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Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by DenreleDave(m): 8:06am On Jan 12, 2022
I still don't understand the reason why women deny their husband sex in marriage... Are these women daring their husband or what?

Before marriage, they give u different styles, as in like crazy styles.. You want sex everyday, they give it to you but the moment they change from Miss to Mrs, the story changes. They start restricting men of their right. If somebody tells you that sex is a trap ladies use to hold a man, you should be believe it.

For what reason will a man beg for sex with his legally married woman? What reason?

Married women, If you have any issue disturbing and affecting your sexual urge, feel feel to discuss it with your husband.. If he did sumtin wrong, find a way to tell him. Don't deny him of sex all bcox he did sumtin wrong and u decided to use sex as a weapon against him.. If he goes out to seek for another woman, you and your children will suffer the consequences of your action....

Imagine, issues of rape coming up in marriages... All my life, I have only known rape in unmarried ones, what the hell does rape have to do with someone you married

ALL I'M SAYING, SPEAK UP RATHER THAN USING SEX AS A WEAPON OR NEGOTIATING MEANS AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND....

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by EkelediliBuhari: 8:40am On Jan 12, 2022
Serious question

I’m people only use what they have against others

U gerrit?
Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by donbachi(m): 8:59am On Jan 12, 2022
Same sex on a daily.she used in trapping him.before marriage,some go hang legs for ceiling,doors,and windows.give am to the guy inside car,kitchen and bathroom.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Stargurl20(f): 8:59am On Jan 12, 2022
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Double0h7(f): 9:03am On Jan 12, 2022
Some women use sex as a weapon to control their husband but a lot of women just lose the urge for it.

Child birth, financial struggles, emotional neglect, all these dry up her sexual appetite. Sex involves mental attachment for women, it's not just a physical activity for them.

If you went into marriage for sex then you might be disappointed.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by drnoel: 12:23pm On Jan 12, 2022
Stargurl20:
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!

It's actually an important and integral part of a union. Thing is all the threads that discuss this topic are from small boys redpillers. By their fruits and mindsets you shall know them.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 12:29pm On Jan 12, 2022
DenreleDave:
For what reason will a man beg for sex with his legally married woman? What reason?

Married women, If you have any issue disturbing and affecting your sexual urge, feel feel to discuss it with your husband.. If he did sumtin wrong, find a way to tell him. Don't deny him of sex all bcox he did sumtin wrong and u decided to use sex as a weapon against him.. If he goes out to seek for another woman, you and your children will suffer the consequences of your action....

Imagine, issues of rape coming up in marriages... All my life, I have only known rape in unmarried ones, what the hell does rape have to do with someone you married

ALL I'M SAYING, SPEAK UP RATHER THAN USING SEX AS A WEAPON OR NEGOTIATING MEANS AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND....
Married man, If your wife has any issue disturbing and affecting her sexual urge, create the atmosphere to enable her discuss it with you.. If you have wronged your wife or feel you may have done something wrong to deserve the treatment, don't wait till you have sexual urges to attempt to resolve these issues. Do so immediately you realize your error - don't let these things fester to the point of worrying your wife. undecided

Sex shouldn't be used as a weapon even by you against your wife to demand your wife get past her hurts and feelings. If you wife ends up seeking emotional help for herself from outside of the marriage , your marriage will also suffer the consequences of your action. undecided

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:27pm On Jan 12, 2022
.... Because their wives understand that what they got married to are not men.

If you are a man,your wife cant misbehave talk more of denying you sex.

MODIFIED... Why is that all these men that their wives deny sex are the poor ones?
The rich and wealthy men don't experience such rubbish from their wives.
Does it have anything to do with money?

Someone should answer me pls.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:43pm On Jan 12, 2022
Stargurl20:
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!

Hope he can have a side chick since you're not ready lol

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by DenreleDave(m): 4:08pm On Jan 12, 2022
why should a woman close her leg and deny her legally married husband his right? if the man failed to provide for his wife, wud that make sense ?
Stargurl20:
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by DenreleDave(m): 4:10pm On Jan 12, 2022
Double0h7:
Some women use sex as a weapon to control their husband but a lot of women just lose the urge for it.

Child birth, financial struggles, emotional neglect, all these dry up her sexual appetite. Sex involves mental attachment for women, it's not just a physical activity for them.

