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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by DECLAN2015(m): 2:30pm On Jan 11, 2022
Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.
.

I married my "beautiful "woman
That woman is not beatiful she is just attractive for face or body.Any one woman with bad character can not be considered beautiful

Shows us the pics self
U cant eat ur cake and have it.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by guru03(m): 2:32pm On Jan 11, 2022
Posh2018:


Best advise so far.
6. Start planning your alternative. Things can get worse if she really is a slay.
7. Don't give more births if there is no evidence of change after 1st child. Easier to manage separation with less children.

Remember advise no 1. cut down on excesses and finances for cosmetics. Do most shopping yourself and keep ur gaze in the future without her (I pray not)
Wishing she changes before things go worse. They usually find themselves and form gangs. But less funding reduces the likelihood.

Thanks

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 2:32pm On Jan 11, 2022
NovesaTillie:
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material undecided

You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with.

Lol...he has an option.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by fortunechy(m): 2:37pm On Jan 11, 2022
This year, all man should carry their cross... U married a slay queen die deal with it...
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Ofadaman(m): 2:42pm On Jan 11, 2022
Ebymyk:
you have said it all bro... You just said my mind... This is exactly what guys need.... Thank you for this piece...you have answered the question I have been asking myself for many years... Thanks again...

I'm glad to help, may I ask what question that is?
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by YourFavorite21(m): 2:44pm On Jan 11, 2022
That Zee world of a channel has damaged alot of homes, and relationship , I no dey gree my sisters to watch that rubbish, infact dem no fit try am ,unless when I am not around grin.
@Op, Pelè she go still change with time.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by obayendo1010(m): 2:47pm On Jan 11, 2022
Oga there is something you can do.
Change it for her back to back
Tell her the things you don't like because if you don't it will get worse and more so it will affect the ability of you kids because there can't organise them self each time you are not around because their mom won't teach them. Please for the sake of your children start now.
Start gradually with little things and see how she respond to things.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Snow02: 2:48pm On Jan 11, 2022
NovesaTillie:
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material undecided

You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with.
I like how you've accepted yourself for who you are lmao

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Elsueno: 2:51pm On Jan 11, 2022
CSTRR:

He is going to work.
His wife is at home.

There is nothing wrong with leaving the plates for your wife.

You are not suffering her. It's not work.

If you clear the plates after you eat, good for you.
Husband of the year.

If you don't, it's no big deal. It's what happens in most Nigerian homes.
The kids clear the plates, if they are not old enough, the wife do.

I don't know which woke mentality I dey see for this nairaland.
It is as if most of you did not grow up in Nigeria.

You have time to put the food in ur stomach, but clearing the plate is a problem?.....

So u will just eat, wash hand, push the table & leave ?. There is nothing alpha here bros

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by simplesearch: 2:52pm On Jan 11, 2022
Don't marry because of the variables, marry because of the one thing that is constant which is the character. God has already told us this, but we will not listen until we have to learn from our own mistakes which sometimes can be so exhilarating.
A beautiful lady without character is like a swine with a golden earring.

Proverbs 31:30
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by tillaman(m): 3:00pm On Jan 11, 2022
NovesaTillie:
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material undecided

You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with.
cute buttt you got here!!
Can I touch ?

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by danowena: 3:00pm On Jan 11, 2022
NovesaTillie:
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material undecided

You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with.

I couldn't help but appreciate the humour. grin

Nice vibe.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Shaddymie(f): 3:02pm On Jan 11, 2022
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Never not all ladies, I hate zeeworld with passion, Telemundo is what I like but I'm getting fed up is the movies the show this days and I'm not addicted to it. Op needs to talk to her concerning it and stop doing the stuff until she change and make sure he complains bitterly whenever he sees the house or kitchen dirty, she will adjust drastically and try to avoid him complaining Everytime.
quote author=Jidemoo post=108884810]My brother....you see that Zeeworld of a TV channel...wetin e don cause don many

I always collect remote control from my sisters whenever they switch to that channel...

Once a lady gets addicted to it...fiam,she will lose her composure[/quote]

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 3:05pm On Jan 11, 2022
Women are scam take it or leave it. shocked
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by lastburn(m): 3:06pm On Jan 11, 2022
Get a second wife or make her think you will
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by mechanics(m): 3:09pm On Jan 11, 2022
It's well, keep praying for her.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ENIGMATIC2023(m): 3:09pm On Jan 11, 2022
You didn't invite us for the wedding and you are telling us your problems. Divorce her or continue the suffering.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by DMerciful(m): 3:10pm On Jan 11, 2022
Seems you nor get sense sef. Did he ask you to beat your wife?
Fred166:
My parents didn't train me to be a woman beater.

