Chreze:
I think sharing experiences helps give the reality of things. Make I share my story.

I have always believed in carrying my load (family) to everywhere I go to. My reasons are:

1. I get this inspiration when I see them.

2. I want them to enjoy everything I enjoy.

3. Financially I believe it will be too much having to keep my family in Naija or anywhere else and me being away. The maintenance cost will be high, as I will be doing everything in two’s …

4. Naija is not a safe place. What that means is you will always have your BP going up and down with the constant security issues in Nigeria (kidnapping and killing)

Even before our child came to the picture we traveled together and when one was going for training, the other will look for a short course to do (this is expensive, part of the reason our child came 2yrs after our marriage). This helped us grow together, as well as have similar-same goals.

Fast forward to coming to the UK. My wife was watching our son while I attend classes and do my part time crypto trading. We were good. Could afford all we needed. But I noticed my wife wasn’t happy as she felt like she should be working to help out financially. I tried to explain to her that the most important thing was helping the family which she was doing already. After my first semester I had no other option as having an unhappy partner is the last thing any man wants so I gave in and she got a Job.

Now the battle was taking care of a 2years old active male child, attending classes, and trading crypto daily (cos new variance of covid regularly means business could shut down again). The first weeks wasn’t funny as it was a lot for me. My wife tries to bath him and give him breakfast before she leaves. But some days it was too early and I don’t like to wake someone up from sleep to do anything. (In fact I still carry one of my mum sister for mind cos she use to wake me up then for irrelevant things).

It was challenging, in fact for the first time in my life, I thought maybe it wasn’t a good idea to come with them to the UK together. That was the first time I ever had that thought and was unhappy to even think that way. Luckily the next day was my wife’s off and early in the morning 7am, I took a 20mins walk just to get my mind and head together. While I was walking I noticed how beautiful the city is and I immediately got a reminder of why I like to carry my family with me everywhere I go. Na there e con click say things can’t be the same with a child involved and that the best thing for me was to enjoy the challenges. And that was it.

When I went back home, I became my normal self. Already my wife was doing all the shopping in the house with her card and she wasnt using my card. So I started enjoying not selling my coins to have pounds. I just changed my mindset towards everything and decided to accept and have fun with everything that comes my way. I normally don’t take this sweet drinks as I prefer fruit, but we buy them cos my wife and son likes to take them. I told my self I was gonna finish the juice she buys in less than 2days. To my surprise she was replacing them after I finish am. For lectures, I attended only the classes that was perfect for me and my son’s timing and watched records for the ones that didnt suit us. For group meetings (teams and zoom) I was constantly muted and only unmute to contribute (of course before the start of any meeting I declare to them that I will be muted because my child is here and i didn’t want them to add “ one little finger to our project”). I played with everything that concerned him and school. There was a day I was having a project meeting with one of my team and a guy asked if I had any final note to add to our work I just type “ twinkle twinkle little star” . They all started laughing and i told them thanks for accepting most of my contributions via chat rather than the usual call.

Now for result, first semester with my wife watching our son, I got only B’s and 1 D (no A’s). For the second semester I had combined duties , I got equal number of A and B with only 1C (the C was in a 10unint course, I believe it won’t matter much) . Third and final semester was project (result is not out) but I hope to get something better as I had a better understanding of time management and Timaya’s song - “this life I can’t kill my self o”.

Having kids and studying can not be an easy thing for any one weather man or woman. My advice is don’t try it, it stresses you mentally and if you are unable to manage the situation properly you will become aggressive towards your child (for doing children things).

To the lady that talked about her children and husband’s situation. You have gotten lots of good advise here from different people, I even had to share my story because of you. But don’t take any of the advise you have been offered, take only the one you and your husband agree to. Be careful not to force any of the suggested ideas on here to your partner, as this may not yield a good result. Just take your time and trust me the right idea will come to you. Remember you only got advise for the part of your situation you shared, they may not be the best idea considering your situation (which as human we can’t share completely with anyone except God).

For anyone (weather man or woman) considering coming to the UK with kids and partner. Just know that it won’t be easy, even money can’t do it (if you care a lot about who is actually watching your child) and the man must be ready to take care of the child(ren) after-all na you born them.

One thing I have told myself in this life is that I will have the best and perfect relationship with my child(ren). I want them to be able to share any and everything with me knowing that I won’t judge them but love them.

Last last na God de help us. So always seek for him in everything.

