Ladyhippolyta88:


Save money to go and do family planning now

He and his wife are being so wicked and unreasonable to those innocent kids they keep birthing.

u earn 55k and laid with ur gf without a condom at first and birthed an innocent child...u still didnt learn!

you kept on laying with her...and got triplets.

i think youre doing all these because u see free house..imagine you were paying rent...just maybe you would have been sensible enough to do the right thing.

on the other hand you never pay that ur gf bride price and you are still birthing kids with her...na wa for u.

i just hope its not a foolish person behind this moniker and trying to play on the mind and emotions of nairalanders.


padlock that ur penis bro!

Vyolet:
OP, since this woman is giving you issues, why not drive her out of the house and marry another woman? I don’t understand why she can’t manage 40k naira for feeding 6mouths in a whole month, i mean, she must be diverting that money into something else like building a house.
Don’t be a simp, chase her out of your life

I will not chase her out and its up to her to decide if she want to stay with me with 30k I will be giving her from this month ending or leave. If she dcd to leave no problem I won't stop her and I will be sending the 30k for my children upkeep

Landmack:

He and his wife are being so wicked and unreasonable to those innocent kids they keep birthing.

u earn 55k and laid with ur gf without a condom at first and birthed an innocent child...u still didnt learn!

you kept on laying with her...and got triplets.

i think youre doing all these because u see free house..imagine you were paying rent...just maybe you would have been sensible enough to do the right thing.

on the other hand you never pay that ur gf bride price and you are still birthing kids with her...na wa for u.

i just hope its not a foolish person behind this moniker and trying to play on the mind and emotions of nairalanders.


padlock that ur penis bro!

He said they have 3 kids...triplets. That means they had the kids once.

Ghengiskhan:


Why are you not praying for the wife to get a job and supplement the household income ?

Those kids are too expensive to go to school for now even if it's day care. Taking care of triplets is not an easy task, ask those who are rich how they are dealing with the stress upon having maids. It's easier said than done that the woman should seek for job. None of them will never wish their sisters at home

I can't believe this abeg.

55k with kids??

Find another lie please

ImaIma1:


Breastfeeding 3 2yr olds? Did the op say his wife is still breastfeeding?

The kids are nothing but still young!!!! Madam!!!! think of how to feed the 3 for a day including the woman! Haba!

You have to look for ways to earn more dear
You have 3 children of the same age. They need same meals, clothes etc. They can't even pass clothes down to each other and you have to buy 3 of everything.
Your wife is breastfeeding but I'm sure also supplementing with formula.
Isn't she also buying formula from the 30K you're giving her? The money is not enough which is why you're having all these issues
When the children start school or creche, just know your current problems will triple sha. So prepare.
Your wife may need to wean the babies on time too, but 3 babies at once na die.
Can your mum look after the children while she also goes out to work?
You're really in a pickle at the moment and I don't have much advice for you, other than looking for a means to earn more to meet up with your responsibilities. Triplets are not a joke sha

Vyolet:
OP, since this woman is giving you issues, why not drive her out of the house and marry another woman? I don’t understand why she can’t manage 40k naira for feeding 6mouths in a whole month, i mean, she must be diverting that money into something else like building a house.
Don’t be a simp, chase her out of your life

See another were here his type would lead op astray walahi

@prospertochu,

Can your wife find something to do since your mum is around and can help look after the triplets? At least, that should help ease the family burden.

You need to set aside something for the rainy day.

It happens in rare occasiona to keep two grown up women in the same house when they are not biological related. Don't be suprise to find your mother's corpse next time you return from work. You can never satisfy a woman, so stop yielding to her unending demands and give your life a space. Give her what you want her to get and find a place for your mum before she dies.
She can go to hell if she wishes, because without that women that you call mother; there would be no you.
But Op so your lady is a housewife. Get her a work so that she can burn her ass out. Only God knows that I can never Marry a housewife or stand a lady maltreat my mother.

Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

She can't want her own business until you guys can gather capital. In the mean time, she needs to do something.

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

I know the triplets can be demanding bt the woman should not frustrate his life. A good wife will manage what she is giving or/and even look for how to support the man not nagging and threatening her husband.

