She will poison you guys soon.

Mheen

Treat her as you would treat your sister in the same situation

Treat it like you would to your sister.
She will have to sign an undertaking that she will stay indoors for one month and read verses of the Bible or Koran and listen to good messages regarding living a pious lifestyle.
She will be without her phone for the period to reduce contact with those deceiving her into the worthless behaviour.
There will be a caveat that the family will stop sponsorship of her education and send her to her parents to go and learn a trade if it happens again.
Don't do anything physical to her

It's not her action that matters now but ur reaction, the deed as already been done am very sure she's regretting her action now...

maestro299:
Isn't your cousin's sister also your cousin?

I wonder

WHAT THE BLOODY Bleep IS COUSIN SISTER..

ITS EITHER SHE'S YOUR COUSIN OR SISTER.

DUMBO.

Richy4:
Sure.. she has started mingling with bad eggs... People that dates scammers and so on.. she will have to practice with immediate family.. just to belong.

Call her parents if they were alive and explain the reasons why she must take a one-way trip to them... Tell them everything with facts so that it won't look like you guys were deliberately accusing her falsely...

It is a family matter, The family might not forgive u guys if you do that...She has graduated from college.....
Why did u say 'Cousin Sister' though,.. I was thinking cousin is cousin as one starts reading the article, u get the gender.. (initially, I thought it was your Sister's cousin)

Many Nigerians make that grammatical error. Cousin brother or Cousin sister. It is wrong. Just say Cousin. That's all I have to say.

iamwhat:
I feel this could make her wild by the time she comes back, nothing would scare her again.

Ogbeni if you like your sanity, send her to her people.
That's where she belongs

Trust me, the fact that things will never be the same with her again will knock back sense into her.

Don't treat this with kids glove.
She stole N200,000 not 200kobo.

She now has a bad circle of influence.
Can you cut her off from them?
Sending her away to her people is the only way to do so, at least for now let her cut ties with her bad friends.

Be decisive and make a statement with your decision.
But be sure to inform her parents of the happenings, it's family issue, let the family be aware, so no one starts using it against you guys in the future.

Peace.

How is your cousin sister a maid in your house in the first place? Explain that...

sisisioge:


Problem no dey finish for this life. I would rather not treat issues the way I would treat my sister's here. No thank you. She goes back home to her family. EOD

Exactly. If she was my sister I would discipline the stealing spirit out of her but will certainly be restricted to do that to another man's child to avoid stories that touch and becoming the villain.

Which of the guardroom are u suggesting?If you take her to the army guardroom,you should also know that you freely brought a free p***y to the soldiers there,I will suggest you take her back to her parents.

maestro299:
Isn't your cousin's sister also your cousin?

What he meant is his Cousin who is a girl

sisisioge:


Problem no dey finish for this life. I would rather not treat issues the way I would treat my sister's here. No thank you. She goes back home to her family. EOD

try correcting her. She's being influenced by that her friend. Scold her to a view of seeing her a better person since that's why you've been kind to her since 5.

iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

Do this , take her to therapist, love her more , take her to God make her understand that God (*in Jesus name )love is all she needs no beating will stop her from doing it again, it will only stop her at the moment because of fear until some new ways come up . She knows by you all reaction she did bad already and she is ashamed and do not forget we make up our mind to do bad but there is also a demon that that you invite in by doing so this demon will torment you to do bad unless it has been fully corrupted , that is why people think when they want to do bad but there is something in your conscience forcing you to do it that is a demon and it needs to be casted out

Remember Family is Family show her more love than you have ever shown because love wins all trust it wins

JAMO84:
Treat her as you would treat your sister in the same situation

Never treat another man's child the way you would treat your sister. Never!!!! That's a mistake.
If the girl's parents were struggling, would she still have the mind to steal such from her parents? No. She doesn't consider them her family that's why she did such. A secondary school graduate who could steal up to 200k from her cousin just to buy use flasy things is capable of going the extreme.
They should send her back to her parents, they have tried in their own way taking care of her since she was 5

Na una spoil am

Why expensive school in the first place

She has seen how other parent in the school spoil their kid and she wants to keep up

iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.


Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

How would you treat the problem if she were your sister. Treat her likewise but give her a last warning.
Tell her that for the next 12 months, money would be left on purpose randomly round the house. If one accidentally disappear, she is going back to her parents.
Give her daily pep talk about her future.
Except satan is involved expect a massive chang from her in six months.

iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

Perhaps, u should invite the parent and elders, because it won't stop. The girl don Sabi money without working hard for it. Greed don take over o! Make una no beat her otherwise if anytin happens no body go follow una hear the story o! It is important that u invite her parent immediately as una no dey steal where she learnt stealing from?

Our people says and i quote "he/she who steals would definitely fornicate, and lie

Simran94:

Never treat another man's child the way you would treat your sister. Never!!!!

That's according to you, not me.

Simran94:

Never treat another man's child the way you would treat your sister. Never!!!!

A very skewed mentality. God will help you. With this view you will be a terrible person to strangers and house maids.

Treat family like family.ball day ur court .

iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

Nor be everything una supposed carry enter media.

maestro299:
Isn't your cousin's sister also your cousin?

I tire o
I have seen my cousin sister,blood sister etc.

Maybe we have new names for them now.
Very confusing

JAMO84:
That's according to you, not me.

So you would beat someone else's child just like you beat your own sister? And you think the parents of the child would be happy?

Let he without sin cast d first stone ..I come in peace.

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iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

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YOU ARE A LIAR AND YOUR STORY IS FAKE

iamwhat:
I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.

My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.

She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.

I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.

We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money.
My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now...
I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.

Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.

Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:

Don't do anything. Scold her and be mindful of her. Money or business should be kept far from her reach.

Let her parents know and ask her if she's still willing to remain with you guys. Because most people tend to misbehave to guardians if they are tied of living with them and wants to return to their biological parents.

How old.is she and what's her location?

DataWiz:


A very skewed mentality. God will help you. With this view you will be a terrible person to strangers and house maids.

Calm down and read the comment I quoted.
They are talking about disciplining the girl, beating her and locking her up in the guard room and I said they should never treat someone else's child in that manner like they would do their sister because definitely the parents won't be happy about it