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Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Kobojunkie: 8:34pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
iamyemiakins:Oh, I was raised like that by my own parents in that same Nigeria, so don't bother trying to turn this into some sort of "us vs them" issue abeg! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Kobojunkie: 8:37pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Ishilove:Lol... Tpia was Tpia. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Regex: 8:48pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
artimisfowler: You said to cut the long story short and still went to write two paragraphs. That's not fair. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by cayorday89(m): 8:51pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
"What did they see in her, someone that is not atteactive", that is too low of you, what she is doing is wrong and at the same time is expected of her, slapping her is not the way to go, just send her back to her people because you lack the emotional intelligence as to how to handle such case especially with you expecting her to still be the baby you used to know like she won't grow. Your pikin sef go dey that age range one day, and besides you were once a teenager or in your youthful days you never experienced such? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 8:55pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
She’s very smart and probably smarter than you guys. For her to know everything happening in the area and also discard Dss. To cut the story short, I just don’t understand what these guys see in her, she’s not a very attractive girl, though she may have kind of oversized backside for her age and narrow hips... Verryy fascinating bits. Na these parts concern me. They are interesting to me, lol - if they are actually true, and simply not the OP's perception. Great advice, by the way, Acidosis. I completely agree with you. The lady isn't necessarily a bad person or a future candidate for failure, single motherhood, prostitution and whatnot like some alarmist and judgemental comments here are making her seem. She simply needs GUIDANCE and ADVICE and watching over. Not the restrictive kind that'll push her further down a wrong way and definitely she doesn't need to be left alone, to end up the way she'll end up. The OP should just establish a connection and relationship with her, be a mentor sort of. The girl is already open to you. I don't see any big deal here. Ask her questions. Converse with her. Know what she'll like to do or wants to be in the future, any goals... and gently motivate her in that part. And like someone up there said, it's NORMAL. Teenagers will like each other and will get attracted to each other, and some will even feel the need to go all out exploring. What'll make the difference is in how you handle it as a guardian. Whether it is your influence that'll hold sway over her or that of her peers, that might eventually push her down a wrong path. And I think you should apologise to her for slapping her, and then change the way you interact with her completely. If she shows no sign of heeding to your guidance after all these, and obstinately want to continue in the way she deem fit, then you can let her go, send her back. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Acidosis(m): 9:15pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Magnoliaa Great input ^ 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by advanceDNA: 9:20pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
artimisfowler: My cousin go dey do house help for my house? Guy.. e no fit happen to me.. The guy even called her house help... |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Saintmary(f): 10:29pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
artimisfowler: By the time she starts commanding your husband, body go tell you. Men don't need a fine face to get down with a girl. Whenever testosterone comes calling, all manner of sense flies out the window. Send her back home immediately. If your husband objects, you should know you're in big trouble. Who advised you to bring fresh girl to your house in the first place? It's like bringing meat to a cat. Sophistication or not, she's attractive and that's trouble for you if you don't return her ASAP. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 10:53pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Acidosis: Haha. I literally screenshotted your own comment. The last paragraph was really so insightful I feel it is something I have to go back to digesting all over again. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 10:57pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
advanceDNA: And house help is a fowl language in your village abi? Nigerian mentality has made us lose the intended meaning of words, we twist everything. I think breaking sentences apart will help eg. House = domestic, help = assist/assistant. So you can’t assist your spouse domestically? Or help your parents around the house? Anyone can be a house helper especially when it’s not their legal home. Next time make distinctions btw helper and maid, servant or slave, choice of words make a difference. You need to grow up. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 11:00pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by advanceDNA: 11:03pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
artimisfowler: U grammar too mush.. If she was that much of a cousin in your heart, you would give her the cousin tag...u called her a house help in the title of your thread.. . and u kept mentioning my house, my house, my house, like she was not family, like she was an outsider....in case you don’t know ur tone of narration sent an “house-girl message” to we the readers.. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Xavier70s: 11:42pm On Dec 10, 2021 |
