The thing that upsets me more is when we start narrating our experiences of been dealt with toxic parenting from our fathers some people will be saying, we were products of manipulations of our mom. but that's a lie... they just don't know our pains.

Here are the attributes of my father, don't know if it's redpill or not.

1) My father swear for us at any slightest provocation (he uses word like, YOU GO DIE, YOU GO USE YOUR MOUTH RUB GROUND, WITCH and so much more) imagine as a kid growing up till this day and this man still uses same languages on us his children.

2) HE'S CUNNY IN NATURE TOWARDS US HIS FAMILY.

You don't dare have an issue with a neighbor in the presence of my dad which he's aware of, because the next morning he be sitting with that same neighbor and talk ill about you in your presence ( how many times my mom has quarrelled with people because of him...but before we know it, him and them have reconciled. my mom would be the bad person in the town)

3) IS WITCH A GOOD NAME TO CALL YOUR CHILD?

This man has called us witch to the extent the whole area is looking at us as one, he has literally made us look bad in the presence of people. compare us with other people.
he has spoiled us with his bad tongue. full area gossiping telling people their papa self dey call them witch...belike them don confess before.
just because of my father toxic tongue.

4) MY FATHER HOLDS HIS BROTHERS CHILDREN IN HIGHER REGARDS THAN US.

you need to see the way he's happy whenever they come around, especially when they give him money like 5k, 3k ... prayers uphon prayers on them.
as soon as they go he starts the curses on us.. I don't know he just don't want us to succeed or not.

DO I HATE MY FATHER? I hate him with every blood in my veins yes, how can I love someone that abuses us immediately he sees us eating his food, looking at us like we are wrecking him from day one.

Any small thing, COMOTH FOR MY HOUSE (you must hear that word)

honestly speaking I myself am in my mid 20s and with what I experience to this day it's affecting me in my life, you can never see me smile.
am always angry, even when am happy.
when I talk, my words are always hard.. except when I try to be nice sometimes.

I SWEAR ON MY LIFE, I REFUSED TO BE THE MAN MY FATHER IS, EVEN IN MY NEXT LIFE TO COME.

Swear for am back. I hate nonsense abeg

This matter wear wrapper tie gele

Sorry but it seems he needs better rehab

He could be doing that out of ignorance and frustration ...
Since you have made a decision to be different, it is left for you to declare words of positivity into your life and work hard to achieve it.

I don't know which is easier to spot; a cum soaked panty, a person with a body odour or a child who has been brought up by an evil mom not to see any good in their father.

The fact that the first paragraph of your woe tale defends your mom and aims to minimize her influence on you betrays her.

I have seen plenty of your kind, fortunately for me, some of these scums are in my family, so that affords me the privilege of sniffing out the influence of long-time, manipulations momipulations once they start to complain.

The truth is,
No father is totally good, neither is there any who is totally bad. Some dads are write-offs no doubt, but it only takes a write-off of a child to write to the world of their own dad as a write-off even when pointers tell otherwise.

Some of our moms are horrible cooks, but how many times do we tell our friends that our mom's cooking was the reason most of us spent our growing years in hospitals?

It's one thing to have a brain and another to have a discerning brain.

From what I deduce,
Your dad is apparently an upright man, who would not side evil irrespective of who commits it so it's strange to your mom that he'd take sides with strangers rather than support the wrongs of his kids.

I also see you expect your dad to pick fights with people because your quarrelsome mom isn't cool with them. That's whack, infantile and shows how much you think like your mom.

The fact that he appreciates very little gifts from strangers shows he is appreciative too.

In my early twenties, I wasn't living in the family house playing referee while my parents fought, I already had a good job, a decent car and getting my preek wet most of the time in preparation for marriage.
So I relate to your dad's disappointment.

It is only unfortunate that his kids are not living up to his expectations and he is reminded of this each time he sees other kids who are and ends up voicing out his unfulfillment.

That's one of his flaws but the fact that you are alive is a testament that he was good enough to ejaculate into your mom's hollow chamber rather than allow her die childless.

I have now come to learn that the worst thing that can happen to a man is not to have a wife who spreads her legs for any Thumb, Preek and Harry but the worst thing that can happen to a man is to have a wife who spreads his flaws to not just any Tom, Dick and Harry but also to his kids.

But if you've concluded that your father is as useless as your mom has made you believe he is. Help her become a widow so you can marry her and make her taste what true love is or you can continue to hate him with every blood in your vein; but that won't stop him from being your father. Would it?

Till then, wait till you become a father with bunch of useless kids who have been completely turned against you by their troublesome mom and let's see if you won't make your dad look like a learner at cursing.

Mkpi Awada.

Just speak positive words to yourself and tell yourself his words are of no effect on your life.

Some father's just ain't worth being one.

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't know which is easier to spot; a cum soaked panty, a person with a body odour or a child who has been brought up by an evil mom not to see any good in their father.

you are a fool, I pray this gets to you one way or the other.
so you can physically see, that this has nothing to do with manipulations.