Op she said she would leave u if u don’t give her more money u should have asked her to where? Another man’s house or her family house cos it’s obvious her family don’t care about her or her kids. So where is she gonna go??

Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

Bola146:


Those kids are too expensive to go to school for now even if it's day care. Taking care of triplets is not an easy task, ask those who are rich how they are dealing with the stress upon having maids. It's easier said than done that the woman should seek for job. None of them will never wish their sisters at home

What the hell do you mean by "non of them will ever wish their sisters at home"? I have sisters who are married and they are very productive and supportive to their husbands! Sometimes I begin to wonder why I would marry a liability when other men are getting the best of my sisters

Op's wife is just a lazy assz, simple! She needs to get a job ASAP

This situation tired me. Though the economy is not smiling right now but that does mean your mum should be left hungry. What are family for? We strives and survive together. My brother. If you can look for extra money to give your mom i swear that will be good but you know grandmoms won't cook and eat alone. They will always share their stuffs with their grand kids and even the their sons wives too. I won't say your wife is being selfish but I would say she is being inconsiderate.
Try and make a second Nairaland post on this so I can give my little advice on how to make things work. Good luck

cc: Prospertochu

Prospertochu:


God bless you ma I am trying my best but if my wife carries on with her attitudes she will loose me because my health is getting worse day by day and if I die she will take care of them alone

Have you let her in on this?

aanuoluwami14:


How would a mother of three be working when they can't afford to pay for school fees The mother in-law is not ready to take care of those children.

Did you read this or it from the wickedness of your heart to label mother-in-laws?

Acidosis:


Don't ever suggest to your wife to get a job at this stage without anyone to help with the kids. Only a ma.d man will tell a young mother of triplets to get a job. Attending to those toddlers daily is harder than driving a truck from Lagos to Kano every day. So kill that idea and don't ever bring it up.

Jman06:
What the hell do you mean by "non of them will ever wish their sisters at home"? I have sisters who are married and they are very productive and supportive to their husbands! Sometimes I begin to wonder why I would marry a liability when other men are getting the best of my sisters

Op's wife is just a lazy assz, simple! She needs to get a job ASAP

She's not a lazy assz, you- yes you just try to take care of triplets alone and find out how it is, you can't cope so don't call someone doing it a lazy ass.


The ultimate question is Who takes care of the children while she works

Daycare? where's the money

Mama? - I can't even recommend them leaving the triplets with mama because she might not be able to keep up with the kids energy, she's elderly, babysitting 3 toddlers at the same time is almost like a war like situation.

The problem the OP has is just money, more money will solve this issue.

Everybody (sane people) knows the money is not and can never be enough for them.

The money is not just enough, the economy is terrible, I pray God opens way for you OP.



3 toddlers? Chai.

NoToPile:


She's not a lazy assz, you- yes you just try to take care of triplets alone and find out how it is, you can't cope so don't call someone doing it a lazy ass.


The ultimate question is Who takes care of the children while she works

Daycare? where's the money

Mama? - I can't even recommend them leaving the triplets with mama because she might not be able to keep up with the kids energy, she's elderly, babysitting 3 toddlers at the same time is almost like a war like situation.

What was she doing before she gave birth? She is not the first to have given birth before. Like I said before, I have sisters too who're married and also bear children, yet they're working hard to support their husbands financially! Knowing that op earns just a paltry 55k salary, she shouldn't have relaxed her asz at home but gotten a job for herself to augment what she gets from op.

aanuoluwami14:


You are having mental illness

Fine but where did he say his mother can't take care of his kids.

Prospertochu:


I will not chase her out and its up to her to decide if she want to stay with me with 30k I will be giving her from this month ending or leave. If she dcd to leave no problem I won't stop her and I will be sending the 30k for my children upkeep

Oga, calm down ooo. Give her the N40k and make her understand that you will appreciate she treats your mom like she would hers.

Also, make her understand you would appreciate she picks up a job no matter how little it pays. Make her understand you know she loves to do business and you guys would work to achieve that dream.

In addition, don't just drop money; please be very present. What that means is try to support her and your mom with the chores and the children.

The only solution

Acidosis:
How old is your mother? Why can't your mother work? Is she suffering from one ailment?

Look, the only way is for your mother to get a job. The alternative is for her to take care of your triplets so you and your wife can fully concentrate on your job/business.