Great things happen when a couple work together. .... so many cultural things in Nigeria needs to be unlearnt .... welldone and more power to you and your household


A couple friend just moved, their latest fight, the wife said a wife is not supposed to bring one naira/pound into the household.... and the man feels he should not do a single house chores...I don't even know where to begin with such mindset

DFmum:
Am not schooling , working here in NHS Trust as a nurse. Just wondering why they gave one child and refused the other.

It’s the same thing, replace school with work, the same question…who will look after your kids while you work?

LagosismyHome:


There so many that bought lands in naija and after payment story enter the matter.... this your advice needs advice



Deride and curse you....are you living your life for others comment. You better set your set free and live your life for yourself

lol. Staying in Uk comes at a huge price. Is only when you invest back home that you would have something to fall back on.

kaylov12:


Tesco app charges 8p/min, although it uses internet and generates some random numbers.

Skype is 10p per minute to nigeria.

jesmond3945:
lol. Staying in Uk comes at a huge price. Is only when you invest back home that you would have something to fall back on.

investing back home does not always end well, I rather invest here and monitor it than back home.

LagosismyHome:


Great things happen when a couple work together. .... so many cultural things in Nigeria needs to be unlearnt .... welldone and more power to you and your household


A couple friend just moved, their latest fight, the wife said a wife is not supposed to bring one naira/pound into the household.... and the man feels he should not do a single house chores...I don't even know where to begin with such mindset

Sis no blame either of them ooo. Na Nigerian issues de cause those things. I like to travel a lot and I do that because I learn new things whenever I go to a new country. Forget all those things wey we de watch for film, until you go the country before you go know the reason behind everything the people do.

Before relocating to the UK, me and my wife lived in Naija for 2yrs. During that period we see so many things and hear so many things. The one wey shock me na one day, a very good friend of mine (childhood friend that is like a brother ) came to our house. Cos of our relationship my wife already made pepper soup for the guy say we go eat with drink. My wife didn’t serve me cos she was thinking I will eat with my friend since he was like a brother.

Well long story short, Oga came and said he wanted to rest a bit before eating. So my wife served me something to hold myself with before Oga ready. After my wife dropped the food and left.

My friend just whispered to me:

“Guy why your wife de serve you with one meat. E no good, as head of the house you suppose de eat with nothing less than two meat. E no good no let another person see this kind thing”

I was shocked and surprised because the guy in question is a young man and not an old man. Me, when you sound stupid to me thinking you are smart, I respond with a joke to tell you, you are a joker. “ i just asked him if he saw “beware of dogs at my gate”..

But before he left, I felt like it was important for me to talk to him cos he’s actually like a brother. I had to start explaining to him that those things parents of those days did was as a result of poverty. So they think eating more and having the bigger portion meant they were the head. Now you eat whatever makes you happy.

Sometimes I don’t even eat meat because you go eat meat for rice, eat for semo and soup, eat for pepper soup and still eat with wine. Make person no con start to de do like animal one day. because na animals de eat meat always.

LagosismyHome:


Great things happen when a couple work together. .... so many cultural things in Nigeria needs to be unlearnt .... welldone and more power to you and your household


A couple friend just moved, their latest fight, the wife said a wife is not supposed to bring one naira/pound into the household.... and the man feels he should not do a single house chores...I don't even know where to begin with such mindset

These ones still have a lot of learning and unlearning to do in this UK otherwise they will be adding to the numbers soon

Chreze:

. Make person no con start to de do like animal one day. because na animals de eat meat always.

This is funny. I laughed so hard

LagosismyHome:


Great things happen when a couple work together. .... so many cultural things in Nigeria needs to be unlearnt .... welldone and more power to you and your household


A couple friend just moved, their latest fight, the wife said a wife is not supposed to bring one naira/pound into the household.... and the man feels he should not do a single house chores...I don't even know where to begin with such mindset

hustla:


Hello bro

Do you know how much the cremation costs?

That's exactly what I'd like

£2500.....

Lexusgs430:


£2500.....

Wahala no come too much laidis

£2500 kwa

EmmyKing86:
Hello everyone and compliments of the season.

So, I have observed that there has been a huge increase of mature individuals (not only here in Nairaland) with children applying and coming to the UK under the tier 4 students route. There is nothing wrong with searching for greener pastures however, more thought has to be placed prior to making this huge step under certain conditions. For instance, an applicant with his/her significant other with 3+ children coming via tier4 students visa. The applicant is restricted to 20hrs/week for work (can work full-time during holidays), the significant other will most likely get a minimum wage job with long hours, the children would need childcare (very expensive in the UK), accommodation with a family of 5+ living in a 2 bedroom apartment, the cost of living..............etc. Do you see my point? Here in the UK, the major cause of separation among immigrant families is due to finances.

