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Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

motymop:
The op didn't ask for any solution...he has taken his decision to divorce his wife, if you have been reading, you would have been able to comprehend that instead of being hypertensive.

Palema007:
Now I know there is no hope for you. So divorce is the solution? I hope he wouldn't have anything to do with any woman again too.

You know what? Just get lost already! I've wasted enough mentions on you already and your senseless summations has failed to convince me otherwise.

MALIGNANTGuest:
I took my TIME OFF to study all that you put up.
IF all you put up is actually the Truth, then that woman you are living with is not your wife.
Underline my words clearly!
IF what you put up there is exactly what transpired and she left an infant all alone in the House and walked out. That's enough to jail her in the developed world.

She's not your wife.
Again, don't mind what people will say.
Provided she's not improving & you are not responsible for the maladies bedeviling ur home, then u have to consider staying single again.

Some LADIES, including Men were not raised for the purpose of marriage.
Marriage is not for everyone.
So, iF u mistakenly land a partner who was never trained for such, better start packing else u will be doomed. Not every family takes out time to raise kids. Some leave everything 4 God to run.

IF your wife is my sister and what you put out there is the Truth, I will ask you to divorce her. We don't take shit in my Family.
None of my sisters is a Leech.
They work like Men too.
And we position them with supportive Men too.
That's Y we don't tolerate men beating dem.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

debbydams:
sorry for your outdeal but I don't really believe one sided story when it's comes to marriage issues..op u Know what is good for you

Palema007:
Now I know there is no hope for you. So divorce is the solution? I hope he wouldn't have anything to do with any woman again too.

You know what? Just get lost already! I've wasted enough mentions on you already and your senseless summations has failed to convince me otherwise.

hope4nigeria:
why are you behaving like Ops wife, something dey worry you? You wan make we divorce you commott from NL ni?

HenryDion:
He wasn't out to advise, but to book FTC...

Hyper80:
@OP, that's the situation I'm in right now. I've come to realize that women are just that way. You can never tell what their true character is during courtship until after marriage and one or two challenges show up. Well, I won't advise you to divorce your wife as the next woman will do the same - that's who they are! Just work harder and know what you are doing. I'm even ashamed to open up to people what I'm experiencing right now but I know things will improve over time. You are not alone.

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you.

lied:
Wicked Lazy man
You better hustle and stop starving the innocent woman and the little child.

Nonsense.

Palema007:
Wrong moniker bro...wrong moniker. You can never be the hope for Nigeria.

Rtk5:
My brother, you're right on point, the parent are even over struggling. Do you know anytime she packs and go to her parent's place if i don't go to beg them amd her to come back, she would forever remain there?

HenryDion:
He wasn't out to advise, but to book FTC...

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phonr and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

chatinent:
Sorry for your experiences, bro.

Please be strong. It isn't always greener in marriages. Meanwhile, one thing I will never support is promiscuity....but a question is: are you working harder?

By harder I mean endeavouring to provide for your family...since you have just a son?

Sometimes, it may be you are working hard but it isn't paying much. What to do? Work smart. Work and freelance on other jobs to get some extra money.

Responsibility are setting in. Don't seek people to manage you. Just be average.

Be strong bro.

Rtk5:
Hmmmm, na wa.... Lets talk in private.

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phonr and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

lied:
Wicked Lazy man
You better hustle and stop starving the innocent woman and the little child.

Nonsense.

Palema007:
It is quite pathetic that the reasoning capacity of male posters on this thread so far is as equal as grains of rice. All of you just sleep lie for one direction! Very unreasonable bunch!

Some guy from nowhere post a miserable story of his home and wife, you all could only jump on his post vindicating him while casting stones without even trying to validate his story. Not objective comment except on which was ignored and less liked. Then one is left to wonder what solution has any proffered to save the marriage or lessen Ops claimed burden than dishing derogatory words and insults on the lady who doesn't even know you exist.

Pathetic halfwits everywhere, are these truly our leaders of tomorrow? Bunch of low reasoning bitter lots! What a waste!

Olumighty123:
Bros, you married from a wrong family, alot of this nuisance are out there, troubling their hard working husbands for no reason, I know a friend who is battling with one, he told me everything and I visited them one day, I was at their door knocking but the scream from the woman wouldn't let them know someone was the door, only then did I confirm what my friend was telling me about the wife, and the wifes mother has been a burden too, always telling her daughter to never be calm for her husband, you can imagine. Its saddened me to know women this days are like that.

motymop:
Go call the woman to nairaland, lets hear her own story