I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Men una mumu sha

When we keep telling you People not to get married, you'll call us broke,immature frustrated and all other sorts of nonsense.

You got married to Parasite who's Sucking you dry, draining the very life force you have. If you don't cut off that leech,she will drain you till you become a shell of your former self.

But seriously guys, lets reason it this way. The money he has been giving to his wife all these while,if he didn't get married and have children now,he would probably have used it to open a business,have investments or Get a new house or something like that. Now a woman has tied him down and It's now stopping him from progressing.

All he cares about are his wife and his children,they are all Liabilities to him. This is why men are advised to have a good job and a nice comfortable apartment first before getting married. You know why? It is because you will most likely get married to A Parasite who will Make you stagnant,it would be almost impossible for you to get past this financial struggle except you get a better job with better pay.

Men! Run away from a marriage that will stop you from Achieving greatness. Having children is not an achievement,it is normally biological for one to procreate,so there is no big deal about it. Having a wife and children when you are not financially stable,will only drag you down and make you stagnant!

And also, DON'T EVER GET MARRIED TO A BROKE LAZY WOMAN! They are Parasites whose only Objective is to latch on to you, and suck out your energy,time,resources and peace of mind.

Stenewiser:
oga you married a good woman, the stress is just too much for her

@the bolded,A good woman? Really?

She and her children eats 3 square meals, while his mother only eats once. You call that a good woman? Wait answer this instead,would she have done same to her own Mother?

oga I don't understand you, am not saying it's wrong to give your mother money, but are you her only child, and also the family house you moved out from, why is your mother not staying there, was she not legally married. And lastly how do you expect your wife to manage 40k to feed six people, you married a good woman, the stress is just too much for her. look for a side hustle, you need help, even the house you are staying is not yours or rented by you, hmmm.

Stenewiser:
oga I don't understand you, am not saying it's wrong to give your mother money, but are you her only child, and also the family house you moved out from, why is your mother not staying there, was she not legally married, and lastly how do you expect your wife to manage 40k to feed six people.

We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

Prospertochu:


We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

Haaaaaaaaa I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

All this SIMP just full everywhere... You just bring a good for nothing gender into your life to be deciding when your mother will eat,and you have no shame to come here for advice...you better go man up and stop being a zaza!

Ok

Ayya Op! I pray something big comes through for you.

Honestly love isn't love without money.

Op I'm single and don't even have a girlfriend. So I guess I can't give a strong marital advice.

Elders please come and interfere!
Chaii!

Life hard ohhhhh

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets , my salary is 55k i used to give my wife 20k mother 10k , 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house. My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more , I had no money to give her my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it . My wife used to fought me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house hearse we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k , so far we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful. Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly she have agreed. Now that my mother is here with us she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us note I dobt eat breakfast I eat lunch at work and in the evening at eat at home , she is only giving my mother foods in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day. I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods. It is my decision good?

Ur wife no get any work??

Is ur wife so idle??

She no dey contribute??

Hin own na just to open leg anytym necessary abi??

Am sorry to say that ooh...



Modified:

Sorry, i didnt hear wen u said she's breastfeeding, so if she's has bn contributing before she put to bed well, wait and roju till she wean her babies finish.

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all.Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

@First bolded is why it is a Foolish concept to even consider asking a woman for Relationship Advice. They don't Think with their brains. If he continues to "Endure with her", he will Die young because the stress is too much! She's draining away his energy,pushing him pass his breaking point. If this madness doesn't stop,he will Die a miserable old or in thise case,young man.

@2nd bolded, If prayers worked, there would be nothing like World Hunger

Nah every time Una dey get ridiculous family problems. Changing monikers up and down posting fake stories.

How much is Seun paying you all for these (contents)?

OlawaleBammie:
Ur wife no get any work??

Is ur wife so idle??

She no dey contribute??

Hin own na just to open leg anytym necessary abi??

Am sorry to say that ooh...

Haba!!!! Do you have anyone close to you who gave birth to triplets? The stress is here! She would be free unless they start going to school or daycare

odinson1:
Men una mumu sha

When we keep telling you People not to get married, you'll call us broke,immature frustrated and all other sorts of nonsense.

You got married to Parasite who's Sucking you dry, draining the very life force you have. If you don't cut off that leech,she will drain you till you become a shell of your former self.

But seriously guys, lets reason it this way. The money he has been giving to his wife all these while,if he didn't get married and have children now,he would probably have used it to open a business,have investments or Get a new house or something like that. Now a woman has tied him down and It's now stopping him from progressing.

All he cares about are his wife and his children,they are all Liabilities to him. This is why men are advised to have a good job and a nice comfortable apartment first before getting married. You know why? It is because you will most likely get married to A Parasite who will Make you stagnant,it would be almost impossible for you to get past this financial struggle except you get a better job with better pay.

Men! Run away from a marriage that will stop you from Achieving greatness. Having children is not an achievement,it is normally biological for one to procreate,so there is no big deal about it. Having a wife and children when you are not financially stable,will only drag you down and make you stagnant!

And also, DON'T EVER GET MARRIED TO A BROKE LAZY WOMAN! They are Parasites whose only Objective is to latch on to you, and suck out your energy,time,resources and peace of mind.




@the bolded,A good woman? Really?

She and her children eats 3 square meals, while his mother only eats once. You call that a good woman? Wait answer this instead,would she have done same to her own Mother?

I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

It's always critical to look at your economic situation before making life-altering decisions.

You should blame yourself and rightly so too.

How can you have sex without condom on a 55k salary in this current economic climate?
And your wife has no job to augment your income?

