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chatinent:
Sorry for your experiences, bro.

Please be strong. It isn't always greener in marriages. Meanwhile, one thing I will never support is promiscuity....but a question is: are you working harder?

By harder I mean endeavouring to provide for your family...since you have just a son?

Sometimes, it may be you are working hard but it isn't paying much. What to do? Work smart. Work and freelance on other jobs to get some extra money.

Responsibility are setting in. Don't seek people to manage you. Just be average.

Be strong bro.

Somebody ran home from interview to go get his child and then ran back to continue the interview, and you’re asking him if he’s working hard.

Oga, if you wan simp for women do it with your full chest, no dey disguise.

No wonder men die fast. No support from anywhere, just pressure from men and women. Then you act so surprised when they go through dubious means to get money

DannyXpress:
The signs have always been there just that you chose to ignore it because she has a fine face and a large ass/hips


Once you build your relationship on a faulty foundation, you won't escape things like this

Just move on and Keep working to improve on yourself.

I concur

EmmaNuella77:
I concur

Timaya na sing the music

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Aunty AGurlnoname be kind mbok some stories here is not real 70% are fictional stories. Me na to read and reason the other way round. Merry Christmas �

Op bro God made you see things ladies of now are days dont pity men.This woman dont use to remember past all they follow is present tense if you like give her your life saving once you can't give her anymore she will start showing you attitude , frustrating you and even be doing things that will make you want to send her packing .My pure advice any where there is no peace there is no reason so stay till you die in silent .just move bro i dont give woman any second chance because a woman always as plan B married or not married woman will always have plan B even her parent will be giving her liver And support her with her plan B na blood be that . please bro just move on ALL THIS HOES THEY NO LOYAL .

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Bimbo... gullible you ma'am ...na Una type na

[quote author=Rtk5 post=108846406][/quote]Sad your mrs is not a nice woman and she is putting you through all of this. Speak to your own family listen to what they are going to tell you.

If your wife can leave her son your baby in the house then ring u while you were waiting i interview room then she is not fit enough to be a mother, here social service will be knocking on your door and take the child off your guys.

I pray God will turn her head around and she'll be a good wife to you and your home.

Keep your head high tough time never last but tough people do last. God favour you sir peace

Stop giving marriage a bad mage. Do not discourage men. You didn't take time to chose the right woman to marry.

From what you said, your wife was not working as well, and you were jobless and broke. You men should always encourage your wife to get something doing, or you help set up a business for her, especially since she may start having babies.

Cuttycool:
Stop giving marriage a bad mage. Do not discourage men. You didn't take time to chose the right woman to marry.

From what you said, your wife was not working as well, and you were jobless and broke. You men should always encourage your wife to get something doing, or you help set up a business for her, especially since she may start having babies.

Honestly,
Some people think marriage na Fairy Tale.
IF they truly know the worth and power of money, they will take their time.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

if I was in ur shoes I wud av divorced her.... But let's hear her own part sha

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

You are a big fool for saying such...did u read were he said he is ten times beta..... Fool of a thousand generation

Ur wife no dey work?

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Sense far from you,judging with this your stupid comment. If she works and support the husband in times of trials, will she die? Keep on justifying rubbish..

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

sorry for your outdeal but I don't really believe one sided story when it's comes to marriage issues..op u Know what is good for you

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Be strong sir
But
Didn’t you see any of these signs during courtship or dating

Hmm

The good thing is that you are better now,, you see me ehn,, once my woman start to nag,, i go carry my volka,, my cigarettes,, then go frigde,,, carry chicken,, enter my room,, lock am,, begin enjoy myself with video call from my friends on my laptop,, of she finish,, she go come beg because me no go eat her food,, i Sabi cook na

Isokoboy:
You are a big fool for saying such...did u read were he said he is ten times beta..... Fool of a thousand generation

dont mind this one,, ave see what women do and men do,, u voiced your part ny broda,, dont argue with this mumu

skj1377:
A married prostitute is a woman on vacation. Your wife is one of the lowest of the low. A bad woman can't give you a good marital experience. It's not about money

Chill dude! You don't know this woman, you do not know the validity of this story but here you are condemning and judging already.

Intelligence is being objective in the phase of uncertainty.

chatinent:
Sorry for your experiences, bro.

