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Smartb0y:
Upgrade your game,look nice and attractive.
They'll flock you without you trying.

Cold approach is for the experienced who can handle the rejections, you don't seem like one.

Lastly,admire and move on
Stop working yourself over women that don't even have 5k in their account

Focus on your self growth, there's nothing more important than this

Emotionss:
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Bros I don try but nothing. Not even a passport photograph.

Na memory person take the remember him papa original face even that one self don federal 80% if not that my eldest brothers resembles the man we for done completely forget him face.

My papa na gentle, responsible hard working man but he was never appreciated especially from we the children. unfortunately, he died thinking how to better the lives of his family.

Kaymicheal852:
All this modernly unconditional love bla bla bla people are talking about I don't kuku experience it before,as far as I can remember I was only 7 when I start receiving good lashing and degredation (especially my mother) from my parents and I have technically buying my own clothes since 2011 when I was only 14

All I could remember they did was giving me food ( Im not sure if I ever go hungry) just because mother is a food seller ,if not only God knows

And I don't remember any sacrifice from them in my teenage years,even when mother took my to learn fashion designing ( I suffer there for almost 4 years) they don't do any freedom or establishing or any tools for me ,I later start working as a sales person and give mom some money to pay for my appprentiship,but heard later on from dad she didn't pay


I wondered sometimes if they are my real parents because mom treats a elder brother better , although I can't say I'm a very good son to them but I was just too young and naive to be treated that way ( before 18 years old )

I had to live with hynia pains for years before I finally do surgery in 2020 with 100k

The little financial stability I have today is all by God and my efforts, nothing is directly connected to my parents, it's really pathetic

Maybe I'll have been better off as an orphan but i thank God because it makes me strong and independent and I realized early on in life that as a man in this world you're all on your own , you've only got God and yourself to look up to

When I start to do really well I later meet on stupid lady that wants to ruin me that's what leads me to TRP and Im grateful for everyone that have contributed to this thread

I always gives my parents whenever they ask me something because of kindness and to my knowledge they gave birth to me

TRP is GOLDEN

Kaymicheal852:
A father is only celebrate if he is rich and successful

Nobody celebrate a poor father

But who cares if a mother is poor or not ,she is Angel afterall

Emotionss:
You saw your father giving your mum some money for house keep.
so you quickly asked him for urgent 2k or something like that. out of the remaining 1850 naira with him, he gave you 1700. You murmurishly collected the money without a thank you. Went to your mum sulking and murmuring. She now gave you 500 naira from the 10k given to her earlier by your father for house keep. You hugged her, kissed her and left.

You now use part of the money to buy data and post on social media that there's nothing like a mother's love. Mother's are the best while at the same time, ignoring your father's efforts...

And you're here shouting Alpha male and Redpill up and down, I honestly pity you. You better call that man and appreciate his fatherly sacrifices.

heartofcity12:
You can’t make this sh* up

Ketapu:
I'm suspecting you are afraid of getting rejected by the lady. It's okay. Many of us have been there.

The first thing you must learn if you want to be wooing ladies is to embrace rejections from ladies. Trust me, based on my experiences, many of them will reject you or PRETEND TO REJECT YOU. Either way, accept the rejections and move on to another lady.

best

Skepticus:
Why should I hate women for this, after swallowing the Red Pill? Learning from the very best, at putting their needs first. Thunder fire all that slavery nonsense that the society describes as being a REAL MAN.

That's the Dual Mating Strategy in description.

- Date the Alphas, Marry the Betas!

Louder translation of Ms. Octoburrr's tweet for those at the "back"

Niggas that care about you are not fun to date fûck, unless you are tryna get married.

ubunja:
Someone has said women are unpredictable,, and it's true. Women think with their feelings and because feelings change randomly so women are random, that is unpredictable, chaotic. That's the core of femininity: unpredictability. But if you stop and look at the chaos long enough, if you give yourself time, you start to see patterns emerge. As unpredictable as women are, the more you deal with them, the more you understand them either by personal experience or reading or watching films, then the more you pick up a rhythm and a routine to them that lets you anticipate their moves within reasonable accuracy. You get to a point where your intuition and gut feeling starts filling the gaps of knowledge for you. Such that situations you haven't encountered before, you can reliably predict how they'll go down. Myself when I write, sometimes this is what is happening. I haven't experienced it but I can accurately tell you how it plays out. This is with the understanding that here and there you have to adjust what I say for cultural differences.