Hating your father is one the easiest way to be in bondage, am talking from experience. My father curse us as well, he even compared us with our goats. We are still struggling today because of decision he took years back. I hated him with everything I had, but I couldn't get a break through till I forgave him with all my heart, he is late though. Hatered delays blessings

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't know which is easier to spot; a cum soaked panty, a person with a body odour or a child who has been brought up by an evil mom not to see any good in their father.

You lack comprehension
Is it so hard to believe some fathers are irresponsible?

So sorry OP, I pray you heal from whatever you've been going through. AMEN!!!

When I think about my dad sometimes, I just conclude marriage and having kids shouldn't be for everyone. The man for no marry. Why give birth to kids you won't be there for, busy impressing the streets and letting the home suffer.

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NwaAmaikpe:




I don't know which is easier to spot; a cum soaked panty, a person with a body odour or a child who has been brought up by an evil mom not to see any good in their father.

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I always smile whenever I see your name before reading your comments, but you make meaningless comments in some important topics. why? How does this correlate to the OP's topic?

NwaAmaikpe:




I don't know which is easier to spot; a cum soaked panty, a person with a body odour or a child who has been brought up by an evil mom not to see any good in their father.

The fact that the first paragraph of your woe tales defends your mom and aims to minimizes her influence on you betrays her.

I have seen plenty of your kind, fortunately for me, some of these scums are in my family, so that affords me the rare privilege of sniffing out the influence of long-time, mom-manipulations once they start to complain.

One thing is certain.
No father is totally good, neither is there any who is totally bad. Some dad's are write-offs, but it only takes a write-off of a child to write to the world of their own dad as a write-off.

Some of our moms are horrible cooks, but how many times do we tell our friends that our mom's cooking was the reason most of us spent our growing up years in hospitals?

It's one thing to have a brain and another to have a discerning brain.
Your dad apparently is an upright man, who would not side evil irrespective of who commits it so it's strange to your mom that he'd take sides with strangers rather than support the wrongs of his kids.

The fact that your dad appreciates very little gifts from strangers shows he is appreciative too.
He is only unfortunate that his kids are not living up to his expectations and every time he sees others who are, he is reminded and ends up voicing out his unfulfillment.

The fact that you are alive is a testament that he was good enough to ejaculate into your mom's hollow chamber rather than allow her die childless.

I have now come to learn that the worst thing that can happen to a man is not to have a wife who spreads her legs for any Thumb, Preek and Harry but to have a wife who spreads her husband's flaws to not just any Tom, Dick and Harry but also to his kids.

But if you've concluded that your father is as useless as your mom has made you believe he is. Help make her a widow so you can marry her and make her taste what true love is.

Mkpi Awada.

My niqqa

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Hmmmm

It's high time you left his home and go stay in another house, even if it's one room face me I face you.. it's manageable

For peace sake
For your sanity sake

Parental curses are real, try as much as possible to avoid it which starts from you leaving the house

How I so dislike cursers!!!
Get independent dude
When he doesn't see you two, three years and you coming back in a big way.. I'm sure he will regret his actions

Mothers can be manipulative too, just use your no. 6

Constantly counter his curses with positive confessions for yourself. I think you shouldn't hate him because by that, you have given him power over you which he doesn't deserve. Just see him as just another person. Just disconnect from him in every way that you need to.

Ayanwukoma:
The thing that upsets me more is when we start narrating our experiences of been dealt with toxic parenting from our fathers some people will be saying, we were products of manipulations of our mom. but that's a lie... they just don't know our pains.

here are the attributes of my father, don't know if it's redpill or not.


1) my father swear for us at any slightest provocation (he uses word like, YOU GO DIE, YOU GO USE YOUR MOUTH RUB GROUND, WITCH and so much more) imagine as a kid growing up till this day and this man still uses same languages on us his children.



2) HE'S CUNNY IN NATURE TOWARDS US HIS FAMILY.

You don't dare have an issue with a neighbor in the presence of my dad which he's aware of, because the next morning he be sitting with that same neighbor and talk ill about you in your presence ( how many times my mom has quarrelled with people because of him...but before we know it, him and them have reconciled. my mom would be the bad person in the town)


3) IS WITCH A GOOD NAME TO CALL YOUR CHILD?


This man has called us witch to the extent the whole area is looking at us as one, he has literally made us look bad in the presence of people. compare us with other people.
he has spoiled us with his bad tongue. full area gossiping telling people their papa self dey call them witch...belike them don confess before.
just because of my father toxic tongue.



4)MY FATHER HOLDS HIS BROTHERS CHILDREN IN HIGHER REGARDS THAN US.


you need to see the way he's happy whenever they come around, especially when they give him money like 5k, 3k ... prayers uphon prayers on them.
as soon as they go he starts the curses on us.. I don't know he just don't want us to succeed or not.

