in silence. So if a bully walks up to you and hits you in the face for no good reason,hit him harder and stand your ground. Do not allow yourself to be intimidated! This world is not for the Weak,only the strong can survive so stop teaching your children to be perfect in an imperfect world.

Who has seen squid game on Netflix here? Life is exactly like squid game. You either kill or be killed,it might sound harsh but that is the REALITY of life. Stop teaching your children to be polite or to treat "People" with respect. Tell them to give respect only to whom respect is due.

My 2 cents.

With the replies about the Down-Sylvester saga, you don't need anyone to tell you that majority of Nigerians are neither Muslims nor Christians(because they fail to practise their holy books). Whatever happens to forgiveness, huh? Moreover,do I need to remind y'all that these are kids, not adults. Kids got into a fight and unfortunately, one lost his life as a result. Why not suggest peaceful and mature ways to go about it, instead of all these warmongering vituperations all over social media?
If we really go by the way of training the minds of our wards/siblings/kids this way(violent means), we will only succeed in not only bringing out the monsters in them but also, we end up fighting another civil war(within adults/parents)!
Honestly writing, I am very disappointed in Christians/Muslims all over Nigeria! Shame on y'all!!

Hm. Ekiti and brain. Very apt. I clap for you.

You earn my respect. I was able to overcome this bully of a thing while in secondary school, just this way. Bullying is an agelong menace

Fighting your snrs back
In boarding school is just like a death sentence esspecially in federal schools

That was the hand I was brought up with.
You can't cry home even though you were bullied or beaten, because you will be beaten again. We were thought to always fight back but don't look for trouble first and when it comes, give them double of it.

I don't have a child yet but I'm going to train them to always defend themselves against whoever looks for their trouble. My children will never be timid.
When they tell you they have this tell them their own is small to what you dad have. shikenah

hartoyebi38:
Bullying is real and a lot of children are traumatised. One of my children came home complaining about how he was being bullied at school.

They kept on taunting him. Do you have washing machine at home? Do you have dish washer? Bla bla bla.

He was branded as inferior. I told him to fight back. We don’t have and there is no shame about it. We were then living in an environment where the light could go for two weeks without PHCN caring if there are human beings there.

So, where do we get light to run washing machine and other gadgets? More importantly, I am from Ekiti where we use ‘laulau’ and ‘kanrinkan’ to wash plates. In Ekiti, we are used to ‘olo ata’ (grinding stone) because grinding machine erodes the taste.

My grandma used ‘ogiri’ to replace maggi without apology. ‘Omi cocoa’ was our juice. The gift of my mother-in-law to my family when we got married was ‘odo’ to pounded yam on banana leàves with bush meat and vegetable to match, before the eateries hijacked it from us.

So, the secondary school mates should not goad my son into all these modern tools.

As God would have it one day, one of the bullies, a girl, came to buy frozen fish in a shop beside my house along Matogun NO ROAD, Oke-Aro (Politicians have been using the road as part of their campaign promises before democracy started in America).

Anyway, immediately the girl sighted my son, she asked “Is this your house?’ And he replied ‘Yes’. Then, she said sarcastically “Eh, so your house has no fence”. My son cried inside, that the following day, he would be ridiculed at school because his daddy’s house has no fence.

I told him, ‘There is need to cry. Where do you expect me, a journalist to get money to fence a house? When you get to the school tomorrow, call the other bullies and give the first jab, saying, “Come o, I saw this girl yesterday at their family ‘s Shoprite’. Stress it very well and once it hits the bully, she would keep quite.

Never tolerate bullies, young or old. Develop a fighting spirit. May the LORD give us all inner strength.

*Ayodele Ale is a journalist, lawyer and public affairs analyst

Source: https://thenewsnigeria.com.ng/2021/12/04/bullying-i-taught-my-son-to-fight-back/

Grinding machine erodes the taste. God bless you abundantly. Africans are so stupid to copy everything. Na so some people will be eating my beloved akpu with fork. Chai. I told my friend I will never do that and I maintained my ground. Why has Chinese people not stopped eating with sticks. Inferiority complex will kill us for this country.

Bullies/trolls pick on people they assume are weaker. Bullying happens everywhere, bullying in schools is just one case. Teach your children to stand up for themselves and others too. They don't have to be violent, there are ways around these things.

Real nigar