Husband closes work 4pm, wife closes 7pm, who should prepare dinner?

Who comes home first.

Perhaps, I believe it is in the freezer...so it will be more of warming it.

One of the above

Who is convenient for

chatinent:
Who comes home first.

......that automatically makes the husband the Chief Cook. E no gel at all

This is not a topic we should debate on.
We already know who has the responsibility.

I be fixing my stomach.

why would a sane man allows his woman closes by 7pm?

so na him go dey baby sit the kids too, weak men bringing simp questions on a daily basis.

They should get a maid shikena

ItsGoodToBeGood:



......that automatically makes the husband the Chief Cook. E no gel at all

Anybody can cook bro.

Nothing like cooking roles.

Husband should be considerate. Wife is human and would get tired after a longer day.

If he's hungry he should fix up something for himself and his wife

chatinent:

Anybody can cook bro.
Nothing like cooking roles.

True but we are African, so don't get carried away

Papa done die..who get money make him bury am.no be first son kill am.

Cooking shouldn't be a hard thing to do
To me, cooking is fun
My girl's a doctor and I'm a keypad hustler
She comes back home late, and she knows I cook for fun so we're good
When she's less busy she'll prepare about 7 different types of meals and store them in the freezer , so we good

Lights up my kpoli in peace

chatinent:


Anybody can cook bro.

Nothing like cooking roles.

Have you watched Ratatouille? "Anybody can cook... "Gusteau

salisuammy:

Have you watched Ratatouille? "Anybody can cook... "Gusteau

No.

Thanks.

If the husband gets hungry, I'm sure he won't wait for his wife to come back at 7pm to come cook for him.

Stephen2324:
Husband closes work 4pm, wife closes 7pm, who should prepare dinner?

If they are sharing the household bills, like school fees, rent, light , food etc... Then the husband can cook if he is good or they eat out.

The wife of course, even if she close 8

Why are you asking the obvious?

Let the husband prepare the damn meal.
It's not written anywhere that the woman must be the one to prepare the meals all the time. In this case, common sense is required to do the right thing.

When they want to be wicked you will hear"we are Africans"
Is it African for a woman to be fully employed,sharing family expenses with her husband or even carrying the family burden all alone?But if she doesn't,you will hear "what is she bringing to the table?"

Yo debate this means you are inherently wicked.yes,very wicked!

If a man earns 40k per month and the wife earns 500k per month who should pay the bills?

I'm guessing everyone would say the man, why?? Because it's "his responsibility"...

We don't care whether or not it's convenient for one party to do a "supposed responsibility" tagged to his/her gender, all we know is that it is his or her responsibility so they should do it even if it's inconvenient or detrimental for them... Even though we can do it, buh because it's not "my responsibility", I won't do it and yet we claim to love the person...

We are so quick to forget that marriage is supposed to be a partnership of two people coming to help themselves become better...
We forget that the moment we say "I do" it's no more a me and them, buh it's now a we and an us...
We forget that the moment we say I do, we become each other's responsibility and what affects one will affect the other...

We have allowed the societals standard to decide how we can or cannot act in our Marriages... We have allowed norms of the past to dictate the happenings in our homes even though it's clearly doing more harm than good....

I then ask a question, when we were joined as one, was the society part of the joining?? Was it man and wife that was joined or man, wife and society?? Then why do we allow the society to dictate the happenings in our Marriages when it's clearly not working??

Am I saying a man shouldn't pay bills?? No!!
Am I saying a woman shouldn't cook?? No!!

What I'm saying is this...
The reason for joining to another is to meet a need and to help out...((at least that's what I think anyway))...
So if you're not willing to help out, then stay unmarried!!!

Using OP's example...
If cooking dinner as a man will relieve stress on his wife/other or better half and help her focus on more productive things, then do it!! It's no big deal...

Same goes for the woman too...((using my illustration))
If paying the large majority of the bills will relieve stress on the man and help him be more focused & increase his productivity...then do it!!!

Don't allow society to dictate...
You and your partner should dictate the happenings in your home...
As long as it works for you, societal talk can be damned...