Coming to the UK on the student route with all the family at once is extremely difficult and not ideal. The ideal scenario is for the applicant to come in first, test the waters and bring in the rest of the family following graduation and securing a job.

The intention of coming to the UK through the student's route may be to acquire permanent status and if this is the case, going to Canada may be the best option as there may be a possibility to get PR before setting foot in the country (I don't know whether this is still available)

Having said all the above, there may be some success story, but before coming via students route with family, think deeply about it.

Some Financial Tips

So, one thing dependants can do to bring extra income is to invest in YOUTUBE content creation (especially during the current pandemic). Yes, this is a good avenue for extra income as you grow your subscribers. The initial stages will be tough but with commitment and dedication, your channel will grow. For instance, your youtube channel can focus on your family settling in the UK, recording your lifestyle, and giving information due to personal experience to other Nigerians/Africans that might be looking to move to the UK under the same route. Another option is photography. Acquire a DSLR camera, start taking casual photos and grow to be professional and set up a business (while being vigilant about the UK immigration rules).

This is just a personal opinion as a lot of families have become financially stranded and later come to Church to ask for assistance.

My whole thing is to think critically before bringing the whole family on a tier4 students visa.

God bless and happy new year in advance.

I think you are right about the increased number of matured people trying to emigrate from Nigeria case in point myself. So I will attempt to address your very candid observations from my own situation. Due to the Covid situation of 2020, as well as the sheer number and strict requirements concerning approval, Canadian PR was always a tall order for me and I am sure a lot of people, so when I made up my mind to move I needed a situation where I could have 90% plus assurance of visa application success i.e. UK student visa.

All the points you made about the financial requirements are extremely spot on, in fact I will go on to add another point which I am not sure many people are aware off, and i only came to know a couple of weeks ago, which is that if you intend to apply for post study, and you came alone like me, your spouse and kids must be in UK 6 months to the time of application for them to benefit as you won't be able to bring them over later unlike the student visa scenario. However, I must remind you that you failed to put into context the current situation in Nigeria. Not only are things not how they were in the 90s/00s, they are not even how they were 2012 -2014. What I mean by this is that if you are looking at the overall picture like me with 3 kids aged 5,3 and 7 months living in Abuja, most of the success indicators of the middle class in terms of land acquisition, building, good schools, holidays etc are gradually moving out of reach year by year. Primary education is the foundation of the child and yet you have to pay anything between 50 -250k per term per child for an standard and acceptable school exclusive of those upper class brands. What now happens at secondary school level which is just 6 years away despite the fact they are not even on the same planet with what the western world can offer? Buying of lands and building of houses are no longer the sensible investments they once was, Nigerian insane inflation has ensured that. I am in that industry and I can guarantee you that, except you can afford going into the proper real estate sector which we all know what that means financially.

I think the main issue is the fact that most people coming out do not plan meticulously, have a complete picture of how both spouses will complement each other through out the first year in terms of monthly expenses and inflow, try and get extra funds to bring to UK to act as buffer/safety net even while studying/working, understand and accept how tough the first few months will be even before stepping foot in UK, target and plan for a white collar job/profession even if for the first year they are doing warehouse or whatever, try to always budget for every target properly using excel or simply writing each line item down in a specific book - don't leave anything to chance or memory.

I got here in October, and I get the fear of not getting a sponsored job in my field here especially as i left a good job back home, but I just try to compare the next 5 years here or in Nigeria with the spread benefits on my family and not just me, and i have to say that the only reason Nigeria is even in the conversation is because I do not have a job here yet. I feel that folks with families that want to emigrate should treat it like how they approached marriage i.e. there is a level of maturity required that would ensure that just making more money here than Nigeria or just for vanity purposes is not the sole main reason why you would take such a huge step. This would ensure a level of wisdom and patience to approach all the endless trials you would face as I having been facing myself as well. Lol. Let me stop for now.

hustla:



Wahala no come too much laidis

£2500 kwa

Lol.

@lexusgs430 what of donating of organs? Sey if person donate NHs go handle the other parts of the body? Hahahahahahahhaha. You can’t donate and still get cost to attend to na Abi?

Una no go kill person with this dead body matter wey una bring come table.

jesmond3945:
what is the essence of relocating to uk without anything to show back home. People will deride and curse you. For tier 2, I would not mind but not for tier 4. Imagine taking your last card to do psw for you and your family while hoping for the best. I see it as unwise.

