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Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 3:31am On Dec 11, 2021 |
cayorday89: This the kind of people you should be telling stuff about EI: https://www.nairaland.com/6372804/13-year-old-aba-house-jumps-down You read that story abi? not someone that gave her Iphone X to the “house help” and plan to send her to the university. You people should be applying small brain and respect to your comments. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 3:58am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Marilyn Monroe and Madonna,I'm sorry but this girl has a free spirit her soul is older than her physical,to her life is about fun and drama nothing attached to it,she still know what she wants out of life though,frankly whatever decision you take to protect your home is alright that girl is not stupid she knows there are limits and boundaries,I'm a man an these are just my words still follow you gut feeling tho.I have raised two adults one 18 male the other 20 female,from my experience raising theses lads so far all I can say is be a realist with her and prepare her for life that's the best protection you can ever give her. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Double0h7(f): 5:04am On Dec 11, 2021 |
OP, is a psycho! Imagine coming online to seek for an opinion and then to accuse the people of giving unsolicited advice 5 Likes |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 8:10am On Dec 11, 2021 |
kkins25: Eyaaa. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 8:28am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler:Its like you're on heat period abi? go and find cow to meddle with uncle-aunty. Sensible ones on this thread all disagree with you. Juju? why not take buhari pic to that babalawo and we all can enjoy the benefit? lol. Don't forget that tomorrow is sunday. Don't accumulate the sin you would carry to church abeg. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 8:29am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Double0h7: That’s alright, I know mental illness runs in your family, via your mom’s linage and you’re so used to psychos. Regardless, let me help your fried brain a bit ‘unsolicited’ means unrequested, not asked for! Now when a person says I want suggestion from Mr X and Mr Y comes to criticise the person. That’s counted as unsolicited because Mr Y wasn’t requested and definitely his criticisms wasn’t asked for. Hail your mom for me |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 8:30am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:vampire and werewolf no fit dey the same dreamworld na!! |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 8:31am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Double0h7:yodey mind the didirin? |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Mordecai(m): 8:45am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Ishilove: You have made my morning, dear. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 8:45am On Dec 11, 2021 |
kkins25: ?? I don't understand what you're saying anymore. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by kkins25(m): 8:52am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:Make u comt from DreamWorld so that i fit enter, i.e. sleep. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Acidosis(m): 10:29am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: Ahhh Thank you dearie, thank you 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Magnoliaa(f): 10:56am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Acidosis: You're welcome. 2 Likes |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by EwuGambia: 11:01am On Dec 11, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:For some reason i find this to be the most interesting comment on this thread ... Not many Nigerians think this way... I admire it. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by ActuaRise696969: 11:42am On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler:You want advise from mature minds, I hope you can handle it. You have made your own mistakes despite the fact that it is hard for you to observe it. Why would you have your family live in such neighborhood? Even if it is your house, rent it out and move to gated estates. That will eliminate these problems naturally. Your observations are perceptions that must be crystallized to facts. Let's say she is 18 years old. 1. She has reached age of consent, so can legally have sex without your consent. 2. At 18 years, you can only advise but not decide on who she dates. 3. Being under your guidance is not similar to being under your parenting. You are not her parent,. 4. Her associations are based on her level of reasoning so to keep any adult in your home, choose people with similar reasoning to you. Solution: Sit her down and ensure that you have mastered your mind frame. Ask her if she is a virgin, about her relationships and why dating while with you will not be allowed. For now. Promise to guide her achieve her ambitions in life and when she lives alone she can have all the freedoms and relationships she wants. You have to make her your friend, otherwise you'd be an enemy who doesn't wish her well. This is also a learning curve for everyone having a teenager at home. I have one here and she is very very pretty fair with cat eyes and already hiding to wear waist bids and wears perfume to secondary school. Personally I ignore most of those stuff knowing if you get pregnant it's my joy cos it will stop me wasting money on Uni education but I still advise. Don't take it personal, help them and when they don't want, support them but no friendship in your neighborhood. It doesn't make sense for you to live in such neighborhood. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 12:10pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
EwuGambia:Lol..it’s ridiculous, where is all this coming from? I wonder if it’s the same story I shared or he is just being delusional: 1. The girl isn’t even 18 yet, I meant btw 17 and 18, even if she is 18, I should nau allow my own cousin whôre around or go out dressing like Cardi-B on stage in front of my growing kids? while living under my roof and eating my food? All in the name of human right? I know your mom still feeds you and know nothing of responsibility, so I’ll excuse that. 2. I don’t know where the slave word is coming from, as her guardian I can choose to flog her if I see the need, the same way I would tell my daughter’s school head teacher to discipline her when she misbehaves. It’s a matter of principle not dehumanisation, more reason why my kids must form their values here in Nigeria before relocating. 3. Not treating her as an equal as touching rights to life! Lol…this one off me, he simply sounds “affected” like a victim of such circumstance, my cousin feels very belonged in my home, someone who knows my phone’s password and would seize it from me until I had to gift her the IPhone, someone that has access to everything in the house? someone who cooks whatever she likes and dishes to everyone as she seems fit? so I don’t understand that statement, is it when I allow her sleep with boys on top my matrimonial bed then you’ll know that she has human right? Are you that daft? This is purely a case of low mentality. 4. My dear it isn’t obvious that I see her as subhuman, you’re only most probably pained from your personal past experience, you need therapy. Why is the boy swallowing another person’s pill? The worst thing is that he doesn’t even understand the weight of the matter, first the girl is family, there’s no one to even send her back to, she will probably run away to live with some boy and get pregnant and that’s not the life I want for her. Lastly, if you have nothing sensible to contribute other than “send her back to her folks” then keep quiet. Between, y’all pervs floor flickering this story because you saw narrow waist line and big bumbum, you should all move on from this thread lol, no one is sending anyone away, I’m catching cruise on this faceless platform and some jobless folks are here masturbating on their fantasies and some carrying the matter on top their head. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Double0h7(f): 1:08pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler:k |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by The5DME(m): 5:35pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
Op, u no well sha. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 6:03pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
Joblessness ehh |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by excell0001: 6:11pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
NovesaTillie: supported. 1 Like |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Nobody: 7:13pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler: Chief... That girl being under your roof makes her your responsibility and as such if she gets pregnant or becomes wayward, it'll be on you... So if your instincts are telling you to send her back, please do and support her from the village if you can... As for those guys in your streets, I'm not saying you should become best friends with them o, buh try show them love once once, you never can tell, they may prove useful someday... Good luck... |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by Yohans(m): 7:13pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
Double0h7:True. |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by frozen70(f): 7:44pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
artimisfowler: In all you have mentioned, she us just at home doing house work and nit engagement with any trade or skills As a fresh girl , she must attract me I think you need to return her to her parents before she becomes pregnant Hir former life in the village can not be compared to life in the city |
Re: Help! House Help’s Presence Is Giving Me Concern by excell0001: 8:00pm On Dec 11, 2021 |
MufasaLion: You have said it perfectly 1 Like |
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