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Fact: Take any decision you want and don't make your children your excuse.

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

slivertongue:
It's sad to see spouses abandon their families in the times of difficulty only to show up when things turn rosy to claim rights. No law encourages one to abandon their families in times of challenges, as such I would encourage caution on both sides especially when one partner has moved on.

It is equally sad to see ignorant spouses refuse to use the law to their benefit.

Again, that man's spouse could use the law to take him for everything he owns if he continues as he is.

Arrest her one time m, arrest no mean say u want kill an arrest mean say u no dae cut out for that rubbish she dae do

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

Better stay away from that Satanic wife of yours. She is a very useless woman.

When women are outsmarted like this, they become Satanic. She may even try to kill you with poison to inherit your wealth. Make sure you dont accept anything from her not even make up sex.

Carry that girl and run away to another city till she delivers safely. Your useless ex wife may hire assassins to even kill her and make it look like a random fight.

She knows the new lady is carrying your seed and that will give her a strong footing in your life. Protect your seed bro. After the girl delivers safely, go to a protestant church and marry her to avoid stress of other chruches.

Begin the process of divorcing your useless ex wife immediately.

Protect that your girlfriend. Very important!!!

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

Nawa o...Wife that ran away when the train couldn't move, should remain where she is when the train start moving....Sometimes I feel every married man should pass through this a bit to test if he married his helper or a gold harvester...

Too many wolves in sheep clothing.
Women everywhere, few wives/mothers...Very few..

God help us.

If you didn't divorce her legally, sorry to tell you the truth, She is still your wife...And you have created an unfair atmosphere for the new genuine lady as well.

If that your first wife can't succeed now, she will result to spoiling your kids mind and manipulate them to see you as there first Enemy,then your second wife and her kids will fight an unending war Immediately after your transition.

Fear a bitter woman o, she will do anything to get back at you...Maybe she thought no woman go look your way when she left, unto say she is doing you a favour ...smh Mistake some ladies make in life...A man will always have a companion..A partner is always ready to step in and start life with him.

Wawelexy:
Sorry o, which of the brother in-law helped you? Ur ex bro in-law or the new girl?

Your head dey there. Very critical question!

LilMissFavvy:
You said your ex wife's brother helped you with business and you are now back on your feet ? Yet want to dump her?

Y'ALL SHOULD STOP MENTIONING ME, THERE ARE OTHER COMMENTS TO RESPOND TO. What I typed is none of your businesses.

. Young Lady you are not Blind,Read again And See Where He Stated below that His Elder Sisters Husby Lifted Him again.Or you think In-law only means His Ex Wife immediate Families?He has other Siblings too.

And even if its d Ex Wife Brother that Still Helped Him again That doesn't tie Him to admitted Her back She Left of Her own free will remember? Don't be a Fool.

Kobojunkie:
You know what, I really hope Nigerian women out there are reading all this so they realize that it is in their interest to learn to use the law to their advantage.

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OO ni Kuure!!! Omo Ofo Jatijati Someone who is a Fair weather Friend Left when things were bad,Yet want to Come back When that Grass is greener and She isn't even remorse now,Calm and Wants to Change for Good!! She still has the audacity to be threatening both Her Husby and the new Wife to be and u are talking in the Nonsense.
I have been reading your Comments on Naira land You Come across as a Sadist Whom Nothing good ever Happens to, and faces a tough time So everyone must suffer Like You in all of this what you are only Concerned about is how Nigerian Women Should take everything that belongs to the Man in a Divorce So what of everything that Belongs to the Woman too?"How every Nig Woman Can use the Legal Way to Right all the Wrong my foot" Which Lawyer u be Self Charge and Bail?

You Greedy,Inordinate Drug addicted Ding Bats Ka a da fun O!! Asigbe Wardu!!

Are you really a man??

alphaNomega:
I want to hear your wife's side of the story before I comment.

Share this link with her so she can respond

You are very smart. It sounds like this girlfriend was the reason the wife left in the first place, or at least, she has always been in the picture even before the wife left.

LilMissFavvy:
You said your ex wife's brother helped you with business and you are now back on your feet ? Yet want to dump her?