Lol, na naija you want to show something back home . Not even anywhere else. To each his or her own.

That Tier 2 you refer to has Risks as well and also similar cost to PSW. Infact the PSW cost is setup in a way where you save on Biometric cost (£19.20), appointment cost (£125 per applicant because its scarce), travelling cost and potential priority fee if you don't want to be out of income (£500 per applicant).

Like I said, we all have our reasons for moving and don't think those on it are living like paupers or don't have savings as well. I have seen ongoing case studies that shows hardwork and consistency and not doing falafolo works. Always research whatever opportunity you are on to make the best out of it.

Raalsalghul:


There's also the issue of applying for the Post Study visa with a family of four/five.

What are the odds that they will save 8000 to 10000 pounds before the program elapses?

It's very important they factor in that.

All this have to be part of the worst case scenario planning of the couple even before they apply for the student visa. Not when they arrive in UK which will increase the chances of failure.

TheGuyFromHR:


Well said at the bolded.
Lamenting and ranting about the costs of all the numerous visas helps in no way whatsoever to change that fact.

Like every other significant action in life, prospective immigrants should research properly, assess their options and chances realistically and not Nigerian-style (hoping for the best), then make their decisions.

This is my view as well. Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy.

Hello house please I need your advice. I have children 8&10 and another 3 years old .
I got an NHS job planning to apply for Visa.
Am concerned, will this children be granted Visa as I intend applying with them while the father apply at a later date due to work here in Nigeria.

jesmond3945:
what is the essence of relocating to uk without anything to show back home. People will deride and curse you. For tier 2, I would not mind but not for tier 4. Imagine taking your last card to do psw for you and your family while hoping for the best. I see it as unwise.

As other people have said, I would advice you seriously to just focus on yourself and completely ignore external comments or opinions. They NEVER matter in the long run.

Chreze:


Lol.

@lexusgs430 what of donating of organs? Sey if person donate NHs go handle the other parts of the body? Hahahahahahahhaha. You can’t donate and still get cost to attend to na Abi?

Una no go kill person with this dead body matter wey una bring come table.

Bro, I Wan take crypt0 serious for 2022 o

You fit teach me small?

Ladyzain:
Hello house please I need your advice. I have children 8&10 and another 3 years old .
I got an NHS job planning to apply for Visa.
Am concerned, will this children be granted Visa as I intend applying with them while the father apply at a later date due to work here in Nigeria.

Apply with the whole family including your husband. Even if he comes and goes back or keeps commuting. It increases your chances of the kids in particular getting theirs.

From discussions on this thread, it seems entering the UK via the student route as a single person without kids is the best

Spoke to a friend who is currently with his family in London, baba just dey lament about bills and school fees - I doubt he knows that he will have to pay for psw for wife and kids also

Most people entering the UK don't have info about stuff I've seen on here and it's quite shocking. In all thy wanting to Japa, Japaing with sense and a solid plan - nothing beats that

A friend who studied Cybersecurity doesn't even know about the visa routes available and how to go about ILR, I jus dey wonder

When you ask them to read nairaland and source for free info, the default answer is always "I no sabi use am"

IcecoldDon:
,

Thank you for this.

I have said this in the student room and will say it here again. You are relocating to any country out of Naija, learn two things:
1. Trading (crypto or stock)
2. Hand work as we call it in Naija. One I have found to be very profiting is baking (cake and pies)

Both require less amount of money to learn and practice. Baking flour and sugar are very cheap here in the UK and the house you rented has an oven with tray inside.

Trading, depending on which and your level of knowledge can give you atleast 20% of your investment 3 times a week (if you do daily trading and eliminate human greed). The good thing is times have changed, this things you can Learn on YouTube. There are lots of videos and people teaching this things online for free. Why for free, because they already made millions so your $100 learning fee won’t increase them, plus focus is on making more millions and the only way to do this is having more people investing.

If you think trading is risky and you don’t want that level of risk. Then learn how to bake. There are breakfast restaurants everywhere in the UK. In fact everywhere in the world (except Nigeria). Bakers or pastry chef make good pay and restaurant job is always available. why is the job always available becauese these are part time job done by students, so when they finish their study, they move job or relocate. Automatically a spot is available for the next man. Also restaurant owners tends to open more branches/outlets when they see their business growing. One thing people hardly tell you is that whites like to employ Africans (Nigerians) not just because of our strength. But because of our problem solving skills. Nigerians and Indians are one of the most loved, forget the scam stories and all, a wise man knows that there are negative people in every part of the world.

