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tobatele:
This story might be very funny but it is the reality.
We pray not to lose our jobs or source of income. It is then you will know the true colour of your wife/wives.
You can even try it while on leave/holiday. Tell your wife/wives that you have been sacked and that she should help you with money to pay for house rentage/school fees or food for house. It is then you will understand this story very better.

Lol, you're obviously inexperienced and ignorant. So you mean women are not humans who are capable of steering a conflict from the start? Or they're animals who are conditioned to behave on how you relate with them, like when you feed your dog it won't bite and when u don't it will bite.
You're a clown sir

I am sorry for what you're going through. But I don't understand how you think that things will ever get better. Your financial woes are not the problem. The problem is that you are with someone who does not care about you let alone love you. Your financial woes only revealed it and you should be thankful for that. You need to decide if you are comfortable spending this precious gift of life with someone who obvioulsy does not have your back. The only thing financial buoyancy will do for you in the future is to mask the truth that your partner does not give a hoot about you. If you are comfortable with that, good luck. You should not give a hoot what family and friends will say. It is not thier life. It is yours and yours alone and you won't have a second chance at it.

Hyper80:
@OP, that's the situation I'm in right now. I've come to realize that women are just that way. You can never tell what their true character is during courtship until after marriage and one or two challenges show up. Well, I won't advise you to divorce your wife as the next woman will do the same - that's who they are! Just work harder and know what you are doing. I'm even ashamed to open up to people what I'm experiencing right now but I know things will improve over time. You are not alone.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Don't think about what people will say because they will always have something to say

You got me thinking. It was in the movie series "SPARTACUS: War of the Damned" that Spartacus said thus to Oenomaus( the Doktore) " women have deep desires that are not known to the men who love them". Oenomaus was heartbroken when he learned that his dead wife Melitta who professed everlasting love for him, had willingly and severally given herself to Ganniccus ( his own best friend). We each need to fully understand the deep desires of the women we want to take seriously. Then we may be able to judge if we have what it takes to satisfy those very deep desires, way before we commit ourselves to these relationships.

BigDawsNet:
Sorry about your cousin
But the truth is...it doesn't matter where the two couples are from or born...
I based in the US, most of the divorce guys here are both born Americans... they share the same mentality and ideologies... But you know...deep down! We all want something diff and sometimes... They both just get tired of themselves....and decide to call it a quit...

In the future... I think people will just agree on having kids together and marriage will be a thing of the past or maybe we will hav very low percentage of people still considering it...

Two things makes me want to marry 1 is old age and 2 is offspring, if not am at peace with myself.

NemoDatQuod:
You got me thinking. It was in the movie series "SPARTACUS: War of the Damned" that Spartacus said thus to Oenomaus( the Doktore) " women have deep desires that are not known to the men who love them". Oenomaus was heartbroken when he learned that his dead wife Melitta who professed everlasting love for him, had willingly and severally given herself to Ganniccus ( his own best friend). We each need to fully understand the deep desires of the women we want to take seriously. Then we may be able to judge if we have what it takes to satisfy those very deep desires, way before we commit ourselves to these relationships.

That's very deep bro

Stop marrying all these b**ch, fvuk them and throw them bck to the str whr they belong since they seem to be on a mission to reduce men population

johnsonmartina6:
The good thing is that you are better now,, you see me ehn,, once my woman start to nag,, i go carry my volka,, my cigarettes,, then go frigde,,, carry chicken,, enter my room,, lock am,, begin enjoy myself with video call from my friends on my laptop,, of she finish,, she go come beg because me no go eat her food,, i Sabi cook na

Your HEAD STRONG OOOOO...

NemoDatQuod:
You got me thinking. It was in the movie series "SPARTACUS: War of the Damned" that Spartacus said thus to Oenomaus( the Doktore) " women have deep desires that are not known to the men who love them". Oenomaus was heartbroken when he learned that his dead wife Melitta who professed everlasting love for him, had willingly and severally given herself to Ganniccus ( his own best friend). We each need to fully understand the deep desires of the women we want to take seriously. Then we may be able to judge if we have what it takes to satisfy those very deep desires, way before we commit ourselves to these relationships.