Etinosa1234:
Hi guys

Pls can someone help me with ways to start a conversation with a gal u see at church or on the street


It will be really helpful

Herbsworks:
I have always been reading about men tolerating shit simply because kids are already involved but the truth is that women knows this and use it to manipulate. The first thing on an average African woman’s mind immediately after wedding is how to get pregnant and give birth and some men blindly follow. Women strive to give birth cos they know that having one or two children will give them a stronghold in the marriage and a stronger hold if she happens to give birth to a male child.

Haven’t you noticed that once a woman gives birth for her husband her attitude changes most especially when the child is a boy cos she now feels she has a voice and you can’t chase her out of your house cos you won’t want to lose the custody of your kids. I was discussing with my elder sister sometime ago and she told me that ladies nowadays don’t want to get married and that they only get married to suppress societal pressure and to have kids legitimately.

When a woman wants to leave a marriage the first thing she think of leaving with are mostly the kids because she knows that she can use the kids to keep collecting money in form of child support from the man. That’s why most divorce women receiving child support from their ex husbands don’t work cos they feed on the money sent for child support. So as a man, your wife leaves and probably gets married to another man or starts dating other men, instead of you to focus on your life you’re busy working day and night so you can send money to her for children’s school fees and upkeeps. It becomes very bad when you decide to remarry and have kids. So you will be taking care of your new home and also your other children Ahh.

Sometimes I ask myself can’t a couple get married and decide not to have kids? But the truth is most girls will never agree to it cos they know that they will lose if they get married without having kids cos they will be forced to love their husbands till old age. One reason while most women maltreat their husbands and love their kids is because they’re preparing for their old age by showing love to the children so that the children can take care of them in their old age even at the expense of their husbands happiness.

Tell that your babe that you want a marriage without kids, just you and her forever and I bet you she won’t agree to it

ubunja:
easy, begin with the ugly and less attractive girls who are afraid of you.

I take it you've no issues talking to ugly girls. Most guys don't.
Because as guys we want the cutest girls we always skip all the others and go right to the top. Which almost ends in disaster. If you've seen girls you know they also become speechless and incoherent when they talk to guys who are hotter than them. So your being unable to hold a conversation with good-looking people is common with all genders. Don't feel too bad.

The quickest way to gain experience and confidence with women is to start at the bottom. With those girls far below your class who you're able to talk to freely and be witty and funny with. They're your training wheels. Practice with them. Then over time, go up and up the levels talking to prettier and prettier girls. There are other methods to train yourself to talk to girls, but this one I can personally attest to.

Back in the day I would flirt with girls I wouldn't date in a million years. Like this one chick (actually from church) who I was even embarrassed to be seen with, but I took walks with her and talked with her to get used. She had these firm titties I really enjoyed.

Single out these lowly chicks and flirt with them.

Another way is to spend time with your female relatives. It helps. Those cousins and half-sisters,especially the distant ones you've to get to know first. It helps.

Another point will be to go where women are. At church join those groups that are predominantly female. Or let me put it this way...
I used to have this friend who was a hairdresser at his home. Dude used to have 3 or 4 females in his backyard chit chatting while he plaited their hair and did their dreads. I admired how he was comfortable and free around women.
Are you at college or Uni? Find those clubs with plenty of females and join. Even if you're just 2 or 3 guys out of 50 girls, it's okay. Even if they're into feminine things like cooking, fashion, pottery - go join. It can be the most fun you'll have.
Problem with guys is that we hang around guys A LOT. To our detriment. You see,, when a woman wanna get near men, she attends traditionally male events and invades male spaces - you'll find her at car shows, motorbike races, etc. And she can be the only female there and receiving all the male attention and sympathy. Join a baking class and be the only guy and see how gentle and helpful women will be with you as you mess up and create havoc. After those meetings you won't fail to have one or two girls who'll want to visit you to study for this or that assignment. Such things. They can improve your life with women. Open up to the possibilities. Join a makeup course on your spare time. Join a manicure class. I promise you, by the time it's over you'll have confidence around women. Just be open minded.