If you went into marriage for sex then you might be disappointed.
apart from child birth, men go tru worst than these things u mentioned... it should not be an excuse..

seun mynd44 frontpage

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by socialmediaman: 4:27pm On Jan 12, 2022
DenreleDave:
I still don't understand the reason why women deny their husband sex in marriage... Are these women daring their husband or what?

Before marriage, they give u different styles, as in like crazy styles.. You want sex everyday, they give it to you but the moment they change from Miss to Mrs, the story changes. They start restricting men of their right. If somebody tells you that sex is a trap ladies use to hold a man, you should be believe it.

For what reason will a man beg for sex with his legally married woman? What reason?

Married women, If you have any issue disturbing and affecting your sexual urge, feel feel to discuss it with your husband.. If he did sumtin wrong, find a way to tell him. Don't deny him of sex all bcox he did sumtin wrong and u decided to use sex as a weapon against him.. If he goes out to seek for another woman, you and your children will suffer the consequences of your action....

Imagine, issues of rape coming up in marriages... All my life, I have only known rape in unmarried ones, what the hell does rape have to do with someone you married

ALL I'M SAYING, SPEAK UP RATHER THAN USING SEX AS A WEAPON OR NEGOTIATING MEANS AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND....

It takes some level of perversion for a man to decide that subduing and forcing his wife against her will is the way to satisfy his sexual needs. If he can do it to her, he can do it to anyone, and we shouldn't in any way justify such action. If a man is not getting sexual satisfaction from his marriage, he has other acceptable options, like separation, divorce, getting professional help etc. Forcing her is repulsive and shouldn't be condoned or encouraged

Come on guys, you’re the head of household, not slave owner. She is under your authority, not slave camp. If she refuses to perform her marital duties without genuine reason, don’t force her to, try other ways to remind her like professional help, or just let her go. Let’s not encourage violence or forced sex, that’s not right.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Bluewitch(f): 4:49pm On Jan 12, 2022
Stargurl20:
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!


See this crazy one...

Ain't you a human being...if you dont wanna have sex why dont you go to a convent.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 5:38pm On Jan 12, 2022
DenreleDave:
why should a woman close her leg and deny her legally married husband his right? if the man failed to provide for his wife, wud that make sense?

I don't support weaponising sex or denying your spouse of it without reason.

If there are any unresolved issues they should sit down and discuss them, however, sex cannot happen 365 times in a year and nobody is an engine even engine gets tired or faulty, there could be valid reasons and the men may not be speaking the love languages of their wives for it to be pleasurable for her. Sex should be pleasurable not always out of duty.
The woman could be genuinely tired and stressed out it is up to the husband to help her out and reduce her burden another thing is that it could be for medical reasons too, people should not always think sex is all the time and yes your partner does have a right to say no when they are not interested.


Sex shouldn't be forced on anybody, it may be your right but your wife owns her body first you could be the secondary owner and vice versa but it is within her rights to oblige or not it shouldn't be an entitlement. She is not a property you own that cannot close her legs when she isn't in the mood

Individuality should not end because someone is married

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by flokii: 9:36pm On Jan 12, 2022
If you won't give your man sex wherever and whenever he asks, then you have no business getting married.You can't be punishing a man you tied the knots with because it's your body. It makes no sense.

@OP It might not be far from the popular knowledge that once a woman gets married, she feels no need to "suffer" her head to please the man again.. afterall he has put a ring on her finger and she is now addressed as mrs. this or that. Some will even blow out of shape and turn hippo in the house, some will be tying wrapper like grandmas instead of bum shorts that they used to trap the man. In some years from now, marriage might go out of fashion with all these rape cases, feminism and sex denial from wives.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Stargurl20(f): 10:10pm On Jan 12, 2022
Bluewitch:



See this crazy one...