Words on MARBLE... Flesh and blood didn't reveal this to you

inumidun2010:
Your HEAD STRONG OOOOO...

na mind

It's better to be divorced and alive than to be married and dead.
When you die , people will quickly forget you , so do not consider humans when making a decision that would better your life and future.
They will only talk about the divorce for a week and everybody will move on .
People have their own problems to think of . So we are not really important as we think .....

NemoDatQuod:
You got me thinking. It was in the movie series "SPARTACUS: War of the Damned" that Spartacus said thus to Oenomaus( the Doktore) " women have deep desires that are not known to the men who love them". Oenomaus was heartbroken when he learned that his dead wife Melitta who professed everlasting love for him, had willingly and severally given herself to Ganniccus ( his own best friend). We each need to fully understand the deep desires of the women we want to take seriously. Then we may be able to judge if we have what it takes to satisfy those very deep desires, way before we commit ourselves to these relationships.

Do you know, I paused the movie and thought of the turn of events for days. Yes, the first time she was ordered to sleep with Gannicus, but haba, the subsequent ones! Hmmmm....your response is epic.

tobatele:
This story might be very funny but it is the reality.
We pray not to lose our jobs or source of income. It is then you will know the true colour of your wife/wives.
You can even try it while on leave/holiday. Tell your wife/wives that you have been sacked and that she should help you with money to pay for house rentage/school fees or food for house. It is then you will understand this story very better.

Make the funds dry up na when you go see their cranky attitude, tbh marrying these days is not worth it. We are having these conversations everyday on Clubhouse.

Cuttycool:
Stop giving marriage a bad mage. Do not discourage men. You didn't take time to chose the right woman to marry.

From what you said, your wife was not working as well, and you were jobless and broke. You men should always encourage your wife to get something doing, or you help set up a business for her, especially since she may start having babies.

Sorry ma'm..
What Isiah said in the bible is fast approaching

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

In everything in life, think about your contribution to the problem. Assume that you are 50% responsible and own it

When you were having a hard time, did you ever communicate it to your wife? You just kept quiet and forgave her. You were indirectly telling her that her behaviour was ok

We teach people how to treat us. It's up to us to set boundaries and assert them

Since you have a problem with voicing your thoughts and feelings, even if you were with the best woman in the world, you won't be happy

Learn to improve your communication skills

Psalmspsalms:
Your husband go suffer no be small. Sometimes I wonder how some of u ladies think. No ur type the give ur parents headache

go to her profile.. Check her dp
Imagine she still have the guts to spill out all this shiit

What validity or intelligence are you looking for? The husband said she left her baby and went out only to return late at night. That baby could have died. What kind of woman treats her baby like that. Can't argue with you on this issue .

Palema007:
Chill dude! You don't know this woman, you do not know the validity of this story but here you are condemning and judging already.

Intelligence is being objective in the phase of uncertainty.

Sorry Op. Keeping enduring while thinking faster on what to do.

When they say, "character before beauty" men will not listen Now see where we are.

Imagine a good guy will go for beauty and brain then end up with a troublesome and careless wife. Also, a good lady, because of wealth or good dick end up with a wicked man. We have failed to use our head when choosing spouses.

I saw one posts made on IG some time ago about what guys want most in a lady before wifying her and most guys placed big boobs, ass, brain and light skin over character and God fearing.
Imagine marriages filled with ladies with such qualities, then what kind of home do you think they will keep?

You guys should fear God when choosing spouse.
Think about your children upbringing when choosing spouse. Some men will say, "I want beautiful and handsome kids" because of that, they go for beautiful ladies discarding other important qualities. At the end, you have beautiful kids with bad moral upbringing.

Gradually, we are leaving those days when we had women that stood by their husbands in good and bad times. 90% of women these days only want to stand with you in good and leave only you to face it in bad times. That's why the rate of divorce is increasing everyday.

