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I will be brief with my write up, so expect errors.

I am having an issue with my Mom,because of my babe, she just don't like my babe again,

It all happened two days ago, Since its Christmas period i have to visit my parent house, I asked my babe to meet me there and wait for me, Before I could get there, I got a message on my phone from my babe,saying my Mom asked her to leave our house, that she does not want to see her(gf) again with her son(me), That anytime she comes into that house again, she will regret her actions.

I felt so sad that day, but I pretend like nothing happened, after all the celebration I called my dad to explain things to him,while explaining things, Mom hijack the conversation. saying How dare me report her actions to my dad, And while she was raising her voice at me, My elder brother support her actions and it leads into quarrel between Me and my brother.

The they later made a law that day, that My babe must never come to that house again and I must leave her alone, this was said by my mom, She insist that I just have to let go of her, saying she just doesn't want or Like her at all.

I asked her, what she knows and why she didn't liked her, She said I am not in the position to ask her such, Question, that was when I told her to her face that, I will not leave the girl and if God wills I will marry her in the nearest future.

Since that day, I have been worried and Sad, My babe wasn't happy as well, This is the girl that stood by me with everything, She is supportive and since I have been dating, I have never see a loyal girl like my babe, She can go any length to just help me achieve my plans.

The issue now is that, I don't even know what to do again, They banned her from entering our house, Though my Dad and other siblings support me dating her.

Now this has makes the relationship between me and my mom to reduce,I keep wondering the type of Christian she do claim she is, I felt so sad within me.

Guy's what should I do now.
This babe I can't leave her, She is the one God is using for me,All the money I am making, her impact in it is over 70%, If I should dump her to please my mom, I know I will have lot to bare. what should I do now please.

I don't want to make my mom sad too, thou I don't want her to choose or decide for me, but what's the best way to approach this issue.

Mothers can be sometimes hard on their son's choice and Love interest.

As long as your Dad approved your relationship with the said lady, i don't think there's much your mum can do in this case apart from the fact that she will hate you and your wife.

Just make her understand but talk to your brother first, you can penetrate your mum through him.

And if possible, get your mum and brother gifts too and let them know your fiancee bought it for them. But that must be after you've won them over

If you can read my thread, please help with an advice.

You know what you want, if it's good go ahead your parents would understand you làter

Bro at this era ladies don't deserve us men
If she is not supporting you financially
Or she does not have a job that pays her
Don't marry her bro don't let woman show you pepe first
Listen to your mom
GF( my love thank you )
Is different from
Mum( my Son God bless you )

OMOJOHN001:
I will be brief with my write up, so expect errors.

I am having an issue with my Mom,because of my babe, she just don't like my babe again,

It all happened two days ago, Since its Christmas period i have to visit my parent house, I asked my babe to meet me there and wait for me, Before I could get there, I got a message on my phone from my babe,saying my Mom asked her to leave our house, that she does not want to see her(gf) again with her son(me), That anytime she comes into that house again, she will regret her actions.

I felt so sad that day, but I pretend like nothing happened, after all the celebration I called my dad to explain things to him,while explaining things, Mom hijack the conversation. saying How dare me report her actions to my dad, And while she was raising her voice at me, My elder brother support her actions and it leads into quarrel between Me and my brother.

The they later made a law that day, that My babe must never come to that house again and I must leave her alone, this was said by my mom, She insist that I just have to let go of her, saying she just doesn't want or Like her at all.

I asked her, what she knows and why she didn't liked her, She said I am not in the position to ask her such, Question, that was when I told her to her face that, I will not leave the girl and if God wills I will marry her in the nearest future.

Since that day, I have been worried and Sad, My babe wasn't happy as well, This is the girl that stood by me with everything, She is supportive and since I have been dating, I have never see a loyal girl like my babe, She can go any length to just help me achieve my plans.

The issue now is that, I don't even know what to do again, They banned her from entering our house, Though my Dad and other siblings support me dating her.

Now this has makes the relationship between me and my mom to reduce,I keep wondering the type of Christian she do claim she is, I felt so sad within me.

Guy's what should I do now.
This babe I can't leave her, She is the one God is using for me,All the money I am making, her impact in it is over 70%, If I should dump her to please my mom, I know I will have lot to bare. what should I do now please.

I don't want to make my mom sad too, thou I don't want her to choose or decide for me, but what's the best way to approach this issue.

Don't dump her, u aren't a kid anymore. The reason ur mum treats u this way is because u aren't a man yet. How? U live in the same house with them, u eat their food, they give u pocket money etc. Try and get ur own house and fend for urself, if u want ur mum to have regard for u and for ur choice of girl.

Truvelisback:
Don't dump her, u aren't a kid anymore. The reason ur mum treats u this way is because u aren't a man yet. How? U live in the same house with them, u eat their food, they give u pocket money etc. Try and get ur own house and fend for urself, if u want ur mum to have regard for u and for u choice of girl.

Thanks so much bro.

I have my own place and I don't really take anything from them again sef,, The reason I am in their house now, is because I travelled from my place (Kwara state) down to their place to celebrate Christmas with them.

[quote author=Sammy101111 post=109080987]Bro at this era ladies don't deserve us men
If she is not supporting you financially


She is not a liability to me bro, She has her won job, and she plays a major role in my career.

[quote author=DannyXpress post=109080850]Mothers can be sometimes hard on their son's choice and Love interest.

As long as your Dad approved your relationship with the said lady, i don't think there's much your mum can do in this case

Okay, thanks so much.

