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Saynoomore:
Na them be this!

OP, your own small na. It's the same thing everywhere. The issue of packing their miserable luggages out of their matrimonial homes to their mother's house is a very common behaviour with over 90% of them. The funny thing is that, their parents whom they run to, are NOT wealthy, perhaps just a little comfortable at most. It beats me that the parents rather than admonishing the run-away brides to go back to their matrimonial homes, reconcile with their husbands, and be patient for things to turn around for the better, would rather take sides with them very swiftly and would sometimes even call the husband on phone, not to meditate but to add salt to injury! I think all women are just wired that way. Does it beat your imagination that even God created them last! He made sure everything was in the garden, else they would complain and run away from the garden to Lucifer! Even with everything in the garden, the woman still yielded to the serpent. Na so them be o!

Wisdom no go finish for ur head

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

This is the issue I have with guys. She almost ruined your interview by abandoning your baby and almost turning u to a beggar, and u forgave her the moment she stepped into the house by 7pm?? U didn't ask yourself where she was coming from... Your mind didn't tell u she has lost all respect and love for u to have abandoned a baby she begot for u. If u don't know your wife was fucking another dude all those while. Nothing can make a wife abandon her baby without any reasonable excuse for hours if not dick.

U should have even divorced her the moment u got back on your feet. My advice to u is hurry up with that divorce process and keep her out of your life. She no longer loves u, has tasted another dick and is now in your life to keep pulling u down.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Wait o!

Are you being serious about the fact that you care about what people will say if you divorce her?

No forget sey if that your so called wife kill you, na these same people go call you mumu for staying in a toxic marriage.

Person wey get the ododo to leave your child home alone fit get that same ododo to kpai you when she's done with you.

If you get gotv for house, try dey watch Discovery ID and you go see sey your case don happen plenty times and you go understand sey you still dey alive and well simply because she never get wetin she need.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Shut up and stop writing trash

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

You will continue to struggle until u cut off that negative energy in your life. Wtf, pity your old age because that woman will destroy u

A wise woman builds her house but the foolish one tears it apart.

lied:
Wicked Lazy man
You better hustle and stop starving the innocent woman and the little child.

Nonsense.

But what if the woman is working and earning same salary as the man?

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

you are free to call him a lazy man now. I believe you will sense when your son get married to these kind of women in d future. U will understand better. For a man to get job for his wife or empower her in order to make life easy for both and she later Bleep up. So in this case u can call a man lazy. Put your son or brother in this same case and I imagine what u will say instead. U are accusing d poster for coming online to talk about his wife abi. But if nah women that come online to accuse their husband. Immediately u jump to conclusion and start supporting d woman here.. why not accusing d female celebrities coming online to do d same. It is even wrong for single ladies to out mouth in marriage problems online

Saynoomore:
Na them be this!

OP, your own small na. It's the same thing everywhere. The issue of packing their miserable luggages out of their matrimonial homes to their mother's house is a very common behaviour with over 90% of them. The funny thing is that, their parents whom they run to, are NOT wealthy, perhaps just a little comfortable at most. It beats me that the parents rather than admonishing the run-away brides to go back to their matrimonial homes, reconcile with their husbands, and be patient for things to turn around for the better, would rather take sides with them very swiftly and would sometimes even call the husband on phone, not to meditate but to add salt to injury! I think all women are just wired that way. Does it beat your imagination that even God created them last! He made sure everything was in the garden, else they would complain and run away from the garden to Lucifer! Even with everything in the garden, the woman still yielded to the serpent. Na so them be o!

Am a woman but this post is just too funny not to laugh. Don't kno why there is no laughing emoji in this platform after like and share. Women are actually created n wired differently but that's not to say there are no good women. There are lots n lots of good women out there. Just pray for God to give you the right one that will endure with you thru thick and thin.

Funkybabee:
Sorry bro, it's part of life

Tell her to give you a space for now in other for you to regain your mind, tell her to go to her mothers house atleast for her to know what's up for now

Don't divorce him, u are the one that saw her before you marry her, no divorce in the scripture but let her learnt her lesson

I'm sorry o, but do you know his religion, do you know if he even abides by the content of what you're prescribing? Moreover, why should anyone care about what any scripture says?

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Your peace of mind comes first. Divorce her.

I'm so grateful for the knowledge I have now about lot of things.

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves
degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Op if this person was your wife u would have committed suicide since . Your wife dey learn from this one o

Gainman:
big lie. That is what all women use to talk. Even those that have left their husband due to finances have said this before. My advice for guys is know that u are entering into a hell hole for marrying a woman. If u know u can endure this hell,go ahead. 95% of women getting married now are shit. I am talking from experience. Before I use to go against men who advice men to empower their wives. I gave my wife a better living but she still bleeped up despite d idiot portraying herself as a good Christian. Men if u have wife, take good care of them and the children. Don't make them go hungry but don't by any property in your wife name. There nothing bad in your wife having money than you but women have started abusing d privilege. Women will deceive u she will still love you,no matter what. This is a big lie. You will know your wife if u are broke. So men if I hear a man getting married. I see him going into a shit hole.