Eliminate that spirit of saying everything you don’t know is a lie. No b lie, on this same chat room I met one guy who is also into trading and we spoke over the phone once for about an hour. Within that 1hour we shared how we trade, I learnt a lot from just that one hour call. The guy disappeared or I disappeared and we never spoke again. We should learn to use the internet. Life’s are changing everyday by just simply learning things on YouTube and zoom by people.

Early this year, when the covid tied the world, I don’t know if people were scared of end time or it was just God touching peoples heart. Free training con full everywhere online. Even in a areas that ought to be rare like cybersecurity. Zoom had free open rooms you could join and learn things for free.

Knowledge is everything. Make we de learn.

hustla:
From discussions on this thread, it seems entering the UK via the student route as a single person without kids is the best

Spoke to a friend who is currently with his family in London, baba just dey lament about bills and school fees - I doubt he knows that he will have to pay for psw for wife and kids also

Most people entering the UK don't have info about stuff I've seen on here and it's quite shocking. In all thy wanting to Japa, Japaing with sense and a solid plan - nothing beats that

A friend who studied Cybersecurity doesn't even know about the visa routes available and how to go about ILR, I jus dey wonder

When you ask them to read nairaland and source for free info, the default answer is always "I no sabi use am"

*School fees? Why is he paying school fees if he doesn’t want to. Unless the kids are in Uni.

Mamatukwas:


*School fees? Why is he paying school fees if he doesn’t want to. Unless the kids are in Uni.

He's in Uni on a 1 year course and has to pay his school fees

Thanks for sharing

Chreze:
I think sharing experiences helps give the reality of things. Make I share my story.

I have always believed in carrying my load (family) to everywhere I go to. My reasons are:

1. I get this inspiration when I see them.

2. I want them to enjoy everything I enjoy.

3. Financially I believe it will be too much having to keep my family in Naija or anywhere else and me being away. The maintenance cost will be high, as I will be doing everything in two’s …

4. Naija is not a safe place. What that means is you will always have your BP going up and down with the constant security issues in Nigeria (kidnapping and killing)

Even before our child came to the picture we traveled together and when one was going for training, the other will look for a short course to do (this is expensive, part of the reason our child came 2yrs after our marriage). This helped us grow together, as well as have similar-same goals.

Fast forward to coming to the UK. My wife was watching our son while I attend classes and do my part time crypto trading. We were good. Could afford all we needed. But I noticed my wife wasn’t happy as she felt like she should be working to help out financially. I tried to explain to her that the most important thing was helping the family which she was doing already. After my first semester I had no other option as having an unhappy partner is the last thing any man wants so I gave in and she got a Job.

Now the battle was taking care of a 2years old active male child, attending classes, and trading crypto daily (cos new variance of covid regularly means business could shut down again). The first weeks wasn’t funny as it was a lot for me. My wife tries to bath him and give him breakfast before she leaves. But some days it was too early and I don’t like to wake someone up from sleep to do anything. (In fact I still carry one of my mum sister for mind cos she use to wake me up then for irrelevant things).

It was challenging, in fact for the first time in my life, I thought maybe it wasn’t a good idea to come with them to the UK together. That was the first time I ever had that thought and was unhappy to even think that way. Luckily the next day was my wife’s off and early in the morning 7am, I took a 20mins walk just to get my mind and head together. While I was walking I noticed how beautiful the city is and I immediately got a reminder of why I like to carry my family with me everywhere I go. Na there e con click say things can’t be the same with a child involved and that the best thing for me was to enjoy the challenges. And that was it.

When I went back home, I became my normal self. Already my wife was doing all the shopping in the house with her card and she wasnt using my card. So I started enjoying not selling my coins to have pounds. I just changed my mindset towards everything and decided to accept and have fun with everything that comes my way. I normally don’t take this sweet drinks as I prefer fruit, but we buy them cos my wife and son likes to take them. I told my self I was gonna finish the juice she buys in less than 2days. To my surprise she was replacing them after I finish am. For lectures, I attended only the classes that was perfect for me and my son’s timing and watched records for the ones that didnt suit us. For group meetings (teams and zoom) I was constantly muted and only unmute to contribute (of course before the start of any meeting I declare to them that I will be muted because my child is here and i didn’t want them to add “ one little finger to our project”). I played with everything that concerned him and school. There was a day I was having a project meeting with one of my team and a guy asked if I had any final note to add to our work I just type “ twinkle twinkle little star” . They all started laughing and i told them thanks for accepting most of my contributions via chat rather than the usual call.

