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GboyegaD:
What I don't understand is how from January to maybe August that she coincided this want nipped in the bud. How does she go to shop from 10am to 3pm? Is she selling nursery school children snacks?

You also have your fault. As an adult you can't eat breakfast and leave the plates on the dining table to go to work. That is disrespectful and not a clean behavior which could have fueled her behavior to mess up the home as well.

What is this BS?

A husband cannot leave dirty plates for his wife to clear?

A stay-at home wife that goes to shop at anytime?

Na which kind marriage una dey do?

Connect her with me make I remarry her
Or you learn to suck kpekus E dey help
When she sees how clean you keep her kpekus she will learn to give your household clean

Your complain is hydra headed, i don't know which one to advice you on.


But what i will tell you is to leave her and focus on your own business and make sure that your hand is never down with cash, so that you will not one day ask for her financial support. You have tried for her, she is just the lazy type of woman and if you try to change her by force, it will bring serious issue between you and her and you will not have rest of mind.
Carry it, it's your own family cross.

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

But oga, why are you so mean na?

Just allow her to kill herself with that poison called Zeeworld.

After that, you can them marry another wife.

Problem solved.

For the moment.

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

So you mean you did not notice her laziness during ur normal dating period

Man where do u guys get these women....
Whenever a guy wants to marry make sure u atudy n investigate the mother of the girl as she is a reflection of the mother!

NovesaTillie:
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material

You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with.

Aww this is soo cute & adorable
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Fred166 I think na childishness dey worry ur wife, she must be pretty young, an ajebota or a kid in an adult body... But it's a simple issue, a bit of strictness & heart to heart will solve this issue

Jidemoo:
My brother....you see that Zeeworld of a TV channel...wetin e don cause don many

I always collect remote control from my sisters whenever they switch to that channel...

Once a lady gets addicted to it...fiam,she will lose her composure

Bro, the wired thing about the zee world is that it's the most unintelligent channel. I once decided to see a drama and it was like a child's play. A person who had just died appears in the next scene smiling, too many unintelligent concepts.

Oruka ti d'owo na.

This one na super story.... Cook up mthwww

I think you're being too hard and critical of her. You said she's pregnant yet you're policing how much food she eats? Nothing good can come out of that. A lot of pregnancy weight gain is also hormonal so no amount of starving can ensure she won't "get out of shape." That's what it takes to bring another human being into this world, and that's why immature men should not have kids. A lot will change with pregnancy and after delivery, but over time, with support and gentle encouragement, she will get herself back. The easiest way to make your wife fall permanently out of love with you is to treat her badly in pregnancy. If you still need this woman, it's time to bite your tongue and show her love and support.

CSTRR:
What is this BS?

A husband cannot leave dirty plates for his wife to clear?

A stay-at home wife that goes to shop at anytime?

Na which kind marriage una dey do?

Bros, so u just eat & leave the plate for ur wife to pack not cool man, the least u could do is drop the plate in the sink after eating..It's only for a while, when ur kids grow, they will even race to clear ur table for u

Landmack:
It’s obvious those that married for beauty are the ones sending epistles and gracing the FP of Nairaland. Single men better open ur eyes and learn from these guys.

After marrying big ass,big breast,fine face and pointed nose..u come back here to disturb us with marital questions.
Since Christmas on NL all we have been reading is reports by husbands of slay queens

Bro, some ladies are super beautiful and very hard working and respectful.

All this happened under 10 days, nairaland join opera min story gang

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

awe so sorry my dear, you have entered one chance oh.

Fake story.

Na when eh reach that zee world I come pity you gan!

Una no date♥ before marriage ❓

You have spoken moderately and kindly.

abike12:
I think you're being too hard and critical of her. You said she's pregnant yet you're policing how much food she eats? Nothing good can come out of that. A lot of pregnancy weight gain is also hormonal so no amount of starving can ensure she won't "get out of shape." That's what it takes to bring another human being into this world, and that's why immature men should not have kids. A lot will change with pregnancy and after delivery, but over time, with support and gentle encouragement, she will get herself back. The easiest way to make your wife fall permanently out of love with you is to treat her badly in pregnancy. If you still need this woman, it's time to bite your tongue and show her love and support.

