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Your wife is not ready for married life.

My home, my husband and my kids comes first.

Man up or they will ruin and run you over.

Mercychen:
In this case, they need to go far away from her reach (@ least physically) as it is obvious the aunty has a strong influence on the lady and can easily manipulate her as long as they still come in physical contact with each other.

even if they go far away the wife will still tell that evil aunty their new location, the wife should either go back to her aunty house and spend the rest of her live there since she’s claiming it’s not easy to erase the bond she has with her for 18 years or get wise immediately, no be she even born her lol… and besides i think the man is super soft too like you’re the man of the house nigga, you don’t even show your woman you have all it takes to lead the family because wtf is that fockery lol

Bro it's your house do not I mean DO NOT allow rubbish to keep happening in your house in the name of peace......

stay strong

Born2Breed:
Your wife is not ready for married life.

My home, my husband and my kids comes first.

Man up or they will ruin and run you over.

I tire o… the op has so much work to do… and the work is quite simple, Man up and take charge ah oga o

Arsenate:
Bitter, older women with failed relationships with men have a strong desire to see younger ladies tow the same path as them. Misery loves company. They dish out destructive advice under the guise of looking out for their (the younger ladies') interest. I see it play out all the time, even more so here on nairaland.

Extremely sad that young girls can't see this until it's rather late.

Now you are talking.

Arsenate:
Bitter, older women with failed relationships with men have a strong desire to see younger ladies tow the same path as them. Misery loves company. They dish out destructive advice under the guise of looking out for their (the younger ladies') interest. I see it play out all the time, even more so here on nairaland.

Extremely sad that young girls can't see this until it's rather late.

Now you are talking.

I just dey see people saying relocate relocate up and down na so e easy to relocate? Lmao all what the op need to do is man up and take charge of your family… it’s not even hard to see that you’re not man enough… when they say man up my brother e no be muscle o

Are you the wife or the husband, I'm just curious

Montaque:
Then her new family is not important/priority to her. That's a new form of cheating bro. It's not a joke when the Bible said couple should "leave" their money and father and "cleave" to themselves.

The Bible said leave not isolate or exile.

Every family has quarrels and misunderstandings it doesn’t make them enemies. U address it and set boundaries were necessary bt u can’t isolate urselves.

Confront the modafoka and tell her off, if your wife doesn’t like it, tell her too to go to hell and walk out of the marriage

Mercychen:
This your story ehn.. e dey pain brain.

If I got you right, you want your wife to disconnect from her aunty?

Well, it will be very difficult because like you said, she was with her for 18yrs. That's a long time to form an unbreakable bond, that's why she can't detach her self easily from her.

I'll advise you relocate to a place they'll not be able to access your house easily. That's the only thing I think can put a stop to all these.

Una sabi twist things. Haba! He don't want to disconnect his wife from his family.

uyimen:
Good day,
Pls help me with ur advice , i know u wont be shy to tell me if am wrong.

I got married to my dream wife, she lived with a relative for 18yrs who she also called mummy, she have a biological mother, who saw her through school (university level) though she was living with this Aunty.

Problem started when i came to marry her , the Aunty was hostile, she kept coming up with issue to paint me bad. I was repeatedly called to come and explain irrelevant provocative issues sure as why i travelled to inform my wife biological mother of my wedding plans. After the bride price payment and rites duly performed, She still made me perform an additional party which she called a traditional marriage outing party in her compound. All these i did for peace sake. No one including family members, husband children or even my wife ,dear opposes her to caution her ..In all these my wife kept on saying *she stayed with her for 18yrs.*
Worst of all u latter gathered from friends that this said Aunty was laying curses on us during the marriage, that the marriage will fail and my wife will return to her with tales of martial wows.
Then she warned me to stop calling her mummy. In all these my wife was always in tears through the honeymoon.
I ignored just becos i knew after the marriage things will change. This Aunty feed my wife with all forms of manipulative desires to set us up. and even requesting feedbacks from her in some case, words here are not enough to explain all.

To my surprise two yrs into the marriage this said Aunty and her children are still key important figures in my wife live, they have access to her and my home at will, somethings they plan visits when am at work.

Each of there visits leave us in weeks of quarrels . now its me my wife blames.

Friends what do i do now, my wife insists that because of 18yrs of living with them so i should let go and pretend nothing ever went wrong.
Pls advise me.

you and your wife should cut off every communication with the Aunty

udemzyudex:
Are you the wife or the husband, I'm just curious

Lmao It's funny though.. but many factors can make a man look like the wife which is money .. e.t.c

Mercychen:
This your story ehn.. e dey pain brain.

If I got you right, you want your wife to disconnect from her aunty?