Ain't you a human being...if you dont wanna have sex why dont you go to a convent.
First, I'm not crazy. Second, I'm a human, and I have urges as well, however, the rate at which men carry sex for head is beyond comprehension that they can even do anything. Like anything for it. Ahan!
Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Stargurl20(f): 10:14pm On Jan 12, 2022
DenreleDave:
why should a woman close her leg and deny her legally married husband his right? if the man failed to provide for his wife, wud that make sense ?
No. It wouldn't. However, some men need to understand that women are humans too. We're not robot and we get tired as well.
Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by HarunaWest(m): 1:19am On Jan 13, 2022
Stargurl20:

No. It wouldn't. However, some men need to understand that women are humans too. We're not robot and we get tired as well.
The other story that was posted, the wife denied the husband sex for 7 Months. So the woman has been tired for 7 months?
Yall keep making silly excuses. Do you know what men go thru just to make money in this Buhari's Government?
Yet we no talk. We just accept our suffering and move on. The time when woman dey take do shakara for man don pass except na simp. This one when side chicks choke out. Na to carry house money go outside. No time.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:04am On Jan 13, 2022
Ladyhippolyta88:


I don't support weaponising sex or denying your spouse of it without reason.

If there are any unresolved issues they should sit down and discuss them, however, sex cannot happen 365 times in a year and nobody is an engine even engine gets tired or faulty, there could be valid reasons and the men may not be speaking the love languages of their wives for it to be pleasurable for her. Sex should be pleasurable not always out of duty.
The woman could be genuinely tired and stressed out it is up to the husband to help her out and reduce her burden another thing is that it could be for medical reasons too, people should not always think sex is all the time and yes your partner does have a right to say no when they are not interested.


Sex shouldn't be forced on anybody, it may be your right but your wife owns her body first you could be the secondary owner and vice versa but it is within her rights to oblige or not it shouldn't be an entitlement. She is not a property you own that cannot close her legs when she isn't in the mood

Individuality should not end because someone is married

You made a beautiful point up there...
Permit me to add to this...
In marriage, there's two kinds of sex...
There's "beautiful sex" here both parties are in the mood to have sex and they both pleasure each other and all...
There's also something known as "dutiful sex", here only one party is in the mood and the other fulfills their desires even when not in the mood...

Yes...
They're genuine reasons as to why a woman may not have the urge to have sex with her partner, however, rather than say an outright no to him, she should make him understand that reason...

Cause sex for most men is a NEED not just a want, a NEED, so if this need is not met, they'll find a way to meet their needs outside ((I think that should be clear from the comments of some boys/men above cheesy))...

So when he climbs on top you, rather than "I'm tired abeg" or "leave me alone and sleep another day we continue", you just look him in the eyes and say "Hun, I honestly don't feel up to this and I would really appreciate it if we just cuddle each other to sleep, however, if you feel you have to, then I won't resist" say this as calmly as possible and blimey if he loves you, he'll at least calm down long enough to know the reason for it...

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by muheeb01(m): 7:27am On Jan 13, 2022
They all pretends a lot,that's how God creates them,and also you just have to know her mood sometimes too...read her mood and understands her body too

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by frozen70(f): 7:41pm On Jan 13, 2022
Stargurl20:
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!

Only few men think of the domestic things in the family, 99% of them thinks of sex because it helps them to calm their nerves meanwhile, women think less of sex, especially the married ones because they have lots of home fronts waiting for them

When a man is tensed, happy or sad, he cools of with sex

I am a married woman, sex is what I think less of because of the task and challenges facing family's

Let them keep thinking of sex, me I don't think I have issues with that, they should own up to their responsibilities
Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by yemmit90: 8:54pm On Jan 13, 2022
Though some are due to stress from family challenges but one of the hardest truths women can never accept is the fact that they are also polygamous by nature. Married women are easily/quickly got bored by 1 dick, but will never say it out.

Dont be surprise the same woman will give 100% energy and ready to go many rounds at the sight of a new dick.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Paramount01(m): 12:14am On Jan 14, 2022
Stargurl20:
When will men cease from discussing sex sex sex? Is there nothing else in the union called marriage aside sex?
It's honestly so annoying that some people have to even support rape in marriage. I'm not a feminist but It's high men started thinking of more important things in marriage aside sex abeg. Ahan!

Man trade love to get sex
Woman trade love to get married
Woman need marriage,avarage man don't need marriage it has been right from creation of the world, first thing eve saw was Adam (A family)

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Wizywiz(m): 6:04am On Jan 14, 2022
[quote author=frozen70 post=109343586]

Only few men think of the domestic things in the family, 99% of them thinks of sex because it helps them to calm their nerves meanwhile, women think less of sex, especially the married ones because they have lots of home fronts waiting for them

When a man is tensed, happy or sad, he cools of with sex

My brother u aren't far from the truth.....most women if not all pretend a lot oooo....u see a married woman deny husband sex...but yet she begs one guy out there for it.....even willing and ready to do anything to please the guy...I ve met many like that...all they do is give excuse and complain about there husbands in other to justify there actions..women don't understand themselves ooo....