Not all women do this. I am a woman and I can tell you that it is only those players who do it.

A real woman wants the best for her family, in good times or bad times.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

So sorry for your experience.You married a bad wife that didn't love you. That was why she misbehave badly after you lost your job . However,I dont think you should generalize that all women would mis-behave when thier husband is out of work .
My sister's husband was in your shoe 5years ago..He lost his job and she had to step in to cater for the family for almost two years . I didn't know he lost his job until after a year .She just told me that he is about starting his business and all that . He is now doing very well with his business and they are doing fine . So not all women will behave like your wife that behaved badly when you lost your job . Pele.

Almost all comments seem to hammer on "women are like what the op described when things go sour". People, please just marry right. Take your time, seek wisdom and good counsel and pray to whatever you believe in to lead you to choose right. Not all women are built that way. I am married and yes, along with the line things turned sour for my home. Hubby lost his job, we both are barely surviving but I would never treat him so. You can check my profile. At one point, I opened a thread here to seek a job for him...even with other job openings here, I do link him up or apply on behalf of him, hoping that things will turn around one day. It's hard, it's frustrating but I know he needs me more now so I am there for him. I am no saint please but NOT ALL WOMEN ARE DEVILS WHEN FINANCES GO SOUTH IN A MARRIAGE. I married a good man and it's sad to watch him go through this, but we move together

Result of a taking a slaymama/queen as a wife

We men need it flashy, when we now get those ladies and marry, complain go full eveywhere

MALIGNANTGuest:
I took my TIME OFF to study all that you put up.
IF all you put up is actually the Truth, then that woman you are living with is not your wife.
Underline my words clearly!
IF what you put up there is exactly what transpired and she left an infant all alone in the House and walked out. That's enough to jail her in the developed world.

She's not your wife.
Again, don't mind what people will say.
Provided she's not improving & you are not responsible for the maladies bedeviling ur home, then u have to consider staying single again.

Some LADIES, including Men were not raised for the purpose of marriage.
Marriage is not for everyone.
So, iF u mistakenly land a partner who was never trained for such, better start packing else u will be doomed. Not every family takes out time to raise kids. Some leave everything 4 God to run.

IF your wife is my sister and what you put out there is the Truth, I will ask you to divorce her. We don't take shit in my Family.
None of my sisters is a Leech.
They work like Men too.
And we position them with supportive Men too.
That's Y we don't tolerate men beating dem.

God bless you Sir..... this your advice is the best.
In my own family, my sisters also work like men because their mother taught them so.
The wife is supposed to support him in his time of despair, apparently he married a slay queen with a fish brain.

goodheart01:
This is the issue I have with guys. She almost ruined your interview by abandoning your baby and almost turning u to a beggar, and u forgave her the moment she stepped into the house by 7pm?? U didn't ask yourself where she was coming from... Your mind didn't tell u she has lost all respect and love for u to have abandoned a baby she begot for u. If u don't know your wife was fucking another dude all those while. Nothing can make a wife abandon her baby without any reasonable excuse for hours if not dick.

U should have even divorced her the moment u got back on your feet. My advice to u is hurry up with that divorce process and keep her out of your life. She no longer loves u, has tasted another dick and is now in your life to keep pulling u down.

You will never lack anything good in this life! #gbam

Bro. That's women for you. Even if you are doing your best to provide for her and family. If she choose to be wayward she will. Most Africans married women mindset are not towards encouraging their husbands during such circumstances but to frustrate him the more. No wonder they always end up being at they loser end when such husband eventually make head ways. Just continue to Hussle hard God will back your efforts.�

everythinggirly:
Not all women do this. I am a woman and I can tell you that it is only those players who do it.

A real woman wants the best for her family, in good times or bad times.

Yeah. I agree that not all women would do this but i will be shocked is majority wouldn't

AGurlnoname:
Lol... Is it only men that have problems here? Everytime my wife this, my girlfriend that, my sister that. Oga you're a lazy man for you to come online to say such things about your wife. Go and hustle more and stop complaining about your poor wife.

Mod: keep quoting me guys, lol. Check the validity of this story, all is cock and bull story for clickbits, another thread to say vile things about women again. This same handler loves degrading and body shame women but well is a platform, everyone can say shiii.

Will you keep quiet you this born by mistake.

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you. Love never fails.

The love you are talking about is surely the agape love of God and not human love...
Dey there dey deceive yourself....
There is no true love anywhere but from God...

My foolish ex wey dey claim say she no go leave me when we started ooo ..
Cos say I get small road accident and had a stitch below my left eye..she don japaa with another man after 2 or 3 visits...I dey see ring for her hand like say she don engage sef...