Mmmmm my big brother had once been in a mess like yours. And my mum being an elderly woman with experience told him to send her back to her family and tell them that she needs to be retrained. He told them that he will be back for her once the training was over.

Importantly, that she will be sent to my mum's house just to test run the outcome of the training, bingo that was the solution. Her family felt humiliated and talked some sense into her.

Essentially, my big is what can be referred to as a real man. No woman walks all over him.

I wish you luck.

I agree, not cool, She is more than that.

Elsueno:
Bros, so u just eat & leave the plate for ur wife to pack not cool man, the least u could do is drop the plate in the sink after eating..It's only for a while, when ur kids grow, they will even race to clear ur table for u

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Settling down with this kind of person says alot about who you are.
Bro, I got no advice for you, she is already pregnant so dealing with it yourself.
Learn to enjoy doing the chores while she continue with her social media and zeeworld.

Landmack:
It’s obvious those that married for beauty are the ones sending epistles and gracing the FP of Nairaland. Single men better open ur eyes and learn from these guys.

After marrying big ass,big breast,fine face and pointed nose..u come back here to disturb us with marital questions.
Since Christmas on NL all we have been reading is reports by husbands of slay queens

Our Generation of men are the real endangered species.
If nothing is done, the next generation of homes would be hell for the men.

advanceDNA:
U seem like a fairly okay guy... so, get a maid....because U are screwed with this wife....

If you complain.. they team vagina people will come and say you are wicked that it’s not easy to carry pregnancy so u must not allow your wife do anything.....

U have married this one... there’s nothing you can do

Una no dey read. He said his wife is against it.

I just read, what you wrote, and I wonder, did you not see the signs, of self-entitlement, before marrying her.

Please be honest with yourself, if you saw the signs, and you ignored it, then it is not her fault, at least ignore everything and wait for the child and allow her to do whatever she likes.

You are supposed to choose what is good for you, so you don't complain later.

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

That is what you get when you go for beauty instead of character. Deal with your cross bro

omoharry:
Ur wife is pregnant but u cannot help her out with house chores becos to u she is now Ur slave ..you cannot because of your over bloated ego that is higher than two story building.
Kill Ur pregnant wife with chores, without any assistance , then you will still complain that she is lazy .
Different women react to pregnancy in different ways . Some fall sick all through while others are lucky to be active.

Na waoooo he wrote that she has been lazy before pregnancy. It only got worse. And he stated he's been the one cooking since she got pregnant.

She can't push that statement made me laugh
If she can't push push her down lol

Now let's be serious
B4 u married her didn't you she this red flags?
But you have married her just pray for her it's kinda difficult 4some one to change what he or she is used to, talk to her in a calm manner.
If she doesn't hear take action
No more money for her
You can close her shop till further notice
Let her know that you are serious don't be moved by her tears because you are training her for better. She will comply and when she does shower her with gifts

Can I hear you? You married her this January and she is now four months pregnant. You can come up with another story Jo!

guru03:
You have a long way to go.
1. Start cutting the payments you give her, in other words start shopping Yourself.
2. Start investing your money in another means, she can't help you to grow rather she can make you poor.
3. You need to stand firm in some decisions if not you can't control her excesses.
4. You need to call your sponsor to advise her, or you need to talk to someone she revere so they can talk sense into her, failing to comply you may take some action she might not like.
5. Pray that God give you the grace to handle this with wisdom.

Best advise so far.
6. Start planning your alternative. Things can get worse if she really is a slay.
7. Don't give more births if there is no evidence of change after 1st child. Easier to manage separation with less children.

Remember advise no 1. cut down on excesses and finances for cosmetics. Do most shopping yourself and keep ur gaze in the future without her (I pray not)
Wishing she changes before things go worse. They usually find themselves and form gangs. But less funding reduces the likelihood.

Why did you marry Tonto Dike?