I have no advice to give you. When you were lashing her without condom, you didn't tell us. Now that the shít has hit the fan, you're looking for somebody to tell you to chase your wife away.

Ogbeni carry your cross.

Prospertochu:


I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

I'm glad you acknowledge your mistake. There are only 3 ways with which you can get out of this Mess. If you continue like this,you will die poor and miserable. This is not a curse,but I'm just speaking Reality here.

1. Divorce!

2. Look for higher paying jobs if you can.

3. She should get a job herself and contribute financially,while you both take turns in looking after the kids.

4. If 2 and 3 doesn't work,then 1 is your only option. Afterall,you didn't marry her of your own freewill.

odinson1:


@First bolded is why it is a Foolish concept to even consider asking a woman for Relationship Advice. They don't Think with their brains. If he continues to "Endure with her", he will Die young because the stress is too much! She's draining away his energy,pushing him pass his breaking point. If this madness doesn't stop,he will Die a miserable old or in thise case,young man.

@2nd bolded, If prayers worked, there would be nothing like World Hunger

No wonder you showcase your insanity here typing empty skull advises here, are they God to know how many kids are inside her belly? When he was playing with her legs, didn't he think he would result to this? He didn't have something to fall on but he would have sex with her?! Your type are having bastards children outside been denied . Prayers without work is invain. Sule let me tell you, prayers work very well

Prospertochu:


We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

@bold no one is asking u to go & steal, but u people should also try to help yourselves & the society! U should have stopped at the first kid for now till u increase your earning capacity considering the fact that your wife is not working! 55k is too small to run a family like yours, there is sure going to be problem. That is what is happening now. I wouldn't blame your wife because the money is small. But after the first child, u people should have made financial plans before adding more kids. If i may ask, is your child school fees, clothings, health care & other things inside the 40k u are giving to your wife or it is just for feeding?

Bola146:


Haba!!!! Do you have anyone close to you who gave birth to triplets? The stress is here! She would be free unless they start going to school or daycare

Yea i have modified, i actually read ur post where u said she's weaning her babies.

Triplet is not easy, even me, i cant allow my woman to work if she put a single baby to bed not to talk of triplet.

But well, from his writeup i detect that the woman has always bn a leech joo, we know dem, awon alabodo.

I know it's not easy taking care of your family with that little salary of yours. You have every right to take care of your mother, but is she too old to work herself? The money she's given won't be enough for her too. Even your wife can do something now to get more money for the family. That's why, women should have something doing before getting married. Taking care of children is not easy but you need more income.

Rubbiish:

@bold no one is asking u to go & steal, but u people should also try to help yourselves & the society! U should have stopped at the first kid for now till u increase your earning capacity considering the fact that your wife is not working! 55k is too small to run a family like yours, there is sure going to be problem. That is what is happening now. I wouldn't blame your wife because the money is small. But after the first child, u people should have made financial plans before adding more kids. If i may ask, is your child school fees, clothings, health care & other things inside the 40k u are giving to your wife or it is just for feeding?

They are triplets

Hammyaladin:
Ayya Op! I pray something big comes through for you.

Honestly love isn't love without money.

Op I'm single and don't even have a girlfriend. So I guess I can't give a strong marital advice.

Elders please come and interfere!
Chaii!

The bold is the bitter truth!
Every family is like a vehicle & money is the fuel. Without fuel can one run a vehicle? Same apply to family. Every family u see out there living in peace is because there is money to run it either from the man or woman, but if there is no considerable source of income from any of the spouse, there is sure to be serious problems. Most especially when kids start coming in.

Prospertochu:


They are triplets

That is what I am saying.
U already have a 2 year old child right?
Or it is your marriage that is 2 years?

Rubbiish:

That is what I am saying.
U already have a 2 year old child right?
Or it is your marriage that is 2 years?

My triplets are 2 years and 3 months

Rubbiish:

The bold is the bitter truth!
Every family is like a vehicle & money is the fuel. Without fuel can one run a vehicle? Same apply to family. Every family u see out there living in peace is because there is money to run it either from the man or woman, but if there is no considerable source of income from any of the spouse, there is sure to be serious problems. Most especially when kids start coming in.

I tell you, man. Make God give us this bread in bigger sizes!!

OlawaleBammie:


Yea i have modified, i actually read ur post where u said she's weaning her babies.

Triplet is not easy, even me, i cant allow my woman to work if she put a single baby to bed not to talk of triplet.

But well, from his writeup i detect that the woman has always bn a leech joo, we know dem, awon alabodo.

Not that, the real love wasn't there from the beginning of you read his other complains. They should just take it easy for the sake of the kids

Prospertochu:


I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

That is why you shouldn't start what you can't continue!!!!!! See the beginning of the wahala the lady should know better by now when you were displaying her legs, it was with fullest enjoyment you should try and continue that way sir please. The triplets need your care now please, it's a matter of time. How I wish I can be sending a token to the kids monthly but God sees my heart.

Prospertochu:


My triplets are 2 years and 3 months

Sorry i misconstrued your post & I believe many people also did. I thought your wife just gave birth, which means the kids are grown already. 2yrs + old. Now I understand, the money is too small, that is what is causing all these problems. I will suggest your wife also find something to do to assist, while u hope for the best.

Rubbiish:

Sorry i misconstrued your post & I believe many people also did. I thought your wife just gave birth, which means the kids are grown already. 2yrs + old. Now I understand, the money is too small, that is what is causing all these problems. I will suggest your wife also find something to do to assist, while u hope for the best.

No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

Her giving your mother one meal a day doesn't make sense. She wouldn't treat her own mother like that. Either increase the feeding money you're giving her or she too should be doing something to earn money. Your mom can watch the kids at home, if need be.