Y'ALL SHOULD STOP MENTIONING ME, THERE ARE OTHER COMMENTS TO RESPOND TO. What I typed is none of your businesses.

I won't stop mentioning you cos its obvious you are still a kid. How on earth did you ignore the fact that she left him with the kids and only came back cos he is better now? That the inlaw helped him makes the woman a good woman? Is that what your brain is reasoning? I fear the man wey go marry you o.

I do not understand if you are calling me a fool or not, but you should have been smart to know that he never specified the exact in-law as at when I dropped that comment, unless he Modified it. I felt his wife's brother saw him suffering and helped. However I am still of the
opinion that when the wife left should have been the time he should have worked harder and take a look into how his life can get better, and not a time to date and expect a child from another. That's my opinion, and I'm entitled to it.

ultraviolet27:
. Young Lady you are not Blind,Read again And See Where He Stated below that His Elder Sisters Husby Lifted Him again.Or you think In-law only means His Ex Wife immediate Families?He has other Siblings too.

And even if its d Ex Wife Brother that Still Helped Him again That doesn't tie Him to admitted Her back She Left of Her own free will remember? Don't be a Fool.

Pity the miserable* woman in your life first. Thanks.....by the way I can't remember ever telling you I'm single.

DominusPrime:
I won't stop mentioning you cos its obvious you are still a kid. How on earth did you ignore the fact that she left him with the kids and only came back cos he is better now? That the inlaw helped him makes the woman a good woman? Is that what your brain is reasoning? I fear the man wey go marry you o.

That woman don't deserved you brother. But be careful, women are almost the same. Report her to the police family unit, those women in that department know how to handle such wicked women. They will help you follow a easier divorce proceedures that will shut her completely from you and your gf. But remember, they will make sure you are responsible for your children.

Again, remember that any relationship that produced children can never end. You and her will still nyash one day in the nearest future at the time this your new gf will start her own madness because you are taking care of your older children.

Just be careful with the two women. Defend yourself more.

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

well if all you said is all there is because Nigerians like to report issues the way its please them, then she dont have right to do what she is doing, but also know that she is still your wife if you guys are legally married, so in this case court can come in if u go that route. You saying you will put her in jail to rot there, like seriously, just like that? it doesn't work that way oooh otherwise all of us for don end for jail. Goodluck to you.

LilMissFavvy:
Pity the miserable* woman in your life first. Thanks.....by the way I can't remember ever telling you I'm single.

Married or dating I can't imagine how that man or those men are putting up with you. That reasoning still surprises me. I can't even begin to imagine how you'll defend that. That's why you have to resort to insults anyway. Once sense is finished its insults that take over

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Did you read where he said she blocked all avenues for reaching them? Why do you like arguing just to be politically correct ?

this cant be tendered in court as evidence, if she blocked all avenue he can go through her family or even friends and or her place of work. The man just jump on what already was in his mind and here saying what he wants us to hear. Abegyyyy until we hear the two sides arent believing nothing

izibili44:
you no read well. He say the woman not let am see the children. How him wan fund children wen him no get access to.

if we got him right, but nah him inlaw dey help am, so cant he go through the inlaw to his wifey. I will surprised if he already is calling the gf brother his inlaw when he is not married to her. So here we assume the inlaw he referred to is the wife's relative.

Na case oooh

one4GOD:
if we got him right, but nah him inlaw dey help am, so cant he go through the inlaw to his wifey. I will surprised if he already is calling the gf brother his inlaw when he is not married to her. So here we assume the inlaw he referred to is the wife's relative.

Madam, he already clarified that it was his sister's husband that helped him.

i need to hear your wife part of the story so that i wont commit any sin against my God and your wife, and besides you said your wifes brother which is your brother inlaw helped to get your fit back to be rich and the best thing to pay her brother back is by leaving her sister, pls invite her we wants to hear her part of story

Oga, I don't think you are partially blind. If not, go back to your first comment to me and check if it wasn't insulting. Each time you come accross females here all you do is run your mouth imagining this or that, what stops you from imagining things about your life first? Do that first, keep your imaginations to yourself thank/you.