DO I HATE MY FATHER? I hate him with every blood in my veins yes, how can I love someone that abuses us immediately he sees us eating his food, looking at us like we are wrecking him from day one.

any small thing, COMOTH FOR MY HOUSE (you must hear that word)


honestly speaking I myself am in my mid 20s and with what I experience to this day it's affecting me in my life, you can never see me smile.
am always angry, even when am happy.
when I talk, my words are always hard.. except when I try to be nice sometimes.

I SWEAR ON MY LIFE, I REFUSED TO BE THE MAN MY FATHER IS, EVEN IN MY NEXT LIFE TO COME.





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......Most of you guys always enjoy hipping blames on your parents especially father's while in the right sense of it you ve never honoured them.

How do you want a father to feel knowing fully well that his kids sees him as a nobody?

Thank God I ve one of the best father's in this world. Though he is late but his memories still lives and will continue to live.

A man who always want to support you no matter what.

All these because we his children have always giving him his rights and appreciated all his efforts towards us.

Oga go kneel down and ask your father for forgiveness,change your way of life,make him happy and see how he will start to hold you in high esteem.

Please always rebuke those curses, no matter what parent should never curse their child. A parent mouth should always be used to bless and pray foe their children.

Try as much as possible to be patience with your father until you're able to move out.

Some guys here refuse to accept that some fathers can be bad and irresponsible without provocation. Though sadly, they don't give that kind of privilege to mothers if they were the topic.

Look for how to leave that house and area and get a fresh start with a clear head. You can't do much in that toxic environment. Also, while you are still there, try and ignore his rantings.

Lol .. is your father a sango priest?

On a more serious note. It frustration from too much family responsibilities that is making your father to curse you guys.

Just be cancelling it any time he does.

NwaAmaikpe, shut up your mouth. You're taking sides with the father because you're no different from him.

Uchu!

Hia

I completely understand what the Op is going through. Let me say I know how you feel.

But as I grow, I've come to understand that not every man is father material.

Some fathers irritate, insult and push their children away. The children become comfortable with their mothers who listen and stand by them and their problems.

Next thing, the father and other dimwitted fellows start accusing mothers of inciting the children against their fathers.

My advice: Respect /Honour your father. That is the primary obligation you have. Loving him is not compulsory or mandatory. Even the Bible promotes and admonishes respect not love. Because love can be impossible with the bad attitudes of some fathers towards their children.

Also, some fathers are terrible because of their background and past experience in life.

Ayanwukoma:
The thing that upsets me more is when we start narrating our experiences of been dealt with toxic parenting from our fathers some people will be saying, we were products of manipulations of our mom. but that's a lie... they just don't know our pains.

Here are the attributes of my father, don't know if it's redpill or not.

1) My father swear for us at any slightest provocation (he uses word like, YOU GO DIE, YOU GO USE YOUR MOUTH RUB GROUND, WITCH and so much more) imagine as a kid growing up till this day and this man still uses same languages on us his children.

2) HE'S CUNNY IN NATURE TOWARDS US HIS FAMILY.

You don't dare have an issue with a neighbor in the presence of my dad which he's aware of, because the next morning he be sitting with that same neighbor and talk ill about you in your presence ( how many times my mom has quarrelled with people because of him...but before we know it, him and them have reconciled. my mom would be the bad person in the town)

3) IS WITCH A GOOD NAME TO CALL YOUR CHILD?

This man has called us witch to the extent the whole area is looking at us as one, he has literally made us look bad in the presence of people. compare us with other people.
he has spoiled us with his bad tongue. full area gossiping telling people their papa self dey call them witch...belike them don confess before.
just because of my father toxic tongue.

4) MY FATHER HOLDS HIS BROTHERS CHILDREN IN HIGHER REGARDS THAN US.

you need to see the way he's happy whenever they come around, especially when they give him money like 5k, 3k ... prayers uphon prayers on them.
as soon as they go he starts the curses on us.. I don't know he just don't want us to succeed or not.

DO I HATE MY FATHER? I hate him with every blood in my veins yes, how can I love someone that abuses us immediately he sees us eating his food, looking at us like we are wrecking him from day one.

Any small thing, COMOTH FOR MY HOUSE (you must hear that word)

honestly speaking I myself am in my mid 20s and with what I experience to this day it's affecting me in my life, you can never see me smile.
am always angry, even when am happy.
when I talk, my words are always hard.. except when I try to be nice sometimes.

I SWEAR ON MY LIFE, I REFUSED TO BE THE MAN MY FATHER IS, EVEN IN MY NEXT LIFE TO COME.

What do you know about his father

Issokay!!!

End time father's

I know someone else in his shoe

You're in your mid-twenties op. I think this is the time you should start planning on moving out. See finish no dey good.

When you've been absent for more than a year, then come back with a bag of rice and tomatoes, you'll see respect on a whole new level.

Become independent, and your father will start treating you like a fellow man.