Now for result, first semester with my wife watching our son, I got only B’s and 1 D (no A’s). For the second semester I had combined duties , I got equal number of A and B with only 1C (the C was in a 10unint course, I believe it won’t matter much) . Third and final semester was project (result is not out) but I hope to get something better as I had a better understanding of time management and Timaya’s song - “this life I can’t kill my self o”.

Having kids and studying can not be an easy thing for any one weather man or woman. My advice is don’t try it, it stresses you mentally and if you are unable to manage the situation properly you will become aggressive towards your child (for doing children things).

To the lady that talked about her children and husband’s situation. You have gotten lots of good advise here from different people, I even had to share my story because of you. But don’t take any of the advise you have been offered, take only the one you and your husband agree to. Be careful not to force any of the suggested ideas on here to your partner, as this may not yield a good result. Just take your time and trust me the right idea will come to you. Remember you only got advise for the part of your situation you shared, they may not be the best idea considering your situation (which as human we can’t share completely with anyone except God).

For anyone (weather man or woman) considering coming to the UK with kids and partner. Just know that it won’t be easy, even money can’t do it (if you care a lot about who is actually watching your child) and the man must be ready to take care of the child(ren) after-all na you born them.

One thing I have told myself in this life is that I will have the best and perfect relationship with my child(ren). I want them to be able to share any and everything with me knowing that I won’t judge them but love them.

Last last na God de help us. So always seek for him in everything.

Mamatukwas:
Compliments of the Season everyone.

Please is there anyone on here who successfully came to the UK as a Sponsored Care Worker? Now that the Uk is looking to make it a thing I’m just wondering if any registration is required (similar to GMC) and which boards/ places it’s best to look to get roles that are sponsored for this field.

If you know or have info please share. Thank you.

I asked this a few days back and didn’t get an answer. I’ve gotten information that seems to suggest that being on the HCPC register gives you an edge with getting jobs on this Visa. Still investigating but it might be worth looking into for those considering the route.

Please share your journey if you make progress. Doing all my research for family members who I love but are genuinely anti internet. Ko easy

fatima04:
For people bringing in older parent or relatives, please ensure you obtain travel insurance for them. AXA mansard is quite cheap and prevent the below situation.

I have been seeing too many heartbreaking stories like this on the Canada groups and thought to share.


https://www.gofundme.com/f/ryc7q-support-for-the-otaigbes-family?utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_medium=copy_link_all&utm_source=customer

Does AXA mansard insurance actually cover what they say it will cover?

IcecoldDon:


As other people have said, I would advice you seriously to just focus on yourself and completely ignore external comments or opinions. They NEVER matter in the long run.

is not about me. I am talking in general terms. If we don't care what people would say then why do we send money back home to our people? We can as well ignore them.

Ladyzain:
Hello house please I need your advice. I have children 8&10 and another 3 years old .
I got an NHS job planning to apply for Visa.
Am concerned, will this children be granted Visa as I intend applying with them while the father apply at a later date due to work here in Nigeria.

They should be granted visa as long as there is a letter jointly signed by both parents agreeing to the kids travelling with their mother. The signed letter would be submitted as part of the visa application.

jesmond3945:
is not about me. I am talking in general terms. If we don't care what people would say then why do we send money back home to our people? We can as well ignore them.

I don't know about anyone else but I don't send money home because of what they will think, I send because I have a sense of duty to some folks at home. I don't do it for anyone, I do it for my self and God.

If you lie flat and ask people to walk on you, they will still complain you ain't flat enough. So do your bit for your self and God if you believe in Him

dubaiprince:


They should be granted visa as long as there is a letter jointly signed by both parents agreeing to the kids travelling with their mother. The signed letter would be submitted as part of the visa application.

I equally know they can apply as dependents but my main concern is as I have a 3 year old and since the father is not applying for Visa now won't they raise a flag in granting the little boy's Visa looking at ability to care for him since he can't start school immediately. Please has anyone applied this way with a toddler and 2 children for skilled worker HAC visa without the spouse and the children including the toddler was granted? I hope they will not raise child care issue as spouse will not apply for Visa now? Need clarification please

hustla:



Wahala no come too much laidis

£2500 kwa

This is for premium cremation........ If you just want easy BBQ roasting...... It's under £900.00.......