Well, it will be very difficult because like you said, she was with her for 18yrs. That's a long time to form an unbreakable bond, that's why she can't detach her self easily from her.

I'll advise you relocate to a place they'll not be able to access your house easily. That's the only thing I think can put a stop to all these.

I can't relocate and inconvenience myself because of her, na to change am for her. I don't want to see you again in my house. Period.

uyimen:
That is were the attack is strong becos, when i caution my wife she flares in anger and we could start a week long fight....

Lol...
This one na Beta Weakling...
Enjoy your miserable Marriage boy..

My advice for you is Make sure you always wash your wife and her Aunty's Pants and Bra, just to make Dem happy.. that is how Real men do..

bummyla:
Welcome to my world! My wife said she would rather leave this fucking marriage, than curtail her association with her divorced aunty that brought her to Lagos, her evil elder sister that has refused to marry and her friends.

Every day new wahala!

Bros there is not much you can do, than to put your feet down like I did!

I dont want them in my house! I dont want them, If I come back and see they came, I call them and warn them. Thank God the boys and the men are by my side, I will call the boys and the men to warn them too.

Every place will be on fire for a while!

Finally she will ruin your marriage like they ruined mine, but dont worry, if she is your wife her eyes will open.

Madam, even this evening called, was bagging me, to come and take her back, to the house, but I no gree! Make she enjoy their company very very! She don stay one year with them now, my plan is that she will stay two years with them. I learnt tension is getting high over there! If they no fight, I no go come carry am. Period!

After while we are going to relocate very far from them

How are you meeting up with your sexual needs,?

Very simple. Right now, your wife still thinks like a single lady. Give your wife belle. After she born finish and this nonsense still dey continue, sit her down and let her know the implication of a broken marriage to a woman with child. Let her know that if there is a divorce, you will take your child from her. Nobody go tell her to sit up.

eazzzy1:
I know you and your wife’s aunty do not like yourselves, and you are allowing it affect your relationship with your wife. Your wife lived with her for 18 years, she practically raised your wife and can be referred to as your mother in law.

Treat her with respect as you would treat your own mother or let your hatred for her remain your hatred for her, stop forcing your wife to have issues with her, don’t put her in that position where she has to choose between her ‘mother’ and you, it’s unfair to her.

Anty.! Anty..! Anty...! How i'd wish u were the man in saying.. Moreover, all i know is a man wants to b in control.. Mr O.p bringing up this issue to slay babes n fried brains is a twart 2marriage dorm.. "anybody wey use cow eyes see life means say na only grass na him/she go the see"

uyimen:
Good day,
Pls help me with ur advice , i know u wont be shy to tell me if am wrong.

I got married to my dream wife, she lived with a relative for 18yrs who she also called mummy, she have a biological mother, who saw her through school (university level) though she was living with this Aunty.

Problem started when i came to marry her , the Aunty was hostile, she kept coming up with issue to paint me bad. I was repeatedly called to come and explain irrelevant provocative issues sure as why i travelled to inform my wife biological mother of my wedding plans. After the bride price payment and rites duly performed, She still made me perform an additional party which she called a traditional marriage outing party in her compound. All these i did for peace sake. No one including family members, husband children or even my wife ,dear opposes her to caution her ..In all these my wife kept on saying *she stayed with her for 18yrs.*
Worst of all u latter gathered from friends that this said Aunty was laying curses on us during the marriage, that the marriage will fail and my wife will return to her with tales of martial wows.
Then she warned me to stop calling her mummy. In all these my wife was always in tears through the honeymoon.
I ignored just becos i knew after the marriage things will change. This Aunty feed my wife with all forms of manipulative desires to set us up. and even requesting feedbacks from her in some case, words here are not enough to explain all.

To my surprise two yrs into the marriage this said Aunty and her children are still key important figures in my wife live, they have access to her and my home at will, somethings they plan visits when am at work.

Each of there visits leave us in weeks of quarrels . now its me my wife blames.

Friends what do i do now, my wife insists that because of 18yrs of living with them so i should let go and pretend nothing ever went wrong.
Pls advise me.

if you ask me I'll tell you to be a man. Don't give in to your wife emotional shit and let her Aunty know her place as for me I'll not take nonsense from anybody.

uyimen:
That is were the attack is strong becos, when i caution my wife she flares in anger and we could start a week long fight....

tell her to use that anger and face her Aunty. Hold your ground

jaxxy:
The Bible said leave not isolate or exile.

Every family has quarrels and misunderstandings it doesn’t make them enemies. U address it and set boundaries were necessary bt u can’t isolate urselves.