emmaodet:
Gbam!!!!!!!!
I agree with you 100%

We hang around men a lot as guys and that is not really helpful.
Joining choir in the church is also good because it is a female dominated area.
For me, I started with social media being an introvert.
I will send a lot of messages to ladies on badoo, tagged, Facebook and those who replied me I do feel comfortable chatting with them and with time it built my confidence and what to say with women.
Later on, I moved to lounges, bars, brothels where I just approach a lady I see sitting alone or walking by and I just ask them if they are free and from there we kick it on.
Now, if I see a lady walking by on the street or going to work or in a taxi etc I just use my normal line to break the ice.
Yesterday, I saw a sweet light-skinned girl in Ph walking by and I just stopped her and told her she caught my attention and if she doesn’t mind, I will like to know her better than this.
She asked what caught my attention in her? Said I guess the skin (didn’t want to use the outright word - Beautiful in other make her feel elated).
Just you caught my attention. She gave me her contact but I know I am not going to follow up. Just my normal naughty flirting with women.

ubunja:
easy, begin with the ugly and less attractive girls who are afraid of you.

I take it you've no issues talking to ugly girls. Most guys don't.
Because as guys we want the cutest girls we always skip all the others and go right to the top. Which almost ends in disaster. If you've seen girls you know they also become speechless and incoherent when they talk to guys who are hotter than them. So your being unable to hold a conversation with good-looking people is common with all gend

Another point will be to go where women are. At church join those groups that are predominantly female. Or let me put it this way...
I used to have this friend who was a hairdresser at his home. Dude used to have 3 or 4 females in his backyard chit chatting while he plaited their hair and did their dreads. I admired how he was comfortable and free around women.
Are you at college or Uni? Find those clubs with plenty of females and join. Even if you're just 2 or 3 guys out of 50 girls, it's okay. Even if they're into feminine things like cooking, fashion, pottery - go join. It can be the most fun you'll have.
Problem with guys is that we hang around guys A LOT. To our detriment. You see,, when a woman wanna get near men, she attends traditionally male events and invades male spaces - you'll find her at car shows, motorbike races, etc. And she can be the only female there and receiving all the male attention and sympathy. Join a baking class and be the only guy and see how gentle and helpful women will be with you as you mess up and create havoc. After those meetings you won't fail to have one or two girls who'll want to visit you to study for this or that assignment. Such things. They can improve your life with women. Open up to the possibilities. Join a makeup course on your spare time. Join a manicure class. I promise you, by the time it's over you'll have confidence around women. Just be open minded.

foreman:
Lol. Delivery man delivered well to lonely housewives whose husbands were probably too busy working their as-s off to provide for the family. This life no balance.

No be today. E don tey.

fattprince:
True, when I was in secondary school, I was very shy and I don't talk to girls but I was very free with 2. The first one physically I almost hate her. I have 0 attraction for her but every time I talk to her we talk for several minutes and I always enjoy our conversations. After every conversation I'm always pondering how I managed to talk to her but it always end confusion. The second was fine infact she was awarded prettiest in our set but when she came newly she always wore oversized uniform so I didn't like her but she changed later. But we continue to be friends even when she had orbiters around her.

fattprince:
True, when I was in secondary school, I was very shy and I don't talk to girls but I was very free with 2. The first one physically I almost hate her. I have 0 attraction for her but every time I talk to her we talk for several minutes and I always enjoy our conversations. After every conversation I'm always pondering how I managed to talk to her but it always end confusion. The second was fine infact she was awarded prettiest in our set but when she came newly she always wore oversized uniform so I didn't like her but she changed later. But we continue to be friends even when she had orbiters around her.