I shared my opinion, and I still maintain that I feel the OP should have waited, than to go into another relationship and is already expectant of a child. I still stand by that opinion, especially since the wife left with the kids, she didn't abandon his kids to him or anyone, she was providing for the children where ever they were. Op should have been patient knowing he has a wife and kids. It's called opinion and I can share it anywhere.

DominusPrime:
Married or dating I can't imagine how that man or those men are putting up with you. That reasoning still surprises me. I can't even begin to imagine how you'll defend that. That's why you have to resort to insults anyway. Once sense is finished its insults that take over

Unique357:
My wife left me when I lost everything. She took our two children with her and has blocked me everywhere. I couldn't reach her to speak with my children. I have tried reaching her parents to no avail.

But now that things are going well for me, my brother in law lifted me and I am back to business and I have a girlfriend we are getting married next year march by God's grace.

Now my ex is back in the picture making life difficult for my girlfriend. She is blackmailing her and bombarding her with nasty messages to the extend of humiliating her in public, calling her all sorts of names like husband snatcher etc. I am angry with her because she has left me when I needed her the most and this girlfriend stood by me with my poor conditions and now she wants to play victim and putting the blame on my girl.

I want to arrest her and let her rot in jail but on the other side I don't want to do it for the sake of our children who are 10 years and 7 years. I want to deal with her in a calm way because there are children involved . What do you think I should do?

Technically, she's not your ex-wife if you didn't lawfully divorce her. File for a divorce if you haven't already. Get restraining order. Shikena

Did you not read where he said his elder sister husband?

LilMissFavvy:
It is o. So he wants to take the fruits of his ex wife's family and feed a new wife? Maddoo . That wife should wake up and teach them a lesson. He is supposed to forgive her as long as he benefitted from his ex family. I know the wife did badly by leaving her matrimonial home, but shes back to take her place.

Carparts888:
Madam if the picture I saw on your profile is yours, you are hot and gorgeous
Do you write business proposals?

Proposals, yes.

ReneeNuttall:
Madam adviser do u know why she left him in the first instance?If it was due to him cheating in her with the said girlfriend?you shouldn't make ur conclusions untill u find out from both sides.

His wife can't just leave him like that after 10 years of marriage. OP did not state the real reason why his wife left him with the kids.You self think am.

She left already. Why come back now?

Forgive her, if you go ahead and marry your girlfriend, God won't be happy with you, and the bible also frowns at divorce and remarry and you may regret your action in future.

one4GOD:
if we got him right, but nah him inlaw dey help am, so cant he go through the inlaw to his wifey. I will surprised if he already is calling the gf brother his inlaw when he is not married to her. So here we assume the inlaw he referred to is the wife's relative.

no him say his own elder sister husband na him help him.

She left you when you had nothing?
Have you divorced her and asked for the bride price paid on her to be returned?
If yes, then her head needs to be screwed in the right direction.


If no, act on it asap and move on with your life. In fact go ahead and wife the girlfriend. Don't allow a woman who doesn't know the value of marriage to come back to disrupt your lives.

Some people have to know that life and marriage isn't all rosy.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Did you read where he said she blocked all avenues for reaching them? Why do you like arguing just to be politically correct ?

He doesn't know where the people he paid her bride price to live? The same wife that calls to threaten the girl he's cheating on her with? How does the call come in?

He knows exactly why he is demonizing his wife and he knows exactly what he's doing to get people on his side. All he has to do is mention money. No inkling of his own behavior and character in the entire write-up. He's a lamb to the slaughter, it seems.

Believe men who play innocent at your peril. Let us hear her side of the story.

mardis:
Try and make a proper divorce arrangement, the one that will involve her family members and yours. After that, get police involve not to arrest her o but they should cut her warnings never to come close to you, your wife or any of your family members. If she fails to adhere then she will face the penalty squarely. What a nicompoo of a woman. You want to reap what you didn't saw.

Again, please collect your children from her.

LMAO.

To the issue: aren't they her children too? How do you think weaponizing her children in that manner is lawful?