May God open the eyes of our understanding......( someone shld help me and quote that scripture in full abeg) that we may know the right spouse to marry. Amen!

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Negative effect of technology is what we are all witnessing. The rate of separation/divorce in Nigeria is immeasurable. I have intervened in 8days marriage which was heading to the rocks.

My little advice -

If you can't endure another person in your comfort zone, don't get married.

I love you is not marriage. Love in the real sense happens before marriage. In the home, love is just an addendum.

If you can endure, set your priorities right. Outline the T & Cs before popping the question. All I want is a child...We can be best of friends afterwards. etc

Always remember, you cannot change another person's ideology except the person so wishes.

Marriage..oun to wa leyin efa, o ju eje lo..

Will I advise separation/divorce? He who wear the shoe, know the exact point it pinches. Personally, when it involves battery and life threatening issues, separation is adviced for both parties to check themselves. Divorce is hardly adviced when kid(s) are involved. Broken homes is causing alot of social problems in our society and this would be obvious in 5years time when beyond parental control kids and drug addicts start disturbing the neighbourhood. That's a time bomb.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke. Please i am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner. I remember when i lost my job and things became so bad that i planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was i fell into a deep sleep that i didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, i stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened. There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview,
i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home. In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her. Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here. The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belong. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house. Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Good for you. She lacks common sense

That is pathetic...

May God be with you

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phone and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

Stop enticing a woman you intend to marry with money.

johnsonmartina6:
The good thing is that you are better now,, you see me ehn,, once my woman start to nag,, i go carry my volka,, my cigarettes,, then go frigde,,, carry chicken,, enter my room,, lock am,, begin enjoy myself with video call from my friends on my laptop,, of she finish,, she go come beg because me no go eat her food,, i Sabi cook na

The modern Nigerian man should insist on separate rooms.

Saynoomore:
Na them be this!

OP, your own small na. It's the same thing everywhere. The issue of packing their miserable luggages out of their matrimonial homes to their mother's house is a very common behaviour with over 90% of them. The funny thing is that, their parents whom they run to, are NOT wealthy, perhaps just a little comfortable at most. It beats me that the parents rather than admonishing the run-away brides to go back to their matrimonial homes, reconcile with their husbands, and be patient for things to turn around for the better, would rather take sides with them very swiftly and would sometimes even call the husband on phone, not to meditate but to add salt to injury! I think all women are just wired that way. Does it beat your imagination that even God created them last! He made sure everything was in the garden, else they would complain and run away from the garden to Lucifer! Even with everything in the garden, the woman still yielded to the serpent. Na so them be o!

men need to swallow red pill in order to checkmate the excesses of this women

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

When u divorce her she will definitely come back begging.. so what will u do if she beg u?

Rtk5:
My brother, you're right on point, the parent are even over struggling. Do you know anytime she packs and go to her parent's place if i don't go to beg them amd her to come back, she would forever remain there?

Why were you begging?

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you.

it's not just one right one - there could maybe be 3 right ones....

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Apparently, to you, d female gender is a disability.
The prostitute called wife is wired not to also hustle and support the family.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

And if a Female Shares her Own Sad Experience ,what would you say ? Why won't you be Honest and Face reality rather than taken sides of Genders ...Men experience Terrible things in Marriages ,Women too have their Terrible Experience ,I have heard serious and most Terrifying Experiences of some Good women in Marriages and i really feel for them. It's like that .. Terrible Men , Terrible Women...

Let her go right now! if you're not happy in your home because of the attitude of your partner please don't hold on to such marriage. Your home should be your sanctuary and if it's not then you have to seek it elsewhere. She will do it again if your situation gets bad again (God forbids).

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

I really understand your experience because I know how it feels. Life is too short to waste changing who is not ready to change. You can move on without considering what people says

Well everyone with their different opinion. It wasn't like you wasn't seeking for job but you was just being unlucky for a while meanwhile you married the lazy and not understanding woman who if a man fails in his responsibility she can't cover for him till he gets back to her feet... Thing is the story of the protagonist is always sweet , her side of the story can make us understand better