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OMOJOHN001:
Thanks so much bro.

I have my own place and I don't really take anything from them again sef,, The reason I am in their house now, is because I travelled from my place (Kwara state) down to their place to celebrate Christmas with them.

Bro, live ur life and enjoy life. Ur choice, is ur choice. Besides, ur mum never gave a concrete reason why u should dump her.

The post made me laugh really hard, I won't tell you what you should have done and what you shouldn't have, does your mom know anything about this girl before?
Maybe she doesn't like her family, I had a Friend like whom his mother rejected his babe that stood by him all through because according to his mother, they always have thiefs in their generation, theft is a family gift for them, even the girl's dad stole things even as a family man, she never wanted her son to partake in their shame.
First things first, keep your babe away from them, try to find out the reason why your mom doesn't want her, talk to her in a calm mood, have a heart to heart talk with her, don't flare up.
Know the reason for their actions first and foremost.
No need to get frustrated, when the tides are rough, your calmness will make d difference.

[quote author=Truvelisback post=109081915]Bro, live ur life and enjoy life. Ur choice, is ur choice. Besides,

That's the main reason,I really want to prove stubborn.

Women just like dictating for their children, mostly Son's, She didn't have 1reason for her actions

[quote author=ParpahSeventy post=109081931]The post made me laugh really hard, I won't tell you what you should

Yes, she knows little about her family, but I still can't find anything that's not acceptable in their family.

[quote author=InTheCloudySky post=109081838]Your didn't give any reasons for your mom and brother's unwarranted

Thanks so much, Seriously I am confused, cuz they didn't have any reason for all their actions and if of family of 9people, it's only my mom and my brother that hate her for no reason.

So no genuine reason

Them wan turn you to robot

you already know what to do

[quote author=OMOJOHN001 post=109082015][/quote]You have to talk to her and what's wrong, that's the best way to get out.
Women don't want the girl with the slightest of blemish for their sons.

Let me be real with you OP;

Have you reached the ripe age of marriage? Are you done schooling? Maybe your mother thinks you're not yet ready hence the aggressiveness.

If you never hustle, settle your parents well well, then you wan go marry, everybody go vex for you na.

If your girlfriend have been coming to your house before to the extent of her waiting for you till you arrive, then you may need to ask your gf what transpired that day.

Mind you, ladies can be mischievous sometimes, she might not want to talk about her faults

Ask yourself, do you think your mum and those who are in support of your gf not coming to the house hate you?

MuMu Man....you never marry her de tell her make she go wait for you for una house, the girl ma sef MuMu carry body enter.

it's obvious your mum just have natural hatred (without reasons) for the girl.
unless your mum gives you genuine reasons why that girl isn't good for you, leave her(your mum) to her hatred.

i love the way you tackled the issue, but don't let it get to your head.
keep her away from your parents house - cause it isn't your house.
tell your babe to take her mind away from the issue and focus on yourselves.

parents shouldn't be the ones to decide who their kids should marry

as for your elder brother... make i stop here

Your mother is seeing something at Spiritual realm a lame man like you can't see; sit your mother down and convinced her to talk to you the reason why she doesn't like her[color=#006600][/color]

[quote author=michael77777 post=109082559][b]I swear I can't fight my family because of a cheap hole....


Let me tell you something, There are something's your family will never do for you, and some ladies aren't cheap hole.


You will not understand, until you enter the Game and know how the hustle works.

Continue your relationship.

Tell your mum if she cant give you a reason within a period of time she should forget it.

Is the girl from another tribe, or another village your people normally won t marry from /

It is your life, if you make mistake, it is yours, dont suffer mistake or decision of somebody else

MediMedi:
MuMu Man....you never marry her de tell her make she go wait for you for una house, the girl ma sef MuMu carry body enter.

This is the babe that attend same church with my parent's, She have been coming there when will never even started dating, and the reason is because I travelled to their place, assuming we are back to our own state, where my apartment us situated nobody will challenge her.

Why not keep asking your mum what she’s doing to make her hate you gf?
Is it her mode of dressing, there’s something that’s triggering the matter na bro.
So figure out why
I even thought you’d have figured it out by now

And don’t make her go to your mum’s place again
Are you even ready for marriage
Cause why will your mum be telling you, you are in no position to ask her, are you a baby?

Try & find out from ur mum why she doesn't like the girl instead of being stubborn or quarreling ur mum.
There may be genuine reasons why she doesn't want u near the girl.There may be things she has seen or has observed about the girl which u haven't.
U can only know this when u have a heart to heart discussion with her not by quarreling her or ur brother.
She's ur mother & she definitely loves u far more than that girl ever will.
Let me tell u, even if u feel that girl loves u because she stood by u during hard times, she might not stand by u later when she sees a man better than u.

Dont let a girl separate u from ur beloved family because they are the only ones who will love u without any condition.

Go and rent your own apartment pack out and be a man of your own since u sabi towtow i know say u be man now

OMOJOHN001:
This is the babe that attend same church with my parent's, She have been coming there when will never even started dating, and the reason is because I travelled to their place, assuming we are back to our own state, where my apartment us situated nobody will challenge her.

My advice, don't take this issue up for now, now that mom is mad over her.
Give her 50% affections give mon 50% too.
Don't be close to her when around with parent, make sure the love it intact.
For about 2week later ask mom what she see in her, don't ask ur girl
Since u say na same church mom knows better