Stephen2324:
Husband closes work 4pm, wife closes 7pm, who should prepare dinner?

IS THAT A QUESTION? WIFE WIFE N WIFE.
IN FACT HUSBANDS SHOULD ONLY ENTER THE KITCHEN TO REPAIR ELECTRICAL FAULTS AND PLUMBING ISSUES PERIOD.

You can't dictate for a family who to cook, what works for A might not work for B. Just know what is best for your family.

When you're married, you'll realize that some of these questions aren't necessary. The man that leaves work at 4pm can as well decide to go to a beer parlour after work. What you gonna do if that happens?

Men should know who they're getting married to and women should also know who they're getting married to. If you are married to a man that believes a woman should do most of the cooking, then you would be f00lish to expect him to live in the kitchen 24/7 even if he closes work at 10AM.

If my wife will not cook me food, why on earth am I getting married in the first place?

Men have really sunk low. Fuçk.

Stephen2324:
Husband closes work 4pm, wife closes 7pm, who should prepare dinner?

you want to start a war here

let me break it down

Education, social class, tradition and culture, environment and finally how liberal you are

plays a role on how to deal with such a scenario

Education plays a part in making a decision eg a person went to college or uni can open minded to understand that he needs to help to the wife buy simply eg taking out the meat from ridge and boil then wife will do the rest

social class also has influence your decision, middle class and above people can be open minded and financial stable to afford a maid

tradition and culture can influence the decision to regardless of the education and social class

Environment, simply because everyone is doing the same thing you mind feel out of place so you copy everyone what there are doing, regardless of your own personal thought

Liberal thinking this going against what is accepted and doing this your own way

So decision to answer that question in influenced by thoae things i explained and those things differ from person to person

KiNg0G:
I be fixing my stomach.

why would a sane man allows his woman closes by 7pm?

so na him go dey baby sit the kids too, weak men bringing simp questions on a daily basis.

Are the kids not his children, so it is emasculating for a man to be a care giver to his own children?

So if for example the Nigerian couple live in the West with their children where both have to work, the woman works night shifts for a better pay while the husband works during the day so that there will always be a parent at home supervising the kids. She leaves home at 7p.m to return at 6a.m, I guess you will not attend to your children while she is away and get them to wait for their mother for whatever they need and expect her to come back at 6a.m to come baby sit because if you do, it makes you weak.

Every marriage is unique and couples should work with what works for them.

DontBullshitMe:
If my wife will not cook me food, why on earth am I getting married in the first place?

Men have really sunk low. Fuçk.

you are missing the point

the wife hasnt refused to cook

but we are forcusing who get home 1st and what can they do to help the chore/duty of the other since the other one get home 3hrs early

eg hubby would help kids do their home work or make sure they bath, so that when wife get home she doesnt need to do all that

its just helping your other half she will feel more loved becoz you have thought of her


remember the only person who understand your complex issues in your own home is the two of you not society, unless you invite society into your home. some issues are for the two of you to solve based on what works for both of you

what i mean is eg wife get homes and she starts cooking from 7 most likely she finish cooking around 9:30 around 10 you go to bed another duty has started you want s,e,x by that time she would be tired and pissed

she either say she headace or just have s,e,x but she wont enjoy it

but if you little help btween the time you arrive home 4pm and the time she arrives 7pm eg boiling the meat making sure kids bath or getting few things ready for cook

you wont have excuses not to have s,e,x etc she will love you more for considering to lighten her duties

It depends on the agreement between the two parties. Not all men can cook.

Dreytonisback:
Cooking shouldn't be a hard thing to do
To me, cooking is fun
My girl's a doctor and I'm a keypad hustler
She comes back home late, and she knows I cook for fun so we're good
When she's less busy she'll prepare about 7 different types of meals and store them in the freezer , so we good

Lights up my kpoli in peace

What sort of job is a "keypad hustler"?

Stephen2324:
Husband closes work 4pm, wife closes 7pm, who should prepare dinner?

Once their is unity and love, they will cook and store in the fridge and anyone that comes home first will cook or warm the food and even attend to the children

Anybody can cook for both.
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