Last year I went to a program where we were taught fashion designer, makeup etc. But girls made up 85% percent and thanks to redpill I was treated like a king because I called myself that and I made sure I was treated like one. Infact the attention became choking, I haven't felt better in my whole life. A girl from there recently told on Facebook that if that place was BBN I will undoubtedly be taking the first place prize home .

Tonnyray:
See me see this sheediot.
Werey wan jump queue.

ubunja:
easy, begin with the ugly and less attractive girls who are afraid of you.

I take it you've no issues talking to ugly girls. Most guys don't.
Because as guys we want the cutest girls we always skip all the others and go right to the top. Which almost ends in disaster. If you've seen girls you know they also become speechless and incoherent when they talk to guys who are hotter than them. So your being unable to hold a conversation with good-looking people is common with all genders. Don't feel too bad.

The quickest way to gain experience and confidence with women is to start at the bottom. With those girls far below your class who you're able to talk to freely and be witty and funny with. They're your training wheels. Practice with them. Then over time, go up and up the levels talking to prettier and prettier girls. There are other methods to train yourself to talk to girls, but this one I can personally attest to.

Back in the day I would flirt with girls I wouldn't date in a million years. Like this one chick (actually from church) who I was even embarrassed to be seen with, but I took walks with her and talked with her to get used. She had these firm titties I really enjoyed.

Single out these lowly chicks and flirt with them.

Another way is to spend time with your female relatives. It helps. Those cousins and half-sisters,especially the distant ones you've to get to know first. It helps.

Another point will be to go where women are. At church join those groups that are predominantly female. Or let me put it this way...
I used to have this friend who was a hairdresser at his home. Dude used to have 3 or 4 females in his backyard chit chatting while he plaited their hair and did their dreads. I admired how he was comfortable and free around women.
Are you at college or Uni? Find those clubs with plenty of females and join. Even if you're just 2 or 3 guys out of 50 girls, it's okay. Even if they're into feminine things like cooking, fashion, pottery - go join. It can be the most fun you'll have.
Problem with guys is that we hang around guys A LOT. To our detriment. You see,, when a woman wanna get near men, she attends traditionally male events and invades male spaces - you'll find her at car shows, motorbike races, etc. And she can be the only female there and receiving all the male attention and sympathy. Join a baking class and be the only guy and see how gentle and helpful women will be with you as you mess up and create havoc. After those meetings you won't fail to have one or two girls who'll want to visit you to study for this or that assignment. Such things. They can improve your life with women. Open up to the possibilities. Join a makeup course on your spare time. Join a manicure class. I promise you, by the time it's over you'll have confidence around women. Just be open minded.

emmaodet:
Gbam!!!!!!!!
I agree with you 100%

We hang around men a lot as guys and that is not really helpful.
Joining choir in the church is also good because it is a female dominated area.
For me, I started with social media being an introvert.
I will send a lot of messages to ladies on badoo, tagged, Facebook and those who replied me I do feel comfortable chatting with them and with time it built my confidence and what to say with women.
Later on, I moved to lounges, bars, brothels where I just approach a lady I see sitting alone or walking by and I just ask them if they are free and from there we kick it on.
Now, if I see a lady walking by on the street or going to work or in a taxi etc I just use my normal line to break the ice.
Yesterday, I saw a sweet light-skinned girl in Ph walking by and I just stopped her and told her she caught my attention and if she doesn’t mind, I will like to know her better than this.
She asked what caught my attention in her? Said I guess the skin (didn’t want to use the outright word - Beautiful in other make her feel elated).
Just you caught my attention. She gave me her contact but I know I am not going to follow up. Just my normal naughty flirting with women.