You are clearly in need of her, I know how easily attached one can get with a house helper, especially when they can give gist for Africa . As a woman , sit her down and explain to her what your noticing , the consequences of her actions and how it will bring her disgrace and send her back to the village .(its always hard to listen at that age ,teen girls feel on top of the world when giving much attention by men 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 12:14am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: If you didn’t think they weren’t true, why would you bother writing us so long a letter? Magnoliaa: No one said there was a big deal here, there doesn’t have to be a big deal before I sample opinions on NL my dear. I also noticed you highlighted someone’s comment about her being smarter than we are without understanding the context of what I meant, I think many on NL are just dumb and immature. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 12:40am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler: Why the fùck are you being defensive and convulsing all over the thread? ''Writing US so long a letter?'' On whose behalf are you speaking? You get beef with me? Ogbeni, gerrout with you and your (likely fake) stories and insecurities. Shey you've gotten a response from me now after modifying your erstwhile asinine insinuation and mentioning me TWICE, saying the same thing. Mtcheeewww. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 12:58am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:I can mention you as much as I want, lekwa ndi fúck. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 1:10am On Dec 11, 2021 |
kobo and magno always beat me to it. smh! una no dey sleep? |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 1:11am On Dec 11, 2021 |
it still wont surprise me if the OP himself no ho be the one to first knack "village aunty" 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 1:13am On Dec 11, 2021 |
kkins25: Who is 'magno?' And beat you to what? What are you still doing awake yourself? 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 1:22am On Dec 11, 2021 |
kkins25:You sound like a demented pervert, look for one of your village aunty to “knack” sick boy. This my “village aunty” go even expose pass you. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 1:34am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler:I am a pervert alright. Sexual abuse factually begins from the victims closest relatives like yourself who has already observed her sexual features. One day, your "Jerome" shall rise when it senses her presence. hopefully, you'd be sensible enough to do the right thing. i. e knack. lol!!! |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 1:37am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:how can i sleep when you're out there on some adventure |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 1:39am On Dec 11, 2021 |
kkins25: Do you even know if I am male or female and what makes you think everyone is sick like you, you already know how you started. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by LilMissFavvy(f): 1:53am On Dec 11, 2021 |
That's why people go for elderly house helps, if you are not ready for drama, then never employ a teen. As long as you employ a teen there will always be drama. According to you she does her chores, so she has some positive sides, but her telling of lies/craftiness is a big NO for me. So talk to her, and monitor her for the next 3-6months, if there is no improvement, then you send her back home. Bear in mind, that the moment you had taken her from the village, you must have raised her parents hopes towards giving their daughter a better future. SO IT WOULD NOT BE GOOD TO SEND HER BACK EMPTY HANDED. If possible give some financial help or establish her, by paying for her to learn a trade, that way, she/her family will feel less devastated when she is returned. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by cybriz82(m): 2:03am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Las las she go elope I know her type.. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 2:12am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler: Never did i know, that i shall find an even greater idiot. instead of praying for my life to cut short, channel that energy into transforming your energy into something we all can be proud of. huh! you want to lock up the eye witness abi? you want to keep the puna for yourself abi? lock up all the boys in your area na, uncle-aunty. The sexual threats to your cousin are; yourself, and neighbours- But you first. lol!! no be me talk am oh its just statistics. considering where you reside and where i do, technically speaking- my life span on average is longer as compared to yours. pray first for longer life before asking God to do my job. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 2:29am On Dec 11, 2021 |
The face of a deluded pervert
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Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 2:54am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler:bleh! bleh!! bleh!!! you took from my Nairaland profile which i put there, and you're feeling like one hacker. You be olodo, real olodo.. just go ahead nd do what you intend to do with your cousin abi na house help. you nd i both know why you see her more as house help than as cousin.. no be konji? for here? |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 3:02am On Dec 11, 2021 |
cayorday89:You talk too much, and you’re clueless, your type is usually empty in real life. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Kobojunkie: 3:12am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler:Again, if you can't handle this young gal... send her back to her parents so they can look after their daughter abeg! |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 3:13am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie or whatever your name, you’re obviously a child, shut your mouth. Wetin person no know pass am. Jobless boy |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 3:16am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Kobojunkie or whatever your name, you’re obviously a child, shut your mouth. Wetin person no know pass am. Jobless boy |
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