Make my body just well ..and my face dey smooth ...I go show all of huna pepper

mommaJ:
Almost all comments seem to hammer on "women are like what the op described when things go sour". People, please just marry right. Take your time, seek wisdom and good counsel and pray to whatever you believe in to lead you to choose right. Not all women are built that way. I am married and yes, along with the line things turned sour for my home. Hubby lost his job, we both are barely surviving but I would never treat him so. You can check my profile. At one point, I opened a thread here to seek a job for him...even with other job openings here, I do link him up or apply on behalf of him, hoping that things will turn around one day. It's hard, it's frustrating but I know he needs me more now so I am there for him. I am no saint please but NOT ALL WOMEN ARE DEVILS WHEN FINANCES GO SOUTH IN A MARRIAGE.

A woman of virtue....Thanks for being so encouraging and supportive.

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phonr and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

Am not a messenger of doom but this family you landed yoursef seem like the devil reproduce all of them. A family where everyone is the same na wa o! A woman who can abandon her baby when husband went to hussle is truly worse than jezebel. I pray they don't harm you sha now that things are better. It is well with marriage

everythinggirly:
Not all women do this. I am a woman and I can tell you that it is only those players who do it.

A real woman wants the best for her family, in good times or bad times.

Really

my brother, you married a prostitute. Someone who has the guts to go and visit her male friend? Shey u dey whine me nii? A married woman for that matter!! . This is the height of it all.

F*ck people's opinion, divorce that lady now for your complete peace of mind.

everythinggirly:
It's good to pray for the right one even before marriage, someone that loves you can't hurt you. Love never fails.

There is nothing like right one and love fails.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

Follow my tread you will know u not alone

Logically, this may seems the right way but you know your gender na "my money is my money but your money is our money".
Here is another one "honey don't forget the 5000 naira I lend you o" that's after the said honey gave her 100000.
That been said, there are also good women in the hands of crazy men
And there are these other very little percentage that have it right.

Cuttycool:
Stop giving marriage a bad mage. Do not discourage men. You didn't take time to chose the right woman to marry.

From what you said, your wife was not working as well, and you were jobless and broke. You men should always encourage your wife to get something doing, or you help set up a business for her, especially since she may start having babies.

Rtk5:
Men you need to hussle and if possible avoid marriage. The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is going broke.

Please I am not trying to poison anybody's heart. It is good to fall in love and marry the right partner. I tell you most solemnly, until things get bad, you will never know the real attitude of your partner.

I remember when I lost my job and things became so bad that I planned to kill my self on a certain day, what stopped me from committing suicide was I fell into a deep sleep that I didn't wake up till the next day at around 8am. On waking up i relaized that God did something to me that i couldn't explain till today and the thought of suicide vanished.

Back to my topic, there was a day during my times of trial and hardship that my wife told me she wanted to go and visit her male friend in his house, I stopped her by saying why will a married woman do that and you even have the guts to tell me. It ended in a fight, anytime we have any slight quarrel, she will pack her things and leave to her mum's place and the family always support her actions without knowing from me what happened.

There was a time when our child was just barely few months old, i left the house for an interview, i trecked about 3km to the venue, she left him at home and went to only God knows where, only for her to call me that she has left the house and my son for me, that i should get home before he wakes up from sleep, i couldn't wait for the interview to get to my turn, i begged a random person on the road and he gave me #1,000 that was after i begged more than ten different people with other refusing to answer me not to talk of helping. I ran home and thank God i met him just waking up. I took him back to the interview and a kind lady helped me with him until it got to my turn and i finished and went back home.

In the night at about 7pm while i was preparing to bath him, she entered the house and carried him to bath him, i didn't utter a word and i forgave her.

Guys, you need to see how thin i became during those trials, no single food to eat. I became a shadow of myself, i became so shy of walking in public because of how frustrated i became. I have many experiences but i rest my case here.

The sad reality right now is that we are still married, while the good is that things have improved 10times better than it has ever been but i've placed her where she belongs. The only thing stopping me from divorce is what people will say and my image. Do you know that honestly she hasn't learnt her lessons as she is still a problem to me, always nagging and i don't have peace in my own house.

Right now i'm on the process of divorce and i'm building resistance to whatever people will say.

She doesnt understand the phrase, "For better for worse"

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phonr and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

I swr Op you're the one doing yourself.... just have it at the back of your mind at any point in time that woman can poison you she just never get opportunity or maybe she still day plot her graph......God knows if she was in my house she go don turn statistics tay tay it would just be a case of missing person and nobody can hold you on this earth after all she has given you a child which is her primary duty
Send her away and start taking good care of your child if she no wan go make her disappear no time for rubbish

Rtk5:
sir, it baffles me how some people reason, honstly if i type all my experience with this woman you will think it is fiction. A woman that when i lost my job and there was no money for diapers her sister advised her to steal my phonr and go sell it. Thank God i found it under the bed. I saw the chat with her sister on that.

Can u imagine? What a family . My brother please if u can't cope anymore, I repeat if it's becoming unbearable, divorce her because u may not escape the next suicide mission. And let me shock you. If u die In that marriage, another man go dey bang ur wife. Stay alive for the sake of your precious son .