DieRich5:
Guys I go Dy believe all those news I Dy hear abt married women now

Something just happened in my location now:

Man ND wife get issue for hux, the woman comot for man hux for 3 months ND leta come back with 3 months belle now she tell the man say na him get am so the man come talk say no be him get am so the woman go do abortion ND come tell her friend now her friend come go tell her husband
from the man mouth he say anytime Dem get issue for hux he nor Dy sex the woman ND he was only testing the woman cus he knows his wife Sabi open mouth wide Dy shout anyhow but now she didn't talk back at him just comot go do the abortion with her money ND the man just believe 100% cus his wife will never use her own money do something for hux b4.
from the street people mouth all of us believe the woman sex another person cus her life style is too wild ND the kind things she Dy talk for mouth ND she too like money
her game after the abortion she go tell the man say she just testing am ND she didn't get belle
anything Dem talk for dis thread na fact ooo someone here talk about married women don't like using CD again Dem like it skin to skin
she ND her friend don Dy fight for street, my issue now why her friend tell her husband?

Emotionss:
One of the major reasons why I don't post most of my encounters with the female species in the thread, is that most of us are not ready or lacks the mental maturity to hear the extreme truth about the female nature both married and single....


No matter how innocent, gentle, religious a woman is, there's a 99.8% chances that she will cheat if she is approached by an upgraded version of her current man.... The remaining 2% is because of timing and location.

Smartb0y:
Ubunja!!!!!!
Guys, women don't operate directly.
Never make the mistake of playing the game directly.
if you do that, you've already lost even before you started.
Be smart, don't let your dick do the thinking when you're around a woman

Ketapu:
Everyone has their aim. For me, approaching ladies have taught me a lot about women. Learning about women without actually dealing with them in real life is like reading books on how to drive a car but you never actually sit down in a car to test what you have learned. My fear of approaching ladies have decreased since I started wooing them.

Also, I kind of find it quite faulty when a guy focus only on his goals and ignore other parts of life like dealing with women. Indeed, when you later become successful, many of them will come to you. After all, most of them are after ready-made men. Sadly, most of those ladies will be gold-diggers. However, if you have dealt with many ladies, when you become successful, you will be able to identify gold diggers at a glance.

I once read somewhere that the guys that find it most difficult to find ladies that have genuine interest in them are guys that are already successful in their career. Those guys can't really tell if those ladies genuinely like them or they are after their resources. We read about such ladies every time.

If you check the history of the guy I replied, you will notice that he is a software developer. That is the kind of guy that can later become very successful. Despite his promising future, he still has a problem with approaching ladies. That was the primary reason I decided to reply him.

As for me, I will continue to approach more ladies and also continue to build my career. I've never had trouble balancing the two.

Red pill has equipped me with how to screen and identify troublesome ladies. I've never hesitated to cut them off my life.

ubunja:
and that's just it,, not every girl you talk to you seduce to fucc. A lot of the time Just flirt and leave it at that,, to keep the skills razor-sharp.

Yep we spend way too much time with the bros. Most players have more female friends than guys. Some players are straight out lone wolves with no guy friends. It's attractive to the ladies cause they know they can do shit with the lone wolf and he won't tell his boys cause he has none.

Tonnyray:
Man2Man talk

TEAM or TEAR
Time
Energy
Attention
Money / Resources

The above is our power as men.
For those of us that are family oriented, you must learn from the mistakes a lot of our fathers made that cost them dearly.
A major lesson is when it comes to family, relationship/love cannot be monetized.
Too many of our fathers invested heavily financially in the children believing that will naturally speak for them when the time comes. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. Majority of men only grow up to learn about the sacrifices their fathers made for them after dutiful scrutiny that comes with maturity and coming into spheres of life earlier walked by the men before us.
Never for the life of you miss out on the opportunity to bond with your children. You will pay a colossal price for this in future irrespective of how much you invested financially into them. Money & Resources can NEVER substitute for Time & Attention. Never.
From age 2 to age 15 years is extremely crucial in the life of a child. Miss it and miss out. Investments down the drain.
Never marry a woman that is not ready to move with you should this be required in your corporate career trajectory for example. I personally know women who should be top level managers in big private sector organizations but sacrificed it just for the sake of family at the instance of their husbands (I speak of close family friends). They may be nowhere near their colleagues now in the corporate world but the family bond they have created is heartwarming. The most wonderful children all across the diaspora and reunions in Ibadan are a joy to behold. Yes I speak of my nuclear family as well.

This is what time permits for now.
Men lead.