You isolate or exile or cut off when that is what will guarantee the survival of your new family. That's what you do with people whose destiny cannot go along with you.

jaeyking:
Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to a woman to become one

If your wife is not ready to go.
She can go back to her aunt

Sometimes we see red flag at early stages but we let stupid love to blind our eyes and refusing to ask ourselves on HOW LONG CAN I BE TOLERANT.

I pray it's ends well for u guys

brain full your head bro

eazzzy1:
I know you and your wife’s aunty do not like yourselves, and you are allowing it affect your relationship with your wife. Your wife lived with her for 18 years, she practically raised your wife and can be referred to as your mother in law.

Treat her with respect as you would treat your own mother or let your hatred for her remain your hatred for her, stop forcing your wife to have issues with her, don’t put her in that position where she has to choose between her ‘mother’ and you, it’s unfair to her.

Na wa ooo

eazzzy1:
I know you and your wife’s aunty do not like yourselves, and you are allowing it affect your relationship with your wife. Your wife lived with her for 18 years, she practically raised your wife and can be referred to as your mother in law.

Treat her with respect as you would treat your own mother or let your hatred for her remain your hatred for her, stop forcing your wife to have issues with her, don’t put her in that position where she has to choose between her ‘mother’ and you, it’s unfair to her.

this is the most SIMP advice ever. There are some things I'll not even take from my mother or my father and I'll not take it from others.

Montaque:
You isolate or exile or cut off when that is what will guarantee the survival of your new family. That's what you do with people whose destined cannot go along with you.

And if ur wife doesn’t agree with ur opinion? Or u think it’s all about u? The new family belongs to u and ur wife not only u so both of u must agree. U cannot dictate to her to cut off her family and vice versa.

All this nonsense cannot happen in my house cos every conceivable marriage problem would have been solved before i wed my wife...

I only married my wife o...
Moderation is needed in everything we do.

Op i nor get advise for you o. Nor vex...

eazzzy1:
Hmmm I’m not married sir! but what would you do about a manipulative aunt? Especially when your partner doesn’t the manipulation? Would you force her to see things from your perspective? I like people to make their own mistakes, that’s how people learn best.

she will realise her mistake sooner if she goes back to her auntie's house I wonder why you'll are SIMPing.

uyimen:
Good day,
Pls help me with ur advice , i know u wont be shy to tell me if am wrong.

I got married to my dream wife, she lived with a relative for 18yrs who she also called mummy, she have a biological mother, who saw her through school (university level) though she was living with this Aunty.

Problem started when i came to marry her , the Aunty was hostile, she kept coming up with issue to paint me bad. I was repeatedly called to come and explain irrelevant provocative issues sure as why i travelled to inform my wife biological mother of my wedding plans. After the bride price payment and rites duly performed, She still made me perform an additional party which she called a traditional marriage outing party in her compound. All these i did for peace sake. No one including family members, husband children or even my wife ,dear opposes her to caution her ..In all these my wife kept on saying *she stayed with her for 18yrs.*
Worst of all u latter gathered from friends that this said Aunty was laying curses on us during the marriage, that the marriage will fail and my wife will return to her with tales of martial wows.
Then she warned me to stop calling her mummy. In all these my wife was always in tears through the honeymoon.
I ignored just becos i knew after the marriage things will change. This Aunty feed my wife with all forms of manipulative desires to set us up. and even requesting feedbacks from her in some case, words here are not enough to explain all.

To my surprise two yrs into the marriage this said Aunty and her children are still key important figures in my wife live, they have access to her and my home at will, somethings they plan visits when am at work.

Each of there visits leave us in weeks of quarrels . now its me my wife blames.

Friends what do i do now, my wife insists that because of 18yrs of living with them so i should let go and pretend nothing ever went wrong.
Pls advise me.

I understand how you feel mehn. You need to stand up and take charge. Since she warned u not to call her mum, u need to Stop speaking with her over the phone, don't text her a happy new month or xmas text. Don't say hello to her over the phone.

I can tell you for a fact that she might have divorced her husband or have turned him to a toy

op's wife must be from the east...
you see all those their aunties most na witch from hell

Mumu simp take charge of your life. Tell your wife that her extended family are no longer welcome at your house.

Stop simping

jaxxy:
And if ur wife doesn’t agree with ur opinion? Or u think it’s all about u? The new family belongs to u and ur wife not only u so both of u must agree. U cannot dictate to her to cut off her family and vice versa.

You and your wife are one. Anybody else is a third party. Anybody who's interest it is to scatter my home is an enemy.

okoroemeka:
you have said what the problem is,you are trying by all means necessary to please everyone and be a good humble man,that why the aunty is messing up,if I am in your shoes and that aunty comes again I will tell her to stop coming to my house ,that she is a problem to our marriage,I know such people they are poke nosers, busybodies and gossipers,what I tell her that day she will develop high blood pressure

yes he made a big mistake