Don't ever suggest to your wife to get a job at this stage without anyone to help with the kids. Only a ma.d man will tell a young mother of triplets to get a job. Attending to those toddlers daily is harder than driving a truck from Lagos to Kano every day. So kill that idea and don't ever bring it up.

Try to get pregnant and have children before you call someone lazy.

The reasons why y’all call stay at home moms lazy is because you don’t value the contributions of women. But if you’re left to do that job, you’ll go insane. So please speak only of what you know.
Because women do it all the time doesn’t mean it’s easy. It just means that most of you have gone for many years of your life without appreciating what a difficult job it is.

Do better

Jman06:
What the hell do you mean by "non of them will ever wish their sisters at home"? I have sisters who are married and they are very productive and supportive to their husbands! Sometimes I begin to wonder why I would marry a liability when other men are getting the best of my sisters

Op's wife is just a lazy assz, simple! She needs to get a job ASAP

Twins and triplets should be reserved for the rich. 50k in this economy is nothing at all even for a single person.

You see this marriage thing,if your body no full, comot body jhoor

Prospertochu:


Jobless fool at least I am better than your jobless ass you have nothing else to do than critizing people who may be doing better than you , I don't need your stupid comment here

you hit that mumu “junkie”chick really hard

Prospertochu:


She doesn't breastfed them , they haven't started school and my mother is ready to watch them while my wife go to work but my wife refuse saying salary is too poor and she want her own business.

Things like this are bound to happen when you skip some aspects of life especially marriage, first you had sex when you had very little income, and even if you must do, you did not use condom, and even nature did not help your matters, it gave you a hat-trick of kids from one shot at goal, and you were not intentional with the kind of woman you want, no prior discussions on how you want your marriage life to be, now see where you are, the woman is not to be blamed but you, most people think calling man the head is about spending money, it's first and foremost about passing your intentions across and reaching a favorable conditions with your woman with each knowing his or her stand.
Way forward, let her find something doing while your Mum takes over caring for the kids, sit her down and discuss how you both can come to terms with the family's financial situation. And buying key things needed for the Month in bulk is the way to go it will save you some money.

Prospertochu:


We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

The only solution I see to this problem is for you to get another side hustle that would generate another income streams of income for you. Acquire skills if need be, skills like cable and satellite installation, barbing or some basic skills. And be good at it. Then u can be doing this side hustle to add up to your monthly take home. And pls, you need to set future plans for your wife. Open a small kiosk for her in front of the house. Let her be doing some small petty trade business. Atleast that will cover some gap. And ur mistake is taking your mom in. You suppose know say two women no fit stay for thesame roof for long without beef na. Your mom and your wife will continue to have issues till ur mom finds another accomodation. Your mom should go back to her people back in the village. You can be sending her 10k monthly for her upkeep for now. While u continue to build your life and set out plans. Once things are better, you can rent a house and bring your mum back into her own personal apartment.
And pls don't add to this triplets you already have, until you're financially boyant enough. May God help you, cos it 2yrs time, your kids would have grown enough to begin school. And u know how expensive school is. That's why you need to work hard and increase your earnings so u will be able to meet up.

jaxxy:


I know the triplets can be demanding bt the woman should not frustrate his life. A good wife will manage what she is giving or/and even look for how to support the man not nagging and threatening her husband.

Op she said she would leave u if u don’t give her more money u should have asked her to where? Another man’s house or her family house cos it’s obvious her family don’t care about her or her kids. So where is she gonna go??

If you read from the beginning, they were forced at each other, no solid love at all! The pregnancy brought them together not love.

Maybe the problem is your mother staying with una



God will help you

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Mumu talk. How will old woman be surviving on only evening food?
Even pregnant women here go to the market or farm. She's lucky the guy is cool headed. I don't see any wife who can try that rubbish in the whole Esan land. She go hear am

Bola146:


Those kids are too expensive to go to school for now even if it's day care. Taking care of triplets is not an easy task, ask those who are rich how they are dealing with the stress upon having maids. It's easier said than done that the woman should seek for job. None of them will never wish their sisters at home

More reason why she needs a job, their grandma can help to take care of the kids. Rich people are always stressed with or without kids.... The woman need to start doing something to bring in cash to help her family.