Please be strong. It isn't always greener in marriages. Meanwhile, one thing I will never support is promiscuity....but a question is: are you working harder?

By harder I mean endeavouring to provide for your family...since you have just a son?

Sometimes, it may be you are working hard but it isn't paying much. What to do? Work smart. Work and freelance on other jobs to get some extra money.

Responsibility are setting in. Don't seek people to manage you. Just be average.

Be strong bro.

Learn to read well before you comment.

He said things have improved 10 times.

I don't understand your comments, a woman is bitchy, unsupportive and even a betrayal, the solution according to you is to work harder

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

You are brain dead

chatinent:
Sorry for your experiences, bro.

Please be strong. It isn't always greener in marriages. Meanwhile, one thing I will never support is promiscuity....but a question is: are you working harder?

By harder I mean endeavouring to provide for your family...since you have just a son?

Sometimes, it may be you are working hard but it isn't paying much. What to do? Work smart. Work and freelance on other jobs to get some extra money.

Responsibility are setting in. Don't seek people to manage you. Just be average.

Be strong bro.

This your comment surprised me a bit sha as I know you to be a meticulous reader and writer here. The OP already stated that his fortunes have now improved tremendously and presently is only thinking about how to payback the wife for her maltreatment of him during his travails. Yet you are advising him to work harder. Kinda off

It is quite pathetic that the reasoning capacity of male posters on this thread so far is as equal as grains of rice. All of you just sleep lie for one direction! Very unreasonable bunch!

Some guy from nowhere post a miserable story of his home and wife, you all could only jump on his post vindicating him while casting stones without even trying to validate his story. Not objective comment except on which was ignored and less liked. Then one is left to wonder what solution has any proffered to save the marriage or lessen Ops claimed burden than dishing derogatory words and insults on the lady who doesn't even know you exist.

Pathetic halfwits everywhere, are these truly our leaders of tomorrow? Bunch of low reasoning bitter lots! What a waste!

Palema007:
It is quite pathetic that the reasoning capacity of male posters on this thread so far is as equal as grains of rice. All of you just sleep lie for one direction! Very unreasonable bunch!

Some guy from nowhere post a miserable story of his home and wife, you all could only jump on his post vindicating him while casting stones without even trying to validate his story. Not objective comment except on which was ignored and less liked. Then one is left to wonder what solution has any proffered to save the marriage or lessen Ops claimed burden than dishing derogatory words and insults on the lady who doesn't even know you exist.

Pathetic halfwits everywhere, are these truly our leaders of tomorrow? Bunch of low reasoning bitter lots! What a waste!

You are the bitter and unreasonable person here.

You want us not to believe the story of the man, as if the woman is incapable of doing what he wrote down

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you.

Bae u are right but as a man money is important.... Love without MONEY nah SCAM

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Go and hustle?

Guess you don’t read to the end. Guy has stepped up!!

Anyways, a lady that can go through the bad times with her man does not deserve to reap from the good times. Her attitude during tough times is a test of true love!

She failed this one.

For me, you're free to pack your bags to your parent's place, but don't think of ever returning.

motymop:
You are the bitter and unreasonable person here.

You want us not to believe the story of the man, as if the woman is incapable of doing what he wrote down

You are pained. The truth hurts... Go treat your inability to reason and help your saint op out.

Y'all are yet to make any reasonable point or solution to op's problem!

ThierryJay:
This your comment surprised me a bit sha as I know you to be a meticulous reader and writer here. The OP already stated that his fortunes have now improved tremendously and presently is only thinking about how to payback the wife for her maltreatment of him during his travails. Yet you are advising him to work harder. Kinda off

He wasn't out to advise, but to book FTC...

Palema007:
You are pained. The truth hurts... Go treat your inability to reason and help your saint op out.

Y'all are yet to make any reasonable point or solution to op's problem!

The op didn't ask for any solution...he has taken his decision to divorce his wife, if you have been reading, you would have been able to comprehend that instead of being hypertensive.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

You are still married to her and listening to what people will say?

You are truly suicidal in all your ways.

Continue...you hear?

Ekejoestar:
With all these Epistles am reading here about what men are facing in marriages, is it not better that I go the baby Mama way and save myself the stress

Babe mama is worse oo, ask questions well oo. If you don't want any issue with woman just dey your dey, i don type finish