Pls Help.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 3:12pm On Jan 11, 2022
NovesaTillie:
You married a slay queen like me and you want her to be a full wife Material undecided

You don't have many options now than to make do with the content in the package you came home with.
Women are scam take it or leave it. shocked
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Richy4(m): 3:13pm On Jan 11, 2022
bizhop01:
All this happened under 10 days, nairaland join opera min story gang cool

The OP posted this in December last year...The moderator found the post this year..
smiley

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Nobody: 3:15pm On Jan 11, 2022
Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day,.
From experience women are scam take it or leave it. Don't invest in them. shocked
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by salvation77177: 3:18pm On Jan 11, 2022
Guy, it's your choice vum liability. So, you have to bear the consequences. Or what advice do you want from here?
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Richy4(m): 3:24pm On Jan 11, 2022
Jamesbiodun:
Na shedibalabala you marry this January...
Don't you know her behavior before you get Married
There are some problems some people go just go use their hand drag angry

Not this January... He got married January 2021... posted the article December 28th 2021... Moderator found the article January 2022... so that was what was confusing a lot of people

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by BigBashiru: 3:26pm On Jan 11, 2022
DECLAN2015:
.

I married my "beautiful "woman
That woman is not beatiful she is just attractive for face or body.Any one woman with bad character can not be considered beautiful

Shows us the pics self
U cant eat ur cake and have it.

the bible threatens men with being fornicators and sexually immoral... hence people want to marry who they find attractive so they will not be called fornicators and sexually immoral by getting a side chick...
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by Aringon(m): 3:26pm On Jan 11, 2022
Just relax she will be good okay


Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by otokx(m): 3:27pm On Jan 11, 2022
People change, just try and talk to her the best you can. Nigerian men are seeing a lot in the name of marriage.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by johnlegend01: 3:36pm On Jan 11, 2022
The likelihood that someone in this position will have a second wife is 50/50. The 50% chance being that maybe motherhood will reset her brains. If the woman does not change after becoming a mother, the man will regret bringing forth children because they will most likely fail as parents. If she does not change, the man should just:
-be sure never to impregnate her for a second
-take the one child she has away from her

A man must not toil for years and when it's time to rest, he only sees untrained, mannerless, ungodly children. A good woman is very important.

I know very well what I am saying.

The above submission is in the case that that story is not fake.
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by ariesbull: 3:44pm On Jan 11, 2022
keypha1:
your still bathing from your stomach, make I kill her or force her to eat what she don't like, so that I will call my self a man.
deal with it and stop complaining
Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by highoctane: 3:47pm On Jan 11, 2022
Buy a washing machine
Are you not aware there a dish washing machine.
Are you not aware there is an automatic home cleaning machine, that immediately it senses a dirt on the floor will swing into action to pick it.
So you don't know you can remotely switch off your tv, and blame it as a fault?
Boys getting married.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by onojaford(m): 3:52pm On Jan 11, 2022
CrownOfClay724:
These things you all come to share here daily.
I find most of them too simplistic and hard to swallow.
I understand conflicts about Money. I understand conflicts about career growth and home management. I understand conflicts about religious inclinations.
But I don't understand how basic care , respect and affection becomes such a hard work.

Can a reasonable grown human being act this dastardly without thinking of the effect of their actions on their spouses?

Take that you're even siblings and she's your younger one. Can she be so inconsiderate to act this way?




You ought to have seen this in the dating phase.

Why do I feel that your intelligence must be above average?

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by gforce5: 3:54pm On Jan 11, 2022
I have no symphathy for you. When we tell you lots to marry a working class woman, you go about saying that "educated working class women are too proud, feminist and not submissive". Well there you go. What was this slay queen doing before you met? If this woman had passed through the four walls of university with her own sweat, she would not be lazing about. She would be trying to better herself even as a housewife. It's obvious that you wifed up a pretty girl with an empty brain.

Secondly, can you not take the dish and put it in the sink by yourself? This will not make you a simp. Forget what the so-called "alpha males/red pillars" say. By doing that, she will be forced to respect you and step her game up. If you want these women to fall in line, you need to act like you don't need them by being self-sufficient.

Thirdly, it was a risky move investing a huge sum of money (N900k) into a business that she's not interested in. You should have sat her down and come up with a proposed business plan. It would shown that you are serious and frugile when it comes to money. By spending the aforementioned amount, you have given her the impression that you are rich and generous. This means that you are easy to manipulate.

Fourthly, the issue with the remote is something that ought to have been discussed before marriage. A lot of marriages have suffered because of something as vain as who uses the TV. You should have made it clear that when it's time for you to watch what you like, there should be no compliants as you pay the bills.

Lastly, since she is pregnant, you have to be patient. Once she has delivered, you have to take control of your home and make her responsible. You cannot afford a liability in this day and age.

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Re: Married Men With Experience, Please I Need Your Help. by DemMannaScam: 3:56pm On Jan 11, 2022
So you did not see the signs before marriage damage?

When Faith Oyedepo said DON'T EVER MARRY A PERSON WHO DOESN'T HAVE THE FEAR OF GOD, you thought she was kidding?

He who finds a wife finds a good thing...

You didn't find a wife, you found a knife. Very sharp knife aka slay queen.

Now that she has started slaying you, your testimony has changed.

Pele o cry

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

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