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Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Op please wait, let the pregnancy period pass, when she give birth and she still behaving thesame way, know that you've made a mistake. But I'm sure she will change

To my level of understanding, your wife is not lazy rather she is deploying her efforts on makeup and the likes... I think she deployed her energy where it will be more useful to her than you, you got married to a slut and you should accept it like that ..

End time wife

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Get an old help that will only be coming 3times a week just for cleaning. You will be fine.
Still talk to your wife let her know in plain language things she's doing that you don't like.

If u will tell ursef the truth, all of these didn't start immediately she married you. And before she got pregnant.. how was she treating the house. Bros allow her enjoy abeg. If the plate dey pain u to see wen u return from work... As u eat finish.. carry the plate go keep for kitchen ... She is lazy but she cooked same meal u cn ate but cnt return common plate..

U are a very funny man, I am just imagining a mental picture of the behavior of you two in the house... It will be funny and dramatic I swear. "So so chop chop she dey chop"...lol
Who dey buy the choppings for am kwanu?

Landmack:
It’s obvious those that married for beauty are the ones sending epistles and gracing the FP of Nairaland. Single men better open ur eyes and learn from these guys.

After marrying big ass,big breast,fine face and pointed nose..u come back here to disturb us with marital questions.
Since Christmas on NL all we have been reading is reports by husbands of slay queens

You can say that again!

You can't tell me you didn't notice this things during Courtship. ....


You need patience, hopefully she will Adjust

Ofadaman:
It's hard to change people, marriage is hard because we often mingle with people whom we know nothing about their childhood and sometimes we don't have enough time to understand who they really are until it's too late. Love is not enough , it's often safer to marry your best match than marry for love.
Love alone won't sustain you, because it's often superficial in that you love something maybe the looks, body shape, demeanor, voice and it all makes up into love, when those features fade, we begin to lose attraction,but character hardly changes . If you value health cleanliness then marry a woman who values her health ,weight and cleanliness, we often get muddled up with opposite attracts , it's mustn't always be a complete match but seek for closely matched attributes, superficial things like looks are important but not absolute and sustainable.

Certain fundamentals traits like honesty, sympathy, zeal, empathy, thought process etc are very important.

you have said it all bro... You just said my mind... This is exactly what guys need.... Thank you for this piece...you have answered the question I have been asking myself for many years... Thanks again...

This men xome on here and complain about their wives being this or that.
You knew what kind of life she was living before you married her, so what do you expect? That she would suddenly change after marriage?
Bear your cross man
No marry slay mama if you want a "wife"

ntyce:
First thing, get her attention from the TV.

Tell her the decoder is damaged, you can destroy the fuse.

Once the TV is out of the way, let her get something productive to do with her time, even if it's cleaning the house.
She will grumble and sulk, be prepared for it.

And she contact an engineer to troubleshoot the fuse or decoder? Women can do or get anything they want.

Richy4:
Sorry buddy.... The laziness was there when u were courting her but u failed to see it because as I always say, when people wears those Rose plated spectacles that was covered with love, they can't see... Even when giant red flags that were flying on fullmast were standing in front of them, they can't see it.. but now, I guess it's getting clearer, u can now see

<<<Here is what I think man...

<<< There's no need saying that the business u opened for her will not crumble... It will, because the lady incharge doesn't care much... Do not open another one if it crumbles...The wife u have is better off in an office where there's time schedule, project to run that needs deadline..
<<<She will sit up when she has a demanding boss... Her personality cannot handle a business of her own sorry... Except u have a lot of money that u will be injecting into a business that will never yield profit...Let her starts submitting her CV in organisations immediately she puts to bed ...

<<< U should get a maid..She doesn't like to cook, or clean and she doesn't want a house help..who does that?... what did she tell u that made you to agree to her terms? What kind of unreasonable expectations does she want from you?... That u should come back from work, cook and clean while she sit and raises her legs on the couch and watch TV? Did u agree to her terms because she is pregnant and will be giving birth to Messiah?

I just tire oo

Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return.

The above threw me off. You mean you were actually waiting for her to carry your used plate? You can’t carry your used plates to the sink yourself? Ayam not understanding.

I laughed really hard at the “shawarma with pepper soup and sugar cane” part

Ussycool:
Whaat!
You know what? Women fails to understand their responsibilities in their marital home. They behave this way if you pamper them so much. Look, i love my lady. And she do all chores without complain, she joked that she sees house chores as an exercise even if she is pregnant...
Though your case is different, you can not control your woman. That is why she is so disrespectful.
Very soon you will see hell, if she put to bed you will be at recieving end of entire wahala in your home. She will make sure you start washing for her.

You know what? Some women can't diffrentiate between dating and marriage. They continue with their initial characters.
My cent.