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by skj1377(m): 6:57am On Jan 14, 2022
Some women are frigid. Others have low sexual appetite. It may not be intentional but just her nature. That's part of the advantage of sex before marriage in some cases

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Cousin9999: 7:17am On Jan 14, 2022
It's an indication of a major issue in the relationship, household, or individual. But maybe some guys are too thirsty and need to chill.

Some of this probably comes from not marrying for the right reasons, and not taking time to really get to know each other.

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by msld: 7:17pm On Jan 14, 2022
DenreleDave:
I still don't understand the reason why women deny their husband sex in marriage... Are these women daring their husband or what?

Before marriage, they give u different styles, as in like crazy styles.. You want sex everyday, they give it to you but the moment they change from Miss to Mrs, the story changes. They start restricting men of their right. If somebody tells you that sex is a trap ladies use to hold a man, you should be believe it.

For what reason will a man beg for sex with his legally married woman? What reason?

Married women, If you have any issue disturbing and affecting your sexual urge, feel feel to discuss it with your husband.. If he did sumtin wrong, find a way to tell him. Don't deny him of sex all bcox he did sumtin wrong and u decided to use sex as a weapon against him.. If he goes out to seek for another woman, you and your children will suffer the consequences of your action....

Imagine, issues of rape coming up in marriages... All my life, I have only known rape in unmarried ones, what the hell does rape have to do with someone you married

ALL I'M SAYING, SPEAK UP RATHER THAN USING SEX AS A WEAPON OR NEGOTIATING MEANS AGAINST YOUR HUSBAND....

Bro, I sent you email, Pls respond. Thanks
Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by DenreleDave(m): 7:38pm On Jan 14, 2022
msld:


Bro, I sent you email, Pls respond. Thanks

I av... Pls check
Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by msld: 7:42pm On Jan 14, 2022
DenreleDave:


I av... Pls check

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by cococandy(f): 8:58pm On Jan 14, 2022
Since you asked. Here are some reasons women have said they reduced marital sexual intimacy

1) poor hygiene

2) loss of attraction

3) wife is carrying a larger portion of the family responsibilities (big libido crusher)

4) hormonal imbalances leading to decreased libido

5) husband cheats, so wife no longer respects or cherishes his sexual attention. Wants to avoid getting STDs from him

6) husband is poor in sexual performance, So it becomes a chore for the woman . Sex that doesn’t give you orgasm or sex with a partner who doesn’t care if you enjoy it too or not must be tedious I imagine

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Acidosis(m): 9:46pm On Jan 14, 2022
cococandy:
Since you asked. Here are some reasons women have said they reduced marital sexual intimacy

1) poor hygiene

2) loss of attraction

3) wife is carrying a larger portion of the family responsibilities (big libido crusher)

4) hormonal imbalances leading to decreased libido

5) husband cheats, so wife no longer respects or cherishes his sexual attention. Wants to avoid getting STDs from him

6) husband is poor in sexual performance, So it becomes a chore for the woman . Sex that doesn’t give you orgasm or sex with a partner who doesn’t care if you enjoy it too or not must be tedious I imagine


I "love" the way you blamed hormones and the man for a woman's inability to perform in bed. Well-done, Coco undecided

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Re: Why Do Some Women Deny Their Husband Sex After Marriage? by Hangulsaram: 2:39am On Jan 15, 2022
cococandy:
Since you asked. Here are some reasons women have said they reduced marital sexual intimacy

1) poor hygiene

2) loss of attraction

3) wife is carrying a larger portion of the family responsibilities (big libido crusher)

4) hormonal imbalances leading to decreased libido

5) husband cheats, so wife no longer respects or cherishes his sexual attention. Wants to avoid getting STDs from him

6) husband is poor in sexual performance, So it becomes a chore for the woman . Sex that doesn’t give you orgasm or sex with a partner who doesn’t care if you enjoy it too or not must be tedious I imagine
So the solution to these problems is to deny him his conjugal right?
The hormone aspect is it not what the woman can work on, what about the men who don’t cheat bu their wife denies them sex, why the loss of attraction biko, when did he develope this poor hygiene, after marriage or it has been the same before they got married?

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