Ur wife is pregnant but u cannot help her out with house chores becos to u she is now Ur slave ..you cannot because of your over bloated ego that is higher than two story building.
Kill Ur pregnant wife with chores, without any assistance , then you will still complain that she is lazy .
Different women react to pregnancy in different ways . Some fall sick all through while others are lucky to be active.

You did this,u did that. Na today un begin date. U nonsee all he flaws all these while. Oponu odeh omo.
Idio t. When we say think with your head,na dic k una dey think with
Do loosers count. Oh boy u don loose.

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

ol boy leave that woman to enjoy her life, what is wrong with you ? If she can't be free in her own husband's house where else should she go ? The crazy food she's eating is normal pregnancy craze, it'll go after she gives birth. The decoder matter can easily be sorted out by you with dual view or you go to a bar. You both can talk about the maid matter, she'll need one especially now. Rest

You say she messes up the house with make up kits... How about you that ate but didn't return the plate u use.. did u even talk to her to allow you watch match? Abi u just snatched remote while she is watching her program and tuned it to ur own selfish desired channel cus u feel it's ur house, it's ur tv.. afterall this person u call lazy still cooked for u.. even goes to shop atleast now ur problem is the time spent in the shop. You drive muscles meanwhile she treks to shop ... she has to wait for the morning rush to come down before she goes to her shop and rush to return before the evening rush starts again. She even branch market to buy wetin she go cook for u... Some people sef are der own problem but are quick to look for a vulnerable person to put it on

udemzyudex:
I believe in divorce ooo,I dey always tell whoever cares to listen.

I can't tolerate things for too long, if I try to work things out with you and you're not putting any effort, abeg children go survive me sef go survive.

E better make we go our separate ways,all this marriage complains are getting too much,the funny thing be say e still no stop one bobo and sisi from marrying on Saturday and the complains continues.

Sometimes I login nairaland specifically for marriage issues...The thing don turn cruise I swear!!

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

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There are women you date and there are women you marry.

I guess you couldn't tell the difference. You were carried away by the glitters. Just know that it will only get worse. Be ready to babysit full time when she delivers.

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Carry your cross bro. You went for slay queen and you got the slay attitude. Many of una never see anything yet. Those of you that married beauty instead of manner we always get the result.

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Mteeeew

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Pls my brother, noo marriage is perfect, overlook all those things and make your marriage work. Try to get a maid, make her see reason why you should have a maid because when you have baby now, domestic work will increase and there's no way you people can cope

Oga OP u said u married her in January (which year) because we are still in January o. Now she's already 4 months pregnant, how did you do it. Hope it's not your ere gele with her that forced you into forceful marriage with her?

GboyegaD:
What I don't understand is how from January to maybe August that she coincided this want nipped in the bud. How does she go to shop from 10am to 3pm? Is she selling nursery school children snacks?

You also have your fault. As an adult you can't eat breakfast and leave the plates on the dining table to go to work. That is disrespectful and not clean behavior which could have fueled her behavior to mess up the home as well.

Do you know you are funny??

You are a very funny person...

My brother, you don’t need to be a woman beater. Believe it or not, you need to be strict to her. Behave like the head of the family. But make sure you provide and also show love. When she comes up with her lazy attitude, always frown at it and threaten her a little(but don’t hurt or harm her).
Besides; have you talked to her about her lazy side? That you don’t like it.

I'm sorry to piss on your party, but you've married an entitled liability. And you're indulging her by making life too comfortable for her.

Here comes another one....
You saw the signs during courtship and your parents warned you...but you felt u know beta, and married her....always listen to Ur parents!

For those of u not yet married, don't ignore those signs u are seein in her, and please listen to Ur parents.

Verdict: divorce her and have peace...BP is real.

Of all the good ladies around you went to choose a slay girl to marry.

She is your choice, stick to her.

Kikikikiiii sharwama, pepper soup and sugar cane in one hand got me rotfl!
Oga see ern, I have no pity for you what so ever! The sooner you men learn that you cannot eat your cake and have it, the better for you. There was something my father used to tell my sis and I back in the day... He used to say wife material is different from girlfriend material and a sensible man knows how to differentiate between the two. You sir, are obviously not sensible that's why you carried a girlfriend material and made her your wife! The time and dedication some women put into this makeup of a thing us enough to clue you in to what class of woman she is but no, you didn't see it. Any lady that always has full face beat or whatever they call it of makeup whenever you see her is not a serious person. That thing takes at least 1hr to do. How can a person that uses 1hr to make up per time be serious? Then pls, her love for zeeworld and sharwama and pepper soup didn't start today. Its possible those are the things you used to snatch her from her ex boyfriend sef! .
Oga, if I even tell you what to do to correct this scenario, you cannot even do it as I am looking at you so pls, carry your cross and continue to do as you are already doing. What has been joined together, is it me that will put it asunder?